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Family / Re: Are You Interested In Moderating This Section? by sugardaddy1(m): 11:03am On Sep 10, 2013 |
Obinoscopy: Distinguished NairalanderNa how much be the salary? |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 10:59am On Sep 10, 2013 |
Phema: Nice one Bro! I'm very happy you took that bold step. Tell me, don't you feel better now that you have let go? May God bless you and your family.Thank you o my sister. May God bless you and your family too. Of course, I feel a lot better |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 10:33am On Sep 10, 2013 |
Ahh!!! Thank God I survived yesterday on this thread!!! NLers wan kill me Anyway, as part of my plan to forgive and let go, I called my mil a while ago (something I haven't done in the last couple of months). She was so excited and full of praises, offering prayers and thanks at the same time while I was just smiling, feeling cool with myself and telling her everything was fine as I just called to enquire how she was fairing . Still in shock, she contiuned praying again and it was only when she said she suspected it was a particular lady I was supposed to marry before I met my wife that was behind the whole imbroglio that I told her that all that was no longer relevant as we (my wife and I) have moved on and forgotten about what happened . Deep inside of me, of course, I know the only problem was her interfering with the running of my home and my wife's initial disrespect for "divinely constituted authority" vested in me by God (no be my fault o, na so I meet am) . And as prove to me that my wife was a lot wiser now, my mil told me my wife hasn't been taking or returning her calls for some time now but she was glad to hear from me which assured her everything was okay. Of course, I told my visibly elated wife of my interaction with her mother and advised that she gets in touch with her immediately to douse her worries. I know she will give me some special treat in kind later tonight as a result Meanwhile, as for my bil, I will eventually call him but I'm going to approach that cautiously so as not to give the wrong impression that I am chickening out of the "cold war", thereby emboldening him . But deep inside of me, I have forgiven and no longer hold any grudges against him- thanks to NLanders and their wealth of experience on family matters As for the guy who thinks this whole story is fake, you never see anything! Something that made me to stop eating at home for over 9weeks na him u dey call fake? Pray make u no get problem for your marriage, na then u go know wetin marriage be. Thank you to all my good friends out there o jare. Ehen, my zodiac sign na pisces for the person wey dey ask. But wait, how dat one take concern the matter at hand? 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Our Niger Delta: Betrayal As Fulfilment by sugardaddy1(m): 8:59am On Sep 10, 2013 |
Unfortunately, only a few Niger Deltans are ready to listen to the voice of reasoning as it stands today. |
Politics / Re: Ex-militant Tompolo Buys A Private Jet by sugardaddy1(m): 8:31am On Sep 10, 2013 |
agitator:I dey Ghana already my brother!!! Na who wan die? |
Politics / Re: Ex-militant Tompolo Buys A Private Jet by sugardaddy1(m): 8:19am On Sep 10, 2013 |
What most Nigerians don't know is that our President has the mind set of the average ND militant:- IT IS OUR OIL, WE CAN GET IT ANYHOW, USE THE PROCEEDS ANYHOW AND DO NOT GIVE A DAMN ABOUT WHOSE OX IS GORED! Unfortunately, no nation survives under a leader with such a mind set. Barring divine intervention, it is only a matter of time before this country plunges into full scale armed conflict. May God save Nigeria from all the forces that have now held it hostage. 2 Likes |
Politics / Re: Ex-militant Tompolo Buys A Private Jet by sugardaddy1(m): 7:48am On Sep 10, 2013 |
Symphony007: Just thinking how many lives would have been saved with the nigerian people's money that it's government gave to this man. How many kids would'nt have gone to bed hungry. How many people would'nt have died in road accident due to bad road.etc....nigeria is like a joke. A disappiontment. The world knows it! Ann pickard. The former boss of shell described nigeria to the u.s state department via emails a "the most inhuman country she has ever worked in through out her years in oil, greedy to the point of being complacent in the suffering of their fellow countrymen". Sad. Sad nation!Very true |
Politics / Re: Ex-militant Tompolo Buys A Private Jet by sugardaddy1(m): 7:41am On Sep 10, 2013 |
Read this about two days ago. I no fit shout abeg. Nigeria we hail thee! |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 9:36pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
rigormortis: go to your backyard, dig a small hole, rain all the abuses you feel like raining on your in law into that hole. cover it. drink a tall glass of wine. take a cold shower and go about your business.Thanks |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 9:25pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Phema: You see. Finally, I won! That is actually the only problem I personally know I have. I am very humble and open to a fault. But the moment I sense injustice to me or anyone close to me, the humility becomes sturbonness and the open mindedness becomes vitually non-existent until I achieve my aim. I am actually disliked by a lot of people whenever in this mood except the few who know what my true personality is. But I will work at overlooking certian things and moving on now going forward. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 9:13pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo: I will say this though, the OP has been quite a good sport. He has handled the critique well so far. Kudos.Thank you |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 9:12pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
2ndChance: Thank you o my brother. At least I can rest now |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 9:02pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
bukatyne:This where you guy are missing up things. What you just alluded to and the issue at hand are not related. if you focus on the former in looking at the latter, you will not be objective in your analysis & responses. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 8:53pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo:Well, it wasn't a yoruba teibe thing as the priest was from Ogoni tribe in Rivers, my wife's best friend and husby Igbos, her other friend and colleague yoruba, we are neither of these tribes but the general consensus that she messed up big time with my mli & bil was unanimous. