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davioli: @sweetlemon prince William is next to the throne.. Google is there you can check it out yourself. His father lost that right a long time ago with the whole princess Diana saga. But it ain't our business really.

Prince Charles is and will remain the rightful heir. It is not yet certain that Prince william will take over. In fact, Prince William will only take over if Prince Charles steps down. the queen can inflence things but Prince Charles remains the rightful heir because princess Diana is dead. Google it well and see. However, it seems like Prince Charles will likely let Willam take it cos he's more popular and Charles seems like a reserved man that's not too interested in royal politics.

homesteady: My dear, Charles can't be the king,he divorced his wife and it is against 'their CHURCH' rules nd it also applies to d royal family....so he wont be king

The last time I checked prince Charles was next in line. dont know where you got that from

A lady should definitely help her bf or fiance with house chores and cooking esp when there's no one else around to do so.
BUT
Do not make it too often so it doesn't become a case of "see finish"
There are some things that are just too special to give to any man that's not yet your hubby so that it doesn't loose it's value. A lady should reserve some part of herself for her hubby exclusively

True2myself24: He loves you enough to deal with your crap.

Thanks but someone dug up this thread. I'm no longer with the guy. Besides I wasn't exactly giving him crap. He had SERIOUS ego issues. NobodY could talk to him or advice him. He was so stuck up that only his family (and me) could talk to him.
That's what he meant when he told me "you are the only one I can take bullshit from"
I couldn't stand his issues anymore. Iv since met another guy who is 10000000000000 times better than him.

E eya! Poster sorry dear. Don't worry you ll get over it and your next bf or hubby will make you even forget he ever existed.

Mynd_44: This thread sprang up when sef?

@OP, I am sorry for whatever you think I did or appeared to do. I was probably drunk that day sef.

Now end this jorh

Awww! No problem dear

LadyTC: Mynd_44: He means if it was someone else apart
from his immediate family that did what
you did, the person will be lying in an
hospital bed breathing with an oxygen
mask.
By the way did you pass your O'level
English?




"the person WOULD be lying" , your English isn't top notch either.



Could be a typo. Its only missing an "
A"

I can see you derived so much pleasure from watching mynd insult me that you sprang up to his defence when someone gave him back his own medicine.
Mind you, I know EXACTLY why you are doing this. But Why are we women like this? So filled with hatred and jealousy for each other? Why do we love to fight and put each other down? Why? What do you derive from it?
Read through this thread again so you can understand what actually happened and what it's all about ok?

She should work on her inner attributes. Gain intelligence, good xter, and self confidence and respect. Let her run away from all kinds evil vices many women partake in such as malicious gossip, back bitting, jealousy, and bitter quarrels. She should also work on her physical attributes as well. Let her look for something she has that is attractive and explore it. For instance, she could have nice nice, or nice lips, or firm round b.oo.bs, or a nice figure, or nice legs, or glowing skin, or a head of full long hair.
Whichever one(s) she has should be explored and emphasized as much as possible by wearing the right kinds of clothes, make-up, colours, assesories, hairstyles, etc.
She should carry herself with dignity, grace, and charisma and be confident enough to believe that she deserves a good man who will love and cherish her. A cheerful and smiling face does wonders for ANY kind face.

mondi_cheeks: if pple sheree, draya michele, evelyn lozada use they same stunt and they can't get their man to be loyal why in the hell should we take ur advice...I heard these women talk about using their body to keep men

Did you see where I wrote that we should understand our men GENERALLY and not just sexually Those ladies you mentioned, were they they respectful and understanding with their husbands? Were their marriages even built with love and trust in the 1st place? So why the hell are you bringing them up here?
Why in the holy name of Jesus Christ are spoiling for a fight?
Why?

