I hope this story isn't true because I was shaking my head reading this. Anyway, aside from crying and begging a woman, the OP did nothing wrong with what he explained. He is not a stalker but only cared too much for someone who didn't care or respect him.

His main problem is not being aware of female nature. He needs this knowledge ASAP or he will suffer greatly at the hands of women in future. The issue here is elevating this career-minded girl who clearly doesn't love nor respect him to girlfriend status and then fiance within 6 months.

She has not earned any of these privileges and doesn't deserve them in my opinion. I don't know why guys do this. Let the girls ask for relationship and then you give your conditions. Don't hand it out freely like that. That is why this girl has the audacity to block a man who was genuinely worried about her safety and called her boss.

A woman must be more invested than the guy in any relationship dynamic for things to work. OP clearly loves her more and she is manipulating him for benefit.

The questions that have still not been answered are, where she at that time of night and why no contact? She more than likely was cheating and that is unacceptable.

The OP should have quickly realised that this girl was not relationship-material, kept her on the side for "chopping" and not take her seriously. But he probably saw big yansh and got carried away.

My advice: Put more focus on yourself and stop monitoring these women like that. They should see you as the catch and chase you. Also, do not share your password info with your girl even if she shares hers .

And, for heavens sake, stop this silly begging immediately. In fact, block her and do not contact her again - no calls, no texts, no liking her pics on IG. Take the lessons, forget her and move on. You showed so much weakness and lost leverage by this pathetic begging.

Focus on your job/ career/ business but go out and socialise in your spare time. If she tries to come back say no and don't budge.

Assert your manhood brothers! Stop being a simp!

DrFunmisticGlow:
Amen!! Preach!!

He said black women will die alone and lonely.

Well who ended up dying lonely, paying for services, twice divorced, with children who would not talk to him, away from family.

I Don't feel any sadness nor joy at his passing, but men who followed his teachings are a red flag

Have watched any of his shows in full? You are distorting his message deliberately to fit your narrative.

He said baby mamas, fat women and women who were not feminine and submissive and yet seeking rich men exclusively for marriage or serious relationship are unlikely to be successful and will die alone.

Unfortunately, many black American women (and women with certain feminist ideology) fall into one or more of these categories. Hence why they detest Kevin. His message hit a nerve and they were unwilling to accept it or change their perspective .

Don't get hung up on the "die alone" bit which is a shock factor to get these women to understand that their expectations were unrealistic.

And, what has his personal life or the circumstances of his death got to do with his core message?

The man is dead. Does that change the outcomes for these women in any way?

Those you watch his content will take the gems he dropped and improve their lives. There is no denying his impact. Red pill or not, the man is a legend.

Yankee101:
When you make a living from bashing women and you die on top woman that was hustling to save your life

What an irony


Be careful of castigated anything God has created

He doesn't hate black women. Most black women just couldn't accept the truth in his message because of his tone and delivery. I will concede that his delivery can be harsh ("die alone", "fat Shirley" sometimes but it contained the hard truth. Example, most AA women are overweight and the single mother syndrome is rife within this community.

He was actually very pro black and supported marriage within the African- American community. He even did a full broadcast dispelling the erronous view that he hated black women. Many women called in to support him.

He took aim at certain categories of women due to their unrealistic expectations in the caliber of men they sought. These women were typically over 35 years old and unmarried, unmarried with children and/or overweight.

Keep in mind that these women usually called his show. Any reasonable person that watches his show in full will see how deluded some of these women are.

Kevin had his flaws like every human being but his mission was not to denigrate black women.
He actually tried to help both men and women. To see many of these same women celebrate his death across social media is utterly distateful, disgusting and shameful.

He is gone but his work lives on.

Chiraq77:
REST In Power King


A very good number of black women are celebrating this Man's Death on Twitter Only Because He Dished out nothing but the truth

I saw it too. Disgusting!

Acidbath:
I don't know him.
Shiity thing to be remembered for. No invention...nothing!
Rest in piss.

Do you think this is a wise thing to say about someone you don't know who just passed?

Share your favourite KS quotes and phrases here as tribute to the man. Here are a few of mine.

"What do you think the man you want wants from a woman?"

"Why do you think you qualify for a high value man?"

"What goes up in value with age and use?"

"Why should a high value man choose you given your age, your children and your masculine behaviour?"

"Your baby daddy is the price point and it all goes down from there".

Kevin Samuels was a passionate advocate for men and used his youtube platform to discuss relationship dynamics between men and women. He was known for dishing out harsh truths especially to black women.

Some folks (black AA women particularly) found his advice and commentary on relationships controversial and took the view that he hated black women. However, a lot of men felt that in a world were men's voice and perspectives have been largely silenced, he spoke for them and were drawn to his message.

He was a source of hope, motivation and inspiration for many young men who looked up to him and agreed with his message.

