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Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 1:39pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
m-ployer:Yeah! The bolded is one of the reasons I'm really bitter because disrespect to me by my BIL is disrespect to her sister too who happens to be my wife. But my wife doesn't see any disrespect to me by her brother as disrepsect to herself. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 1:19pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
@alutacontinua Thanks for your post. I don't want to believe your moniker has anything to do with your view point |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 1:05pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
debrief08:Very well noted, will improve.Thanks |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 12:53pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
m-ployer:Hmmmm. Another perspective to the whole saga Mind you, my MIL didn't apologize for the insult from her son, she only aplologized for instigating the whole crisis. My wife also did not categorically apologize on his behalf, rather she said "he said he didn't insult you". But your point of view is very well noted as arrogance is a vice in itself which I must guard against on my part. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 12:47pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Many thanks for all the comments, especially those from debosky and jidegirl who saw things from my perspective . I will move on as advised but will not glorify his insult with a call. Rather, I will wait for an opportunity to school him on respect for elders and how not to interfere in misuderstandings between a man and his wife.I feel a lot better now. God bless you all. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Is It A Sin To Fall In Love In The Church??? by sugardaddy1(m): 12:23pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
adeaugustus: "Fall in love"?? Do you fall in love with strangers? You get to know people before you love themWhat happened to the much talked about "love at first sight"? |
Foreign Affairs / Re: Nairobi Governor Slaps Female Rep After Jonathan Visit by sugardaddy1(m): 12:16pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
uniqueval: Ayayayayaya.....!!! WTF!!!But wait a minute, slapping a woman? ....that is not funny at all |
Family / Re: CHILD MARRIAGE: 8 Year-old Bride Dies From Injuries After Wedding Night Sex With by sugardaddy1(m): 11:50am On Sep 09, 2013 |
The argument by child marriage advocates has always been that there will be no intimacy with the child bride until she has fully come of age. Going by this story, it's obvious that is just a ploy to decieve the innocent children and their parents. RIP to the dead. |
Family / Re: I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 11:23am On Sep 09, 2013 |
Of course I am much older, didn't hit my wife (and I never will), I only stopped eating at home, stopped sharing my room with her and told her her mother who instigated the whole crisis was no longer welcome to my house until she retraced her steps. My BIL's insults could best be described as rants from a deluded individual as his utterances were incoherent. He even broke down in tears half way into the ranting exercise and that was the point where I had to cut off the call. My anger is more with the act rather than with what he said. |
Family / I Need To Deal With My Brother-in-law by sugardaddy1(m): 10:07am On Sep 09, 2013 |
Sometime ago, I had some misunderstanding with my wife which prompted me to take some measures to restore some sanity in my home. As the "sanctions" were biting harder, my wife notified her family which resulted in one of her younger brothers, who is married with kids, raining abuses on me over the phone. Knowing his antecedents however, I igored him but not until my wife and her mother (who was the root cause of the whole problem) were made to beg and apologize for their actions which led to the misunderstanding in the first place. It's been a couple of months now and normalcy has since been restored. However, every now and then, I find myself fighting this inner urge to deal ruthlessly with this recalcitrant brother-in-law of mine for his rudeness and sadly, I know it's only a matter of time before I succumb to this urge! Even though I cherish my home and would want to do anything to keep it for the sake of my innocent children, I will not succumb to abuses and insults from any in-law like in this case. I therefore solicit advice from experienced couples on how best to handle this potentially explosive situation. |
Family / Re: Fun- Bonding Activities For Couples by sugardaddy1(m): 2:12pm On Sep 06, 2013 |
I take my smally on a sh.agg.ing spree every weekend after bonding with my wife Monday to Friday. 1 Like |
Celebrities / Re: A Picture Of Bishop David Oyedepo And His Family by sugardaddy1(m): 1:37pm On Sep 06, 2013 |
How does this affect the ongoing ASUU strike? 3 Likes |
Religion / Re: Dr . Murdock On COZA Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo by sugardaddy1(m): 9:07pm On Aug 25, 2013 |
Another lady has come up with a similar allegation against same Pastor Abiodun. http://www.ngtrends.com/2013/08/another-lady-franca-e-claims-pastor-biodun-harrassed-her-as-well-must-read/ |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 2:13pm On Aug 23, 2013 |
damiso:You are a very wise woman. |
Crime / Re: Court Orders Student To Pay Lover N80,000 For Using Her by sugardaddy1(m): 12:28pm On Aug 23, 2013 |
This is an eye-opener to all bachelors. Please be mindful of what you say or are forced to say in the heat of the moment. |
Family / Re: The Awkward Truth About Naija Husbands...lmao! by sugardaddy1(m): 11:39am On Aug 23, 2013 |
I read that post somewhere earlier and while laughing I screamed "I love you" at my secretary. I could see the expression on her face like "ah, e be like say oga don dey gree my own" but she sa disappointed as she noticed the laughter continued for some time without her presence being noticed. Bottom line is, most married men exhaust their "I love you" with other women outside and If you want regular "I love you" from you spouse these days, you need to up your game as the competition is very rife out there. |
Food / Re: Firm Introduces Refined Garri. by sugardaddy1(m): 10:53am On Aug 23, 2013 |
With those images up there,I feel like eating garri and groundnut right now. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 9:38am On Aug 23, 2013 |
