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bigpicture001:
simply dont tell her nomata what... female bankers have the highest ego a nigerian human can have...if sh is the one fancying u ,its a different ball game ...if u try it, sh will insult u nd tell her colleague..

female bankers are too full of pride..they date only thier rich customers

Lol. I laugh eh. Especially marketers. They like rich customers o.

Stamina777:
Hello nairalanders, please I need your advice on this. I work in a bank as a cleaner and I go on errands for bankers in the bank. Am 24 year old and I only have my school start with me. I have an ambition to further my education though.

So their is this lady banker I like so much. I do go on errands for her. She is in her youthful age too but might be a little older than I do. I love her but I don't know how to tell her. I fear she might cast me if I tell her my intentions or I might lose my self respect.

Moreover, I always feel lonely because I rarely socialize. I go on errands because of the tips I make from it. Nobody gives me money for not doing anything. I feel less cared for but I care more about my loved ones even though I only give to them. I feel lonely all the time

Please what should I do

I use to work as a cleaner in a bank branch a few years ago. I resigned in 2021 after working there for 4 years. During my work there, I was the youngest person in the entire branch so everybody sends me on errands. Those 100, 50 naira change on top was what I was after because they help me alot. After buying the food for my colleagues, I would use their change to also buy for myself too. At a time it became too much as they almost turned my primary job into an errand boy. I had to fight and stop the errands and focus on my future.

At the time, I only had waec which I even failed. It was with that cleaning job that I was able to write Nabteb and then furthered my education. If a school is around you, it will be easier. After morning cleaning, you can just go to class and if nothing is going on in school, you can return to the office and it is important to also have somebody telling you what's going on in school. Before you know it, you will be done with school and have the result to apply for a better position in the bank if you wish to continue working there. You have to focus on your future.

Fast forward to the topic at hand. Most young guys who have worked as cleaners experience this, especially if you are the one running errands for everybody. The ladies especially will treat you very well, you will almost think they like you. Most of them just want to continue using you. And you may just be having that feeling because you feel she can help your life easily.

I think some can be genuine anyway but the challenge is that the gap is too much. Cleaner and banker. They will always look at you lesser except it is just genuine love and the lady loves you too. The chances of this ever working is very slim and the stress is just too much. Both of you will not be able to work in peace in the bank anymore. If she really really loves you, she will tell you to stop running errands for others and will also be commanding you sometimes because she is above you in the office and you will not be able to take this for long. The challenge is just too much.

There was a particular petite lady at the bank where I worked as a cleaner. This lady just liked me. I almost felt she wanted me to be screwing her. She would come to the cleaner's office where I use to sit down most of the time (if there's nothing to do) and just rest her head on my shoulder. My preek go just stand. She does not do this to any other person in the bank. She was so close to me and just like touching me every time. The connection was very visible that my fellow cleaners were even telling me to advance that she was giving me green light. I was just too scared and afraid of doing it abeg. In my own case, I believe I would have been able to nack this lady if I was a bad boy.

Even apart from that particular lady, there were plenty of others in the bank who were just too nice to me that I had feelings for. Many, fine fine girls o. But I'd rather go and stand outside and toast one customer or student (because the bank was close to a big polytechnic) than toast a staff.

The problem is that you are bored. It happened to me too. So after morning cleaning, I would just go upstairs and start pressing my phone.
I loved writing so much and so at a time, I started applying for writing jobs on this nairaland. When I got a job, I would use my free time to do it and that filled up the gap so I was no longer bored because it was like doing two jobs at the same time. I eventually resigned and started writing full time. Now I earn in a month what some of those my former colleagues earn in 6 - 7 months. No jokes.

For now, what you should be focused on is how to build yourself up and get yourself a better future. On the other hand, you will definitely leave there one day so if you want to have some adventures and be able to tell those funny stories later, you can try asking her out. The world will not end. Just do it casually and don't count on her saying yes. She might say no and you move on with your life. Whatever happens from there, you can face it. You are a strong man.

I wish you good luck bro.

henrycryptmento:
*I'm growing a $5 account till middle of next year( June 2024)*

Two trades per day.

8 in a week.. *sat and Sundays off*

If you're in, let's go🚀🚀🚀
This is for people who have small capital to start with.

Dropping my personal trades in thousands of dollar may put some people off here.

Trades will be dropped here and all other platforms.

Just make sure you stick to the leverage, stop loss and take profit positions.

Please I'd like to travel on this boat with you. Do you have a telegram group or a whatsapp group I could join to follow you and your strategies more closely?

LandMann:
Don't beat yourself too much bro.

We that trade futures have experienced your pain personally so we understand your feelings.

In 2021, I made over $700 twice on Futures trading from just starting with about $40.

