₦airaland Forum

pocohantas:
Abeg, this couscous, na rice or garri or semo?
A food has never confused me this much.

How is it made?
Do you put salt?

Feminists are already having sleepless nights. Some even said she took them 15 steps backwards 😂😂😂.

But here’s the thing guys, Temi dare not say she will never take Eazi’s name. Why? Because she was raised right. She respects authority, and she’s loyal too.

Recently we hired someone to handle a few things. At first we thought she was just performative, but over time we realized she’s genuinely like that. When I dug deeper, I found out her dad had two wives but still remained a responsible father. That shaped her. When you raise a daughter in love and care, you’re teaching her how to love and respect a man.

The witches we see online are either direct descendants of second Timothy or products of failed parenting. And let’s not forget that the love a man shows his wife influences his daughters’ choices in men: what they give, expect, and tolerate.

So if we want wives like Temi, we must raise daughters like Otedola did. Women who won’t only submit to their husbands but also won’t be shaking nyash for likes or turning weddings into 18+ events with half-naked displays.

A responsible society is a collective effort.

pocohantas:
Why do you people keep disrespecting Mr Eazi?
His parents are rich. Very educated and rich. They are not "Otedolas", but they are far from poor. Eazi sef no small. That he isn't impregnating women upandan or posting pictures smoking make Nigerians feel say im small.

Eazi wey guide pass Davido and Burna. Nigerians don't know about him because he's not irresponsible.

God will take this expert

This isn’t something anyone should even try to defend because it’s useless. Women cheat more than men, they’re just better at hiding it.

Hotel receptionists are available for ‘extra services’, hair vendors are available, makeup artists are available, perfume sellers are available, tailors are available, even your child’s teacher is available. Yet every day the topic is always ‘men cheat’, as if these others don’t.

The difference is simple: a man cheating admits he’s cheating. A woman, on the other hand, will find a way to rationalize it: ‘if he hadn’t done this, I wouldn’t have done that’. They don’t even see it as cheating until DNA test results start raising questions.

If you say all men cheat, you’re right. If you say women don't cheat at all, you’re right too. No need for debates. Just remember, men cheating is not why one in every 4 DNA tests comes back negative.

pocohantas:
Her husband is one out of many.
Sadly...

A lot of people are married to their enemies.


God abeg

dollytino4real:
I don tire for my own marriage but folo because no money to rent house is wat is caging me in like tortoise 🐢 inside shell. My own anytime i try to explain to him, that man ego will just scatter the conversation. Money money money money money only 250k

I feel really bad for your husband.


It's just so sad

Ruke1991:
The tax law is good. Many tribalistic voters will begin to use their head to vote when they understand that the kind of person they vote for can steal from their purse by diverting their hard earned money paid as tax. Peller must be one of those that voted tinubu through tribalism. Let him feel the heat. Most fulanis, Hausa and yoruba vote irresponsibility based on tribal and religious interest and not based on the desire to see the country ruled by the best non thieving politician. So when I saw the tax law, I was happy because I knew it will bring the lesson home. Only south South people bear the responsibility of feeding this nation since 1960, but with the new tax law, the big men that are targeted for taxing go wiseup

Nigerians will never learn.

emmanuelewumi:
You are expected to pay tax in your income.

He was assessed based on what he claimed to make per show

How did you miss my whole point?

oxygenlove:
no dey cap nonsense… pay ur tax…
Some Pepper sellers didn’t go to school too.. They pay their taxes

I find people who do not allow their education to get in the way of their ignorance very interesting.

akwesenana:
The wait is almost over.

This one don altready claim second position on the table before the league start sef.

Peller did not complete his education due to poverty, which in Nigeria is the product of decades-long governance inefficiencies, inequitable wealth distribution, and the absence of affordable, quality education.

Government investment in citizen capacity-building during Peller’s formative years was non-existent.
As with millions of Nigerians facing this systemic disadvantage, Peller struggled for survival until, through self-driven initiatives, he achieved economic success.

