figel:


It’s always good to carry out holistic evaluation before typing or commentating. Saves you from making embarrassing comments. How can someone who is illegal travel out of a country and be allowed the re-enter the country? If the woman is his dependant, she can never enter Spain unless the man consents to it. QED!!

You people are funny. Quick Google of Spanish law about unlawful removal of a chikd/children would have at least given you some guidance, but you're here talking nonsense and making rude comments on top of it.

If the children are Spanish citizens,they have been forcefully dumped in Nigeria and they have a right to be returned to their country of birth. If their mother makes a complaint at the embassy, dependant or not, she will be heard.

The days of sitting by and shouting like goat are gone. If she wants to return the kids ie if citizens to Spain, she can make a case all things being equal.

Get a lawyer and file a petition.

Fake. Everyone Spanish citizen or immigrant is on their database.

If she goes to the embassy, they check and make new papers for them to be able to return.

If the man is illegal and she him back with her, all she has to do is give his name, address, work address, plus anyone he's affiliated with. Police will say hi the next day.

All this drama is rubbish over something that can be fixed.

Lexusgs430:



Let's assume he was a SD, that had £10K to spare...... He would have given her outrightly, rather than risk the guarantor consequences..........

The lender would continually ping guarantors, till loan is fully paid...........

An expensive risk to take ......... When borrower's seek money, they would do or say anything..........

True. Guarantor risk no be here, borrower promises heaven on earth for you to help but when it's time to pay, wahala.

It's well.

Lexusgs430:



Even if he was her sugar daddy, was her intention to stylishly swindle him .........

No be money wey sugar daddy get, hìn go fit dash away ........

Are there broke sugar daddies? Nawa o.

It's the audacity to even say this sort of thing that made me think there's a lot more to this.

No normal person would have the guts to do this.

Maybe the man promised to risk it all at the point of no return then hin eye clear later.

It's the craziest excuse I have ever seen.

Lexusgs430:
Real life story..........

A lady applied for a loan, lender required a guarantor, she got a guarantor....... Guarantor accepted secured term loan .......

Loan term 4 years : Guarantor sold his house after a few months and relocated, borrower lost her job after 1 year and could no longer service loan.......

Lender is chasing borrower, guarantor is out of reach, borrower is requesting lender keep chasing guarantor, that if guarantor did not put his full chest in front, lender would have not dropped funds.......

Borrower is claiming guarantor should be held responsible............

Long and short : Lender is holding borrower responsible, but borrower thinks it's not a fair position........

Is guarantor borrower's sugar daddy? That's the only way this makes sense.

If you want to remarry, better sooner than later.
It sounds like your wife won't even care since you are living like strangers already.

Looking for child means you'll be looking for chick in the twenties and thirties, so when you're 80,your new beloved will be around late 40s or early 50s.

Most young ladies who will look in your direction will weigh your financial capabilities and also consider that you'll most likely be a liability in 20 years tops.I'm saying this because you may be wearing pampers and needing her to wipe your bumbum by 80-85.

Without good money, this plan will cause you a lot of problems. I hope you've saved well cos it won't be easy to maintain your UK home and your Nigerian home-you will be paying school fees till you are at least 85 years old(ie if you have this son within the next 2 years).

You married your madam when she was 21,and you 35 if your OP is correct . She was very young and maybe she just doesn't want again and is waiting for you to severe the cord.

No point in pretending, why don't you just end it?

If you both won't fix it, move on and live your best lives please.

Life is too short for all this wahala.

Good luck sir.

The man has said his father is a drunkard and does nothing for the home except make unreasonable demands while sleeping around and some people are here trying to make it normal, like every father does it or like they were raised by drunkards and irresponsible dads.

Watch them blame your mother who is the breadwinner. They will say she opened the drink and fed it to him and possibly drove him to the arms of his co fornicators.

When a person is addicted to drink, nothing else matters, they don't even care about themselves not to talk of other people. I hope he gets help and turns around.

Good luck Op,it is hard but hopefully something works out for you.If you have relatives ready to shelter you, go to them. Your mother has made her choice, nothing you can do about it.

Not everyone can withstand psychological pain especially when it comes from loved ones.

Some people thrive when they're gently encouraged and nurtured by family when they are down, any form of rejection or harsh treatment makes their mental state and situation worse.

For some, the more adversarial their family is, the more motivated they are to do better and prove them wrong.

Verbal and mental abuse is not a form of encouragement, no one benefits from it. You're suffering then on top of it family makes sure you don't have peace,and worst part is they think if they don't abuse you, you'll get lazy and relax.It is not okay and should not be normalized.


You can motivate someone by reminding them of who they are, their abilities and what they can achieve. That should be more effective than calling someone useless and lazy.

A family that loves understands where their child falls in and gives them the kind of support that fits the person they are.

Op, I wish you well, I hope you find all the strength you need to pull yourself up and succeed again.

omopapa:
Abi Amazon firestick, know this know peace

Abeg una explain further. Sky don finish pesin

Well done to the wife for standing her ground and protecting her child.

A lot of animals masquerading as humans.

