₦airaland Forum

All this happens because some men feel they need 'permission' from their wives to act. If I want my mom to come over and I can afford it, I’ll inform my wife so she’s prepared mentally and otherwise—that’s all. Her input isn’t needed to decide whether my mom comes or not

Peakdesign23:
2 full grown adults committed Adultery. What a shame!

What are they supposed to commit? Childrenery?

IfyAwazie:
... So na to beat her make sense to you. Na mouth she use, you too go use mouth answer her nah

This is lame.

If you hit me with a broom, I can decide to respond with 2/2 if I want to. You don’t get to dictate how people react to your actions. For people like you, abuse isn’t real until it’s physical but emotional abuse can be just as harmful. A man in Nsukka had an argument with his wife on New Year’s Day, walked out of the house as men are often advised to do, and was hit by a car. He died on the spot.

We’re always told that a “real man” should walk away, but no one asks, “Is a real woman supposed to drive her man out of his home?”

Men accept too much nonsense, and I blame them for it. Women often excuse bad behavior with hormones, moods, or periods, and men are expected to understand. Yet, these same women control their emotions at work or with their boss.

@OP, any woman who cooks your meals has the power to kill you, so treat her well. If she doesn’t respect you, leave her and move on.

pdppower:
I think he read his Bible upside down.

Whenever I see many Nigerian pastors preach, my mind goes to the question in the parable of the sower: 'Did we not sow good seed?' (Matthew 13:27). That’s probably what Jesus asks when He looks down and sees the rubbish some people call Christianity in Nigeria

Many married men do not realize how single they're until they lose their job

chatinent:
What's the difference between Buhari a northerner employing mostly northerners and a Tinubu from SW doing the same to mostly SW?

If the table turns, the leader will also favour his tribe.

That is Nigeria for you. We were never one.

I think his point is that Buhari employed Northerners across the North East, North Central, and North West, while Tinubu's appointments are skewed towards the SW, despite being called a 'southern president.


Either way, I like what's happening.

ogolemati:
Tinubu should give it to them raw.they think they are the only side that have backward leader.if buhari can send Nigeria back to 1800 tinubu can equally send Nigeria back to 1500. Tinubu till 3030

This is why I say Nigeria is structured not to progress. Tinubu has four certain years and possibly four more, making it a short time even if he gets the full eight years. After that, what’s next?

Because of how Nigeria is structured, and due to baseless preferences and biases, power will eventually return to the same people Tinubu is currently dealing with. What do you think will happen?

Here’s the cycle: those complaining now will celebrate then, and vice versa. After that? Rinse and repeat.

PDPGuy:
Blame inflation and the devaluation of the Naira

Custom's import duty is the major problem. I used 555k to clear something of 671k.

Buhari did worse and even threatened to kill more, yet some people rebranded him as the best thing since salvation. Anyone who disagreed was labeled a hater, an enemy of the state, or a child of perdition. But when similar things happen abroad, those same people start foaming at the mouth. Leave America alone and focus on Nigeria, she's so rotten that the worst of America still bests her.

ValCon888:
She dey charge 15k for ordinary bj?
I can only pay that amount if her tongue is plated with gold and encrusted with diamonds.

If I put my prèèk inside it must be like putting my card inside ATM. Her mouth must dispense cash for me to consider that offer.

Bros agreed to 15K before she started, he should pay. A laborer is worthy of her wages.

Don't buy from Temu if you don't understand measurements. I see Nigerians crying on Twitter and TikTok that what they received is smaller than what they ordered, even though the length and width of the product are clearly written there

AngelicBeing:
Sex, Sex, sex , Hian, like seriously, una no dey Taya with sex matter, look at the kind of topics popping up recently>>>my wife deny me of sex, my girlfriend deny me of sex , l am not having regular sex , since my wife got a new job, we only have sex 4 times in a month, nawao, like seriously, sex, sex, sex matter

This is coming from a gender that have sex with tap-water. 😂 😂

Sonnobax15:

The fear of another C.S should another pregnancy evolve must be one of the reasons behind how she's treating you

[b]BTW,why is it that men are becoming more sexxx starved these days? [/b]What could be the cause? Abi the Tinubu economy policies wey suppose to dey kill men sexual libido come turn around to dey increase am? .

