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pocohantas:
The most conflicting thing there is the age and expected financial status.

Not more than 24 and MUST be doing well for herself financially.

It took him 36yrs to be emotionally, financially and physically ready. But he wants a 24yrs old lady to be doing well for herself FINANCIALLY.

Oh well, we have the outliers who graduated at 20, served at 21/22 and got jobs in Total at 23. He would definitely get one of them at 36yrs.

On Twitter, ladies say that men in their twenties who don't own a car and a house have failed. Then he made this tweet, and suddenly, the same ladies realized how difficult it is to be financially stable at 24. You won't understand what's up if you're not active there.

The only gender that came naked is the same gender that wants respect simply because it's the F gender—the same gender that objectifies and sexualizes itself, then blames the other gender for it.

Creamypie:
95 % of single girls na ashawo

Shut up

kingbee90:
Oga I disagree with you.
Most of these shade throwing na only on social media. Especially nairaland and X.
Why do we marry each other? Why do we transact businesses successfully with each other?

Nigeria na cruise!

Igbos have been mass-murdered in the North in tribe-induced genocide.

Hausa trucks, their wares, and their people have been burned down in the East for the same reason.

Aboki and Yoruba clash and kill each other all the time for the same reason. As a matter of fact, about three Yoruba kings are currently sitting idly in the Hall of Two Truths because they cannot pass without their heads.

These are not normal crimes; they are the dividends of tribalism.

Gbadebo lost due to tribalism.

Another governor candidate was called Jimi Chukwu because of tribalism.

Also, in the last election, what do you think is the reason people who looked clean, tall, fair, and spoke good English without any tribal marks were not allowed to vote?

Tribalism has done more harm to Nigeria than colonization.

Absolutely. You're not angry because a vice president used billions to renovate a house, but you want Nigerians to be angry because of Trump? No be ment?

Tightpussy2024:
Toke and Tiwa called him out on the timing of announcing the news! You can't do this when your partner is in rehab and when you are battling a kidney issue.

They didn't call him out for divorcing her

So they can divorce when her mental health is in shambles and he is battling kidney disease but they can't post about it?

Tell me what Toke and Tiwa did when Tonto dragged her husband nonstop for years.

There is no good time for breaking bad news, they're all angry because 2Face beat them to it.

He didn't give them to polish their story and make up for the camera.

Tiwa is a hypocrite

pocohantas:
Whatever is their reason for calling him out, which wasn't even for the divorce (all semantics), I see it as overzealousness. This marriage wasn't one to end without drama and some insanity. Tiwa did a whole production for Teebillz. Toke wrote a book. They should focus on giving Annie the support she needs. If she decides to go back to 2face, which isn't impossible, their business. Nothing 2face would do and surprise Nigerians. As far as na woman matter sha.

Gbam.

Chai, how I wish your brand of drink still dey market. I for say make you carry two packs.

GloriousGbola:
tiwa savage and toke makinwa are drug addicts?

the irony is tuface reportedly has kidney failure - since 2015. not to be judgmental - but that is likely because of lifestyle

That's just an illustration, the guy I quoted is not Annie's father.

pocohantas:
Toke/Tiwa are anything but Annie's friends. In between ensuring Tuface doesn't follow other women and acting crazy, I doubt Annie has close friends or anything going on for herself.

Generally, her and Tuface do not have known industry friends. The only difference is, irrespective of his shortcomings, Tuface is loved by many. Annie? Not so much.

Annie should count herself lucky for having them as her first respondents because I wonder who you guys think would have been nonjudmental enough to give her any direct attention.

There was a time these two were in the news, and I said some things. You quoted me, and I remember telling you that there’s a point where someone’s actions become so predictable that the blame shifts to those who still expect them to be responsible.

2Face crossed that threshold long before he married Annie, so she knew exactly what she was getting into. If you hire a security guard who has been fired multiple times for sleeping on duty, and your house gets robbed while he’s asleep, the blame is on you.

If they have anything on 2Face beyond cheating, they should bring it forward; otherwise, they should keep quiet. If Annie had come online to announce she was done with 2Face, people would have celebrated her because leaving him has been long overdue—so why all the unnecessary noise?

This isn’t me being judgmental, just stating facts. Even the Bible says, "Don’t give what is sacred to pigs" for a reason.

If 2Face announces tonight that he wants a wife, women will queue then years later we will be called judgemental for telling them that actions has consequences.

Imagine Chioma complaining that Davido dey cheat, no be ment?

descartes400:
The women 2face cheated with while in relationship with Annie is a public news., can you cite just one man that Annie is alleged to have cheated with?

Since all these 2face-annie saga, I have not heard pim about Annie cheating but the same cannot be said of 2face...infact...he is well known as a serial cheat...

