₦airaland Forum

Jolar101:
You and I know that you are not from Ekiti neither do you lived there. Born and breed sons and daughters of Ekiti are not complaining of Fayose leadership and governance. Except the few in APC seeking favour from Aso Rock masters.

Do have idea how APC government spending on Buhari presidential jet packing lot in London?

deolu2000:
I saw a campaign where Fayose was preparing for 2018 gov election in his state and his presidential ambition in 2019 about 2wks ago, he called out the speaker (Acting), and in the full glare of the public/crowd asked him, who is the authentic speaker of the EKHA, the Rt Hon. Shouted You sir and confirm the he is only acting for him, Dt was when i concluded that Ekiti's calamity has gone a step further.

Jolar101:
When did Fayose start killing? What did you do to him, your responsibility is law making, because of your corrupt spirits corruption have beclouded your head.


Simply because your party APC is at centre you people want to be chief executive to other opposition parties in states. You can't screw with governor Fayose leadership, not what people doing in Aso Rock.

APC in Ekiti making Ekiti ungovernable to Fayose at the same time complaining.

Exquisite14:
Hello everyone......
Pls I need your suggestions. Am a female wedding photographer and I have a prewedding photoshoot session in Akure. Pls, I need location(s) and a beautiful hotel to use for this. This is will be my first time in Akure. Thanks

johnson232:
This is not true....There are countless reasons why one may decide not to reply PMs...not because they feel the sender is a nobody...
The lady might be in a relationship, & wouldn't want a male friend...
Some are married...
Some just don't like having many friends....probably because of their nature & so many other personal reasons...not because they feel u are a nobody...
There are so many wealthy people on NL, how would a lady seperate d rich frm d poor & conclude they are nobody by PM alone....

henryhemon:
Most ladies here think the guys here are nobody's hence they ignore PM's.

Toks2008:
Lo!...I'm not even referring to just ladies but guys also.

How many times have I wished people a new month here with group tag and how many responded?...that is an anti social act.

This is why many people find it difficult keeping real friends...i learned some people on naira land don't even respond to PMs and I wonder what could be going through their heads...

Who we be that we will start forming snub? do you know who that person sending you a PM is? what makes you think you are too special to respond to PMs?

Many people should stop this annoying and childish anti social acts and learn to grow up...the greatest investment you can ever have is the people you come across and this is why I make friends on a daily basis ranging from Agberos on the street to the corporate world.

Sierusvirus:
A girl working hard to make her money is known as being " Hard working " cos she doesn't want to depend on a guy for money and her upkeep but if it comes fine.
A girl that doesn't want to stress herself but wants money and starts going for guys that are made to get it are called " gold diggers" and broke.
That's the difference

johnson232:
Lol...I saw this coming....I had to use relationship because we are discussing this on romance section...If it were to be in politics section, i would have used a political scenario. Likewise any other circumstance...

johnson232:
The bold is wrong. Men & women weren't wired to share same level of confidence, else the world would ve failed. Lets approach this issue from a realistic perspective. What actually do a woman need confidence for to make it her most top priority even after NYSC? I believe after NYSC a woman should have been able to acquire the basic confidence needed to live a normal life. Now lets start with wooing, u will agree with me that 95% of guys does the wooing in every relationship that has led to marriage. I once read in this same thread how a lady was making a mountain out of mole hill because she sent a pm to only one guy & he didn't respond well....she vowed she would never send pm to guys again all because of that & a lot of people were encouraging her not to generalize....i just laughed, because this is what guys face on daily basis, & it never deters them to woo another. Sex, most guys initiate the sex in relationship at initial stage, some women do this only at the later stage. Anything u can think of, guys take the risk, & the ladies follow. So when i say a lady shouldn't make confidence building a do or die affair, i know what i m saying. What will she be using it for? We know she isn't gonna use it to woo any guy....which is the least thing any guy can do with confidence. Or do u ladies also need too much of confidence to say no to a guy's advances? i really don't think so....

Overdose of confidence for ladies is destructive because there is a thin line between overdose of confidence & pride. Imagine the instance she gave; someone tell's u how beautiful u are, courtsey demands u reciprocate with a thank u, not saying u know u are beautiful....it is just like saying he should keep his compliment to himself. Ladies should focus on building manners & character...not confidence. Because every lady will be needing much of character & manners than confidence....

johnson232:
Hmmm....Easy with this your over confidence building...because i am not really understanding the essence of it...overdose of confidence can be destructive for a lady if not well managed...

Easy easy ooo.....& u seriously need to forget about ur past relationships....it will do u no good...trust me....

babythug:
The accommodation bit must be newly refurbished! When I visited the hotel was literally non existent we had to lodge in Ife for the night!

Anyone planning on visiting should ensure to have a plan B for accommodation and perhaps include Erin Ijesha water falls in their itinerary as there really isn't so much to see at ikogosi!

OrireSA:
So if we're in a relationship and I take you out to a restaurant will you pay for yourself? Or if I take you to a hotel will you pay your own way or will you expect me to pay as the man?
This is an unwritten rule in every relationship the lion must hunt for his woman and family.

Would you date a poor man?
1. Love won't buy you a house
2. Love won't pay the bills
My point is sometimes love isn't enough, if I can afford your lifestyle and you like me than why can't I be your man?

