₦airaland Forum

Being single is fun, being single is no holds barred freedom. Freedom from what? Well, freedom to chart your course and steer your ship (life) wherever you want to go.

Freedom to live your life with only one person who you are still trying to understand (You). Once you get married, you would have to put your husband/wife and or kids into consideration before taking any major decision.

Freedom to chase prosperity with every fibre of your being, freedom to "starve" if need be, till your business venture is capable of catering for your every need.

Freedom to be a better you. (This one doesn't have a deadline, you'll keep working on yourself and tweaking it till you kick the bucket) you might as well start now.

One can do all this things and even more when he is married, with understanding and support from your spouse. But you would agree with me that marriage comes with its added load of responsibility (It also has its good side) lots of it.

So if you are still single by now please relax, it is a very good thing. Now you have the time to pursue your career with vigor, you have the time and resources to start up a viable business and gradually transform it into a full blown money making machine.

Now is the time for you to have a complete understanding of yourself, your strengths, weaknesses and flaws. Then work towards increasing your strengths, so your weaknesses can die a natural death from neglect.

Because once you get married, those flaws would be magnified. It won't be you alone in the house bro, now you've got a Missus living with you PERMANENTLY, Plus a bunch of noisy kids scampering around the house making a ruckus.

Enjoy your sweet freedom now, do not rush into marriage.

The same goes for the ladies, don't fret if your childhood bestie got married last weekend. You are two completely different people, her journey through life will not be the same as yours.

Work on your self, work on your finances, work on your career and finally work on your relationship with God.

Enjoy your single life guys, do not, I repeat DO NOT rush into marriage because others are getting married. When it is time, it will happen.

Peace and love!

This guy is like fine wine, he feels, looks and 'tastes' better with age.

He doesn't look a day above 44. I swear, this guy is probably age mates with my uncle. But, my uncle looks way older.

Lesson: Watch what you eat and drink, and the kinda activities one indulges in.

Happy birthday sir. I'm not a PDP member, but I believe in giving honor to whom it's due.

Ride in sir, I'll return to Lagos when you are sworn in by May 29.

I see, by the way what's his stance on the current state of affairs between the two of you?

comfydan:
Thank you. I know going through his messages was wrong but he was acting so somehow, so bad that I begged for his attention meanwhile he was willingly giving it to someone else. I knew something was up. We're not dating again, been doing my best to avoid him.

No honest Nigerian youth would consider voting for Jonathan. He's a disappointment.

The purging of the abscess and pus in the Nigerian economy has begun. Now is the time for honesty and true transparency. And a total clamp down on corruption and malfeasance in the polity.

We can weather the storm. Honestly, President Goodluck Jonathan has tried. Compared with former President Olusegun Obasanjo and other former Heads of states, Jonathan is a saint. And he has done more than they ever did in infrastructural development and local business support.

The presidents only noticeable flaw for me is his stance on corruption and the various economic faux pas his economic team has committed.

I took a cursory look at Mr. President in 2011 and I felt he wasn't going to deliver and he did not disappoint me.

Buhari is our next bet.

Nothing new under the sun. Why is it that social media has almost taken over our lives?

The newest quirk or accident is posted immediately it's happening.

Hey bruv, I've got some questions for you. First of all within the interval of the two months in question, have you guys hung out together?

Your answer to this question, will determine my next response.

Secondly, I think you made a little mistake at the beginning.

He dug his grave by not cutting his ties properly with his ex when he entered into a relationship with you.

What he did is wrong, but you should not have gone snooping on your partner. As clichéd as it sounds, always be the bigger person.

Maybe with time he would have told you and on the other hand, may be not. Who can say?

Are you guys still dating? Or have you summarily called it quits because of what you unearthed?

comfydan:
Yes, I went through his messages but I did it because he had been acting suspicious and distant. I know going through his messages showed lack of trust but at least I found out he was still trying to woo back his ex.

comfydan:
Yes, I went through his messages but I did it because he had been acting suspicious and distant. I know going through his messages showed lack of trust but at least I found out he was still trying to woo back his ex.

No you did not over react, you did the right thing by confronting him.

But I've got a question: Did you secretly flip through his phone or did he hand it over to you himself?

If you actually snooped through his phone, then that tells another story entirely.

Like someone posted earlier, being stingy is one intentionally refusing to part with his money to help another person out, be they a friend, family or just a stranger.

Different strokes for different folks. If I have the money, I'll help out a friend. If I don't have the money, I will not borrow, so as not to be called stingy.

