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RIP Ma

they killed a child of God, were they thinking they would go Scot free?

kongobros:
It is important to note that it is not all early marriages that has a challenge. I'm 39 now and married my wife when she was 20yr. Now she is 30yrs and I'm 39yrs. We have lived in peace till date. I trained her in the University and she concluded her nysc three yrs ago. We have five children. Four boys and a girl. The truth is, it is important to marry a man that loves you more. Ladies should before they go into marriage try to know the extent of affection the man has for them. My wife is my jewel. She stood by me during my NYSC days when we were dating and still standing by me till date. It's all a function of how much love you have on the woman. My wife also has NCE.

this is lovely

emmpire:
Ok. But you could at least scramble that place off. Good thing is that her face was not showing. I wouldn't like it if it were me. Just saying.

I honestly tried to

Jman06:
The age doesn't really matter so long as one is up to legal age. The problem is that people choose their spouses wrongly. People should marry those that of good character and are from reputable homes.

I am sorry to say it but most ladies don't know how to make choice of marriage partners. Guys are better than you in that regard. A girl would see all the signs of a potential bad spouse but would not quit until she ends up getting married to the devil only to turn around and say all men are scum. If you ask them they would say they were in love{lust in most cases}. A lady was lamenting to my elder sister the other day how she dumped her igbo fiance for a yoruba guy{muslim at that} and now wishes she could turn back the hands of clock and correct the mistake. When asked what drove her into marrying the guy in the first place, she blamed the devil as usual.

Choose wisely!

lol

everyone makes mistakes

emmpire:
You took permission from them and yet one of them is showing her pubic hair in the video. Be careful o.

she was showing where she had a caesarian operation

e no kuku de hard me to cry

lol

ShyCypher:
That's why I barely pay them any attention, I just come to get info & stuff. The few i've managed to get numbers from all acted shady, weird and funny so I stopped botherin' myself.

Nairaland 'girls' ain't worth it. Most classy chicks won't come here - just ghetto tramps.

no classy Chics on Nairaland? wow this is a new one

Hotel
u make gain before loss

MissRaine69:
These women are bitter and bitterness does affect mindsets. No one has a full picture of what really happened in these marriages we have the women's perspectives. There is no right age to get married but what pushes some into marriages is fear , circumstances and poverty. Some take a gamble hoping that things will work out and for the better part that gamble does pay off . But not always. It's not luck that makes marriages/relationships work it's effort, work, commitment and trust. That does not mean once you get married you stop growing as a person. When things stop working what else do you have to fall on? Life is about balances and checks relationships are no different.

a lot of sense

skarlett:
There are so many people around me to learn from don't need to watch a video of losers to learn

Why the Bleep can't they take responsibility for their lives and their own mistakes. Why are they cussing out men in general? I know a lot of good men so I don't need bitter ladies to learn shit from

I totally get your point, no matter how useless someone is, he\ she can be used as an example

Benita27:
When they have nothing going and feel marriage is the next big thing to alleviate them of poverty, what do you expect?.

that's why I said marriage is not an escape from poverty

Ewlery:
Nice words op

thanks

sunshineG:
Lol

Marriage is the highest institution of informal learning

Clearly at 19 Years she lacked the emotional maturity to maneuver in a marriage

I honestly think she is a victim of arranged marriage, thus I think she should blame her parents not men, cause what type of parents will encourage a 19year old to get married

Bottom line, she learnt about romantic relationship in a hard way, and it is all the fault of her parents or legal guardian
she shouldn't discourage others from trying their luck
There are successful marriages as we

the one lying down got married at 18

pocohantas:
So, when are we going to talk about the good marriages?

She doesn't have to murder her husband, she can separate from him. I know there are bad marriages, but Nigerian women need to stop this playing victim. Grown ass women will fall for societal pressure, enter into a marriage without back up plan...endure all sorts of emotional, verbal and physical abuse, have multiple kids for the same man that's a scum...Who is the greater scum now?

Same old story. Men must be tired of all the labels...

Women should start looking out for themselves, no one can love you like you.

the pity game is getting stale

skarlett:
I didn't watch the video tbh, why should I waste my mb watching someone's failure

we learn from other people's mistakes

lefulefu:
ehn?

loool

lefulefu:
but dat lady belly big oo..or is she preggy?

she's had two caesarian operation

Martin0:
I never knew there are ladies that are more matured on words,brain and precisely speak sence,nice one bella

thanks

Benita27:
"I fear who talk say marriage no dey fear am" (Isabella).