I lost everything twice and a little more from inexperience, greed and timing the market.

I have learnt my lessons and I'm still learning my lessons.

Just so you know, I made over $126 starting with $10 last month using max 5X leverage.

I lost $110 from being liquidated on a bad trade I refused to close. This happened after I started using 10X leverage.

I started again same day and now I've made close to $100 from same $10 using between 3-5x leverage.

My point is avoid using high leverages. Understand the risk of liquidation from using high leverage. Understand that stop losses will drain your capital faster if you are using high leverages.

I traded BEAMX this last two-three days. Went long at about $0.90.... the price fell to my First liquidation price of $0.74. Before that I set another long order so as to DCA and shift my liquidation price downwards and my break even price downwards.

Just early this morning the price crossed to almost $0.85 and I took profits steadily from $0.83 to $0.84

My new entry point after doubling down was $0.823 and I was using the entire $100 profit as margin.

I would have lost everything again if I was using high leverage but thank God my leverage was low.

I was able to hold my position even at $50 loss till I returned to profit.

You can do same. Start small and learn as you go.

Don't be stupid and greedy.

Hopefully you'll start again and you'll start again with sense.

Cheers to more winnings.

Thank you for the advice boss. I appreciate.

SUPERPACK:
Why are you using my name? Change your name to Belleful or Hungryman

Never. Lol. Superpack all the way o. Belleful is too much and hungryman no dy belleful me. So I rather just eat two superpack instead. The perfect quantity. Also the name just carry weight - Superpack.

Kingcid:
Guyyyyy

Worst trading option ever

Highest I can advise is 20x when using leverage to trade

Noted boss.

iLegendd:
I don't want to laugh (even though I did). We've all been through it. I lost back then to the point you could roast corn on my chest because of how hot it was. Anger here and there.

If a coin is moving, the moment I join, it stops and starts going against me. At a point, I felt there is someone specifically monitoring me. I felt crytpo hates me. This has happened at least 40 times.

These loses made me begin to develop my own strategies. Today, I don't get angry again if things go against me neither am I excited when it favors me. I'm just chilled. Money is invaluable, but I decided not to place so much value in it again.

Knowing that 50 - 80 years from now, most of us will be dead and we won't be buried with money, I became emotionally detached from outcomes. I do it now because of the adrenaline rush and it kills boredom. I always love when there is chaos in the market. I don't care the direction — I just want chaos.

I'm more prepared for the worst than I'm prepared for the profit. I'm already used to losing alot back then, so now, I only play with what I can lose and laugh about it.

Luckily, using lots of exchanges has saved me and also, thanks to Coinank and Coinglass's free heatmap. With those two apps, I enter trade only after studying where liquidity is and where liquidation will most likely take place. I love to get in when others have already been liquididated or when they're hunting to liquidate them. Eating from the king's table is a privilege since I'm not the king yet.

The manipulation is high and since I can't beat them, I monitor their movements so I can join them.

Take heart, you'll surely overcome. For me and my lineage, I'll never leave crytpo except BTC plunges to $0.001.

Even if I tell you I have stopped, just know that it's a lie borne out of trying to hide that I'm into it for security reasons.

Your username makes more sense to me now. True legend. I still have hope sha and I think I will still come back to this crypto thing. It's very addictive. I wish you strong men out here more wins and less losses. I believe soon, I too will be telling this horrific story of mine to another newbie and using it to advice them.

nna777:
From the coins you dabbled into, it seems you’re a novice just like me 3yrs ago. I lost $4k then when the exchange rate was still #400 to a dollar buying shit coins, overleveraging on futures & not understanding when to go long or short on btc

What caused your loss is simply ignorance about the market. No one is against you. The market will always take advantage of ignorant traders.

I usually marvel at people that say TA isn’t important in crypto. After 2021, I took time to learn and keep learning TA, followed cryptocrewuniversity on YouTube & kept tabs on crypto and business news.

There’s no free money anywhere. You must as a matter of necessity put in the required work to get any returns. Crypto is more of TA than FA take it or leave it.

3yrs after, I have recovered all my lost capital and still waiting to make profits. While some are complaining, some are smiling because they have taken time to understand how the market works.

I hope you get back up and learn so that you can still recover and partake in the coming bull market.

I hope this helps you and other novices.

Thank you for the kind words and advice. I am taking down notes. This over leveraging was also an addiction for me. I used 100x leverage to short Bitcoin in one trade. Abeg carry cane beat me. Lol.

twosquare:
I understand your pain. I've been there, but now, I can smile. And I have a target.

One of the ways to quickly turn your margin to dust is not understanding the market.

Secondly, I mentioned earlier on this thread, know your strength. I've made some of the mistakes you mentioned here.

