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Real quick question? I have everything, we are both from well to do homes but she’s never satisfied. She steals my money hijacks my ATM cards and withdraw from my bank without my consent because of her I have just one ATM now I don’t trust her anymore.

We were arranged by our families I never dated anyone before her and I am kinda in love with her now, I am afraid one day she would take this habit outside and disgrace our family names, I have told my mum she says not to worry she’s still a kid, she’s frigging 24 how’s she a kid? I am scared of talking to her, she’s hot tempered and flares at any given provocation but I love her.

I heard from her brother she steals from her people also, should I just let her be? Maybe leave meager sums at her so she can be contented to just steal those and not go outside.


P.S


She has her own money.


Anonymous



So it’s cool when she steals from you and her folks as long as she doesn’t take it outside? What makes you think she hasn’t already? Check her history very well you would hear stories of something that might intrigue you.


You love her but you’re scared of her, that’s not love. Your parents arranged her for you and she’s the first girl you have dated, this speaks a lot on your tolerance, she steals from you and also threatens you but yet you love her and have even made plans to sate the beasts by providing meager sums at home so she doesn’t steal from others, clap for yourself.


Love isn’t blind stupid or ignorant, love is an actionable cause that puts our emotions in check, you cannot be scared of who you love, respect is different from fear, your girlfriend needs a therapist, she’s a kleptomaniac and indulging her will only worsen her case, man up and talk to her, when she flares be calm and still buttress your point and if she feels the sword is mightier than the hand remind her that without the hand the sword is useless and the same hand can be used to destroy the sword, or one day you might wake up and discover your whole life has been hijacked.


Talk2Bella

http://www.talk2bella.com/2017/02/how-do-i-cope-with-thieving-girlfriend.html

jidxin:
chai.....see very stupid advice up der....that doesn't even look like a bad idea but sheer dumbness stupidity. his acumen is low. d way he reason is far worse dan a kid nd u think u can change him nd he wont relapse bk to it? be wise. confront him nd leave him 4 Good

some dudes go into that kinda mode when they feel the person they wanna ask out is better than them

desquad:
talk2bella e don tey,, i think say you don chop ban till 2026

I go serve my papa land hehehehehe

dingbang:
most people fall in love with liars... How sure are u DAT u won't fall in love with a scammer?

Na y I de carry eye go market be dat loool

MrWhaley:
You see all these traits in him and you are still coming online to seek approval about dumping his lying, deceitful ass?? Whatever happened to common sense?


And Talk2Bella is busy talking about Love. What kind of Blind love is that?
Pftt!

she's noticed his lying ass from day one and she decided to still get an apartment with him

dingbang:
Ha.... Why are u defending him Bella

I am not

she fell in love with lies

now she's realised it

Hey Bella please help me publish this and also advise me on the next step to take thanks.

When I met him he told me he had many things which I later found out to be lies, he was squatting but he told me his friend was the one squatting, so whenever I went to his house I would be expecting his friend to excuse us but he won’t until one day I got angry and told him he should excuse us after all that wasn’t his house, he got angry and chased me and my fiancé out that was when I knew my man was the squatter.

We raised money and got an apartment together, my job pays better than his and I was recently blessed with a car, but he’s gone around to tell everyone the car is his, he told everyone he pays for our house, feeds and clothes me while I just sit back and enjoy his wealth, this attitude makes people asks him for favors and then I end up giving him money to satisfy them.

There are so many things he brags about that he doesn’t own, lands, shares, money, and a sister abroad, I am tired, whenever I catch him lying he would say people loves lies; I don’t love him anymore I want to secretly get an apartment and dump him, I don’t see myself having kids with him, my children will learn nothing good from him, am I making the right decision?

Anonymous please


Would you have fallen in love with him if it weren’t for the lies he told you? He’s a braggart and you encouraged him by not debunking claims he makes while in public, you’re a participant of his bad habits and should not feel bad now things are worse.