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 8:38pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Ok since you guys have more contributions to make, let me reopen the thread again until all opinions are well taken. Now, for those of you saying op is this, op is that, that was how my wife was screaming blue murder until she brought a priest, her best friend, her best friend's husband and another friend and colleague of hers into the whole matter on separately. When they listened to her alone, they were looking for a cross to crucify me on. But when I gave 20% of what my wife and her mother did that precipated the wholecrisis, they were all begging me to pls forgive them for the sake of my innocent children. Infact, my wife's best friend whom she had reported the matter to told her right there that she always looked up to her as a role model but was surprised she could act the way she did to her husband. She even threatened to do away with her as a friend but for my plea & that of her husband who advised her not to to as this was when they needed each other most. As for the poster who says I am vindictive, yes you are very correct. I'm usually in that mood when I feel I have been wronged unjustly and even if it takes 10yrs or more at times, I usually wait patiently to take my pound of flesh. That was the feeling I got before opening this thread but with the overwhelmimg opinion here, I nowhave a rethink just because of the "family" factor . |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 7:37pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Amelian:Thank you o jare my sister |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 7:05pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Where are you all coming from na? This thread has since closed abeg. Abeg oga moderator, help me close am ooo. All these "end time " people sef. 4 Likes |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 4:29pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
NLanders!!! Una no go kill me ooo!!! I asked for advice, instead of giving me, most of you have turned against me Anyway sha, I appreciate all your comments, I actually made up my mind after that last post from debosky where maturity was advised as it was a family matter. As a mark of respect for my wife, I will ignore and move on as advised by the majority of posters here. I have also picked up opinions as being proud, vengeful and egoistic or egocentric from a couple of posters. Surprisingly, those are vices I hate most in individuals no matter how highly placed -I will deal with them as well and come out a better person thereafter . I will place a call to my BIL as advised and move on thereafter irrespective of whatever response I get from him. It may not be now but I certainly will do someday and I may not have to share that on this thread again. I must say that all your comments have pushed that inner "deal with him" urge away now and I can feel it finally getting out of my system for good . May God bless you all . |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 3:47pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
debrief08: Still you are here most of the times boasting of how much and how well you cheat on your wife.That was over 2 yrs ago. I have since turned over a new leaf and moved on or rather moved away from my fellow cheats! |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 3:35pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
debrief08: I know people don't threaten legal action for minor offences. Heavens knows what you did.Okay but that's your personal opinion |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 3:24pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
redeemersave:My wife never begged, she carried on for weeks as if nothing was at stake until she was advised that things were becoming irredeemable as in pdp now Telling my mother not to visit due to a misunderstanding that was started by her mother was the genesis of the whole problem. I simply told her "okay o, I have heard you but your mother will not visit again too ooo" and all hell was let loose!!! How am I the bad person here? |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 3:00pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo:No contact or calls to or from him since after that rude call of his. The thread is to seek better and quicker ways to deal with him It's also to seek opinion if dealing with him or letting go and moving on is a better option . I have actually tried moving on, especially with my wife being very remorseful now, but that urge to "deal with" my BIL keeps rearing it's ugly head |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 2:57pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Okay, let me divulge some more info.... My BIL didn't stop at the insulting call, he got some quacks to threaten me with legal action if I didn't resolve issues with his sister (my wife) amicably. Of course, I swung into action and it took the concerted effort of both families to bring the situation under control as it was crystal clear I was out for outright divorce ( I was the only one who knew all the "gra gra" on my part were just "shakara" ). That was the part that got my wife and MIL begging. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 2:51pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Ok, for the benefit of those of you who equate "deal with" to mean physical harm or injury to someone, let me explain what I mean by "deal with" :- 1. I will not call you for any reason whatsover. 2. I will ensure I don't participate in any event that will bring both of us physically together 3. I will ensure my children do not visit or have any interaction with you or your immediate family 4. etc, etc, etc They are boycott actions and not physical harm as being misinterpreted here. Besides, they may take years to realize . |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 2:44pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
soul_glo:Your assumption is very wrong. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 2:42pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo:You certainly made that up, you didn't get it from this thread. 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 2:40pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Phema: Lol @ schooling him on how to respect his elders. . Guy, you get mind oooo. If na my brother, u go chop correct Slap! |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 2:35pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
m-ployer:Well, I did |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 2:27pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
chaircover: They have apologised and things have “moved” on in his home, but he is still seething. I guess because he still feels insulted and badly treated by someone who shouldn’t have behaved in that way in the first instance.Thank you. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 2:01pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
alutacontinua: Mind you, I apologized to my MIL too after she tendered her apology (both over the phone and physically) even though the generality of opinion was that I was right while she was wrong. I did that out of respect for her. I also apologized to my wife too for "over-reacting" as she puts it. I'm not sure that's what egocentric men do. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 1:42pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
debosky: I get your point really. Family and maturity are the keywords here. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 1:41pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Amelian: Op, you are welcome to nairaland where all views must be considered ... In all ramifications....My sister, I'm getting more confused now! It looks like I'm the one that should be apologizing for making myself available to be insulted simply because I married somebody's sister . Some views here are even making me feel like I should seek my inlaws opinions first before calling my wife to order whenever she errs so as not to be insulted by them . |
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