Why people call others stingy might be because they are looking at the persons 'lifestyle': He drives a car, has a business, dines sumptously but refuses to part with his money.

Probably because the cash is not present, but the lifestyle deceives others into thinking that he has it at that moment, which sadly might not be true.

I believe she had a hand in the release of the photos.

Yeah, thanks for pointing that out bruv.

generalissimo:
Bro, u are getting off track o. The discussion here is about *attraction* and not criteria to consider in choosing wife o. Biko

Honestly, its 'men' with boyish brains that use that as a criteria in choosing a partner. Real men, go for what they want, what they see inside the woman. And not just physical attributes that would eventually sag and lose shape.

I used to like this guy from way back, when he used to act in 'Everyday People'. When compared with him before, the change is astounding. He's now a completely different person.

But others in his condition might not go to such extremes. And there are lots of them, still you don't hear stories of pots of soup being stolen regularly?

ireneony:

Just because of pot of soup.
I think the government is responsible for this, if there was actually job for the man, he won't have bring himself so low.
This country is so fuvved up.

We have clueless stealing our money, yet they were never given a sentence

You know, you are really making sense. Many guys and girls go into relationships, thinking that that 'mushy-mushy-lovey- dovey' kind of 'love' during the early stages of the relationship would last forever.

But we all know it doesn't, and we are left disappointed.

Never realizing that it is a conscious effort to love. So I agree with the op, we choose to make a relationship work or break, when we realize that it is in our power to make it work. The relationship will not work itself.

Although, its always heady at the beginning of most relationships, at least the ones I've been through.

Bro, it happened yesterday at Umuahia. Please put semantics aside for now.

GboyegaD:
A 52 bus seater had 112 passengers aboard and 42 were non Nigerians traveling from Kano. This story seem too unreal.

With all the 'do this, do that' rules. Y'all are indirectly telling peeps to start living in fear, because when that rule is broken, what happens next? Will I fall down and die?

Stuff looks pre-planned.

What I'm trying to say is: Apologizing or not-apologizing are acquirable habits. Whichever one of the two one does constantly, would be easy to fall back on. Unless the person consciously chooses not to.

emusmith:
You're tryna say, You don't apologize or it's okay not to?

Yeah, enough said. Let us also remember that man is a creature of habit, many problems in relationships can be attributed to habits.

Because when something is done repeatedly, it sets itself up on the way to becoming a habit e.g: Apologizing whether you are right or wrong.

Some folks find it hard to apologize, even when their mistakes stares them straight in the face, that can be construed as a habit. And a whole lot of examples I don't have the time to delve into right now.

These are 'mumu' qualities, she might 'like' you but subconsciously she will resent you for being a wuss.

Because technically you are now a doormat.

Those are not the qualities of a man, those are boyish qualities.

And Kama Sutra was written by Mathew right?

Indifferent:
Spiritully speaking, sex in marriage is meant for reproduction. Can MouthAction bring reproduction? No. Can anal sex bring reproduction? No. So spiritually speaking they are not hygenic.
Let me quickly add also, that practicing only missionary style of sex is the reason most married people cheat cos they can't go all adventorous with their christian spouses. There other ways to enjoy transaction, while inserting the right ATM card in the right machine.
Consult camsutra pls

As far as I'm concerned, the tearing of the card is and will remain a staged theatric. Obasanjo is and remains a PDP man.

This too will pass.

After spending billions? Didn't they do a feasibility study to show if it would be a profitable venture or not?

Nonsense!

Let the 'tearing' begin.

I just hope your random generalizations would not make the ladies unnecessarily suspicious of 'harmless' guys.

Because after its all said and done, a 'womanizer' is a fabrication. Every man has an ideal woman, it just so happens that she probably 'might' not be who he is currently sleeping with.

So that stirs a feeling of discontent within him, which subsequently prompts him to go out with other ladies as he continues searching for his ideal woman.

What nonsense! Which woman in her right mind would wish she were a man?

That's utter nonsense as far as I'm concerned. You make it sound like being a man is a cake walk. Rubbish!!

Yes, it is a saddening development. Parents need to allow their children to express themselves more. The era of an 'adult' always being right is gone, they should practice an open door policy with their children.

Because when we listen to these children, and make them feel that their words count even with all the gibberish in-between. Years later, we wouldn't have any cause to complain about their alienation because there won't be any. You would be the first person she runs to with news, good or bad.