And boom! The vulturous Lagos State Government has issued a tax demand in millions.

This is a standard operational pattern:

1. Provide no structural support at the foundational stage.

2. Apply maximum fiscal extraction at the success stage.

This is why, when Human Development Index (HDI) is raised, they quickly deflect to Internally Generated Revenue (IGR) — because HDI measures accountability, and accountability exposes failure.

Tor, your wife should stop cooking pounded yam on weekends if she wants you to live forever

Oyibo people make too much noise over nothing, down here we're currently on the level of renaming streets, but if they work harder, they will catch up one day.

pocohantas:
Any young budding guy married to a woman from a struggling background would definitely have it hard. It doesn't matter her tribe. What would make it easier is if they are not entitled. In that case whatever you give them is what they will take. If not, your wife would most likely start blackmailing you into absorbng all their expenses and that is the beginning of your financial stagnancy.

Once again, it is not a tribe issue.

I was explaining this exact thing to someone just two days ago. Their whole argument was flawed because it’s never really about whether the family is rich or poor, it's got nothing to do with tribe, it’s about whether they’re content or entitled.

If you marry a woman from a poor background who isn't entitled, you’re in luck. N10k from a son-in-law can feel like N100k to them, and they'll be grateful. But if you're struggling and you marry into a rich, entitled family, they'll still bill you, only this time it's on a whole new level, their own level.

A guy fit show up when his poor in-laws dey do burial with a keg of wine, some yams, and maybe N50k, and they’ll give him a whole canopy, if na entitled rich family, if he no buy cow make I know wetin cause am.

Wordsfrombimpe:
No one said that

But there is a saying

What you think it what becomes the outcome

Think right all the time

Thinking “right” all the time is just toxic positivity in disguise, both are strong negatives.

Wordsfrombimpe:
Exactly my point

Mindset

If you have the mindset your spouse will cheat on you , it will happen

Project positivity rather than negativity

All the people that have been cheated on projected negativity?

dhiqson:
Sir, i don't know if you're conversant with Chris brown or Adin ross
So both guys were on live sometimes this year
A girl entered the live stream
When she saw Chris
She was shocked. She had to ask Adin if that was the actual Chris
And just one response from Chris sent her sprawling
Now what caught my attention was that
She told Chris that.. "she would clean, she can cook and she was open to learning new recipe for him and even when he wanted to HIT he can HIT ANYTIME



What point am i driving at
I'm saying You're very apt sir!



Well I always thank God for my life sha
Topics like this back in the day, would rile me up
Would have gotten me all vexed
Till i found out what Men yesteryears enjoyed.



I don't stress myself again
Even talking to ladies and hearing their opinions in issues i don't even
I just observe
Lol
U come to me with that bs of cookin is a survival skill and not want u enjoy doing for ur man
By all means whatever we are doing, it's temporary




Look at one niccur up there calling men idiots
Lol
I grew up in a house where my father cooks
Cooks better than my mom sef. But mumsy no gree o
Mama say make pop dey e own o
Make she leave kitchen for am.. and she got better at it and now i always jokingly tell any girl (they'd spend 2 months with mom to cook her way) cause I'm so stucked on her food


As much as cooking is a survival skil
IT'S GENDER SPECIFIC
Make nobody whine e papa for here
I provide, still come home to cook
Even if you provide so?

Abeg abeg abeg mah enter office before i vex

I’ll cook for my family because my dad did for us and we loved it, honestly, we even craved his meals. But the moment you start telling me, “It’s 2025, so you should be cooking,” that’s where the wahala starts.

My last relationship ended for two reasons.

First, she wanted to know how I would support her career. I asked, “Are you working for yourself or for the household?” She said it doesn’t matter. I told her, If you're working for yourself while I fund all of us, then I don't owe you so much as a ‘how was work today?’. Your job holds no value for the family.

Second, she said she only wants two kids. I told her, “I’m having three.” She said she had already made up her mind and wasn’t ready to mentally accommodate a third. I replied, “The third mustn't come from you.”

