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Sunnymatey:
It`s 50 : 50 stake.

Yes exactly

mercichoco:
Girl: baby, i want you to Be the father of my children, to spend the rest of my life with you. Will you marry me?

Guy: *surprised* Chai! but my children already have another mother

girl faints!

I will never try it, even if my love for him will make the sun cold

donbenedict:
Just as she is unsure if he will agree so it is same with him as well

I don't think so

It's easier for men to know who they wanna spend the rest on their lives with

rokiatu:
Idontbelieveit.

Berra do

Bravemargai:
Have you even thought about how you would say the words.or how the scene would be like!!!

You urself would be speechless after blabbing the words.

I don't think she'd go thru with it

She's not even sure her man would say yes

obiorathesubtle:
so let me get this straight, you have been dating for 4 years, there's enough money to walk down that aisle, but he doesn't seem serious..


You want to propose but you're scared he will turn you down


He has a side chick, or let me say... He has a main chick

Some men don't just think 4 years is enough time to propose

IamLEGEND1:
am I permitted to say 'Don't be a püssy' ?

that'll be too sexist.

waxxydude:
The way you type always give me the impression that you are the child of maziChukwudi. One of his daughters ran mad two weeks ago, even after launching a manhunt on her we still haven't seen her..

Ur funny

Topestbilly:
Go ahead bae u da bomb, don't mind dis yeye gals wey dey form nonsense.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Just have a chat with him instead.[/color]

That's the best option

It’s been 4 years and he’s totally pretending like it’s not time yet, we are both okay financially and I’m really sure our love is pure so why hasn’t he?


I’m thinking of doing it this weekend, I don’t wanna tell any of my friends to ruin the surprise but I’m scared he might turn me down.


What do I do?





Talk2Bella



First things first, it’s not wrong to want to take your relationship to the next level if your partner isn’t stepping up the game.


Where the problem is now is you’re unsure if he might accept your proposal, it means there are doubts in your relationship.


Why not just do the plain ol thing and have a heart to heart chat with him, ask him where the relationship is going, tell him your plans, make him understand you’re no more contented being just the girlfriend you want to be something more.


Hear what he says and if it favors you stick, if it doesn’t favor you move along.


http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/im-planning-on-proposing-to-my-boyfriend.html

dharay99:

According to your first paragraph, seems
You live under the same roof with your so called
mother in-law which is a bad bad bad approach...

& again, this woman never liked you from the beginning & you still went ahead to marry the son hoping whatt? #sighs...i suppose slap you for this.

Trying to please someone for 5 years? please cut the crap, ignore the woman to the fullest. let her know you don't bloody care anymore about the tantrums she's been throwing at you. Make her get tired by overlooking her crap & see her as nothing...

exactly, let her ignore and love her till she chokes on it

obiorathesubtle:
Throw that monster-in-law out of that house abeg

what about her husband? should she throw him out also?

rawpadgin:
dear Bella right?

Oya, Bella should come & answer ya question

when I got her mail this morning, I had several flashback, my mum went thru hell and my dad was just too genle

Dear Bella,


My mother-inlaw isn’t given me any joy at all, if not that she's my husband’s mother; heaven knows I wouldn’t be this nice to her, but what do I do? My husband seems oblivious of the fact that she’s making me hypertensive, nothing I do impresses her, she waits for my husband to go to work and then she unleashes hell on me.


She’s always claimed I never loved her son, I married him for his money, she’s gone as far as carrying out DNA tests on my kids without my knowledge, when I found out I was mad but my husband said he did it just to please her.


Sometimes when I cook she complains all through the meal, saying it’s very tasteless and she doesn’t know what my husband saw in me. I even named one of our kids after her just to please her, she said it’s the ugly one amongst them I named after her, so I’m telling her indirectly that she’s ugly.


Everyday my life is a hell, she lives with us, I can’t tell my husband to let her go stay with his other siblings because he would have none of it, he’s her favorite. My life has been hell for years, I dare not buy new clothes she will conclude I have financially ruined her son, when he bought me a car she didn’t rest until I begged my husband to get her another car, she has 2 already.


How do I make this woman love me, she’s been this way with me for five years, how do I convince her I love her and her son, my mum says give her time but its five frigging years, my husband says I should be patient with her but he doesn’t know the shouting bout that goes on each time he leaves the house.


Honestly I am tired, I love my husband dearly, he was my first and we dated for a while, but the mum has never liked me from the onset, I thought it would change after marriage but it got worse.


Please what do I do?



Talk2Bella.


Hmmm, your story is very touching as it hit home for me, my own mother went through hell with my father’s people, not just the mother but the hole siblings, her and my father had to be separated for eleven years before they got back together.


I know firsthand what you’re going through cos I watched how my parent’s marriage crashed because of this “Mother-inlaw syndrome”. I can promise you shouting with her won’t solve your problems; neither will keeping malice with her.