Marriage no dey fear me. That some marriages go south doesn't mean all do.

fear in this term doesn't mean actual fear, it means the way kids just rush into it

I fear who talk say marriage no de fear am.. (Isabella)

I have written severally about marriage, how it is an institution and not a home of restitution, marriage is a graduate school where if we choose we can decide to go for Masters and PhDs, it is a process of learning, what I'm I trying to say? Marriage is a continuous study where we learn everyday and also have patience with our teachers, in this case our spouses

I have seen so many people ( women especially) jump and rush into marriage due to pressure, money, envy, spite, or she just wants to be a MRS. It is worse when you see an 18 year old lady fantasizing about marriage, using Amara Kanu as an example, she is amongst the 1% early marriage will work for, she has sense, patience, charisma and a good tolerant husband.

I was with four ladies yesterday who had something in common, they'd gotten married too soon, too early and two of them have been chased out of their homes while the other two hate their husbands with passion, one of them is the breadwinner so she says her husband had no say in their home.

The lady lying down was sent out or her husband's house after he got rich, she gave birth to two boys before she was sent packing, before she was sent packing the husband impregnated a woman older than she was and brought her home, this older woman has kids who she in turn brought to her new husband's house lol.

The other lady has just one girl, while the one screaming she hates men has four kids, she says she hasn't enjoyed sex for one day that the husband only has sex with her to impregnate her.

The other lady says she doesn't respect her husband anymore so she does with him as she pleases.

They were all trying to convince me how men are scum and shouldn't be handled with soft hands, in my heart I wept, my father wasn't scum to my mother, my brother isn't scum to his girlfriend, no man has ever treated me like scum, how do I convince these Women that they have a share in the blame too? I sat there consoling these ladies crying, look at me in my 20's consoling women old enough to birth me.

Marriage isn't a do or die affair, I have heard mockery statements about how Ibo women don't marry early because they like to hustle and make money, but these early marriage traits are rampant amongst Ibo women, it is a thing of pride to see their daughters get married early and also give birth early, this doesn't mean only Ibo women are guilty, far from it, it has become a general issue; it might have worked for our ancestors but we live in different times now.

One day my mother said to me " Ifeoma 30 is the right age for a woman to get married" in my heart I said what's she talking about now, but today I can see it, most ladies aren't mentally matured enough to look after themselves not to talk of getting married.

My heart aches when I see children from broken homes, I was a product of one before my parents got back together and then my dad died, I do not wish single parenthood on any child, except death was the case. These women haven't seen their kids for long because their husbands won't allow it, they can't go to court because they aren't educated, they were chased out like common thieves and other women brought in.

Education and skills acquisition remains the best legacy, always have a backup\breakup plan because no one knows tomorrow. Marriage isn't a source or income, be financially free and independent. See where these women live, they don't have a dime to their names and no skills to support themselves.

I hope someone learns from this, I tried to convince them not all men are scum but their minds are made up, I fear for the husband of that lady who hates men I hope he amends his ways so we won't read a gory story about a wife murdering her husband.

Watch


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8WFESpEUv2Q

http://www.talk2bella.com/2017/08/i-hate-men-says-this-lady-who-got.html?m=1

Isabella Ibeji.

mostblackroad:
Did you get my message

nope

NwaAmaikpe:


She looks like an ugly mannequin.

How would she wear such a despicable outfit into the house of the Lord. Does she think it's a comedy show?
I can't tell if that gown is made of Ankara or a Creche's bedsheet.

Alter Ego Featuring NwaAmaikpe

nice outfit
the floor tho

senseless killings

RIP to those affected

I am confused. first news said about 150 people died, another 50, another 11 now 8


real source pls

bros haba fear God na, only u use ur hand conot 20yrs from ya age na wa o

besides age is nothing but numbers, you should have used something like 22, education isn't of utmost importance as long as u can spell, read and write.

Part time studies should be the way for u now, learn a trade, acquire a skill and see God do wonders in your life

if true this is really sad

anyway it's called serving your fatherland for a reason, I know no amount of subtle coercion will make me stay in borno

at least u have been able to pay off two major loans

don't give up

When u stare evil in the face, it Stares right back at ya, flashy life, flashy tastes leads to things like these, I tell women it's not about the money but where the money comes from and why's he spending it anyhow.

people like this young man suffer from acute low self esteem, they pretend to be someone they're not in other to get women of higher status fall in love with them, women who fall in love with men like these have big eyes (Ojukokoro) he tells u all these flashy stories spend a few thousands and then the borrowing starts before u realised it's a scam dem don chop u maga.

Anyway I don't see any scam here, she borrowed him money thinking she was investing, hoping for a good return in the guise of marrying someone of affluence connected to the governor

but since we are law abiding citizens, he did scam them, under the guise of marriage and impersonating someone he's not, he should be sued and prosecuted.

don't mind them, they're just jealous, they wish to have what you have, besides the only person's opinion who should matter is your mum's to an extent tho