That's why I quickly sought help. They say follow person wey no road. And I did, which reduced my losses significantly and increased my profits. It's not good to deceive oneself. When you realise this is not working, then it isn't. Since I knew I didn't understand it, I quickly throw hand up. Now, I do small small.


Third is, the market takes from the impatient and gives to the patient.

I was once -$60 down on a $150 portfolio on a coin, futures. It felt like deja vu. I could have closed it, but I said, let me just watch what will happen. I will wait it out. After all, I've seen people with - $200k PNL, and after some weeks after, it turned positive. Now, that same coin is on +$80. Yea, I had a bit of a slightly bad entry, but I waited. In some cases (not all cases), all some of you needed to do is wait to break even or stay in small profits and close.

I still make some small, silly mistakes, which have affected my portfolio but I learn from it until I reach full awareness. Based on the above, I only recommend it on coins with strong fundamentals.

Also, one mistakes we noobs make is venturing into futures. Spot is bad enough, now you want to navigate the stormy realm of futures. Yes, you can increase your earnings with it faster, or send yourself back to the village in a jiffy too. Treat futures like spot, and you won't have much problem (whoever reads, let him understand this part).

You said you short the market, don't work against the trend. Yes, there will be pull backs here and there, but we are in a pre-bull season. I short Sats last week and within minutes, +$40...instead of me to take profit and close, I waited. Later, it turned to - 40. I was pained. What did I do wrong, waiting for it to reach my target instead of doing scalps. Standing in front a speedy train. Even though I got the bearish signal right, I was still wrong in application.

Like I said in some of my posts, HOLDers make the most money, not traders. That we are entering the bull market doesn't mean you still won't lose if you don't awaken your consciousness to what is making you lose.

You may gain massive profits in the bull market and watch it disappear because you don't have your exit and never looking back strategy.

About HOLDers, even a noob will become profitable because a broken clock is twice right a day. Just following the principles of monthly low, yearly low, monthly high, yearly high can make people profits. But the issue is not understanding the principles but WAITING (PATIENCE) . That's the key.

If we approach crypto with the idea of stocks, we will get rich. But if we approach it with the idea of MMM, we are all going back to the village.

I have bought some coins now and set it ATH and forgot about it. The email notification will wake me up.

I'll reiterate again, follow person wey know road, not person wey dey act as if say e know road. This is to cut short your journey.

I did not even lose up to you before I sought help. I was a holder before I ventured into trading. Perhaps I should have stayed that way. But God knows our path.

Sorry for the epistles guys, just to clear things up and give words of encouragement. Even me cried during my time, but now, I know as I ought to know. I leverage on other people's wisdom and some of mine.

Thank you for the advice. For now, though, I will just stay away from this thing and nurse my wounds silently.

I can't do this anymore abeg e. I just lost all the money I used to invest in this crypto market. It happened first week of December when Bitcoin pumped. I was busy shorting the market. My heart was always racing like it wanted to explode. I don't know how I managed to enter the industry at such a wrong time.


I don't just know what came over me. And the money was even a loan o. Now I have to pay for 12 months from my salary and the interest is high.

I see people mocking somebody who just died because of 2.5 million. That's not even up to how much I lost. My heart almost failed me too. Some of you here have become so used to losing huge money that's why it does not move you. I takes years to develop that kind of big heart and not everybody can survive that lifestyle.

Yesterday, I tearfully withdrew the remaining $120 from the $1500 I enthusiastically deposited into my account in early December. Now I have decided to focus on my writing career.

This was not what I planned o. When I took that loan, I thought I would pay everything in a month and still have enough money to splash around during Christmas. Chai. I had big expectations. But I lost everything in less than a month. What a bad luck.

Crypto is not the only thing that can make somebody rich jare. It looks easy but is very hard. If not greed, why will somebody put in a particular amount and be expecting 100% profit in a few minutes or hours. This greed particularly took over me and impatience made it worse. Sometimes I would make profit but I wanted the profit to increase and then I would watch it go down again until I am losing and will then go and cancel the trade to prevent further loss. I was such a phool. I watched hundreds of dollars getting swallowed continously. And I was trading very aggressive-moving assets like 1000Bonk, 1000Lunc and Matic which even made the loss faster with their rapid movements. I started to feel the market was particularly against me. I felt somebody was looking at me and just directing the nets to catch me. I started looking at everything with suspicion.


I was angry with everybody. I was angry with myself, my family, I was even angry with God for what I did to myself o. I just ask God for forgiveness. It affected my relationship and career so much. I almost resigned o because I thought I would be rich soon. That would have keeled me.

I wish we could rewind time so I can undo this financial hole I just put myself.