There are things I don’t negotiate. It riles me to see men become sissies just because women have conditioned them into becoming the kind of men want as a partner but they’d never want as a brother or a son

pocohantas:
Where it is established the man has been the primary caregiver even in the marriage thereby allowing the woman more career-time that led to wealth acquisition, the woman would pay spousal support. A few rich(er) women have. Sadly these cases are few because even when the woman is richer, the man doesn't step up to family duties as it emasculates him. Rihanna is richer and she is still the one dragging her children everywhere and men see her as a model wife/mother. Maybe that is why she has refused to marry whatever-his-name-is. She is avoiding stories that touch.


No court in Nigeria mandates a man to keep doing what he does for a woman after marriage. I have not seen or heard of one case. The 30k to 50k Nigerian men are mandated to pay is definitely not what any grown woman uses to take care of herself and 3 kids. Even in America, with the exception of celebrities and the top percentile of men, the money is barely enough to augment given the woman would have to do school run, doctor appointments, sick days, games day...everything alone. If there is mortgage, she still has to pay it off or take a hit to their living condition. So in reality, POST-DIVORCE, these women take up jobs after losing meaningful work years because all the man is mandated to pay is CHILD SUPPORT. Strictly for the kids, no extras.

If my husband would stay at home while I chase my career and side dudes ___I will happily give him 50k/monthly upon divorce for childcare. Then come pickup every other weekend and return to him immediately to sleep by midnight and wakeup early every morning . I have presented him with this option a few times if he thinks I am not doing enough and he never took it. He instead gave me the money. The women guys scare with this talk are lazy and emotional women. Women's fight for kids with an average man is more of fear, maternal instinct and longterm emotional control, than actual resources.

If the child lives with her, and he funds that child’s life, he's funding her household whether she admits it or not. The money doesn't come with a condition don't touch me unless it's for junior.

And don’t say the man should fight for custody when the court treats working men like sperm donors and wallets.

Dragging men to court, fighting over salaries, and threatening jail isn’t love for the kids. A man gets a job with a bigger pay and boom, she wants a bigger child support? Why? Did the child's needs suddenly increase?

nairalanda1:
And massively poor facilities and bad universities.

Yea, our universities' facilities are now world best since the introduction of student loan.



Congratulations

pocohantas:
This right here is the reason black men struggle with paying child support. They think it is an exchange for what the woman does for them. You are not paying child support for/to your wife. It is for the KIDS. Once again, the KIDS.

The wife doesn't have to do anything for you. She has to do something for the the KIDS. The KIDS! And the CORE thing she provides is nurturing which is directed at the kids.

Upon separation/divorce, everything is done for the KIDS. Not the husband or wife. The KIDS.

If you as a man can be the primary parent without going to dump the children for your mother in the village. Then by all means establish the woman has the means to pay you child support and she would be made to. It is really simple and I am surprised you think this is an applicable illustration.

Oh yeah, the reason they fight tooth and nail for custody is because nothing from child support benefits them. I get it now.

Mud house with thatched roof inside a bush in Ekiti

Ikaeniyan0:
All Nigerian students were enjoying what?

Subsidized education

Ikaeniyan0:
All i'm trying to say on this thread is that, student loan is a big achievement. Thousands of students across Nigeria are enjoying it

They reduced what all Nigerian students were enjoying to what thousands of Nigerian students are enjoying and you think it is an achievement?

God abeg

OneCandleAway:
I need to clarify this to all APC corn lovers
Student loan is not an achievement. A lot of students aren't even on the loan. The person I am paying for isn't on loan. Before the student loan the fees were very affordable for everyone. Government can afford to subsidies tuition if the cut off unnecessary expenses they use to live Large. No student should graduate and be a debtor to a government that can't even provide enabling environment for industries and businesses.

PDP era of low affordable tuition is much better than APC student loan era.

What Tinubu and his team did was take away what Nigerians used to get from the government because the government could no longer afford it and then return it as a loan, and somehow that's now considered an achievement.

