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Was emma really the weakest link tonight

Smh, and sword out-ran them again..

homesteady: Chei! That boy is foolish oh! Didn't he see that he carried yellow?

I can't stop laughing mehn. Dennis tried to make up for his foolishness, and tony started well.

Lwkmd, peter is a fo.ol... And to think tony started out well.. Shame!

dayokanu: WHich of the above dont Nigerian men do to their wifes regularly?

is it sponsoring their education totally from secondary school till masters?

Paying rents for all their life? Opening shops for their wifes yet still have access to every money in the house?

If it were a housewife you all would come up with excuses . Now the shoe is on the other foot see vexing

The bottom line is its bad for any partner to leech on another permanently whether man or woman

I would see the next housewife thread and responses from the same posters on this thread who are threatening fire and brimstone

Hardly will a nigerian man do all of these and still respect the woman. And when these type of women come here to complain, you castigate them, call then names and tell them to go work their lazy asses off, but I am yet to see you condemn this man like you strongly show your disgust for housewives.

And which excuses would people come up with for a leeching housewife? Note the word leeching. The one that keeps ruining business? The one that refuses to get further education, the one that withdraws money as she pleases? The one that does online money transfer as she wants? And still not spending this awoof money on her household? Which man will even borrow huge sum of money from his bro for his future wife to start business in this century? I as a woman, would have reacted more if a fellow woman was doing all of this cos I dislike it generally when someone is being taken advantage of.

Condemn this man's act like you would have if he was female while you wait for the next thread...

Guitarlife: You need to ask yourself, which kind of woman borrows her boyfriend 2.5 million naira ?

Have you thought of that ?

I have a feeling the Op had to put in everything to get a marriage from this man.

Women, let your men earn you. You will be treated like a trash if you keep throwing yourself at them.

For petes sakes, 2.5million naira as at 7 years ago!!!

More like 5million naira today.

The man is clearly a nonentity but whoose fault is it that @Op chose to marry one ?

I hope single ladies are reading this thread sha ?

Its you na, your aim is to make sure this woman gets most of the blame, make conclusion, call her names indirectly and be asking if ladies are learning, like you know it all already cos you are a 'man'.

Op thought she did what was best for the man she loved (I do not know the level of their relationship then)..note: I would never do such. After marriage, as a 'good wife', she tried to support him and help him grow academically and financially, the man no yield anything. She overindulged him and now She has realised her mistakes, frustrated and looking for a way out and people are suggesting what I call the obvious solution and your own first response was to play the gender card. And you are still suggesting she gets this man a car for public transport? From which savings biko? The empty one? Or she should borrow again? With a baby in the home now? And you still mentioned if the man sends her packing? From which house? The one she's been paying for?

Abegi! I know you guitar, and I don't have the strength to go in circles, but I stay clear from men with your kinda orientation. We are two extremes.

Op, you know what to do. It is not to late to right your wrong. No one has suggested you walk away from your marriage or be rude to your hubby. Almost everyone has told you to stop indulging this man. Do the right thing. The response\attitude you get from him weeks after that will determine your next line of action. Goodluck.

Guitarlife: So many feminists on this thread but how disturbing to see them speaking from both sides of their mouth.

Would you advice in this manner if the roles were reversed ?

If it was the woman that had been jobless for so long, would you have seen anything wrong in that ?

I keep shouting that men and women are not equal and that they can never be.

I thought y'all said women = men so let them do what the man does, you begin to raise dust huh ?

What exactly do you women want ?

@Op trust me, unless a miracle happens your marriage is dead already because you are gonna receive on this thread enough confidence to walk out on your marriage with some women even linning up to award you a medal of honour for that.

But remember, he maybe lazy, decietful, cunning, hopeless, unpresentable.

He is also one thing, your husband.

And I hope you understand what that means ?

Its true you are the one paying the bills in your home, why don't you go ahead and tell every one on your street too.

Atleast you have started from somewhere by humiliating him in front of his family.

This is the mistake women make, they fail to do necessary checks before getting married.

They forget that marriage is a no going back tin.

I hope single ladies will learn a lesson or two about looking before leaping.