I still bear a grudge for this crypto market and I believe one day I will come back to take back all my money it has swallowed. Or not

Looks like the bears are back on seat. Although it's still early to conclude.

cmoney22222:
Na me and my guys dey short am

Boss abeg I fit join una crew? Any whastapp group I can join for legit crypto update?

I will complain about everything.

Me: As big as this place is, you people don’t even have free Wi-Fi, tv. See the dirty wall, and floor. Don’t you have cleaners? See the way una dress like slaves. You all should be fired.

I dy like this kind gist eh. I no get power to fight that time o but I dy always enjoy the show to my satisfaction. The chaos dy sweet no be small and the most ridiculous thing be say na one nonsense argument dy cause the fight o. We (SS2) win SS3 that year, them begin fight us o. Serious fight o and na Friday - the day of fight. Every Friday, it is a norm to bring a cutlass to school that year in my sec. school because something must sup so you better get wetin you fit take defend yourself.

And the fight go dy very passionate, you no go mind to kill pesin. Very devilish thing o. Students will abandon all reasoning and be ready to die in that moment. Guy.

Our principal was a retired soldier so e dy always give am to us hot hot. Once the chaos start, the man go just call soldiers, no matter how tough the fight is, everybody must flee in seven ways. That man dy pursue students enter bush almost till Ole river seff. If not for that man's toughness, the fights would have been worse in that school.

What a disgrace.

FalseProphet1:
I'll buy 5 before the end of the year.

This I have seen.

This person you are mhad o. Lol.

Ikaeniyan0:
The Russian red fox have been domesticated in Russia.

What is this? Lol

This job opening is closed.

monsuru56:
Very ugly Igbo bitttttvch

But she still won. Ediot.

Amazing writeup. But you forgot the smell. Lagos stinks. Omor Lagos dy smell. God forbid.

Please bring paypal to Nigeria. Let us be able to open accounts on paypal and be paid by employers and clients from across the world. Stop making us lose opportunities.

PerfectStranger:
As you stopped, has it added or subtracted anything from you or from the world? NO!!!

It has blocked the way for more people to be helped. The more people stop helping, the more burden it becomes for those who keep helping because there will be more people on the queue.

IconicR:
Valid question. This one above me keeps pretending as if he doesn't send women but in reality he be promiscuous man.

Who are you please? Why is your comment on the first page of any male/female-related post?

Why did that police keep his mouth like that in the first picture?

What type of video is this? You wan blind pesin eyes?

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Guy get a good girlfriend or marry someone who loves you. 30k outing every month suppose don help you see partner. She will help you manage your life well and talk some sense into your head. I really don't know what else to say to you except that you are wasting money.

Your biggest expenses are your rent and car. Guy reduce your rent and stop feeding your car too much. How can you be buying fuel like this? Install solar energy instead and park your car for sometime.

You will soon crash o. Do you even have savings? I piry you sha.

Gaspardd:
Pple saying 30k on outing is too much re just being unreasonable.... You dont know aw boring it is to be single? Without being social, d aloneness can make sn run mad. You need this little outings to recharge your soul.
2. Even to have a gf/wife is far more expensive than that.

And for me also, im equally confused. Cuz the way money dey miss for my account enh? Ahhhhhhhh lord have mercy.

Na the same rope dy drag una that's why money dy miss for your account. Lol

Earthstorms:
7000 naira per acre per year

Which part of Delta do you have this land please?

placeofallure:
You are very wrong.

Infact I was smiling as I read through everything the writer said cause I can relate. I have lived in that kinda environment. I was born there and grew up there and every character the OP described was present in our house. We do fight but those fights never last beyond hours. And if an outsider dared to fight anyone among us, he is in deep trouble.

We have eaten sacrifices too but we're good. You know that thing they call "saara", we don chop am. We're plenty. There was no house in our neighborhood then that could boast of about 50 or 60 children except our house. Even from the nearby streets, they come and hire or rent us to come and eat saara and our parents oblige gladly. Damn!

We don't shy away from running errands, in fact we love it. All the children will gather today and fetch water for Iya Bose. Tomorrow, we will fetch for Iya Idowu, we will fetch for Iya Sara etc. My mum was the disciplinarian of the compound. Every child fears her, she's Madam Kogberegbe. That attitude shapened me and I'm eternally grateful to her for that. My dad doesn't beat, he's never beaten me as a matter of fact.

Talking about being successful in life, more than half of us do not live in Nigeria anymore. They live in overseas countries and they're doing well. We have chartered accountants, we have lecturers, we have bank managers, we have CEOs now. I have fond memories of that house and all of us still communicate till tomorrow, we attend family events together still. We loved ourselves truly.

Sadly, all the elderly males (the fathers) are dead except my dad yet he wasn't the youngest then. Talk about God's superfluous blessings.

Fond memories, fond thoughts.

I love the way you write.