The secret to this type of people is unconditioned lover and less worry on your part, when she shouts at you, ignore don’t say a word, let her words fall on you like when you pour water on a stone, it doesn’t penetrate it just washes over, be extremely nice to her, treat her with the same love you have for your mother.


For five years you have been exchanging words with her, as from now henceforth don’t, when she says something hurtful, smile at her and tell her Jesus loves her, when she gets physical surrender yourself, don’t give her an excuse to escalate things.


If you’re close to any of your husband’s siblings talk to them also, lay your worries at their feet, but don’t say it in a hateful way, say it in a way it would seem you’re worried about your mother-inlaw, when she complains about your food ask her what you can do to improve your cooking.


Trust me, with prayers and love all things are possible, don’t complain to your husband anymore, he’s a momma’s boy he’d definitely keep supporting the mother, just lover both of them equally and unconditionally, since you didn’t mention your father inlaw I will assume he’s no more in the picture, so your husband is her own husband right now.


Love is all we need in this world, shower your mother-inlaw with so much love that she’d probably choke on it and breaks down one day to tell you why she’s never loved you.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/my-mother-inlaw-gives-me-hell-how-do-i.html

rokiatu:
Why a grown woman will allow any man to control her is beyond me.


If you like be Obama son in fact be Obama himself no dude is controlling me. Never!!


I ain't gonna do what I don't want to do end of discussion.


Am not desperate for love neither am I afraid of loneliness or being alone. Am not gonna depend on any man for my happiness either. Nobody but myself can make myself happy so my existence don't depend on a man or love.


Some women just knows how to take nonsense. God forbid bad things not with me.

The quest for marriage had made Nigerian girls more desperate than smeagle

benueguy:
No offense, please but are all these stories of yours real or are they mere imaginations? They're weird

No taken

Yes they're

I gt tons of emails

Everyone's got problems sometimes they can't talk to people around them so they prefer to send anonymous emails

I don’t want to be judged I just need some help.


I am in my late 30’s and unmarried, I have a boyfriend who promised me marriage and we have been going steady for a year now, but I don’t think I want to marry him, if I do I might die early, here’s my reason.


He’s almost my age mate but I’m older, he tries to control everything about me including our sex lives, but hey I don’t mind, I didn’t mind, how I wish I did because now I have no control anymore because for the past two months all I have been drinking is sperm.


That night he wanted to cum, so he asked if I would like to taste it that it was a fantasy of his for a girl to swallow his cum, I didn’t want to offend or belittle him so I said yes, my mouth was filled with it, I rushed to the bathroom to throw it out but he pinned me down and made me swallow.


Bella my life has been hell for the past two months, sometimes he cums in a cup and makes me drink, sometimes he even wants me to drink his urine, is this normal? I feel bloated these days, my mouth smells and I don’t even enjoy sex anymore with him because he’s always in a hurry to cum some I can swallow his semen.


Please help me!



Talk2Bella

It’s obvious you’re in this relationship because of the promise of marriage, and it’s sad you’ve neglected your happiness and health for something as flimsy as a marital promise.

Having unprotected sex with someone you don’t know their H.I.V or S.T.I status is very risk, you’re not only having unprotected sex, you’re also drinking his sperm.


First things first go check yourself for any diseases and take your partner along with you, then you need to sit down and have a lengthy talk with him, make a stand tell him you’ve become very uncomfortable with his sexual demands and fetishes, ask him how he would feel if you always ask him to drink your menstruation blood, my dear, if he doesn’t want to listen please leave, not every relationship leads to marriage and age shouldn’t be a criterion to hurriedly lose your lifet o diseases because of marriage.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/08/my-boyfriend-makes-me-drink-his-sperm.html

I came across your site just when I needed someone to talk to. I am 30 years. A male. I consider myself in all aspect due to get married.

The problem is my fiancés mother. She controls everything about her life, she finishes her ND, I promised to send her for HND, the woman said no that she want her to be working before marriage. I will set up a business for her after marriage, she’s still not pleased.

At first, she said we would do our introduction before June, until now, she hasn't talk about it. All effort to get her speak proved abortive.

Those who are close to me want me to leave this girl, but I keep wondering if her mother sin is enough reason to free her.

Dear Bella, it a difficult situation, I live in my personal apartment all alone, I hope you understand the loneliness that involve.

Am very confused right now, the mother has been far from been a good in-law, the daughter has been good to me, time is not on my side. Am just as confused has ever.



Talk2Bella



I will advise you not to allow family come between a good relationship, it’s obvious you love the daughter, why not learn to adore, respect and honor her mother also? You have to call her mother and allow her know you’re the man, tell her involvement in the relationship you have with her daughter has to be minimal but you need to tell her this with love.