Ayam not understanding at all

Men have always faced this issue, which is why our fathers married multiple wives so at least out of the three or four, one would be in the mood every two days.

These days, men have almost completely lost control. If my wife denies me sex and I try to fix things but it doesn’t work, I’ll still have sex when I want to. It doesn’t make sense to remain faithful to someone who denies you intimacy.

I remember being in a talking stage with a lady, and we had a conversation like this:

She: If for a medical reason I stopped having sex with you, would you cheat?
Me: It wouldn’t be cheating if you can’t give it to me. It’d only be cheating if I ignored what I have at home to get it elsewhere.

She was shocked and asked if sex was that important to me. I said yes.

Later, we talked about the number of kids we’d have. She said two, and I said three. She insisted that her mind was set on two and she can't handle the stress of considering a third. I said no problem, you give me two, and I’d get the third elsewhere.

My sister ran.

No be me you go pocket.

pocohantas:
Forget car dealers. How did we get here?

4.5m to buy a Nigerian used 2004 car?
A car of 21yrs old? If it were human, it is eligible to vote and can be married with a child.

I am sure I remember when that car was 800k.
Which seems like yesterday.

I was thinking the same thing. My brother bought a car of 1.9M, used it for five years and sold it for 4.9M


We're finished in this country

OriOko88:

Those ibo women are devil incarnate. Those slaps were so brutal it could turn that litle boy into deaf. I sensed some tribal hatred in the woman because the boy he was slapping is a Yoruba boy.

She shud be deported into her enclave in sad East to continue slapping her fellow ibo kids. Nonsense

The boy he slapped is her child.

Areaboy2:
we cant help it    
i guess its the way we are wired,


men cheat more, like 9 out of 10 guys will cheat, and 3 out of 10 women will cheat,


but it is soooooooooooooooooo much worse when women cheat, why? women attach emotions to everything. before she can open her legs wide for you, she must really like you,
unlike guys,  get in, get out, faster than anyone can say cheese burger

3 out of 10 women cheat but 8 out of 10 women hate DNA test.

Dey play.


Women cheat more but men easily get caught.

Christ4ever:
No wonder she's always bitter.

I pray you find healing Iyabo. That's if you are not lying.

The story doesn’t add up. She said her father died at the age of 40 and that he also opposed her first marriage. If she was 21 at the time, does that mean her father had her at 19?

I’m not saying she lied about everything, but if you’re going to make statements like this online, you should also be able to identify the five men. Or have they all passed away?

Knowing she was raped adds no value to society unless the rapists are pointed out and prosecuted

Ask her to name her state of origin now, and she’ll tell you she doesn’t date broke guys

thesicilian:
This one is just using his own hand to create wahala for himself

Having one wife brings more wahala to a man than having two.

Women naturally want to cause trouble when there's none so if you marry one, it is you and her but if there is another, na two of them dey drag.

A man married to two women is proven to live longer than the man married to one woman.

Nazgul:
It's certainly not Igbo land. Maybe delta.

😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂.

Pocohantas dey don carry your brother dash ndị Delta oo.

Her type go use juju tie man down and when the juju expire and the man begin show them pepper, they will come to Twitter to say men are animals.




You f you believe in those things.

Nazgul:
In Igbo land if you impregnate a girl and she dies without you paying her bride price, you must marry her before claiming your children. If you don't pay her bride price, you can't claim your children.

Since the girls mom wasn't officially married her has to marry her before being able to marry the daughter. It doesn't mean he'll begin to have sex with her. It's just tradition.

Not so in my place.


Nothing can be done to claim the child a woman had for you outside marriage unless her family do not want the child.

Doesn't matter if she's dead or alive, the child belongs to her father forever.

