i really do not have high expectations from guys 'cos many of them are stingy. imagine a guy telling me they do not celebrate neither do they give gifts in his house so he cannot break tradition.
but right now, i have started receiving my Christmas gifts and i like what i have seen so far.

Mrs. Eve, in the spirit of giving, you can forward the BB torch. na dat one i want from you and only you

I do not know where it has ever been acceptable for a man to hit a woman. a man who is a head in his own home will command respect naturally so the idea a oppressing the woman in the first place is not there.
As per why marriages cannot survive in the west, it is all in the mindset. the only thing that changes is location, the values you hold on to should not change.
and on a final note, marriage is a partnership not a manager-subordinate relationship like office in naija. the bible says that two become one. it is well

I do not forgive anyone easily be it man or woman. and if it is a guy that chooses to mess with me, then his dose will always be double. i don't forgive neither do i forget. a guy once crossed the line and he thought he got away with it. after processing his punishment, i gave it to him hot and he carries the scar till today. i can smile at you but beneath that smile lies the venom you will not like to taste.

does this sound harsh? yes
does this sound right? no
but will i do what i have set out to do? most definitely yes

I'm sorry, but that's bullshit. Beauty is very very very subjective. What standards have you used to classify your "epitome of beauty". You think you can just call some people standards of beauty and others not, and expect people to go along with that ? FAT CHANCE.

There are few women who get more beautiful wit age like fine wine. Ms Nnaji is one of them.

Stereotypes of beauty are being shattered everyday. I remember when one of my favourite posters spikedcylinder created a thread about the legendary Grace Jones, and schooled you people about what beauty is really about.

hello kadman. being a while.

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off topic buh, Kadman, hmnnn

the important thing is that she has been able to establish a name for herself in the movie industry in Nigeria. let us give her credit for that. if these pictures does her no justice, too bad. but just going on and on about issues that are really not relevant to the topic makes no sense.

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On the front line with student protestors
Thu Nov 11 10:06AM
There's always something exciting about the police losing control.
By Ian Dunt

There's no point pretending otherwise. It's rare and dramatic and it's hard to quell that frisson of excitement, that sense that something out of the ordinary is happening and you are there to witness it.

For plenty of the students at yesterday's protest, it will have been the first time they've experienced it. Demonstrators managed to get past the minimal security at Millbank tower in the early afternoon, just as I was coming out of PMQs. By the time I got down to the area, police and a few demonstrators were in the foyer. Within minutes, an additional push had rid the entrance of the police and you could see black-clad demonstrators forcing their way into the lifts.

There's a strange atmosphere to this sort of thing, as the crowd gradually develops a group consciousness. This is mob mentality and it's the phenomenon by which people end up behaving in ways they would never normally dream of. The mob mentality demands action. It bores quickly. So the smashing of window is greeted by cheers, as is graffiti and fireworks. It's true that a hardcore of troublemakers do most of the action. But the support comes from the group. And there was considerable support there yesterday, despite the rhetoric about a 'troublemaking minority' which you will hear about over the next few days.

The most active participants were, as ever, the black bloc, that militant tribe of anarchists whose faces are covered in black scarves. You can tell it's them by the determined walk and the confidence as well as the get-up. They pull everyone back before smashing windows. Whatever you think, they're actually relatively careful with the people around them. But yep, they smash stuff. That's what they do.

The south-facing window - the first to be smashed - was actually the last to come down. All of a sudden, amongst the confusion in the foyer, black bloc activists pulled people away from the west-facing window and brought it down. The police watched, uselessly. There were far too few to try and stop them. Inside, the steady stream of occupiers were enjoying themselves, stealing policemen's helmets and smashing the windows with chairs. A trio of black guys sat in the receptionist chair and held up a sign reading: "Black people". I actually thought that was quite funny, in a Monty Python sort of way.

By the time the west-side windows followed, the emotional momentum of the crowd dominated everything. Soon enough, all the windows were coming down. The foyer was rammed with protestors. There was no real in or out of the building. It was just some pitiful bits of wall masked by chaos.

The smell of smoke and the sound of shattering glass contribute to the sense of occasion. These are the sights and sounds of riot, and people involved in protests are likely to be pulled along by them, assured that something different is coming. Without understanding the momentum of group consciousness it's really quite impossible to understand how these things happen. The protestors -some seasoned, but many of them fresh-faced - certainly had that in their eyes.

Soon enough the first protestors emerged on the roof. They unfolded a banner and waved and set off fire extinguishers. Someone threw one down, narrowly missing the police on the ground. The crowd on the ground started booing and chanting: "Stop throwing stuff."

Soon enough the riot police emerged, forming a V-shape around the demonstrators, with the bottom of the V by the front door of the building. Those people that had managed to run riot inside were cordoned off in the corner of the room, surrounded by police, ready to be carted off. Beside me, a woman delivered a news report to camera - a small consumer camera - calmly and professionally, like a trainee student journalist, then suddenly turned around and started screaming 'Tory scum'.

To my right, a protestor started vomiting from smoke inhalation. People tried to get her some water and as they did so someone grabbed me from behind and punched me in the ribs. "Tough day at the office?" they shouted. By the time I turned around they had gone. I presume they interpreted my suit as a sign of Conservative employment, as if that makes it much better.

I took that as my cue to get behind police lines. There's always that element of nervousness as you do so. Suited or not, riot cops are strange and scary animals. Stony faced, clearly excited and nervous - and at the same time, utterly silent and fully trained. They can sometimes turn on you - journalist or not. It's heat of the moment stuff.