As for your fiancée she needs to talk to her mother. Have you asked your fiancée what she really wants? If she wants to work before marriage or do business? It seems you and her mother are the ones making her decisions for her, why not ask the young lady what she really wants.

Both of you love each other and that’s all that should matter, have a heart to heart talk with both mother and daughter and find out what the problem really is, I will advise you to put the introduction on hold till everyone has spoken their piece.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/08/my-mother-inlaw-to-be-controls.html

csamiii:
He did well! Maybe next time, she will listen.

No he didn't do well

2BB4CB3E:
Bella even your bf will do it

its "every" guy every no one is different!!! fantasy, we all think about it! most dont work on their tots but the few that do and succeed #I tip my hat to you

am not going to mock the girl or support the girl naaa, she deserved it!

Something like this has happened to me when I still kept female friends so I know how this person feels

The girl slept with anyone that just toasted me o even If I hadn't accepted their proposal she will still sleep with them and the yeye boys after bonkin her will come and tell me

The one that shocked me ehn chai I won't say it here

skarlett:
Bella said it all

Thanks love

Ighoga898:
Good job and u deserve a medal..

Lol, you think so?

So my girlfriend came to my house one night from school with her friend, truth is I have always warned her about that friend of hers, she’s just too wayward and flirts a lot but did my girlfriend listen NO!


Anyway that night I was angry but I just hid it, next day my girlfriend had to go to the market, I told her to take her friend with her she refused, immediately she left that one came to my room forming sexy, she didn’t even have to try too much, I made sure I bleeped the hell out of her before my girlfriend came back.


I know she won’t say nothing, and I don’t even feel guilty, I slept with her to punish my girlfriend, next time when I tell her to avoid someone she will.


Maybe one day I will tell her but for now I will say nothing,







Talk2Bella



Do you expect a medal for this? I just have this policy where I don’t insult stupid people; it’s a waste of insults.


So if you don’t like a family member of your girlfriend’s you’d sleep with her too?


I hope she finds out very soon and leaves your ass, you don’t deserve her, and for that her friend, she’s going to get what’s coming to her

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/08/i-slept-with-my-girlfriends-friend-to.html

Fabulocity:
I just know a lot of people will miss the humour in this post .
They won't notice it has a sarcastic undertone, and they'll take it too serious.
Summary of the story, Nigerian men have some superficial expectations when it comes to the idea of having the ideal wife.

Awwww you're such a darling

Thanks

Nigerian men have very high standards; it’s either a 100% with them or no percent at all, if you’re going to be considered a wife material (100yards) you need to be all these things, so please read, simulate, understand and put them in practice.

Dating a Nigerian man is no easy task, if he wants you to be a color, my sister you got to be the whole rainbow and more, he’s never contented with just one color. A Nigerian man when choosing a wife will tell you first “I am an African man” not a Nigerian man, when he says this he means you got to imbibe the good side of the 54 African countries in Africa ( their cultures and traditions).

Now my dear sister, you ever wonder why you haven’t been upgraded from Girlfriend material to Fiancée status? Or promoted from fiancée status to wife status? It’s because you haven’t exhibited these characters.

You must know how to cook.

This is very important, without food your score in the Nigerian man’s score card is zero, this is a criterion you must possess, there’s no way around this one, if you don’t know this magic rule you’re probably going to remain a girlfriend till the real wife material shows up. Even if you do know how to cook, never run away from hot oil while frying fish, this is also a big disqualification, you must be able to stand firm and not dive into the nearest available corner when oil splashes.

If your father is late never tell a Nigerian man.

This might sound funny but it’s the truth, a Nigerian man doesn’t want to hear your father died before your mother, it automatically means to him he’s going to die before you, Nigerian men take these sort of things very serious, they are very traditional, just tell him your father stays abroad and your family lost communication with him, this is far better.

Never tell him your parents are divorced.

Yes don’t ever ever ever tell him this, if you have any hope of getting married. According to Nigerian men, a woman who comes from a broken home will never make a good wife, and to them it must be her mother’s fault why the father left, this is an automatic disqualification from the wife material status, if you really want to marry him, just tell him your father married two wives and he prefers to stay with his other family.

Don’t ever tell him you know how to suck dick.

How dare you tell that to a Nigerian man, so you’re a dick sucker, so you have been sucking plenty men’s dick. Whenever you get asked this question, reply with a resounding No! if he wants to try it, forget your expertise and become a learner, let him teach you, let him feel like his dick is the first one to ever grace the softness of your mouth, if not you’re automatically considered a LovePeddler and you know what next, you’re disqualified from the wife meterial race.

When a Nigerian man asks you how many men you’ve been with?


Lie! I repeat lie! This is a trap, he’s going to say he doesn’t mind, and then when you tell him the truth he looks at you differently. If you have been with 10 men say 2, if you have been with 20 say 4 and if you have been with uncountable men just tell him 7, if you ever tell a Nigerian man the true number of men you have been with, well let’s just say you’d never leave the girlfriend race.


