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Sagamite: A friend's aunty once said to us and is imprinted in our heads:

"If a man does not tell me what to do, I will tell him where to go".

Admit it, you will not stay with him if you mess with him and he acts like a wuss?

Fact: Women are built biologically to always test their men just to see if he has balls and if he cares.

I know when a woman is testing me. I have had to learn.

Yes of course. But the important thing is for him to treat me like a queen.

shymexx: Basically, I don't think chics like arrogant, controlling, and self-centred guys... They prefer confident guys who can act like a man with authority... However, there's a thin line between confidence and arrogance vis-a-vis authority and controlling - you just have to know not to cross that line... Once you do, it becomes problematic..

You don't necessarily need to be a "bad guy" to smash as many chics as possible, as long as the chics know where they stand and there's mutual respect... To be honest, bad guys don't really pull that many chics if they show their true colours from the beginning, most fake it till they get the chics in their chokehold... No one wants a heartless jerk...

Being there, done that - being a bad guy just breeds hatred, it's a lose lose situation...

Exactly! There's a difference btw a confident man and an arrogant man. A man who can speak his mind without insults and a rude, callous man.

Sagamite: I hope with this you mean "ready and willing to put me in my place"?

Otherwise he would be old news.

Lol! You guys on NL ehn! Always looking for faults. Why should I wanna mess with him or his family and friends if they are friendly with me?
Besides didn't you see where I said he treats me like a queen and will not tolerate any one messing me?

There are lots of things you guys get mixed up. A nice guy can be an alpha male and vice versa. In fact "nice is a relative term in that it can be used to describe different kinds of people. For instance not all quiet people are nice and not all loud or talkative people are bad.
Now my own type of alpha male is a guy who smells CONFIDENCE and sex appeal. One who is intelligent and calculating. Knows exactly when and how to strike. He has good taste for finer things in life and you can never catch him dead with just any thing. He wants the best, works for the best and will not settle for less. You can't even catch him with just any kind of female as only the best ones appeal to him. When he falls in love, he treats his woman like a queen and woe betides any one who steps on her toes.
He's a no nonsense man with almost zero tolerance and may God help you if you try messing with him or people dear to him. He's a man of few words and more action and commands respect just by walking into a room.
Now that's the exact description of the the guy who has stolen my heart *stares into space dreamily*

ceewai lebi: And-so-F-what?are-they-better-than-u*mtshewww*LSE

Thank you my sister!
#high five

k2039: Sweetlemon:, I thought it will be reasonable for me to let you know that we all have definition of what is right and wrong, based on the program written on our conscience(e.g we all have our different views on abortion).
So what I deem right may not be right for you, so either way you want to look at my post from that ascertion then you will never win this particular case against me.

I think that Mynd wasnt really angree with your post, just that the name calling thing, frankly, I wasnt angry with what you wrote, I just felt it was your opinion and you were entitled to it, that you called me sometthing doesnt necessarily mean you are right(that someone says someone says the other is stupi.d doesnt NECESSARY mean he is right(capitalised because he can actually be right))

So sister I was never offended, for the records I LOVE YOU(no string attached though)

My dear Mynd got angry because he has a big ego. Period!
If you checked my argument well, my point is that you said that you didn't have to read the story cos you can swear with your life that mynd and binger are always right! That was just too gross!
My point is that you should always see for yourself and make your own judgement. If it corresponds with your friends own, fine. That way, it wouldn't look like you have placed your life in their hands!!!
I love you too and believe me, I made that comment out of concern. Seriously saying stuff like that only leaves them with a big head. Check most of mynd's post and see the way he insults posters on their threads!!!
Thank God we are both mature enough to let this thing pass without carrying grudges.
#big hug

k2039: You made zero sense with this post, if you follow me well enough you will know I have a mind of my own, the only way you could have made a good point is only of you were able to prove that the comments they posted above was not right.

Even Binger and Mynd knows well enough that I have a mind of my own and we all have disagreed on certain post at a time or the other.
I will still repeat it again, if you have any of those two comment on the thread you can be certainly sure one of them will be right(I understand we all see the world differently and what Ii consider right may be left to someone else, we certainly all see the world the way we are, at times not necessarily the way it is).

Also, that I agree with someone doesnt necessarily mean I'm a yes, yes, man.

For the records none of them have ever won the romance poster of the year award, except for MBJ, besides I never implied they did in my post, maybe you read it again to understand my point.