If you haven't, I have—so leave it like that. I'm not citing anyone because either of them could swallow me whole without even feeling a movement in their throat, and I can't risk that just to convince you (who is neither friend nor foe) that 2Face (who in turn is neither friend nor foe) is cheating on Annie (who is also neither friend nor foe)

It's not worth it. Like I said at the beginning, we've all taken sides. If you haven't, pick one—that's the best way to enjoy this kind of news.

2. Are you inferring that because she's a friend to Tiwa and Toke, that's why her marriage collapse?

Let's assume you have a daughter, and her two best friends are drug addicts and chain smokers. Would you really be surprised if you heard that she started drinking alcohol?

The wives of Pastor Chris okotie, and pastor Chris oyakhilome are not friends to Tiwa nor Toke, yet their marriages has since collapsed...so?

Researchers: The average height of a woman is 5 feet 3 inches.

That Someone: But my sister is 5 feet 5 inches. So?



Typical and unwise

The 2Face in the video looks really sick—I just knew something was wrong. As for their divorce, Nigerians have already picked sides. Those who know that Annie isn’t just a cheat but also a very abusive partner have sided with 2Face. The 'witches' have pitched their tent with Annie, and then there are those who just want 2Face to be the villain simply because he’s a man.

2Face was already cheating on someone else with Annie before leaving that person to marry her, so you can’t pin cheating on just him. The difference between men and women is that men will see what they can’t change, accept it, and make peace with it, while women will see what they can’t change, convince themselves they can, try and fail, then blame everyone but themselves.

And then there’s the funniest take—the idea that 2Face "used and dumped" Annie. 2Face, who started his music career when Annie was 13 or 15? She was there when he had nothing? Please. There was never a time 2Face had "nothing." Maybe not money, but he was born talented, and women invested in his future with nothing but feelings—ungenuine feelings at that. 😂😂😂

A married woman whose best friends are Tiwa and Toke? 😂😂😂😂😂

May God grant each of them peace.

He also said that if he were a Nigerian woman, he wouldn’t date or marry a Nigerian man because they were both shaped by the same environment, making it too toxic

This woman is just too smart.

Banie:
This is why I love china. Don't joke with their
Technology.

These guys have always made things easier and more affordable. They're the reason almost anyone can own a smartphone today. If not for Chinese phone makers, only celebrities would be using smartphones.

Sadly, when discussions about innovation or progress come up, you’ll hardly hear African countries mentioned. Take Nigeria, for example. The topics of the day are always VDM, VAT, IGR, nyash, Igbo vs Yoruba, Obi, Hilda, Toke, Ronu, IPOB, Bigger Tribe debates, and so on.

It’s honestly so unfortunate.

princepee:
2baba wan kill my akwa ibom sister,
2baba na community prick he can never stay with one woman.
Annie made a very big mistake marrying him.

Tuface Loved having a lot of girls by his side.
And then money and fame came,

Lmao. 2Face is a community prick, that's known but Annie isn't faithful either.



She cheats on him too.

cococandy:
He cheated with one of his old time friends. Mind you he’s been accused of cheating in the past. Maybe the fact that he did it with an old friend is the straw that broke the camel’s back. After him and Melinda have been together for decades. Of course he regrets it. I think it’s an issue of having a conscience.

That’s a big betrayal that even he wouldn’t forgive if Melinda did the same to him. Especially if it’s a friend they hang out with all the time. He’d be imagining what was going on when he’s not around.

I don’t know why people are quick to blame the wives before researching what actually happened

Man even got a second chance and blew it too. His regrets just dey begin

ayourbamie:
I thought Melinda was the one that divorced him

Any man who has been with a woman for as long as those two have been together will hurt when she leaves. It doesn’t matter if she cheated or even attempted to kill him. The fact that he regrets the situation doesn’t mean he wants her back. After all, God regretted creating man. He regrets it maybe because it was his mistake that lead to the divorce so the divorce is his fault even though he didn't initiate it.

meobizy:
Good. The same holy book says a Christian shouldn’t judge. Live life as you deem fit and let the other person do the same.

It didn't. This is one of the most misquoted sayings of Jesus. In the chapter that says 'do not judge,' it also says, 'by their fruits, we shall know them.' How can you know without judging? To say that we should not judge implies that everything is okay, but it also means we should not preach repentance. I mean, how can you tell someone to repent if you haven't judged them? How can you even recognize sin without judgment? Anything that is not true is a lie, and to recognize a lie is to pass judgment. Matthew 7 is not against judgment; rather, it teaches how to judge. Christ says, first remove the speck from your own eye so you can see clearly to remove the log from your brother's eye. It is against unfair, unforgiving, and hypocritical judgment—not judgment in its entirety. John 7:24 tells us to stop judging by mere appearances but instead to judge correctly.

pocohantas:
Intentionally? Where did that happen??
PPD. Meaning it was a baby? What could possibly be her reason for killing a child?

