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Winnerautomatic:
What was your experience and what’s your advice for younger dudes looking to get married?

It may sound harsh buh the truth is "Stay away from marriage".... Work on yourself nd after achieving some things to make life comfortable for u "Cohabitate and copulate with a lady for offspring".... Marriage does not favour men.... The money I spend for dowry den I always regret not staking it on just one game... Man City at Etihad over 0.5.... .... 400k on 1.03 odds... At all I go buy 3 bottles of Heineken on top d gain nd if I lose am glad....

Av been following this thread from first page till today nd I rarely drop comment... The way my life has been transformed financially, academically, physically and emotionally is even beyond my understanding after that daughter of Jezebel left... Thanks to TRP... If not where I for dey today... I never even thought of aspiring for degree after marriage nd I was hoping to take care of her nd my child buh d witch no appreciate my efforts... My business is doing fine and I have peace of mind.... Taking step to establish another shop for my Mesh Wire business... I no even get up to five shirts when we were together... This month should make it exactly a year I broke up with her.... I congratulate myself...

TRP is life.... I stumble against this thread when I needed it most... Fast forward to this day.... I am liberated nd even got pass the Rage phase... From early this year till early last month I was in rage phase nd my ex wife thinks maybe am pained with everything she did but she never knew I was going through some phases of Life... She did birthday mid last month nd I don't even give a damn.... she posted about some persons not wishing her due to hatred nd I felt she is pained... I met her one on one nd i ghosted her few days after her bday like I never even know who she is before.... I saw a WhatsApp message from her mother which I knew she is behind it nd i read the message nd ignore.... This is someone dat will post to impress me buh I don't give a damn today.... Many people told me she is in pain for me to av ghosted her buh i laughed cos most does not know where I get my inspiration from.... This is someone that will pack from my house whenever simple argument occurs nd I will always let her come back.... Most times I look back nd see myself as a fool.... Thanks to TRP... Am now doing better in my business... Am a student of NOUN studying Economics.... Planning to start ICAN from first stage nd living without any serious relationship...

To those that can help... Kindly contact the numbers in the picture below if u can give vital information... Stumbled upon this in a group chat of my institution NOUN....

SanctifiedSista:
Any man that says marraige is a scam is a pure failure and coming to nairaland to justify urself makes you a fool. Separation is good to put you both in perspective but get your family back.

na scam if man marry unappreciative woman like u.... Maybe na understanding dey worry u or na u dey worry understanding..

SmellySperm:
we know oga. stop complaining na ..


thought we all agreed on the baby mama thingy

sure

After I posted a thread about au my mother in law buried the placenta of my new born child some couple of months ago, I had to give the baby name at my parent place in other to the new boy fresh breathe of life... Since then I decided to separate from my wife and she went back to her mama house just for me to have peace of mind... I started sending monthly upkeep for both of my children and ready to take any other responsibilities that arises and I made sure I ghosted my wife ever since... Couple of weeks back she called me without reasonable thing to say nd I made sure I made the discussion brief and even told her to extend my greetings to her mother... On Tuesday I unblock her on WhatsApp nd fast forward to yesterday she is now asking me for clinic fees for my child nd even reminding me about my daughter school fees.. Why am surprise is that this is a woman that was telling me she can take care of her children alone even if I don't send monthly upkeep and it's just two months wey she don dey get tired.... After all I did to make her convenient then with me not even having any reasonable plan for my future... In just months I send her commot av secured part time admission for degree and my business is moving on fine with reasonable savings to back up... I even got an averagely furnished apartment to my taste which I will only dream of if I have a wife... For my children to have a good future am already seeing positivity in ghosting their mama wey never dey supportive and always nagging.... Atleast people can say whatever they like but AM FREE from this daughter of Jezebel.... Ever since I send her commot I made sure I raised my value based on some redpilled nuggets nd things have been going on fine for me.. Say whatever u like marriage na still scam and when u tie knot with unappreciative lady then one will just die gasping for breathe...

pappilo:
It cant even be sex cah sex reduces rastically once you sign the papers and get married. Its like there is something in the wedding cake that diminishes a woman's libido. You go come dey hear I have headache or even straight up NO! There is absolutely no need to get married. If you find a woman you like, you can be with them but dont ever ever sign your life away.

Dont buy no property in joint names and dont love up. Have it in the back of your mind that one day she go Bleep up so have a plan B in terms of investments and savings. Most important thing, DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT forsake your parents and siblings for any Hoelosho!

Don't ever forsake ur parent nd siblings nd u are absolutely correct cos dis hoes will definitely Bleep up

Emotionss:
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Welcome to freedom. Watch how your mental,emotional and fainancal health will improve.