Love comes with its price and you’ve paid yours, leaving him secretly is not the answer, no man is born evil, circumstances might have made him who he is, have a one on one intense talk with him and let him know how you really feel, no one is prone to change, tell him the lies and brags have to stop; you already know him in Toto there’s no need for him to present himself to be someone or something he’s not, this will only work if you still loved him which you said in your email you don’t.

Even if you’re going to leave still have that talk with him, it will make things better between both of you.

Talk2Bella

http://www.talk2bella.com/2017/02/my-fiance-brags-alot-he-lies-about.html?m=1

this is so wrong, you don't beat up a kid like this you're only only telling him that when next he steals he would receive more beatings

he's an orphan what stopped those people from giving him money? food? care or just drop him at a government center which help kids like these?

see the way the boy was beaten up sef cos of DVD player Mehn it's really sad

caring goes a long way

most times you just gotta spare the rod

I am stunned

nice

love will never be enough neither will money

what past him away?
RIP

coded06:
Bella how far nah. your friend did not call me again concerning the Apartment.

what friend?

thank you master Jesus

love

Cope1:
Helping d poor is cool but putting it on social media makes me believe u are also helping ur ego.

please just shut up I hate it when people say help people but don't put it on SM if it wasn't SM who would have come to the young man's aid? putting it out there encourages so many people to want to help others and also encourages youths out there that handiwork and hard work should be our priorities not looking for fast ways to make money

Ibadan

they should please check for internal bleeding

Mehn this shiii is enough na

Hmmmm maiduguri

so Boko Haram dunno the houses of these people Ehn killing innocent people upandan

burn the bastards disgracing my state like that

u can steal all u want but don't rape kill or maim

LecciGucci:
Wow.. neva knew u are this young oo . N hawt!!!

I have an old soul

LecciGucci:
Belka dearie is dat u on d pix

Loool yea

If it isn't GUM or FRUSTRATION then it is his VILLAGE people

please what was done for Majek should be done for him

it is well

jorion:
hahahahah. I dey like your type. no be nysc wey I do last year. Taaah, My wife can't be an ex corper. it can't happen

OK

majour:
I can see from ur pix that ur speaking from experience

Truth is if u served during the harmattan season, 99% of corpers will Bleep each other, finished last year October and I know in ekiti it was seen as a way of life. Bin a CLO didn't help matters either, those southern girls made me wish to marry an akwa ibom girl, still on my agenda, when I hustle up, I'll find them

please speak for yourself not everyone is as loose as you are

thanks

and you think those ones calling are their boyfriends? shioooor Nigga uv just being used to cure conji looooool

this shiii is funny

SolexxBarry:
why evils

looooool

u still won't get visa

If I were the guy id just draw a zombie

Biko pm me Let's eat the fish together
can't let neither of you go to waste looool

hopefulLandlord:
This is an amazing thread!!

One of the biggest problems with religion and why it poisons everything is their holy books. When they are taken as inerrant and literally true terrible things can be done in the name of their God who actual does these things (genocide, racism, slavery, etc.) and endorses and recommends its followers to do so as well, to appease their God and to achieve, heaven or paradise.

Luckily, liberal Christians now see the bible as allegory, man made and not to be taken literally as they did hundreds of years ago when they used the bible to start crusades, burn witches and all those other unchristian like things Yahweh did. As a result, Christianity is much less violent than in the past. Unfortunately today, we have too many fundamentalists still using their holy book to rationalize their atrocities, with too many Muslims still taking the Koran literally as well as a minority of Christians.

The problem is the sacred books.
As David E. Comings summarizes in his book Did Man Create God? "Man's persistent yearning for transcendent spirituality indicates that for the human species religion and a belief in God will never die. Rather than relying on atheism or the elimination of faith to solve the problem of religious wars and terrorism, retaining faith and religion but eliminating the illusion that the sacred texts are literally true is far more likely to attain this goal and far more likely to prevent new outbursts of jihads, crusades and inquisitions."

So, we need to keep hammering away at the Bible and Koran and exposing them for what they are, man made, myths and legend. Scholars are doing a great job with the Bible as we speak...the Koran? Well maybe in another 500 years we will be where Christianity is but hopefully sooner.

thank you so much for your wonderful contribution I couldn't have said it better