Only God knows what he's doing to his patients.A whole doctor who should be forward thinking is trying to FGM his child.

Terrible!

No,you are not wrong.

The child is innocent and should not be treated badly at all.

The wife has not forgiven,the child will constantly be a reminder for her so so she is pouring her aggression at the wrong people instead of facing her real problem,her husband.

I empathise with her situation but she has chosen to remain in her marriage so the baby will always be present whether she likes it or not.It's a pity.

You guys should keep the child far away from her please and well done for being kind to an innocent child.

ravensckar:
You're sick! But you have no one to tell you so. So, common sense didn't whisper to you that every action has opposite reaction? If a married man is denied se.x for just a month (talk less of 2), here are some of the likely events that will follow;

1- He may become psychologically down such that he won't be able to function properly at work.

2- He may become tempted to patronize who.res thereby losing his money, integrity,contracting incurable diseases too. What about the addiction to visiting brothels?

3- Thirdly, studies have proven that a se.x starved individual is likely to rape the opposite se.x

So, which of the instances above would you rather have him experience? The problem with marriages nowadays is that foo.ls like you (who probably aren't married) think they know a lot about it. You're just playing to the gallery for the sake of political correctness.

Any woman that denies her husband se.x is evil! And should be treated as such.

#End of Discussion#

You are the sick person here and obviously a waste of space.

Please put links to the studies and peer reviewed journals that say lack of sex means the person will rape.

This is why people like you travel abroad and within a few months get locked up because you don't understand the simple concept around consent.

There are many ways to resolve lack of sex in a relationship / marriage that doesn't involve a beat down with forceful intercourse. He is not the first and will not be the last. Many couples go through periods where sexual intercourse may be an issue and many of them have not beaten or raped their partners.

Sensible men would NEVER EVER force themselves on anyone and would rather lay their cards on the table than allow themselves to be used as tools of destruction, but you wouldn't know because you're a fo.ol anyways.


Stay well sah!

Kollins11:
Sha... Warn your sister and daughter.

A word is enough for the wise.

Yessah!

Kollins11:
Fvck You Man!!!

I can't pay your sister bride price, provide 85% for her, and she would denial me sex....i will repeat myself over and over again. I go tear her pussy, she go stitch pussy she go tire.

Simp.

Lol

Kollins11:
My Middle Finger on the air for you Man!!!

My message for you is that you tell your sister or daughter to give their husband his conjugal right else her pussy go tear by fire by force Rubbish!!!

Weh done sah!
You're doing well.

Kollins11:
Happy Boxing Day Nairalanders. Please I need advice on this matter.

It was on a good evening... Abt 4 months ago. I went out to get a bag of pure water, but the woman that sells around my street has closed so I went to the next street.

I saw this beautiful creature, light skinned, slim and pretty girl. Although she narrowly escaped albino. Her hair is naturally dark, she's very light skinned like Regina Daniel. BUT if one observe her very well and look at her eyes one would tell she's an albino because her eyes are always swinging and dangling.
Immediately I saw her, as a sharp guy I approached her, I flattered her and she smiled and gave me her number.

NL's, I have been living in my area for almost 2 years now. I don't know this babe stays down my street. She live with parents, I was so surprise when she showed me their house. Well, since then we've been chatting and calling each other.

She's a good and happy girl, she has never directly or indirectly ask me for money, she has a great sense of humor. She enjoys my company. She's 23yrs old an igbo girl. I know alot of guys would be attracted to her beauty but I doubt if she has a boyfriend. For her to be living down my street and even my guys haven't seen her mehn! She's well reserve.

The guys in my hood, I don't know maybe the girls that broke their heart made use of Thor sledge hammer (in Avengers movie) to break it. These guyz are hardcore red pillars.

Yesterday was the First day she visited me. she brought food for me, she saw I and my guys butchering our chicken, she also assisted us in preparing egusi soup. When she left. My guyz was like where did I see this beautiful fish....Before I could even narrate to them, they were already asking if I don lash her. I said No. Omo!! They almost pick up a Physical fight with me saying "why I neva lash her nw". Honestly she's different from other girls. If na before...I for don lash her since nw.

They were also surprised that she live down our street. This babe is so reserved and well mannered. I don't mind, I would like to marry this babe. I have never felt this way for any girl in a very long time.

NL's I don't know if I should ask her out or maintain the friendship.

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Kollins11:
God P.A, holier than thou and Hypocrites. Please avoid this thread like a plague.

I'm JJC in Lagos. I reallocated to Lagos because of my job. I'm an introvert. I stay around Abule-Egba and iyana-ipaja axis.

My weekend has been so boring since I moved to Lagos. Thank God for football. Guys una know say body no be firewood. Abeg, who Sabi any ashawo house or olosho joint around this area.

Please Help a nairalander.

.just incase

Kollins11:
God P.A, holier than thou and Hypocrites. Please avoid this thread like a plague.

I'm JJC in Lagos. I reallocated to Lagos because of my job. I'm an introvert. I stay around Abule-Egba and iyana-ipaja axis.