Na so o.... Na why I just understand why my dad usually behave randomly nd my mom will keep talking nd we as children always think our father is wicked... Most time when me nd my immediate bro they reason we dey see sense in wetin our p man dey do.... My dad wey dey support my wife before sef dey tell me sey make I calm down before remarrying referencing dis he knows in our family dat remarries nd are all leaving fine... He always tell me nowadays dat I should upgrade myself before thinking about women...

The5DME:
I'm really tired of this life. I'm tired of this abject poverty I was born into. I have literally no one to help me here. No aunty, no uncle, no family member to help me, no father too. You don't know what it feels like to not have most of the things you really wanted as a kid. It sucks, trust me.

I really want to learn how to code but the main obstacle has been how to get a Laptop. It's really frustrating to see that some people can just ask their parents for whatever they need and it's done. Mine is a different case: my parents never have enough to get me what I want. Sometimes I really wonder why I was born into poverty.

All I need in this life at the moment is just a LAPTOP, that's all. Even if God were to ask me what I need right now, I'll tell him I need a laptop. But the issue here is that I can't afford one by myself. I know some people will say why can't I go and get a job but trust me, this year alone; I've submitted and gone for interviews for 5 jobs, but the pay is always the issue. I don search for job so try me sef don tire to search again.

I presently work at a job where I earn 13k per month excluding transportation and feeding and other things. How do I save at least 50k from this meager salary to save for a laptop? The jobs I got, when I subtract transportation and feeding, the remaining amount is not even up to what I earn at my present job. The reason I need this Laptop is to learn this coding, be good at it and start earning from it as it's very lucrative.
Please, help me in any way you can. Even if you have a dead laptop I can repair and use or anything, please help me. I'm in my knees begging.
I don know who to turn to anymore. My single mother just a petty trader who can help me. I have no father. Please, this is not a scam. If you can't help me, at least if you can help me with a job, I'll appreciate it. I've begged a lot of prominent nairalanders but got rejection from them all. Some even totally ignored me. I know they don't owe me anything but please, I beg you with God. I don have anyone else to turn to aside this place. I'm just a teenager who refused to do fraud.
Ive even begged some famous celebrities before.

In goin to attach a pic of my account balance. That money is all I have to take care of myself for this month including transport and feeding and other things. How do I save from this ?

This is genuine. I'm not a scammer. I can provide any proof you need to prove my authenticity.

shey Bob risky na ma or sir cos it's confusing

luminouz:
Calling her damsel go make that girl smile all day.
When last anyone in her family don call her sweet names sef? It's always:

Rukevwe, shey u no go come wash these plates, abi something dey worry you?

N.B: Like the dude says, we learn everyday

can't stop laughing

benjackugo:
Nigerian Female Undergraduate Does Manual Labour At Building Construction Site (Photos, Video)

A Nigerian female undergraduate has shared photos and video of herself doing manual labour at a building construction site, IgbereTV reports.

In a Twitter post she made on Friday, March 26 @02franx shared pictures of herself with a head pan and flanked by male labour workers at a construction site.

She captioned it:


https://twitter.com/02franx/status/1375483272038379524?s=20

She captioned her video;

To say I'm happy is an understatement, once again, I'm thankful and greatful for all the love, supports, concerns and affection shown towards me since my previous post. God bless y'all ♥️ and 💡.
To those doubting my previous tweet..here you go. @volqx @_AsiwajuLerry @kusssman pic.twitter.com/YjSS6u9zue

— Jennifer Okuro (@02franx) March 27, 2021

See video below.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6uj-4IXfFPw

Nigbana wa nko.. shey male graduate not even undergraduate sef no dey do manual job ni.... People sef get wahala

yazga:
Life no balance

Sincerely I learned somethings here which I definitely know will help in future... The best thing d man sud av been doing is to make sure he is sending money to the boy at intervals nd documenting it cos even if the family wants to intervene d first question they will ask is if he has been taking care of child nd court will definitely want evidence.... I think this man wants his marriage back from my own observation....