Kewtt:
I don't know. But CNG is very much lighter than air so it dissipates rather than catch fire. It's unlike LPG gas which is heavier than air which settles down and gets ignited easily...


I am 100% sure it's not CNG related

I don't know much about these gases but I think I have seen recorded incidents where CNG caught fire. Or maybe they were lies too. I don't know.

Kewtt:
Lies it's not CNG. CNG doesn't ignite like that?

What's it please?

Hunger deworms me and even deworms the worms sef so no issue.

decatalyst:
15million wetin?

Is this some kind of a joke?

I guess it's been long to price building materials.

Excluding the land, the 15m will not take your standard 3bed room past 70%.

It will, if you already have land.

pocohantas:
Me sef never witness am for my side o, but I believe exceptions would always apply. I got a lot, even big pots, mortar and coolers. A gas cooker with oven which I eventually dashed my SIL as I had no use for it. I think many do not know when these gifts are given or they rather assume it is the groom's money like some have insinuated already.

Happy new year, Tallesty of the good life.
Try do giveaway for me this year. I have been a good friend.

Normals, you know it's assumed that the daughter is leaving her parents' house for the first time, so she's provided with everything she might need to start her new life. See bah, the focus is often on the bride price and the list but many families actually spend more settling their daughter than the groom spends fulfilling the list requirements.

Alright then... I don forward am give Minister of Budgeting and Planning make he capture am for budget.

pocohantas:
Sorry about your buddy's experience. Some families are a handful, but without being told, it doesn't make sense to not give your daughter something.

I have been to several marriages in different cultures and I have never for once witnessed where the family didn't "settle" their daughter. Never.
Even the very poor ones still give their daughters things.



Happy new year to you ma.

Dowry is most times bigger than the bride price.

ceejay80s:
hello guys
a friend came from port Harcourt to see me on 24th morning he was with me till 25th ,
we were at night gisting and I ask about his wife.....
to cut the long story short,

the father in-law is still alive but the wife, sister and her sisters husband called him that they will be coming to his place to return the bride price,
I asked him , who did u give the bride price to?
he said the father, I told him to ignore them until the father in-law calls u or ur father before u go and collect it.

Nairalanders I hope I am right?

HAPPY NEW YEAR TO U ALL

In my culture, there is a middleman whenever a marriage is being contracted; a mediator of sorts. He is the one who gathers information from the bride's family and conveys it to the groom, and vice versa.

When a marriage ends, he is the one who returns the bride price if he is still alive, or someone appointed by the woman's father if he has passed away.

Wives don't return it, fathers-in-law don't, and not even the wife's sisters.

Karleb:
Heartbreak is such a good thing.

It gave Adele 3 solid albums (or more) and it gave you a new skill.

Cheers to more heartbreaks. 🥂🍻

You're evil 😂 😂

frozen70:
We have to be appreciative of a gift given by loved one, Irrespective of how we fill about it

Now to your own issue, I know that you appreciate the gift but having the feeling that it shouldn't be the same colours with her brothers, doesn't add up

You have a special place in her heart and so does his brothers too

So kindly erase that thought and sew your own cloth and wear it for her to see that it's beautiful on you

If you and your brother in law are going on same occasion with you, call them and you guys can wear same uniform, it's shows love and understanding

You can even take pictures together for memorial sake

Once we can remove pride from our life, everything will be equal for us and we move on well without feeling that you class and level is bigger than another

Why is it that you people always come up with irritating takes when the person in the wrong is your gender?

How can we improve as a society if we keep blindly supporting our gender, even when they're clearly at fault?

You're buying an anniversary gift for your husband, and you decide to get the exact same material and color for your brothers?

As what exactly? If it were just a random gift, fine, we could argue it’s because they’re family. But an anniversary gift? Come on.

Personally, if I were the husband, that gift would go straight into the back of my closet, never to be worn. What kind of nonsense is that?

How would you react if your husband gives you an anniversary gift only for you to find out later that he bought the same thing for his mother and sisters?

Let’s stop making excuses for bad behavior and call things what they are.