andyanders: Op, I can recommend for a scholarship for you in an American University because you are a great writer. Well, I feel you will be noticed through this platform. I have taken my time to go through your topics,and at this point, I can only say, 'you are a smart woman and the sky cannot be your limit'.
dabrightt: Even if it was a mistake why was she pretending and lieing to her husband she really buried the secret until God reveal it 1 year after there wedding ....hope you are not like her
Jeymz: Wow! Talk2Bella, i shared something in the same line on my blog.
‘‘You’re beautiful from head to toe, my dear, beautiful beyond compare, absolutely flawless’’ Songs Of Solomon 4:7 MSG
This might sound crazy but praying for the right person is pointless! Because our definition of the right is someone that will fit perfectly in our box that wouldn’t drag us out of our comfort zone. Someone that will meet our need and not someone that we will be truly free to accept and allow them be who they are. Like my friend will say, ‘what are friends for if not for inconveniences?’’
When we give up the search for the right person and seek to be the right person, we’ll start growing in love and stop putting people on our weigh balance; judging them. Sincerely, what makes someone the right person for you? And what makes them the wrong person?
The best way to truly love someone is from the understanding of the love of God for us. In that, his love sought us out in our wrong state and made us right. Seeking the right person limits our ability to go all out in love. But being the right person opens us to love. Let’s talk about love.
Love is not self-seeking. It exudes from within us to others, but they are not the motivation for it. Love has its source within itself; its strength is independent of the person on which it is expressed. Love is a decision to commit to meet the need of another person for life without expectations. It anticipates their needs and meets them. That is love! Love is a servant not a boss. It seeks to serve; that is its invariable characteristic and chief distinction.
However, the sad truth is that the world works..........
Ask4Info: Are you the one in the Vlog? If yes, i want to ask you some questions.
Yes I am
1) Since you know ALL these things why are you still single?
No I'm not
2) While you mentioned your criteria of a guy to be considered why was CAR the first thing? apart being a poverty mentality, don't you know there are more wiser guys today who buy loads of properties without even yet owning a bicycle? Are you also aware there are countless broke guys who own a car and ABSOLUTELY nothing else except that car as an achievement?
You totally misconstrued and misunderstood what I was trying to say
3) How many relationships have you ever been into?
Enough
4) Why all the facial and body language? that was so "low". Next time comfort yourself and talk like a lady and not a club girl.
Common you gonna Diss the way I talk and express myself now?
All in all your message is needed for the young ladies. Keep it up.
SmartyPants: Talk2Bella i don't like you or some of the views you express, but i admire your passion and drive.
You've got the right ideas of how to go about this business but you need to step up the implementation. Next time get a better background for your video. Be more professional. If you need to get a professional to shoot and edit for you, then do that.
wydmag: Tell me ladies don't like a masculine guy and I will tell you to get out of here! Just look at their combination, they are cute together and simply compatible! Every lady want a man who will make her feel like a baby! Just look at the way the guy is carrying the girl anyhow!! Guys! Keep fit upstairs (brain), middle floor (albs, biceps etc) and downstairs( I don't need to explain that one)
posterity: i agree tacitly to some of your allusions, because some of our girls have romanticized this unhealthy idea of a man solving all their problems. however, i disagree with you because i have been trying all my life to make my self RIGHT for a particular girl. i think the concept of mr right is vague and ambiguous, because it doesnt mean a man must come with all the best qualities in the world, it means that for all our foibles and warts , there is someone out there who is willing to accept us.
so if you ask me how do i knw if someone is right for me, i will say its when home went from being a place to being a person.
i write fictions myself, besides i dont need writers joor, doing these writeups cos my inbox is filled with unanswered mails and i haven't gotten the time to respond yet
There’s nothing like a Mr. Right or a perfect man, have you ever wondered why all the type of people you seem to love or feel they will be right for you end up disappointing you? The bad boy personae? The banker personae? The professor personae? The yahoo boy personae? Etc.
Growing up, you have envisioned the type of man you want to spend the rest of your life with, you have set up certain criteria of how your dream man should be, look and act like; when the time comes for you to date you reject every responsible person who comes your way because you have a picture of what your Mr. Right is supposed to be like, SISTER WAKE UP!
Have y’all ladies ever wondered why you envy other people’s relationships? Mostly celebrities or people of influence; some of y’all have daydreams and wet dreams of another person’s partner because you wish him to be yours, because you feel he is your dream man, you feel he is the exact replica of what your Mr. Right should be like, you begin to plot how you even want your present partner to emulate another man because you have been deceived by the media and other women who live fake lives that there’s such a thing as Mr. Right, SISTER WAKE UP!
So many single independent ladies out there who have been in the single market for long are confused! Even before a man asks them out they have concocted in their heads how they will rebrand him and turn him into their dream man or Mr. Right, dear men this is what we call a MR RIGHT NOW! In economic terms {if the preferable isn’t available, the available becomes the preferable} while there’s nothing bad with this most times it doesn’t work because we’re trying to change you into who you’re not just to fit the Mr. Right criterion.
Someone once asked me, what do you look for in a man? It’s not bad to have certain standards or criteria of what a future partner should possess, but it is stupid to meet someone who possesses 50/60 percent of these criteria and you deem him unworthy, no one I repeat one one on earth is a 100% complete, never was, never will be and that’s the mistake we ladies make because we focus more on other people’s facade of a relationship instead of trying to build ours, SISTER WAKE UP!
Have you ever entered into any relationship without goals? Expectations? Criteria? I know something must attract you at first but after that physical attraction, do you dump all your expectations at the door and say to yourself {let me see how this goes, let me go along with the ride, let me not expect anything and surprise myself, maybe something is wrong with my criteria, let me allow this man love me his own way, let me take the risk of not wanting anything and maybe just maybe in my want for nothing I might be contented} have you? And that my sister is what creates the avenue for a forever after.
Ever heard that joke? If your Mr. Right is going left please bring him to the right, you laugh at this but yet you don’t understand the heavy message this joke carries, someone might possess all the qualifications of what your Mr. Right should be but because of his physical appearance, financial capability or family background you tend to waive them aside, he’s handsome but short, he’s rich but disabled, he’s intelligent but not motivated, he’s shy but cold, he’s eloquent but foul, and so we complain about all creatures on earth, SISTER WAKE UP!
Do not let your peers deceive you, once they get hooked they know there’s nothing like a Mr. Right, they came to that conclusion before they got hooked and tried to live with it, it’s because they made peace with it that’s why you now envy them and want to emulate them, once you get a man who possesses a wee bit of those qualities you want in a man, make do with it as time goes on you would love him for the other part of those qualifications he’s not, no one can be right or perfect for another, it’s in our imperfections that’s where the true test of love lies.
Mikylopez: shez strong ooo d 1 time i killed a baby rat it hunted me for months kept on thinking of its mother ....i was so scared eh i flogged it to death