Finally, I will advise you Op to rather open the business for him.

INstead of giving him a huge amount to do that by himself. My suggestions are, opening a provisions store for him or buying him a taxi.

And make sure you make him understand that after the business you will be changing your account passwords which you should do.

You have to be ruthless if need be here but, never ever discuss your marriage with family again cos that is why you are an adult.

If he kicks you out which is the worst thing he can do then, you will know you tried.

I pray that peace will return to your marriage. And learn to be impervious to neighbours comments cos in the event that he walks out on your marriage the neighbours are likely to make you an item of their discussion.

Goodluck!

No, the question is would you encourage such if roles were switched? How can a grown up man refuse to be responsible? Can you do such and still retain your masculinity? Did you all masculinsts read the part where the woman borrowed her bro's money for him even before the marriage? She paid back most of the debt? Paid house rent for 2years, lent him 2.5 mill for business that went down the drain? Sought different job applications for him? Encouraged him to continue his education and retake his failed exams? Even offered to pay? Paid no dime for her post natal? Yet she's still giving him access to her account, he withdraws anyhow from her account with her atm cards, transfers money online as he pleases. N now a working class woman is broke just because of a leech she calls husband. Yet, she has remained 'submissive' by not withdrawing all these privileges.


Tell me how many husbands would do all of these to their housewives? Tell me if you can allow your own sister or daughter working her fingers to the bone make ends meet to be drained this much by a man.


Come on, be real!

stillwater: But in this case he spends money like no man's business and has full access to her accounts. A right most housewives have no access to.
As the responsible member and head of the family, that is the OP since the husband has relinquished all rights to provide, then she needs to seize such access, before this family goes bankrupt. Put him on a typical allowance and let him take care of the house and kids. Unfortunately she married a house husband, start treating him like one. Open a small kiosk for him so he can be selling indomie, biscuit and chewing gum etc.

Lmao...nice one!

dayokanu: I have read this thread and can just laugh. The same women who would argue for a housewife that the husband should do everything

They argue cleaning and cooking is a job on his own

Now they have a man cooking and cleaning for the woman to bring in the bacon solely has now become wahala.

Abi where are all those people?

Now a man with no job has to be denied his conjugal rights. Maybe you should just divorce him to make things easier. I hope jobless women too would have no right to demand for sex from their husband. A job is your ticket to sex with your spouse Nowadays, As Greatgid would say, May God help us
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NB: I am never in support of any partner in a marriage being lazy or playing househusband/housewife Just that its funny seeing people who usually condone that act from women now vexing when the shoe is on the other foot

I was expecting this gender twist from you. If the Op was a man, you'd have insulted the woman and called her names. In this century where men like you are quick to assume every woman's woes in her marriage is due to her joblessness and inability to bring something to the table, until the poster comes to prove you wrong, yet you can not say what is right irrespective of the gender.

You think people wouldn't have descended on the wife if the situation were reversed? It would have even been simpler cos as a man, he'd have more courage and control to withdraw all these privileges from his lazy wife without being seen as not submissive or disrespectful. The only thing I believe is stopping this woman is because she wants to keep being seen as submissive and respectful to her husband. Yet the man is not making efforts.

Just the same way you heavily condemn lazy housewives, do the same to this irresponsible man. do the right thing and stop playing gender card. This isn't even about being the house husband alone, he is a reckless spender with overbloated ego and clearly lacks focus. At least most housewives spend on themselves and their children, but in this case, this man can not account for anything in his life, and for his own blood sister to have advised the wife on opening a secret account, that should tell you he's been known to be irresponsible.

eyitayoemmanuel: @stateofmind: He actually assists with house chores to be honest, he's good at that.

Okay, good to hear he helps at the home, I was proved wrong, lol. Please Re-read and digest chaircover's post, she proffered practicable solutions. There's definitely a way forward.

..And I'm quite sure this man does not help around in the house. I'm sure you still cook his food, clean the house and take care of your baby alone. What does that make you? A husband and a wife n a mother all in one body. Except you prove me wrong though.