Nezzjnr:
Wetin be Damsel

Why do you have to message her 1st after she sent a request

Omo mhen

we learn more everyday....

davidant:
IS THAT THE KIND OF GIRL YOU FOLLOW
TAMUNO EHH


Where Una Dey see this razz girls self
Girls like that are not even in my 8th division of girls I can inbox like No be juju be that

Guy above me if you want to eat a frog � get a very big juicy one Block that MF

I even want deactivate dat my fb account sef

Am getting to realize somethings about ladies... They will feel big if u let them to... I rarely send friend request to ladies nd dis one sent me nd started forming.... Am ready to block her sef if I message nd she no reply

Let amaechi continue simping at his male children detriment.... Na im sabi... Dat means sey dat office wey im hold woman go do better Dan d mumu.... Mtchew

I wished my guys in the outside world can get all these pills and digest Dem... I will forever be grateful for free basics dat took me closer to nairaland nd this thread. My story is beyond explanation but I will forever be grateful to u guys... One tenet I love most is moving on and forget the past... I was psychologically and emotionally totured by my wife nd sincerely I was making up to avoid my marriage crashing early just because what people will say... These facts are not for the feint hearted and the weak... I got married to someone dat pregnancy hook me up with and my family had to forced me to get married... she does not love me which was very glaring to even my family and this a short dark lazy and no brain lady dat didn't add any meaningful thing to my life nd sincerely didn't worth me in every aspect... I will hustle from money till night to make my family comfortable and she will constantly nag... She does not wash my clothes sef nd I mostly have to give drycleaner... For the few months I was going along in this thread I was observing thinking she will change... Las Las I throw her comot for my house and she didn't bliv I could do dat nd also convinced my dad dat my joy should be his priority... She and her mother constantly says I will still come and beg them nd I still laugh till today.... Since the day she comot av been doing fine with my business and even just secured part time admission where I don even lose hope of ever returning back to school... When I still dey simp I go dey like her post on FB and view her status on WhatsApp but since late last year I don block her on all my social media handle nd only unblock when I want to send money to my daughter... At least I have peace of mind and have raised my value which is something I only derive comfort from nd I really don't care about what people always say.... My Life first so my seeds won't suffer... I did court marriage buh me I don't give a Bleep not to send her away

oracle009:
OP, you haven't answered a question asked up there... Will you eat the placenta if it was kept for you? It's disturbing and disgusting when 'adults' bring innocent babies into their foolishness. You and your wife, due to your 'foolishness' will cause this innocent child to suffer violence that he knew nothing about. You are already structuring his future for marital instability! Must he bear the consequences of your RUBBISH (your supposed wife's rubbish inclusive)? Must he

Btw... You both should sit down and find a way to reconcile. Your child deserves a better future with a loving family, not the bullshit you have up there!

Pick your wife, settle your home and live in Peace! Life is all about responsibility. Being a father is even tougher! Stop being a fucking coward!

Peace!

Thanks so much... Will work on somethings for the sake of the boy

Moferere:
Keep your family problems to yourself. You have not shown any sign that you are wise enough to father a baby

In as much u are free to use ur data reply my problem... I av rayt to use my data to keep or unkeep my wahala

Moferere:
Why are you crying more than the bereaved?
Why are you comparing me to a pig?

Did you take time to read at all?
His wife gave birth, he was too busy to witness the arrival of his baby, neither were his parents there.
So, you expect the mother in law to keep the placenta inside refrigerator for him?

Mind you, you have violated the rules and I will be glad to report you to the mods

Think before you comment... If none of my representative were der au did I pay hospital bills and other things..... My parents were on ground nd I was already at work when I was called nd sincerely this is a lady dat slapped me while asleep nd she was pregnant for me.... If I retaliate dat nayt nd she lost her pregnancy or even die what will someone like u say.... Or she stabbed me dat nayt.... Most people do reason as if this life has duplicate....

chatinent:
You wanted to divorce her because of her mother. Her own mother!


You have been looking for a credible reason to cling unto for the break up.


Whatever happened to “for better for worse.”


It is detestable to me reading comments from men you feel they are always right in relationships. Have you taken a break and reasoned things from her angle?

You weren't present on the day of delivery due to some personal reasons of yours, fine. Why the rules over the placenta?


How do you expect a woman to hate her mother because of you!


Even if there are things you don't like, set things straight amicably; you are only a husband not a god!


Sorry, I don't mince words.

The truth is carrying her mother positively abt an husband is good but the other way round is something else nd na for Better for worse make Maryam sanda kill her husband... This life is too short to either die in a violent relationship or spend lifetime in kirikiri

Abi.... I no sey some reasonable people will understand nd give good advice

Last week Tuesday, my wife gave birth to a son which is my second born... She has been staying at her mom's place due to misunderstanding we had around September....

After I paid hospital bills and gave her money for baby items on that Tuesday morning, she told my parents she has buried the placenta... I could not go to see her immediately I was called and I had to send my parents there due to my work...

