Pidggin:


I hope you are not planning on substituting your son for a husband. As long as you don't do this you will not have problems letting go and your son won't have to chose between you and his wife because you will be busy taking care of your own husband.

Again, you prove how messed up your mind, is, by assuming a son can be used as replacement for a husband, because a woman hugged her son.

Pidggin:


Explain

Your mind is not right for for interpreting that picture the way you did.

kabrud:

But compare marrying a teenager with raping infants all over the places na.

There's a Religion that allows raping of infants?

NevetsIbot:
Op. I'm not even married yet, mum is already listing things she'd have my wife do for me..... I'm just looking at her

Why are you just looking at her? Isn't it possible what she wants your wife to do, will be healthy for your marriage? Don't people share tips anymore?

Pidggin:


She thinks she's married to him

You are the one with the problem here.

Pidggin:


Does that look like ordinary love to you? To me it seems more than that, like she sees him like her "Man" the truth is that he is not her man, she has a man(her husband) if she didn't, I would advise her to remarry.

No one says don't love your son, but some women take it too far, he is not your husband, he will get married and leave you

You need to stop whatever you are on.

dreezybines:
It's not easy na , to be with a kid for 20something years and one lady just come and still his heart...The thing is dat @ first it might not be easy for the woman buh later she would just accept fate...

Comments like this leave me confused.

Why would a mother think someone else stole her baby's heart? Is she sleeping with him?

Pidggin:
This is a classic case@pix

Women pretend a lot. They marry men who don't love them and they end up living a pretentious life. They endure pain in their marriages with the hope that one day they may be he will change. Then when he doesn't they substitute their sons for the intimacy with a man which they missed

Is this woman clinging to her son or husband?

I don't get you, she shouldn't love her son because he'd get married someday? So if I have a son and he gets married, I shouldn't gush over him no more?

Benita27:
In some situations is really not about "jealousy", you just find a good wife being maltreated by her mother in-law.
It's annoying.

My sister, I don't know your definition of "good wife" but if it involves being nice to please only your husband, neglecting his folks, then that's not a good wife o, unless your MIL kicked against your marriage for a particular reason, then she can't just maltreat you for no reason.

OP, it not only happens in Nigeria but nigerian own is another thing entirely.

My take on the matter is that, it is a two way street as some DILs too are something else, I just really believe that no mother wants a bad wife for her son ergo, the kind of person you are, goes a long way in determining how your MIL treats you.

It's just like one girl somewhere(assuming my mum was still here) will say my mother is a bad MIL, I will just know she doesn't just like my mum ni.

Unless the MIL in question is a bad person who treats everyone like poo, then my sister, check yourself, if you are the only one having issues with her.

Ofcourse everyone has their faults but if only some young women will treat their MIL how they do their mum's and not like a stranger trying to steal their man, there'll a be lot more peace in various homes.

We have the two types of DILs in my family and believe me, I know the difference.

Abcka811:
Musicians generally are not normal people. Just mentioned any musician, both local and international, they are very rich but highly abnormal. Their brains functions abnomal. I never repect them an inch.

Please take that back, as in no let another person hear am.

Good musicians deserve utmost respect for their music, just forget their lifestyle, that's their personal business but when it comes to the music, my brother give honour to whom it's due, like how can you not respect the likes of MJ, Michael Bolton, Barbra streisand, Frank sinatra, Madonna, Elvis, The Beatles, Elton John, Stevie wonder, Whitney Houston, Billy Joel, Bryan Adams, Ray Charles, our own, 2 baba, Marjeck Fashek, Asa, Sony Ade or the Ebami Ede himself, The Every brothers, Coldplay, James Brown, Owl City, Marvin Gaye, Bob Marley, my God! Lucky Dube, Enya, Eric Donaldson, Chaka chaka, could go on forever, guy, guy see, just apologise and I'll let it go, like are you kidding me?

What are we living for without music na?

Why e no go fall whenever dey jump upandan like frog wey something dey pursue.

Hope he's not injured sha.

Women like this make me mad, I honestly don't understand them, I mean, how do you continue living under the same roof with such a person? Somebody please help me out.

The makeup artist need cane, haba!

Analee:
Chai!!i js pray dat GOD/Doctor JESUS shud av mercy on u n open u eyes to reli see.

Abegi, na today? Make him first open your own eyes to see how your pastor is living large off you.

VomeSchakleton:


Yeah sure, what the world needs is men dictating their laws yes> Like its worked out great in the past.

And god is the one making the laws now? Lmao.

How are you sure he stole the one of 'yesterday'?

Better charge him for what he was caught for, but I guess he may have confessed to stealing the other, too much beating can force one into accepting what they are not, it's always better to keep your hands clean and that is the crux of the matter.

VomeSchakleton:



Its simply logical to believe in God. Heard of pascal's wager?


Proves atheists are actually the most illogical people on earth.

Heard of the atheist's wager?

I'm not even going to argue believing or not, my own is that the world doesn't need to believe in a god or not, to do what's fair/just, it's really that simple.

mukhtara446:
iam so sorry for addressing you as a man

I'm not offended, no need for the apology.

VomeSchakleton:


unfortunately its christianity the world is getting rid off. have you seen your numbers lately?


good riddance to bad rubbish i say.