My weekend has been so boring since I moved to Lagos. Thank God for football. Guys una know say body no be firewood. Abeg, who Sabi any ashawo house or olosho joint around this area.

Please Help a nairalander.

.

The way people gloss over rape on NL is shocking.So many sick men or boys here.

The Op said he slapped his wife till blood was pouring from her face.Does that sound like one slap to you? Is his hand  made of iron? This man probably punched her face till she bled.

His wife must've been screaming and struggling with him,but what did he do?

He had an erec tion which he proceeded to put into a terrified woman who's vag ina was dry.

What happens when a vagina is dry? It gets bruises and tears,Op continued to fu ck till he ejac ulated.
Who gets turned on till ejaculation with a partner who is bleeding,struggling and dry down there? Does this sound normal to you sickos?

Next day,his wife must've had a bruised face ,traumatised psyche and a battered bleeding  vag ina,and Op expects her to be fine  just because he said sorry.

Then you sick fu cks expect her to have recovered instantly and accepted it as punishment for not having secks for 2 months.

No one is taking into account the sort of trauma he has caused her.This will be with her forever.The woman is so traumatised that she hasn't said a word to him since that day and you people are here talking rubbish.

So, if he asks her something and she says no,what next? Beat out another blood and shove it in again? You people have no concept of trauma ,the effect of seeing someone that loves you become a monster ,beat out blood and then proceed to be aroused from it Disgusting!

There are a lot of ways to deal with lack of sex for 2 months.Forceful intercourse garnished with iron fisted slaps is not the way.

Imagine saying her parents are not welcoming you? No atom of self awareness in your bones.
They have said she needs time,leave her alone and let her have that time.Its not in your place to dictate how she should deal with what has happened.

A lot of you have daughters or will have daughters abi? No problem.

hearttoheart001:
I don't expect her to be an equal partner in terms of spending. She can help out whenever she feels she needs to. Things will fall in place sooner than I expected because I am working towards it. I only need a little more time. I wish you could relax and appreciate my efforts.

Oga,I'm not your fiancée o!

Sounds like a round about way of her saying she needs you to make more money to be the breadwinner of your home,she doesn't want to carry it all or be the major contributor.

You guys have been okay since but you stopped having money and suddenly started talking about equality and partnership maybe she interpreted this as you being okay with her bringing in the bacon more than you do. I don't know,I'm assuming.

If this is not the case,you should go after a woman who wants a man who is exactly like you are.

Proposing to change your whole personality is only going to create problems in the long run because you'll return to your factory setting after a while.

There's absolutely nothing wrong in your vision of how your marriage should be,there's also nothing wrong in her own vision of marriage .

Don't fix a square peg in a round hole,even if you two are wonderful people,it's not compulsory to be together if it's not working.

Lexusgs430:


You never experience a real negative balance, until you sell ..........

What goes down, would surely climb up ......... Copy more people with diversified portfolios..........

Red, is actually a time to buy ..........
$OTLY is now blinking red, so I just snatched some oats ...........

Haaa! 14:30 tomorrow I will go and swallow some oats too.
I don taya for the hammering. Thank you o!

Lexusgs430:



Portfolio diversification is very Important..........

I've learned hot lessons. Im copying one person that just does etf but omo red too.

So much gnashing of teeth for me this period

claremont:


No, it isn't red. At the moment, I'm looking at dividend yield. The water companies are giving a good yield for now, and I would be looking at investing in them. £1000/year dividend from a £20,000 investment is a healthy yield, much better than the banks. It's safer and relatively risk-free as well. Do some research on SVT, UU etc.

Thanks Oga. My side is red one, PayPal, square, pltr, globe all down.

Lexusgs430:
Anyone investing in $RIVN ?......

Or holding fire awaiting a proper correction......

Saw on etoro. I'm waiting for you seniors to lead the way please

Lexusgs430, wonlasewonimi,justwise,Claremont

When you're buying stock,how many units do you usually get?What's the usual minimum or do you just throw in any amount?
Everywhere is red now so I'm just wondering how others do it.

Lexusgs430:



Motley is just chopping your money.......

They keep claiming their Amazon, Tesla and Alphabet tip....... Even a drunkard, usually gets a good day..........

I've decided not to renew

justwise:


Not too late to buy, this time next year you could be looking at $100 share price.

I'll get some today,and also add on to NIO.
I believe you are right about Tesla,I don't trust Elon at all.
See how people are crying on twitter waiting for his verdict. He literally has the keys to people's lives in his hands now.

I remember people that were cursing him because of doge,some lost houses,some lost millions .The man is a genius but very unstable.

Bright minds always have wires touching..same with Kanye.

Lexusgs430:



Another good share for 100% within days, is #SAVA............

Waiting to pluck my cassavas later........
Target price should be $44+ ...........

$PTON too is looking very good .........

I got very tiny #sava @34 after reading from fintwitter o,negligible amount ,very negligible. I'm shocked at the price now.Another mistake for me,underbuying and testing the waters.

Where do you get your stock picks from? I subscribed to motley fool but .....

PTON I'm sure you are among those saying pton is bicycle with ipad