This is a lady I want to separate from due to her mum trying to take over the marriage and my wife is always carrying her along... Now the woman is demanding I come see the son and apologize to her and sincerely I am standing on my ground that since she buried the placenta I will never go there to go see the child except they come to my parent's place on the naming ceremony....

The truth is I can't afford to live a second with my wife and I really want ur advice before tomorrow....

I am swearing Red pilled made my year... I cant imagine my wife packing out of my house nd i still go beg her in April... Sincerely the more i ingest Redpill the more i got annoyed with myself... This is a lady that is jobless nd sincerely short nd not ugly nd just got pregant cos of ignoring Kiss of 200 nd families planned marriage the Simp i am den cud not make me speak out she is a devil... Never added any meaningful thing to my life except nagging nd financial draining nd i know i worth more than a frustrating woman nd she is a professional liar with the facts the she does not want me to be in good terms with my family... The mother of this stupod wife once called me that my dad was the one that used my glory for ritual purpose for money that i should stop working for him nd separate nd be working on my own... She even said my mum transferred my glory for my immediate younger brother cos she wants him excel than me... If i had overreacted to my family den who will support me now as the are now... Please fear women o...... We had a verbal misunderstanding nd she slaps me from my sleep... After some couple of turbulent days, I send her comot this September nd she is currently pregnant with my second child cos for her to slap me from my sleep means she might av deduced to stab me with knife nd if i die my children will live nd her family will still support her dat na armed robber kill...she came back the following week cos she still have the spare key nd clear all my apartment leaving only Chairs, bed, tv nd my home theatre nd the second day i called her nd threatened her to return all my properties including my clothes which she packed to her mother's house.. I got to realize they want trouble with it nd i later concede cos i know sey no be my life they packed... Now maybe her family still had the mind i will come nd apologize... I just dey laugh in chinese as a man cos las las na another man go bleep her ni so make she go her mama house go restart her life... No be sey i dey perfect in the marriage but make i cut myself off from untimely death nd an unhappy home... Those two children is okay for me nd make i go make money... Now i have separated from my dad amicably nd he is always supporting... If i had heed to their plans i swear i for don enter wahala now cos dey wan take control of my life... I swear with my life nd the tenet of red pill she will never come back into my life she is gone for good...

GreatPro33:
The next protest will be against Soko Loan. Inform your bosses to be calming down o

This was the message they send to all my contacts including my in laws... Since den i no pay their money cos thats d worst dey can do... They no message me again since den anyway... Sometimes when they call me nd i here Soko i disconnect d calls... Just for 5k....

Make dem give the baba cold tea make dem use sniper as water

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luminouz:
This is just what I don't like. Tolerating indiscipline and bad behaviour. Once she did that shiit and you begged once,she would do it again but put her in her place firmly and no budging no matter what she does,shows you know your value as a man and you have boundaries.

Most of them usually suddenly become relationship counselor or motivation speakers of Jack Ma status. They can post 12M messages on WhatsApp daily,hoping you will see one or two and have a rethink. Once, I decide on my mind to discipline bad behaviour and I send you out, these scenarios play out

The first day/week

1. She acts tough...
2. She behaves as if she doesn't need you and makes a hundred posts on SM
3. She acts like she is over you but strange numbers always seem to suddenly pop up on your phone.
4. You maintain your frame and never call or text her back or even check her statuses

The second week

1. She either calls you back with her main line or sends 'i miss you' messages
2. She begs to come back
3. She repeats 2 above and may include her friends or family
4. If you take her back, she would RINSE AND REPEAT the process, driving you into a vicious emotional cycle.

My advice: Emotionally unstable people drain you of life and energy. It's best you let them slide and never take them back. Just take care of your kids@OP.

thanks

Zabiboy:

..
Wahala ...
Her next step is to paint a bad picture about you in your daughter's mind ...
Cheers to you tho for opening your mind to the pills..most married men aren't bold enough to take that step..

.... when my daughter is matured enough she go decide if she go hate me or not

ObinnaValentine:
''you don't care about them'' shouldn't include your daughter biko...Ogun no go test you o..e get why

for now i send my daughter feeding allowance...

This red pill stuff really change my perspective irrespective of what people might say... I remember my wife packing out with my daughter around April nd i still go beg her to come back nd she was always bossing me around despite the fact dat i was working all through to make her comfortable... Fast forward to September after digesting some pills i send her go her mama house without remorse nd sincerely I started doing fine financially even got a shop for myself to start up business within dat short time she left nd i dont give a damn about them... Nothing wey u fit do to please dem so just live ur life as e dey comfortable.. Now she don turn Motivational Speaker for whatsapp