I believe that Kevin Samuels was a force for good and despite criticism of his tone or delivery, he articulated a positive message - for women to be realistic about their options and prioritise relationship and family with competent and capable men.

According to him, "life is about relationships".

RIP Kevin Samuels. A true legend!

Mods, please post to main forum. Thanks!

Kevin Samuels was a passionate advocate for men and used his youtube platform to discuss relationship dynamics between men and women. He was known for dishing out harsh truths especially to black women.

Some folks (black AA women particularly) found his advice and commentary on relationships controversial and took the view that he hated black women. However, a lot of men felt that in a world were men's voice and perspectives have been largely silenced, he spoke for them and were drawn to his message.

He was a source of hope, motivation and inspiration for many young men who looked up to him and agreed with his message.

I believe that Kevin Samuels was a force for good and despite criticism of his tone or delivery, he articulated a positive message - for women to be realistic about their options and prioritise relationship and family with competent and capable men.

According to him, "life is about relationships".

RIP Kevin Samuels. A true legend!

I think its mainly due to cultural reasons. However, landlords perceive women to be more problematic than men. They can be emotional and not easy to deal with should conflicts arise.

They are also prone to depending on men to pay their bills and so are often unstable financially. I suspect this is the biggest fear for most landlords.

And, I will say this, women are not really designed to live on their own. They need the protection of a man.

OP,

That woman has to go or atleast send her to her parents for a while.

You were not ready for marriage because you are not financially secure....not on salary job bro.
Yes, some woman support their husbands financially but you shouldn't bank on that. In fact, no man should bank on that. You are the man and financial should fall on you. Men lead ALWAYS.

You should have told her to wait for a year before you marry her and invested that 1M in business.
Imagine if you had invested in two budding fashion designers instead using it for wedding.

You could have still gone ahead to see your fiancè's parents but no wedding yet until you are ready. Use that time to observe her and stand firm in your decision. If she decides to leave, then so be it. You have two successful businesses and saved yourself stress, plus you can replace her easily with a more submissive woman.

I applaud you for not yielding to tell her how much you earn. She doesn't need to know. Women use such info for their advantage. The mistake was not increasing your income through other streams.

The thing is woman are not wired to give a man money. You should NEVER ask anyway because they lose respect for you. Notice how she has no problem with you spending on the wedding and still asking you to pay for the shop.

Another thing, you should have not allowed her family to pay for the shop. This is also partly why she is misbehaving. Despite your support with other materials for the shop, she sees it her thing - a gift from her family.

The biggest problem here is sending money to a man. This is a big red flag which you should address.

My advice: Be drastic

Stop having sex with her. You don't want kids right now.
Tell her to close the shop. If she refuses, tell her the marriage is over. She needs you more than you need her.

She should not be the main aggressive hustler in the marriage. That is your role which she is usurping hence why she is being masculine and challenging your authority. Find a way to make more money so she doesn't have to be like that. Remember, you have no kids yet.

For my young guys out there, for women to respect you, you must show you are superior to them (finances, drive, confidence, achievements etc) and lead in every aspect of the relationship.

OP, you know what to do now.

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He is not resident of USA in the first place


I’m happy 10yrs is still better than the maximum 20yrs

Some even got 80yrs for cyber crime

God will see him through



wow.....that Razaq dude got 115 years at 31....that judge dey vex oh

This is truly sad.

Failure of parents, local community and larger society. This young boy is a victim. Poverty destroys lives.

Why cuff him like that and parade him in public?

Why is the interrogation being shared on social media?

"wetin be the names of the people wey una kill"?

What a stupid question! How is he supposed to know?

I hope this boy gets the rehabilitation, nurturing and healing he needs to live a better live.

I don't think it is wise as a female to confront these guys. It is likely that these boys are into yahoo but if you can't prove it definitively, then it is not wise to invite EFCC.

This is a symptom of a larger problem in our society which is rampant poverty and unemployment. But having said that, everyone deserves their peace in their homes.

Getting this type of noise and nuisance behaviour for 4 years can affect one's mental health. Its not good for anyone.

I think a better approach would be to talk to these boys a collective if landlords or residents.

You are likely to achieve your desired result this way because they can't fight the entire neighbourhood especially if they are into illegal stuff.

The crux of the matter is that the fuel subsidy removal will be devastating to Nigerians. This is the point Gbawe is eloquently making, and its quite an obvious one too.    Why can't this govt listen to the people who will no doubt bear the brunt of this cuts?  Efisha and other proponents of this move,do you not care that Nigerias (individuals and businesses) will suffer a great deal from this proposed subsidy withdrawal? I ask this in good faith.

And after all that effort,they left with nothing

This is serious though,50 armed robbers. Thank God no one was hurt

This man represents evil. He has absolutely nothing to offer.