Are you bisexual?


He’s going to cajole you, says he loves it, say he wants to try it, even if you are tell him NO! And if he keeps talking it about, let him bring the female and then act like a complete novice, do this and thank me later, if you show some sort of expertise, he’s never going to trust you with another female and you know what that means, Disqualification!

Single mum? Keep mum (don’t tell him yet)

This is a sign of waywardness according to the book of wife material written by Nigerian men, it means you have been fucking around for a long time, it means you have been doing it raw for a while, they don’t care to know the circumstance which brought about your bundle of joy, they just know you have a kid out of wedlock, keep this a secret till you’re married and thank me later, if not that ring is never getting on your finger.

You must be a graduate or own a business.

This is very important, if you’re a graduate, you must be ready not to practice your profession if you ever hope to get married to a Nigerian man, he has plans to rent a shop for you already so don’t bother, please have it in mind that you need to be ringing it in his ears you’re ready to do this when you’re dating so you can be elevated to wife material status.

Is your virginity still intact?

Well we all might be lucky in this aspect as this is not a criterion for all Nigerian men; it’s just about 99.9%, who knows you might be lucky to meet the 1% who doesn’t want to marry a virgin.

Are you ready to get pregnant before marriage?

Please let your answer be yes, it doesn’t matter if you’re going to fake the pregnancy, never ever say NO to this question, if not you’ll be considered barren, or used up, or all your kids have been flushed away, it doesn’t matter if the fault is from the man, if you ever want to be elevated to wife material status please say yes to this rule.

Are you ready to be a maid to his family?

Yes yes yes yes and yes, I don’t need to explain this one to you, you get the idea.

Lie about your age.

Reduce it by ten years if possible, they don’t want to marry someone who’s close to their age, if you’re 30 say 25 if you’re 25 say 19, they want to date you for a while to see if you fit the criteria of wife materials.

Do you have a video of you on the internet Twerking?

When a Nigerian man has decided you have scaled all the hurdles to qualify to be a wife material, no one does a better investigation than his family members, oh my, the FBI is still a learner when a Nigerian man has told his family he wants to marry you, they become spies and undercover agents, they go on secret missions to your village, your primary, secondary and university, they even visit your ancestral burial ground to make sure you’re indeed the right one for their son, so if you’ve got nudes, twerking videos, or what they might consider inappropriate please DELETE!

This might seem funny to y’all but Nigerian men know this is the truth in their hearts, they set so much standards that we forget who we are in the process of trying to fit into their specifications, many men have missed good women because they don’t fit these standards and many women have lost good men because they feel these are ridiculous standards to be met, anyway, if you have plans of getting married to a Nigerian man, exhibit these traits, be it true or a façade it don’t matter till you have been elevated to WIFE.

Talk2Bella

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/08/nigerian-men-criteria-for-wife-material.html

DesChyko:
I don't see the relevance of age here. As long as there is an egg in the womb, and it is fertilized, that's pregnancy there.

Every woman is born with about 200,000 eggs in their ovaries. Between 5 and 10 ripen simultaneously but only one often reach maturation. This happens every ovulation period

If you're in doubt over her ability to conceive twice or thrice in a year, then you have no solid reason to doubt.

Thanks for putting in words what I couldn't

youmour:
Oh wow,you my dear just won the dumbest living human alive.there are numerous ways to avoid pregnancy but clearly it seems you enjoy when the semenn hits your womb when he bust.

You clearly misunderstood my question so I'm gonna ignore the insult and explain, age is not a criterion from getting pregnant even 11 year old kids get pregnant that's why I asked if age is a requirement for getting pregnant

Lol nah had it for a while, was having issues with the provider thanks for noticing tho you're blessed

Opistorincos:
This talk2bella don quick buy domain

krispycash:
true... But then the lady in question is quite silly... I am sorry to use such derogatory word .... She has equal amount of blame as d guy does if not more.... She should have know he was up to no good from the first time he told her to terminate the pregnancy... No decent man who is God fearing(as that is one of the xteristics most women look for in a man... Or so they say)... Would ask u to terminate another life... Let alone that which is his first child with u... If she's the first he's ever put in the family way...
My dear, love isn't blind... Love just wears a crazily dark ray ban shades on....

Exactly what I told her she wasn't forced she willing went to the doctor no one can force an abortion on one without the other party agreeing to it

krispycash:
She has every reason to be mad at d guy but one thing is for sure, he will get what's coming .... But forgiving carries more trouble for the guy...

Sometimes Karma is too late

Its obvious he's found someone else, using the mother as an excuse is just petty

krispycash:
She has every reason to be mad at d guy but one thing is for sure, he will get what's coming .... But forgiving carries more trouble for the guy...