They will tell you to go on social media and see people giving testimonies, but ask that same person to provide proof that access to student loans has increased the number of students in school compared to when tuition was subsidized and they will start explaining

dhiqson:
So let's say I agree with you

"Cooking isn't gender specific, it's a survival skill"


Why's women not seeing PROVISION AND HAVING MONEY in such way?


Me i cook for myself
But once any lady is around
I don't even stress myself goin into the kitchen


Cause I won't stress u to funds the cooking lol

Do you get? A nice article but he nearly ruined it with that part.

Nearly everything men did in 1985, they’re still doing today, but you don’t see anybody telling them to stop because it’s 2025. Look at marriages, even after divorce, the core things a man provides in marriage, he can still be mandated by court to keep providing for the woman and kids. But nothing binds the woman to do anything for him. It’s crazy.

In my family, everybody cooks. And being the one who stayed in the village longer, I cook local foods better than all of them. Recently, we were in the village for Easter, and I was the one cooking. My brothers were there, their wives too, and my sister, my mother, and others, I was cooking because I love cooking and I trust my own food. But all this talk about 2025 doesn’t move me. Yes, it’s 2025, I can order any food from my phone; heck, I can order both the food and the chef.

Nobody remembers it’s 2025 when we tell men to be the providers and do all the heavy lifting. Recently, because a woman died over ₦500k, the internet was full of “don’t settle for less” and “marry a man that can always cough out a million.” This is coming from a POS attendant that earns ₦15k monthly without any allowance.

Recently in a conversation with one, she said she can't marry a broke guy because she doesn't want to suffer; and I asked why she would suffer because of his brokenness when he isn’t asking for her own money?

Women have all the opportunities that men have, they have the education men had, they can get all the skills men have access to, and for some good reason, it’s even easier for them. But nobody reminds them it's 2025 when they hold back their own money and expect everything to come from the man. Nobody tells them it's 2025 when they're planning their dream weddings without contributing a single kobo.

Na man dey do man las las, NEPO kids dey buy off the whole food in the canteen because they no wan queue while LAPO kids are being told to start cooking because it's 2025. Na money and fellow man dey do man.

I dey live in one beedrom, I marry woman put inside, she no add extra room, na me dey pay the bills but na she settle for less.

Chineke kpọkwa ha ọkụ

fineboynl:
Before the era of Smart phone. Everyone will be outside entertaining themselves in different locations and physical vibes And activities at midnight.

But nowadays most people are indoor with their smart phones. Similar thing with newspaper stand.

It creates this attitudes of everyone going personal. Many people dead with their smartphone locked and millions bank app with no trace or anyone have an idea of it.

All the banks app you are operating how many of your family knows about them?. Some even password their sim .

Nightlife is expensive, Nigerians are working for survival so a lot of things is off their activity list. There was a time you can be foolish with money and still be fine, today even the wisest with cash still dey guide.

folake4u:
Thank you very much for this post. The hypocrisy stinks to the high heavens!

The trend of baby mamas and all social vices didn't start with Gen Z at all, same with cultism. Millennials and Gen X did WORST THINGS but hey! We're in social media dispensation so it looks like we're the most terrible out there.

I wonder if it is same Gen Z that looted Nigeria dry too.

Policticans loot Nigeria dry so they can afford to maintain their Gen Z side chicks.

seunmsg:
Not bad to taste from your own medicine, right? How does it feel?

It’s so cool to call others pay per post and accuse folks you don’t know of collecting 30k per month to support Tinubu. Now that it’s been done to you, enjoy it and don’t suck.

You do realize you can have a life outside of politics, right?

APC pays people, but Nairaland doesn't. If you can separate your life from politics, you’ll see that the two aren’t connected, and your quote doesn’t even make sense.

People are different. If there are those accusing you of being paid, address them, not me.

I prefer to stay clear of you and your circle. Kindly return the energy

Sagefromtheeast:
this guy, I didn't know you're still around here.
I remember the good old days of tosyntoomuch et al

I dey my brother.

I just hide my face as I no get money