But seriously I don't know why both of you are taking this so personal. Can somebody PLEASE tell me what my crime is?
Why are we women so divided? Why do we fight each other so much? Why are we so nastily defensive @ the slightest opportunity? What do you stand to gain?
Please let's learn to develop love for each other. Trust me all this cat fights esp in the presence of men only reduces our self worth and makes us laughing stock.
Again. You may chose to either take my advice and drop this or you can go on embarrassing yourselves. The choice is all yours to make.

tpia1: i wonder why she keeps mentioning my name in every single one of her posts long after i've quit the thread.

are you bisexual/lesbo?

And is that why you ve been digging up my old threads and stalking me around Nl??

tpia1: no comment.

Somebody is soooooooooo taken by me!
Wow!
*sings and dances azonto*
I am a super star......

tpia1: more chat sessions to your belt.

LMAO!
So you ve become so enchanted by me that you are now digging up my old threads.
*sings* I am a super star.......

bassette: Whew!!!..sweetlemon
Whew!!!..sweetlemon

Lol! And to what do I owe this thread digging?
FYI, I'm no longer with that guy, found someone else 1000000000000000000 times better.
Besides, btw the the time I started this thread and now, Iv learned a lot of things

mondi_cheeks: . If a man sees jus how desparate u are to keep him, he will go on and do whatever knowing his desparate will always do the same shit all over again jus to keep him. If a man has self-control there will be no need for him to go after another woman if he knws what his own is worth.
If ur lil trick truly works explain why so many nigerian men are ready to marry foreign that don't even do all these things u are talking about U use ur brains to exercise control over a man not ur body...they will always be someone who can do it better than u. But u can do with ur brains goes beyond that my dear.
If its all booty and less brains tell me why someone as beautiful and kourtney k cannot "keep her dog on her leash" Jokers

*whispers in mondi_cheeks ears*
When I said we should learn how to decode our hubbys I meant we should understand them GENERALLY not just with our bodies and in the area of sex.
For some strange reason(s) you and tpia are tryn so hard to make me look bad here and trust me, it will backfire honey. Just drop it ok?
Bye!

If you and tpia and your likes wish, you guys can continue living in denial. Na your own be that. But for the rest of us who want to learn, we will continue learning.
I'm taking a bow now cos I believe I have achieved my aim here.
Cheers!
N.B: I can't stand married men coming around me so the idea of you and tpia saying I have some kind of motives with the married man I mentioned earlier was quite hilarious. Forgive me for laughing @ such hilarious display of insecurity.

mondi_cheeks: and this to u doesn't sound like "pushing a truck"...why are u the only one putting in so much effort if I may ask?

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mondi_cheeks: and this to u doesn't sound like "pushing a truck"...why are u the only one putting in so much effort if I may ask?

Hahahahahahahaha!
Nlanders! When they see they are loosing an argument they start gasping @ straws and bringing in irrelevant things!
Hahahahahahahahaha!
Anyway, learning to decode your husband is NOT pushing a truck. Learning to understand your husband (as long as he's not a jerk and loves you) should be done out of love, patience, and cheer which every wife should posses. Trust me, when you are finally able to do so, it's you who will it enjoy most!
As for why I'm making all this effort to talk to us ladies, well let's just say that as a fellow woman like you, I want my fellow women to be happy in their own homes cos that's what I will wish for myself. And Iv become aware that we just need to face the truth.
Don't get me wrong, men are just as responsible for the success of their marriages but because of their nature, and our nature, women have more power to influence things. Just play your role and watch him kiss your feet. Once a man loves you, you have him around your little finger. All you need do is know the right buttons to press. That's the way our grand mother's did it and that's the way our grand daughters will have to do it if they want marital bliss.
Chikena!
I'm not married but iv watched a lot of couples and learned a lot of lessons. Besides, I have older mentors who advice me.

mondi_cheeks: cos that's all there is to marriage isn't? when u get them stretch marks that won't go away, how much more attention and effort are u gonna put in

Stretch marks are NOT an excuse to tie wrapper. If you have them, treat them if you can't treat them, it's not d end of the world, you can still wear nice clothes and make your hair.

mondi_cheeks: a woman can still look sexy covering more in front of her kids. Must u always be half naked jus to prove a point