Maybe it is the hardship in the land, but the current level of aggression is too high. You see why I zoom off now?

A lot of stories but nobody can say for certain.

The poster said it was because she hates her husband, apparently they're having issues.

Some said she wanted to have the kid elsewhere and the husband refused.

But majority said it's PPD.

When a people have little or nothing to live for, anything is possible.

E reach to zoom abeg.


https://www.nairaland.com/8322975/woman-kills-newborn-baby-due

pocohantas:
Hmm! They all have to do better.
Everywhere you turn, bad news. Nobody is leftout. This marriage is not even do or die. I don't know why they are killing themselves.

. I wasn’t serious, nwaanyị ọma

A mother killed her child, and suddenly, everyone unanimously decided it was PPD—like PPD is some kind of free pass to murder. I was so pissed. How did they know it was PPD? Who diagnosed her? When?

Nigerians now seem to kill for sport. Honestly, and any depression that won’t make you harm yourself shouldn’t make you harm someone else.

Jennyclay:
Too bad

Nigerian men just do evil for fun

I wish justice can be served immediately to the useless husband. The foolish man should be set ablaze too.

Evil and barbaric men!!

Man is depressed by the same depression that depressed the woman that killed her newborn. These things are not in anyone's control.

Shegzdave:
Like you said, concerning very long distances like this, night journey is the best if not for insecurities

Even with the insecurities, it's still the best. Kidnappers operate more in the day nowadays

It took a certain darling daddy 6 months to get a minister

PulaPower:
Hypocrite..

Did tinubu not hit the ground running since day one?

Tinubu hit the whole Nigeria running from day one.


But running fast on a wrong lane is useless.

The worst time to meet anyone is this stage.


The grace found me or I found God stage.

backbone503:
Make this girl rest! I don't think any babe truly loves 2baba like Annie. She was with him when he had literally nothing

This is not a good thing to say.


There was never a point in Tu-Face's life when he had nothing. Maybe he didn't have money but guy has always had talent.

saphiere:
It's not about providing here. A lot of those mothers can feed the child and even the so called man.

The issue is them being looked down on. No man wants to marry them.

Most of you men are liabilities we all know that.

If you carry out a survey in Nigerian homes, 80% of the homes the wives are the breadwinners.

If single mothers are capable and financially equipped to take care of their kids, then what exactly are you whining about?

Marriage, according to you and your delusional sisters, isn’t an achievement. So, I’ll ask again—what’s your problem?

Actions have consequences. Deal with it and stop disturbing our peace.

TimeManager:
Who was the Government in power in Nigeria when she was a 16 year old girl?. Those were the leaders she was referring to.


-Kiss the truth!

The current leader once bragged about turning a Rolls-Royce owner into a Honda user, so what she experienced as a child is still happening

bukatyne:
I hope your 'they' refers to human beings?

Because your post is not a feminine trait, it is human trait.

I wasn’t talking to women in general or human beings as a whole; I was specifically addressing those in the video.

pocohantas:
I want to believe it is. How else does someone sleep with an olosho and still think he is a man of integrity?




I am genuinely curious.

Doesn't make any sense

pocohantas:
Why would anyone be angry to be rejected by a woman he calls olosho? Just trying to get the logic behind this.

Once they have enough money than they know what to do with, they'd become bored and do weird things

Rapmoney:
So who are the millions of people following these women on social media? How come most men abuse and criticize them but they have a large number of followers? Why do you follow someone who does something you criticize?

You think in one direction, just like an average Nigerian.

I will tell you how.

If a woman on nairaland says she won’t marry a broke guy, she gets insulted. Then, the guys move on to another thread and sees different woman saying she’s dating a broke guy, the same people will mock her, saying, ‘I thought women don’t date broke men.’ meanwhile these are two different women with different choices, but because one said something negative, it’s assumed all women feel the same.

This happens with men too. A woman might have a faithful, responsible boyfriend, but when someone posts about useless men online, she joins in saying, ‘Men are useless,’ forgetting that her own boyfriend and even her father and brothers don’t fit that stereotype.

Then there’s the blame game. A woman in Suleja wants me to feel guilty for something a man in Ogun did to her girlfriend, she wants me to feel guilty because somebody somewhere used his girlfriend for rituals just because I’m a man. But when her own boyfriend treats her to shopping and she rewards him will all night sex, she won't bring that pussy for me have some even though ‘what affects one man affects all?

You get my drill?

The problem is negativity bias, we remember and amplify bad things more than good. Then there is this unnecessary gender wars, we've stopped seeing individuals, we treat everyone as representatives of their gender. But notice, we only do this with bad things, never the good.

You are asking who are these people when you know clearly that there are enough people in the world for millions to love you and millions to criticize you.

But one way thinking won't let you see it