Majority of the Men in this situation will keep on nagging and telling those who care to listen that their wives have changed just because they are going through 'little' financial crises, when they are the ones with the problem. Figurehead husbands.

eyitayoemmanuel: NB: These days I feel so unhappy and turn him down whenever he asks for sex. He has no shame at all, he keeps coming every now and then for sex. Each time I complain of anything he tells me I cant be there for him cos he has small financial issues.

Don't let him blackmail you. From your narration, you have done more than enough for this man;paying rent for 2yrs, lending huge sum for business even after largely contributing to pay off his huge debt. Did he call what he's going through small financial crises? I wonder what small means to him then. And why are some posters saying you should be giving him some amount monthly? Is he working for you? What exactly is he doing with the money? Madam, go to your banks and block your atm cards, change you password too like some posters have suggested and be the only signatory to your account.

How can you be working your ass off while someone would just be chopping ur money? And you end up being the broke one? Even men would not tolerate this from a woman in this century not to talk of a woman tolerating this. if he wants to keep lazing about without a dime, let him be. With time, he'd return to his senses. And if he doesn't, his loss. Just make sure you start doing the right thing-save your money. You sure don't want your child to suffer.

Now watchn on ait..This GUS is boring for me though..too much 'drama'...nothing intriguing at all...no evictions to look forward to, individual tasks are more fun than all this everyday group nonsense. And the dominic\ezugo part just doesn't sit well with me..boring as Bleep..

So its even a repeat. Dint wtch last nyt's show.

Spear at it again *whew*..

Anyway, According to the advert, I think they'll be evicted as a group mid way into the game, while the standing group battles it out as individuals afterwards. My own interpretation, I may be wrong though.

Jekyll & Hyde:
[color=#000033]You're welcome.

My regards to Harel Jekyll Akpan TM.[/color]

Akpwetin? Nothing nice about akpan for a child in this generation of ours...We reject it...

IyawoTM: Ekaro, dear. I believe you slept well!


okay o....wasnt judging though, it's her cup of tea.

Yeah, I know u weren't, just thought to clarify cos I 'e-know' her .. I slept well, thanks.

Jekyl, ow r u? And ows your babe. She's been scarce these days? Is your honeymoon not over yet? Abi she don

IyawoTM: U sef wetin.....ure making it so obvious that u were not chosen....lol


Hell hath no fury than a reincarnated woman scorned


Just signed back in to say that.....lol



If I remember correctly ure a fine dude, n if u had been a woman u for fine pass all of them including lekpa....for real!

Lmao..

Reincarnated: So that will mean Lekpalicious is finer than both Maria and Diliish? StateOfMind I need you fast PLEASE.

Oya, o, what do you need me for babe cos I agree with iyawo's analysis of the 3 of them 100%.

IyawoTM: Na person mother, and wife dey put big bum bum picture for public forum....okay o. I try am, n dis man go dey talk lawyer tinz *just seriously kidding*

Lol..that's not dyt in her profile... Morning iyawo..

breathing: https://www.nairaland.com/1466615/most-painful-death-loved-one

That's the link Alos, thread got to me too.

As for my dad, I share him with 6 people already, so don't think an extra would hurt and as for bride price? done! Nice voice? that's sweet, SOM thinks I have the h-factor tho. Biatch

Lmao...and what factor did u say I have? You are the lying B here.

Aproko, was even in search of the link, not knowing u already dropped it.

Reincarnated: Remind me never to side with you after I previously was against you Ochon and Caruj are 2 different people. I was just messing around although both have used those lines before. And stop trying to bully me

Bully ke? Haba...ndo..

You've been angry since yesterday by the way....you okay babe?

Bizbloke, warn urself o

Reincarnated: This mumu don forget say him don talk this same line when he was using the ochon account. . Bros are u sure you are not him?