Sexy in wrapper
Or didn't you see where I said that she could wear nice dresses, fitted jeans, and decent, fitted blouses? Are those half naked clothes Besides, the shorts do not have to be too short. Just playful, smart and comfy.

mondi_cheeks: my point being efforts to save a marriage are not in the woman's hands alone. If a man expects his woman to be okay wit how much he makes for a living, he is also expected to understand that adjustments have to be made in marriage the moment children are involved. Loyalty should always be shown by both parties no matter what! A sensible man wld not go after other woman, rather he would discuss with his wife, find out why she has changed, then tell her how he feels about the change. Why should a woman put in so much effort jus to "keep her dog on the leash", effort and understanding is required on his part too. If he goes out to cheat and blames it on his wife's dressing, then it means he is simply childish. A real man knows that he is accountable for his own actions.

You sound as if a married woman looking decent in her own house is such a difficult task to perform. One would think that it could be compared to pushing a truck! You make motherhood look so damn unappealing! Like it were some kind of life sentence or an excuse for a woman to indulge in self-pity!
Common! Lighten up! Put on a smile and be cheerful. If you love your hubby, keeping him excited by paying more attention to your own body shouldn't be so stressful.
Whether you like it or not, as a wife, you MUST learn how to decode your husband. That is just the way men have always and will always be

mondi_cheeks: female children take up after their mother, they usually get their dress sense from their mother. Women who wear excessively revealing clothes before their children should not complain when their own kids start doing the same wen they go visiting their boyfriends. Its important the mother puts on appropriate clothing in front of her kids...the skimpy lil attires can be saved for the bedroom or when the kids are not around. A good husband has to understand that they are children involved and some adjustments have to be made for their sake. I have an aunt who wears revealing and short clothes at home, I always wonder why in the hell she shouts at her 14yr old daughter when she wears butt-riders to go out wit...was she not the same person her daughter took after

Oh now I see! You are tryna cover up for tpia abi? No wonder you asking dmcdad those questions.
Ok.
But I'm sure it's quite obvious that the children should know the difference between house clothes and outing clothes cos they won't be seeing their mum wearing shorts when she goes out.
Besides, who says that shorts and T.shirts are skimpy clothes
And even if she doesn't want to wear shorts, she could wear fashionably sown akara dresses, skirts, that are comfy and simple. She could also wear fitted jeans and a decent top.
You cannot compare a situation where a man hasn't made money to a situation where a woman cannot wear simple inexpensive shorts, fitted jeans, or decent blouses in the house

tpia1: please follow up with 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, as many examples as possible of the exact same scenario.

Ok madam tpia, what do u wanna hear? That it's ok to look drab and unfashionable in and out of our houses cos our husbands will not and in fact should not care if they really love us abi?
Well, sorry. I'm not gonna say that. By God's grace I'm the kind of lady who prefers the truth over flattery or excuses esp where it concerns issues like this. Iv learned to take the bulls by the horns and be responsible for what happens in my life and my future home.
Sorry.

tpia1: from the way you keep badmouthing the woman while ostensibly being "concerned" for the man, i suspect you're either looking for a man, or are trying to replace whoever is currently filling that position.

you have the hots for the husband perhaps?

btw, usually when a nler keeps coming up with desperate "pat" answers to justify their gossip, its usually a sign their post was fake to begin with.

Hahahahahahahahaha!
Wow!
I'm shaking in my shoes right now!

Let me also give another example of another lady who used to wear loose bubus, buba and iros, and other unflattering clothes in and out of her house. She noticed this bored air around her hubby and he used to drop hints around for her but she couldn't decode them.
But recently she turned into a sexy vixen. After some sessions @ d gym and a make over and change of wardrobe, her hubby can't get his eyes off her and she tells any girl who cares to listen that most times, (except you are married to complete jerk) the power to save or mar a marriage is in the hands of the woman. The man of course has his roles to play. But we women can influence a lot of things if we know the right buttons to press.

tpia1: just leave the man and his wife alone, end of.

you can make up whatever you think justifies your pokenosing, and its starting to sound like you have your eyes on the fellow.

are you always 100% dressed like a model 100% of the time? Then maybe you dont have any distractions at home!!