He looked at me suspiciously as I kept flashing my parliamentary pass. "Lobby pass, lobby pass," I barked. Slowly he stepped to one side and I was through, with the other journalists, safe. Suddenly something smashed about two feet from me. Someone somewhere had thrown a bottle. I looked round at the other journalists. Most of them were film crews with rudimentary helmets. Just as I felt vulnerable, a small explosion went off. It looked like an aerosol had been thrown in the fire. Everyone jumped. People didn't notice the orders being passed down police lines. Soon enough they were forcing demonstrators back, closing the V shape off to the east and forcing them onto Millbank.

I've seen a lot of demonstrations and actually the police action was very sensible and proportionate. Sure, they should have been prepared for what happened at Millbank Tower and the press will no doubt remind them of that for the next week or so. But following that mistake, the police response I saw was exemplary. This was the first major flare-up since the G20, when disgraceful and heavy-handed police action caused someone's death. On that day thousands of young people learnt to treat the police as the enemy. By contrast, the police action that took place after the occupation yesterday was about right.

You can shout all you like about what happened yesterday. Plainly it's not right to smash windows or ruin a building. It was dangerous and ultimately it's undemocratic.

But if that's all we talk about then we haven't understood what happening. We are witnessing the radicalisation of a generation. This is to current students what the Iraq war was to the last lot - and what the poll tax was to those before them. As I walked back to parliament, with crowds of protestors chanting 'Tory scum' at me because of my suit, I saw a young girl shouting: "Down with MPs - all they ever do is lie."

It's juvenile, of course, and immature. And it happens to be false. But what the Lib Dems have done was teach these people, whose first ever vote was for their party, that politicians' words are without value. Right now that girl is passionate and idealistic. In a few years, she will be one of those people down the pub, utterly cynical and disconnected.

Their bitter anger - which is real, valid and justified - is a more important lesson to take from yesterday than police failures or property damage.

source: http://uk.news.yahoo.com/blogs/talking_politics/on-the-front-line-with-student-protestors-p145546.html?subpage=2#ept-article-comments

i am of the opinion that he who resorts to hitting a woman to command respect is the greatest weakling there ever can be. why stoop so low? believe me, no matter the provocation, a man that can win is the man that can show the greatest restraint in the face of the greatest provocation.

you gain nothing by resorting to violence. what happens to dignity and to being a man? being a beast or being vicious is not being manly. take time to think on the end result of your actions before you carry them out and don't be too hasty to react. you will save yourself the aftermaths of such violence.

i have a friend that dated this guy that always beat her if he ever saw her talking to another man he doesn't know. according to him, the first time was a mistake, the second time she provoked him by talking to someone he doesn't know. she didn't wait for a third time.

women, you are supposed to have gentle hands that care, soothe and repair. please do not lay those hands designed for goodness on a man in the name of trying to prove a point. God bless

ok so a greater percentage of you contributors have decided to diss the poor guy just because he asked a honest question. that is usually the problem with us Nigerians. cant you either simply answer the question or pretend this thread doesnt exist? if you dont ask, you won't know and that is what usually kills our brain as naija peeps. ignorance is a killer and chairman has decided to liberate himself. please dont condemn him at all. i was also going to ask some questions about the P&G thing in London as well but i think i can anticipate the negative responses that will flow so i might as well keep it to myself.

for those of us going for the thing, mehn we are many. and it seems like it is only P&G that has responding so far. about 10 people i know in my school, from different departments and the likes are going for the assistant brand manager invitation on friday. and another 20 intend gatecrashing. na wa o.

what happened to all the schlumberger, MTN, SCB, Cocacola and others that are slated to be there? it is really looking like a dodgy event to me. but all the same we will be there.

finally, chairman1 and Kadman, i will like to chat further with you guys on yahoo. my email is ssemire@yahoo.com so hola.

take care and all the best. also, be proud of your achievements at any level because no one can take it back from you. it is yours. they can only go as far as hating. and that is the mentality of anyone suffering from any level of complex

i have to post to start mine, so i guess that is what i am doing

office politics is about the worst thing you have to experience in naija. especially in the banking sector and especially in a bank that starts with "S". i did my service year there and was then made a staff. there were 3 of us that they took. they wanted to make just one of us a permanent staff and the other 2 contract staff. on wat basis? no one could tell. we did the exams and interview and i got atleast 15marks more than the others in each and yet they still wanted to make me contract staff. so why then did we have to do the same exams and interview?

then came the next thing, i was told i should go to abuja that that was where they had a vacancy for me. i said ok i will go. i wen there and next thing, the woman i was to work with there said she didnt want a permanent staff that i will be eating into her profit. as if that wasnt enough, she went about telling others in the office that i was a spy sent from the headoffice to come and reports their misbehaviour.

working with her was a horrifying experience. she kept calling the headoffice to report me to them and told them not to confirm despite signing my form for confirmation (i had 78% which qualified). they confirmed the other 2 and even gave one a promotion, but me i got nada. and then abck to my boss, she felt i was a threat to her and was always talking negative about me to her friends. one will think i am her age mate or summin ( i am 25, she is 46).

mehn the gist long and i don tire to dey type. experience bad o. my life is in God's hands. she was shocked when i gave her my resignation letter. i am no longer there and all my clients have closed their acounts. not one of them is left there and me, i am in UK now

To all Bankers,

It think the banking industry has become sooo competitive that objectivity is now in the back ground. I for one is tired of the monotony. The truth i have discovered that once you are in the sector for too long, you can't get out easily. But right now, i need an entry level job in a good bank. can anyone help?