You might need to check well before addressing a person, I'm not christian mister, as far as I'm concerned, the world doesn't need religion, so sorry dear, try the next person.

sarutobie:

yea I "just might be a supporter"...I didn't see that guy support pedophilia in his post..but as usual,you jumped into conclusion, with vituperations along with it..look in the mirror.

How will you see it? I guess saying his religion allows him to marry a girl of 6, is not pedophilia enough for you, perhaps an infant does it for you?

mukhtara446:
thanks man the religion is not for you but its perfect for me and thanks for the insult if it use to make you feel better. in islam anyone that sent insult to you is indirectly insulting himself thats why i warn you in the beginning to stop the insult.

You keep saying "in islam" like that actually means anything, some of islam's doctrines is very bad to be honest and I hope that just soon enough, the world would be rid of it, amin.

Have a good one fellow.

sarutobie:

judging by your outbursts and that of whom you quoted,you ain't any better...you've called him all manner of names without knowing him personally, yet he has kept his cool..look in the mirror.

Oh! please give me a break, what is cool about misogyny and pedophilia? You just might be a supporter, that's why you'd talk bull about my supposed outburst, mschew.

mukhtara446:
Man that's what iam saying you are not Muslim. right now you are saying indirectly my religion is wicked and all rubbish and it hurt my feelings and if i said that you. You won't feel good that's why i said we need peace. If i respect your religion and abuse you so that you will feel the pain i did, you will said we are intolerant bro please learn about islam if you want to talk about it. So that you dont have hurt somebody's feeling may be you are Christian which i know looking for trouble in any religion is not Good. We are Muslims if you see something is not good for you in it its not by force to join the religion and if you see something bad in it you can change it to one that favour you. Religion is not by force someone dont believe in God. My religion permit me to married a girl that is 6 years old and forbid me to commit(zina) formication in any form hand,eyes&body pls was difficult of that to respect my opinion i choice the religion not you and the rules ard for me not you

You should be very ashamed of yourself for the nonsense you wrote here, your religion permits you to marry a girl that's six years old, like what rubbish is that? Infact, if I talk to you the way I'm feeling eh, I'll get a ban, just carry your barbarism and come and be going.

mukhtara446:
She was ban because of public outrage which can cause violence. what some people dont know about Muslims is that we are All one family. Ali nuhu stop acting in that kind of rule in nollywood, he said is because of his people are complaining and rahama sadau acting we are so worry becouse she is our sister and if the acting and her behavior will stay with her alone we will be less worry cause its her life, but that lady stand as a rule model to our sister's they can see it as nothing since rahama sadau do it that's what most of us fear. And we consider female's as week creation of our creator they deserve our protection from anything anywhere from us that we think will harm them. What some people think as civilization that's not what we think its, because we are different people with different faith so stop judging Muslims action by your own common sense calling them backward people by your man visual hausa man said (Ta yaro kyau take batah kargo) man vision have quantity but not quality. please we want peace in this country not to pretend to have some. Other people Will say northern Muslims are not tolerant but why are you trying to force us to act like you people we have our guidelines and our way of life.which we dont have problem with it, we are happy with it but some will said no do this do that inverting every where, do your life and let us do ours if you want her to act like you people let her be with you people before. but for know she is with us and we most called her into order, to know her value and moral as a muslim. We the muslim ummah.

And an adult holding hands or hugging someone of the opposite sex will ruin lives but marrying kids below 10 years of age(pedophilia) is the best thing to happen to someone. You people are just very wicked is all, rubbish.

I guess this mean y'all just finding out that misogyny has its roots in religion, that's why I think it's even more foolish for women to be religious, nonsense.

And we are supposed to give a shyt because? Mschew.

Analee:
come to OPM and pick assigmnt u marry wif ease,woks lik magic.

Which yeye assignment? Abeg you people should keep that your nonsense where it belongs, in your church premises.

chrisj2:


This is funny!

What is the big deal with wanting to go to the USA - have you not seen what they are doing to black men over there?

Anyway, you have to live in the UK as a single guy to understand what they OP is facing or talking about...

It is not about the Nigerian women in the UK - it is about finding the time and the space to get to know people well enough and then for those women folk to be on the same level as you: of course, it is give and take but when you have principles and you are of a certain age, it is hard to put up with lower expectations.

Some of the ladies are far more into women lib even more than the Oyinbos, some of them still the Nja mentality of over exposing themselves or their spouse to all sorts of traditional, religious, ostentatious and OTT believes ways of doing things.

The UK is not like the USA or Nja where one can make serious amount of money - you can gets a reasonably good job and be comfortable but rarely ever rich enough to behave the way some of our ladies expect... The other thing is that the UK is far more female friendly and there are many more opportunities for the women to get on and be at parity or better than the men - and that does not always bode well (not being sexist or generalising but when the nagging starts and the disrespect then one will find that it is not worth the bother).

That's why I want us to move to the US, so we'll make enough money ni and be happy.

If there's going to be any changes, it should go both ways, although I don't see how that would stop a cheat, what I know for a fact is that, if you don't want your partner to be uncomfortable, then you know how to do it, assuming he or she isn't just an insecure psycho that is.

Awwwwwww OP, dash me that boy.


Cuteness too much, I'm in love.

Na so.