Smh...when I said you were a learner the other time, u thought I didn't know what I was saying. Na u slow pass for this thread...

spade: Ha! I'm extreme like that

I know right!

alosiby92: you dis evil gehl..biko work for him jorr...or at least spend time with him and make up for rejecting his appeal..buy him biscuit or something...After all, he's your dad...trust me, life is short..you dont want to be regretting that you were mean to your dad like i am...
biko please...
Or at least give him a hug and valid reason for me.
Sincerely,
your cowife

That's the word alos! She evil...lol

I usually get unnecessarily annoyed when my dad calls me frequently! Sometimes, I intentionally ignore his calls and be like "gosh! What does this man want again'.. Sometimes, my bro-in-law would be like "pick his call na, you don't know how lucky you r to have him ask after you everyday"

Well, now I know better! After reading the most heart wrenching thread I've ever seen on nl last week ; about those who have lost loved ones, and your recent posts.

How are you alos..hope you are having a good time?

spade: LOL. Pokello is a very petty woman, I thought her recent antics already made that clear.

Also, some of those housemates actually went to that house strictly for the money, and the fact they appeared on our screens should not specifically mean they hope to keep appearing on our screens.

That guy who won last year, Keagan, ended up telling the flies around him (facebook famzers and Twitter follow-back beggars) to phuck off cuz he has no interest in pursuing fame. He made it very clear the only reason he went to BB house was for money to help him acheive his fame-UNrelated dreams. Today, his company "Man Beast" happily specializes in boxing promoting - not quite my definition of the mainstream fame.

Abi if I take part in BBA tomorrow and end up winning, you think say I go send the fame and the stalkers who'll probably think I'll be appearing on their screens next as an actor, musician or some shioot like that? Nope, I'll invest the money in my artistic animation studio dreams as well as engineering work, showbiz fame be damned.

Likewise this whole Twitter thing. Not everyone on Twitter hopes for 800K followers. Some people created their Twitter account before participating in BBA, and would just like to go back to their normal stream-lined social lifestyle.

Always on point, except when you over diss beverly.

spade: This is her original Twitter handle http://www.twitter.com/_RubiksCube_

It's got over 14,000 Followers.

I think she created that second one to divert the attention of the BBA fans and follow-back beggars from her original Twitter handle, cuz from my own personal observations of Fatima in the BB house, she never gave a phuck about pleasing the crowd or bending to their demands to be on their good books.
She doesn't even use her real name on her handle like most of the housemates do.
I think if she really wanted followers that bad, she would have used a familliar handle like "FatimaNkata" or something, not an obscure 'unrelated' name like "RubiksCube".

I don't think she cares, really... But it's just my opinion sha.

I didn't even see this before my initial reply.., I share the same opinion.

ninnyanny: This world is indeed not fair
So Fatima is in TZ and no one knew about it!
What has this girl ever done?!!!!!
Just 2week ago she had 11 thousand + fans on twitter
And today she has 2thousand + fans.
Plz follow Fatima on twitter @RubyRubiescube.
(Although me no de follow her,*hides*)

Lol, you don't follow her na. She changed her handle, the former one was hacked or so, explains the extreme fall in no of followers.. She's one chasemate that rubbed me off the wrong way in the house, but I like her outside the house. And she's just doing her thing, anchoring shows n planning events.

uj_sizzle: It's On!! update
Olakunle stole food in the night and they've broken their calabash plate

Btw Olakunle is fiiinnneee and Dennis too


Who else thinks every GUS after Gus3 has been easy?
Allah Hector's set in GUS3 suffer die! Wey dem chop garri and garri soup and Comfort had to quit midway

The season 3 weather in particular made it worse. They were beaten by the rain in their camp every day n night. Poor girl had to quit The final lap wasn't as tough as lucan's.

I dint watch last night's show, but from what I read, maybe emma is the new vaughn..lmao..you remb how that dude was evicted? even the organisers had enough of his overbearing attitude n had to look for a way to evict him.

Btw, ifunaya n peter don't deserve to be in spear.

Maria, how u dey?

Ooops, I came late.. Who were (are) the culprits sef ..uju baby, well done..

..But at least Blank posts is better than seeing 'this post has been hidden' all over the place..

Er ehmmm, fatima's outfit is not elikem's handwork..you think elikem would send his designs to fatima, his madam's no1 ememy..
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Fatima anchored series of events in malawi last 2weeks and the african designs were made specially by one somebody for the events.

He designed melvin and bolt's outfits to selly's birthday though.

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Hey you! I surprisingly saw my name included in your list on that thread...