I have gotten to a level that I can trust that if any two out of my favorites here on nl post in the romance section, then I can be sure one of them must have made my point and it's pointless repeating what they said.

I understand their are no silly questions just some stupid people asking questions, what that means that their may be certain threads where their response to the OP must have sounded a little bit not on point, but definitely in cases like that, that is exactly what I will have done.

Any two out of those I listed in this thread , you can be sure one of the two will CERTAINLY have given a good advise on any thread they comment on www.nairaland.com/1120528/romance-section-poster-year-2012/5#13238592
The only way you can fault me is to search or watch out for a thread in which at least two people out of my favorites comment on and tell me I'm wrong.

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k2039: If Seun didnt deem it necessary, he wouldnt have introduced the following and follower's button, so your point is completely baseless and pointless.

Hey honey, I'm so sorry I sopke the truth too harshly but you need to have a mind of your own. Honestly saying stuff like " I don't have to read it but I can bet with my life that whatever mynd and binger says is right" is a big no no! It makes you look like their yes man! And it's a big turn off to ladies who like alpha males *wink* Seriously!
The fact that they won awards for best posters does not make them perfect neither does it mean that their words have become laws ok?

yinkaGreen: you r soooo on point! i like you already!

Mynd_44: If you are gonna say people should not insult you, you should not insult people simple. If you wanna insult then you should take yours too.

Hypocrite!!!!!

If anybody said "I can bet with my life that whatever sweetlemon says is right", I'd remind that person immediately that I'm just human. I repeat again that you have no moral right to tell anyone not to insult anybody.
@ K sorry if I spoke the truth too harsly, but I just had to say it to encourage you to have a mind of your own, I'm sorry.

gree-die:
i don't knw abt him but wen i open a thread and find dat someone wrote exactly wt i had in mind, i second d opinion or write dat d person has done justice to d topic..... i'd hate to be called an azz licker cz i happen to agree dat someone has given a sound advice and always make reasonable comments.

My dear, he did not say that they said what was on his mind. He said that " I can bet with my life that whatever mynd and binger says is right" that's a diff issue entirely!

Poster I apologise for the distraction. I felt concerned because I saw you asking the guy for his own opinion and not friends.
I'm sorry.

Mynd_44: I wonder oo. And she is playing victim

Mynd, I have begged you in the name of God not to bring up that contest again. Even if every single soul here is saying one thing, I will check well to see if it's true before I join the band wagon. That is the way I am and have always been. If you or anyone brings this up again, I'm out of NL!
Besides, whoever gave you the moral right to tell people not to insult anybody You of all people Excuse me?

gree-die:
babe its insult wen u write d same tin twice... besides it won't hurt to be diplomatic, u could have conveyed ur msg without appearing brash

Ok o! Sorry o! But I was really disappointed. Even when the poster begged him to read the story and give his own advice, he was still saying the same thing! Haba!

Mynd_44: You see trying to come out of a sticky situation just makes you worse. Makes you a coward.

You just called someone else an arsèlicker and you ask if you insulted him? Or perhaps you don't know what insults are?

Stop this silliness and either appologise or move the eff on. You said it you said it. You think people are just gonna sit back and watch you run your fingers? Please learn how to adress people in public especially if you are going to play the victim or act like you can take it.

The reply you gave him was not even one, you replied him twice and you come to ask if you insulted him. You did not, you just complimented him.

Nonsense.

Pls check this statement out "I can bet with my life that whatever mynd and binger says is right"
If that's not a.s.s licking, I don't know what else is.
Can I beg you in the name of God not to bring up that contest again when I speak. Ok?

Mynd_44: There are better ways to do that rather than insult people. Funny when you were insuted, you did not take it well and people even had to step in to tell those hurling the insults to shut up.

Stop insulting people. Especially when everyonr knows you can't take it. Do you know what that makes you?

Smh.

Excuse me, but who have I insulted here? I just told the guy to have a mind of his own which was was the truth.
Please can you drop that contest saga thing Iv always been like this and I will always be like this.
You guys so proud that simple truths hurt you so much

Mynd_44: So I am willing to guess this is a carry over from the beauty pageant stuff right? Let it go.

Stop being bitter. It is so childish.