Gerrard59:
Note: I'm with you on the post. But not the side that says men should not spend money on women/ladies.


At the end of the day, with all the talk on gender equality, women love (want) money to spent on them by men. Note: Not her money.

It is foolhardy to say no lady wants money to be spent on her by her man. Yes, it should be at discretion, but money must be spent on a lady by her man. It is why women marry up not down.

Psychology and nature.

legba1:
I really don't think its a bad idea spending on ur GF. I will not over do and won't be compelled.

We will have nice time together and won't be her ATM.

Gerrard59:
[b]"To live comfortably, it’s natural for a woman to prefer a man with money because, together, they can afford to live a better life. And this does not mean she’s materialistic. People always say that “money can’t buy happiness” but every single woman I know wants to travel, and to the best of my knowledge, this isn’t free

funmisticqueen:
I hope by weapon you dont mean sex, cos i will need something to keep me after menopause if you get my drift.

connectpoint:
If it is not saving a life or medical bills i don;t give female money...my mind on this won't change too easily.. if love is there, then money aint an issue..but i feel money should be taken off the table in relationships in Nigerian settings..many femals are carried away and many times miss the good guys and settle for " the evans of this world " because of ojukokoro

connectpoint:
You're posturing. While your points are very educative you're seeing it from a lone perspective, now answer this question, have you personally not turned off guys with less than okay finance? How many ladies will give love a chance if not for old age without financial stability? How many? 95% of Nigerian ladies don't even notice the guy without finance / would freeze themself from loving a guy who doesn't have financial worth hence the display by the able guys to make themselves look like the prince in the shiny armor... first females want guys with heavy pocket, so they don down the other guys, then when heavy pocketted guys come, they take money and run like you agreed. it goes back to the saying that ladies don't know what they want. You don't want the poor guys, or not well to do guys, you can't settle with the a bit okay/rich guys, then is it now solely a masculine problem or a problem with the perception and the perspectives of the average Nigerian female. See i've interacted with women across the world, the problem isn't Nigerian guys but Nigerian ladies and the Nigerian economy their moral teacher

connectpoint:
You're posturing. While your points are very educative you're seeing it from a lone perspective, now answer this question, have you personally not turned off guys with less than okay finance? How many ladies will give love a chance if not for old age without financial stability? How many? 95% of Nigerian ladies don't even notice the guy without finance / would freeze themself from loving a guy who doesn't have financial worth hence the display by the able guys to make themselves look like the prince in the shiny armor... first females want guys with heavy pocket, so they don down the other guys, then when heavy pocketted guys come, they take money and run like you agreed. it goes back to the saying that ladies don't know what they want. You don't want the poor guys, or not well to do guys, you can't settle with the a bit okay/rich guys, then is it now solely a masculine problem or a problem with the perception and the perspectives of the average Nigerian female. See i've interacted with women across the world, the problem isn't Nigerian guys but Nigerian ladies and the Nigerian economy their moral teacher

pansophist:
No one should be a victim of a miseducated woman (even man). Any woman they correlates materialism as love is the kind you should flee from. I understand that these woman sometimes do have killer curves that are irresistible(lol), but what does it profit a man to be with a parasitic woman but looses all his money to a point of being permanently broke?

In my honest view, I believe that every relationship (and marriages) should be a blessing, not a curse. My last trip to Nigeria confirmed that many girls sees relationship as a source of income, and marriage as the big target. It also hurt to say that these women have absolutely nothing to offer. Many times, men that married these women unknowingly subscribed to a life of training a fully grown adult who does nothing but conceive and consume. It is so sad.

connectpoint:
true it takes two to tangle. i tell yu what..i agree we're makin the same point, but when a female says if u dnt flash i won't dance, what do the guys do educate me ma, help my ignorance i beseech thee please

connectpoint:
girls have educated themselves not to love without financial stability, love is the divided for financial buoyancy.i am yet to see girls of recent who's contrarian to this principle. the economy is their teacher. not saying true love doesn't exist, i'm saying the majority out their love on sale or rather in exchange for financial stability.

honor4me:
some women are raised with that kind of mentally. They will tell you that you dont love them if you do not spend on them. The real psychological fact is that in the minds of most women, once you start spending on them, the sexual attractions in the relationships fade. Genuine love cannot be bought. If a woman loves you, or is attracted to you because of something, nothing matters to her again. Not your looks, age, money or any other thing matters. What op said is the reality: Guys learn how to create attractions first and everything shall follow.

door2:
@ SPEEDEPITOME pls tell d ladies 2 . To stop running after rich guy.....

kimbra:
The one that spent 500k on a gf was stupid!.

Spend on her but wisely.

ScotFree:
Where has this OP speedepitome been? All the while the brainless girls were busy posting trash here. Once in a while you come across a female whose only thing of value isn't their sex organ. This one thinks, is wise and defintely mature and of good morals.

At OP, not saying you're a pastor or holy woman . Just sayig you're one of the sensible few left.

NubiLove:
This is something I realized years back, but the problem is a lot of guys would NEVER accept that money is not everything.

How old are those guys?

kaboninc:
Weddings are not overlated biko!!!