chaircover: Vanitty, this is one of the problems that many homes are facing The bolded is the exact reason why this thread has been created because whether we like it or not, a man must be a man. If, as a man, you cannot protect your family, wife or marraige from any intruder of any guise, then frankly speaking, you are not man enough. But then again, you realize that these days, there are a whole lot of pastors, prophets, priests,evangelists, etc that we have to interact with in the coourse of our daily activities and these interactions are somweehat healthy or unhealthy for marriages, depending on how you manage them. As we cannot easiliy discern who is who among this category of people (the pastors), it is imprtant that all married couples know where to draw the boundary with such interactions. Some salient points have been shared here so far notably that:- 1. A woman should look up to her husband as her spirirual head and not her pastor, evangelist, etc 2. No man should allow his wife to be unduly exposed to the excesses of these men of God for too long e.g. persistent late night calling of your wife by any pastor for whatever resaons.Let me also add here that my cousin's husband showed evidence of calls of up to 60-90mins almost on a daily basis between her and the said pastor spanning a period of over 3 months where the subject of the discussions still remains a mystery till this moment . 3. Pastors are humans and not some tin gods I have shared some of the comments and views expressed on this thread with my cousin and suddenly, she seems alarmed at the gravity of the issue at hand. |
Politics / Re: Amaechi Swears-In New Acting Chief Judge For Rivers by sugardaddy1(m): 9:16am On Aug 23, 2013 |
duality: If I don't hear form the NJC in 7 days about this issue, then It will be most unfortunate. Where are the civil societies of this country? they all have lost focus because if 2015 and GEJ.NBA and all legal luminaries say the appointment is in line with the 1999 constitution. So what are you ranting about? |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 7:00pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
biolabee: Exactly my fear and that is why we all have been working on my cousin to calm her down because if she calls the guy's bluff on the divorce card, that might be the end of the marriage as ego might set in. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 6:57pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
chaircover: when people start understanding that a pastor is a human being and not a god, then they wont have so many issues & I am not just talking to the wife here.Good point. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 6:54pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
baby_123:I don't really want to give up on him yet. I want to work on my cousin to get her to remain calm and if after all that he still doesn't want to listen, then I will know he has some other ulterior motives. But the man is a very quiet man who ordinarily hardly gets upset, that is why I believe he might callm down with time 'cos I understand pple like that are two extremes between calmness and anger. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 6:49pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
Nashville:Yeah, I believe he will calm down too. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 6:48pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
biolabee: still conjectures though.. but the measures may be a hammer to kill a fly...Well, I think he wants my cousin to realize he is in charge as he keeps saying she had taken his calm disposition for a ride for too long. From my one-on-one interaction with him, he doesn't seem bent on that. But then, you really cannot read the mind of another person. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 6:04pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
Nashville:Thanks for the advice but the issue has gone beyond that now. My cousin's husband has called the Pastor and has warned him never to step into his house or have anything to do with his wife or family again, including not calling him or her aagain, and has even warned and ensured his wife does not worship at the Parish where the Pastor presides again (my cousin has complied with all these now even though she was obstinate at the beginning trying to prove her innocence) but her husband is just not controllable still. He is still very much insiting on having the marriage dissolved. The Pastor is not married. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 5:57pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
baby_123: Nigerians are too dependent on pastors. Who are human beings just like themselves. They are not God. Why is it by force to involve the pastor in your marrige. What are the couple doing around an irresponsible pastor with a well known past around women anyway. Well, i hope they sort themselves out. The pastor has gotten what he wants from the couple, and really doesnt care to intervene or get involved in serious matters. They knew who the pastor truly was anyway, so why all this one now.He actually said he allowed the "excesses" of the Pastor in the past since he had been friend to our family before he married my cousin and also because he saw him as a "harmless Pastor" but that he has strong reasons to think otherwise now. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 5:43pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
Nashville: In this case, I think may be your cousin's husband is taking it too far. There isnt clear evidence of an improper relationship. I guess he is just angry that the pastor rebuffed him when invited, yet thought it wise to exchange gifts with his wife.That's my thought too. And that is why when her husband complained that on several occasions that my cousin stormed out of the house saying "you can't stop me from worshipping my God" when all he wanted was just to have a family discussion with her before she proceeds to wherever she was going, I knew my cousin seriously needed some counselling. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 5:37pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
bellong: How close is relative and also depends on how spiritually susceptible a person is to "pastor's" gimmicks.My cousin is the very religious type, the type that would normally obey any Pastor without questioning. You need to jolt her back to reality most times. |
Family / Re: How Close Should "Men Of God" Be To Married Couples? by sugardaddy1(m): 5:34pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
biolabee: the story is not clear His argument was that the Pastor had encouraged my cousin to subvert his authority by tacit approval of some of her actions in the past and the Pastor's persistent calling of my cousin in the dead of the night, a claim he backed up with physical evidence. |
Romance / Re: Secrets About Girls And How Our Mind Works!! by sugardaddy1(m): 5:02pm On Aug 22, 2013 |
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