Iv been noticing this trend long time ago.
Stop attributing everything I say now to that contest. If you check all my posts on NL, you will notice that iv always been a very independent minded person and I encourage people to be so too.

k2039: I just read the post, like I said I could vouch with my life that the combination of binger and Mynd will give you the best possible advice and frankly I was not dissapointed.

Kai! Pls be your own man and have a mind of your own! I can bet with my life too that not everything they say is right. They are mere human beings like you so they could make mistakes sometimes!
Gosh!
Is there some kind of price for a.s.s licking on NL?

k2039: I didnt even bother to read the OP's post, it's pointless, since mynd_44 and binger has commented, I'm sure they will have given the best advice.

Follow follow syndrome on NL! Kai!
Anyway, poster, swallow your pride and open up to him. Let him know how you feel and how things are for you. If he really cares, he will open up to you too

AmBeautiful: Genuine love does not come with heartaches.

Exacly!
A person who truely loves you will not deliberately break your heart. Loneliness on the other hand is not something I wish on my worst enemy. It could lead to desperation which can lead to jumping into a relationship with any kind of person which will most likely lead to 1st degree heartache.

Laughing my head off @ comments here

monex: exactly. leaving the "knowing urselves for two months part" changed the story entirely.

@op. i advise you go with Kittykat's advise (both former & latter). i am like that guy too (wif diff reasons though) and sure wouldnt expect a lady to wait for me while I make up my mind. it is simply not fair to her considering i could end up not being interested.

Thank you very much. If see another guy who treats me better than this guy, then I ll go. But for now, I'm very comfortable where I am. I don't need to be called his girlfriend before I can feel secure with him.

maxwello.yg:
see deviation oo, or abi una wan play or what ? Okay the thread's opener's question has been settled. no qualms. Cos you guys have turned this thread into a joke thread. Anyway, afterall I've said, I still don't have the answer to the question, but be expecting the s.ex soooooooooooon !!!

Lol! Expecting the sex from where/how /who?

emrino: Personally I don't think dey'r lyk dat. Dey dint rig ur contest (incase its abt that).

They certainly don't need to rig. They didn't rig our contest but their influence will make them win.

Advice to prospestive contestants, if sexkills, Seun or any of the big wigs are competiting, DO NOT BOTHER GIVING MORE THAN ONE PICTURE OF YOUR SIX PACK

Mynd_44: True but it takes more than luck. Sometimes, it is more of how they carry themselves

There are many ladies around who are very wifely, and carry themselves well. But for some reasons they don't get to meet the right kinds of guys perhaps cos they don't go to the right places or know the right kinds of people, etc

Some ladies are just not lucky in the romance department. And if not properly handled, could lead to desperation or haughtiness

Rocktation: Seriously now, I'm finding it hard to believe that Sweetlemon took this competition to heart. This is just a game, dear. It doesn't even give nobody no bragging right.

kandii talked me into this thing and I was like, well not a bad idea I can never tell who will discover me here and give me some modelling jobs.
LOL! THAT'S MY MAIN MOTIVE FOR CONTESTING!
I dont mind people voting for their contestants because of long standing friendship but what hurt me was all those camoflaged, excuses they gave, (Seun's own was the most annoying one) adding insults on top of it. That's when the pageant started deviating from being just a game.

Eze Promoe: Before you lock this thread, you guys should set up a tribunal thread, incase this voting is rigged, because it's all clear in our eyes who the winner is. She's Sweetlemon!

Dear, pls just drop it. For their own reasons People wanted Achuckwunet to win. Let her win. It's ok
I'm standing VERY tall here. Do you guys want to know why?
Because most people who didn't take me gave excuses like "I would have vited for sweetlemon but ...." then they'd give one funny reason or the other like my the background of my picture, or natural beauty, e.t.c
meaning that deep down in their hearts, they would have liked to vote for me but had to choose their friend or their friend's friend.
No problem.
I am overwhelmed with gratitude for those who stood by me althrough. Abil, Livialives, shollypop, you guys are just too awesome! Abil I'm amazed girls like you still exist. Sexkills, can she take the miss congeniality and miss honourable crowns?
Kandii how can I say how much I love you?
Now you all go and sleep or gob clubbing. game over!
*whew!

Congratulations Achukwunet!

(Awww! some people are showing me too much here. I haven't do anything for you guys to deserve this. You are awesome!
Abil! I dont know what to say! How could you be this honourable!
I'm touched :'