I'm not poke nosing. Just learning from another woman's mistakes!
Learn to accept the truth. It may be bitter at first, but will cure and prevent so many things in the near or distant future.
Goodluck

tpia1: men and women both have to learn from any case, dear.

what you described sounds like a woman who is extremely stressed out and the husband doesnt seem to be helping.

post baby blues is very real and he needs to understand it can be very tasking taking care of a baby especially if there's no assistance. Usually the mum in laws come around to help out immediately the baby is born, but you didnt mention anything like that.

the woman could be having mastitis, where the breasts are very painful yet you still have to breastfeed the baby or at least express the milk to get relief. If she had tears during delivery, an older woman with her would have helped her apply the warm compress or steam bath to hasten recovery.

there's a lot more to post natal care than just the smiling baby we see on tv ads.

and yes, the husband's support is crucial. Or at least a family member/friend/neighbour to let her know she's not alone.

besides, the husband can look bored at work also, or in the beer parlour. That is not the issue.

Kai! Your case is even worse than I thought!
1. The woman has 2 maids.
2. She never looks like she's suffering from any disease when I see her.
3. Her child stopped breatfeeding over 6 months ago. Meaning that d baby is a year old. (No be yesterday she born pikin ok?)
4. Even if the man is bored with work, she can make her home and herself an exciting distraction he'd want to rush home to

tpia1: ^is he helping out with the baby and housework? She might not be getting enough sleep.

puerperal psychosis is a real danger.

I know we women don't like hearing the truth most esp when it concerns things like this, but your own case is serious. You berra @ least learn from this case so you don't make same mistakes when you marry. And don't tell me "my husband does not complain" or "my husband loves me the way I am" cos most men are not very good communicators and so will not tell you plainly how they feel sometimes because they don't want to hurt your feelings. But they show all the signs of their discomfort so it's left to us to learn how to decode them

tpia1: I dont think people usually wear that intentionally unless they're extremely poor, in which case, what they need is assistance before condemnation.

The assumption here is simply that the husband doesnt like his wife tying wrapper because he thinks it makes her look like an illiterate.

See you!
My neighbours are not poor. They are very comfortable. But since the wife gave birth, she's mostly in wrapper and an off blouse, her hair is mostly always unkept. Very disgusting! There is always this bored look on the man's face whenever I see him. The sad thing is that they been married for only 2 years

tpia1: True, some men do tie wrapper.

Some of these things are cultural.

We should be careful how we apply westernization to our daily lives.

Everything in our own culture isnt necessarily bad just because its not done in the west.

Even if you want to wear native clothes, let them be nice, fitted, well sown ones and not those unflattering, old, tattered, and sometimes dirty wrappers!

Don't you guys get tired of all these kindss of threads
Pretty girls this, pretty girls that. Handsome guys this, handsome that.
Abegi! Start looking in the right places and I'm sure you ll start seeing smoking hot couples. All my pretty sisters and cousins are married to attractive men. Same with my male cousins who have been marrying hot girls.
Pls give us a break abeg!

mondi_cheeks: How about he opens that big mouth of his and tell her how he feels about it... I don't understand how he would think she is illiterate. she also has the right to wear what she feels comfortable in, not everything is about him and wat he wants. She is a fvcking mother, how do u think the kids especially the girls if their mother continues roaming around the house in shorts showing off her butt cheeks I guess common sense isn't that common, has he for a moment thought about how putting on excessively revealing clothes would affect his children If he is clever enough to blubber abt it to everyone else why can't he tell his wife directly, instead of gossiping and insulting her behind her back. If he doesnt know that a successful marriage relies in good communication skills, why in the hell did he get married in the first place shameless weak men who know how to complain and insult but they are never clever enough to come up wit a sensible solution

We women should start learning how to accept the truth and the bitter truth is that you need to constantly work on your marriage if you want success. Didn't you see where he wrote that he has already discussed this with her but she didn't listen?