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Of you read it well you should see where I said he should continue then save enough to travel

Pierced:
Lol........u mean he should use the 500k for travelling abroad?

Well seems you’re very determined to come to Lagos to work, the Lord is your strength and I wish you all the best

SimpleGuy001:
I get your point but I love the corporate world and I have my eyes set on some companies that are only located in Lagos.

Big 4 audit firms, management consulting firms, investment banking firms and oil and gas firms are concentrated in Lagos, when I get into them I will start processing my japa dream having gained experience in them. You see why I want to go there now....

If you saved up the 500k legitimately then continue doing what gave you that and focus more on the hustle, my advice try traveling abroad to further education and hustle too, your 500k for Lagos no go go far ooo If you no sabi Lagos

SimpleGuy001:
OK, as the topic says i have 500k in my account and i intend to come to lagos after service. Any advice from matured people here? I'm praying for divine direction but let me hear your advices.

Note: no relative in lagos so i'm starting from scratch with accomodation and all

Misuse of power, One of our biggest problems in this country smh

Yes it does look real but I am no longer interested because I feel I have had enough of it

Enny2013:
Deceit kwa?
It's always real to me.

Hmmm, I used to love it when I was little but don’t even want to watch the deceit anymore,

Enny2013:
Lol! Wrestling is gud for self defence.

As you mentioned wrestling, man reach fear ooo

Enny2013:
Lol... where's d strength?

I am glad you know the drill of this forum but all the same I didn’t mean to insult you

Rozross:
You didn’t do anything wrong, be free on this faceless forum, even if you call me names I won’t be angry. It’s nothing

No not that, who am I to judge you or call you names, sorry if I said something wrong no hard feelings pls

Rozross:
� person can’t play with you guys on this forum. For your mind now I be Ashawo abi?

Your reply says everything you are, MrBrownjay1 is very correct Na fancy things you Dey after not the behavior. The Lord is your strength my dear

Rozross:
Yes, I can’t or you want my friends to be oppressing me?

You Dey find person wey you go beat

Enny2013:
If he loves watching wrestling. I dnt joke wt wrestling n Football.

Una no get tv for house, just asking sha

Psych412:
if he has a laptop with good Action/soap opera movies

that's all

Indirectly telling us you can’t date a guy without a car...

Rozross:
If his apartment is dope and clean and if his cars are �. �

It’s same clipper you posted that I bought for that amount, unless my own Na fake, but it’s all good I wish you good luck on your sales

pstemma1990:
not this very brand sir, u can even get the ones of 5k, some are even sold for above 50k, I didn't buy any how clippers, wanted using them for a saloon, but things didn't go as planned.

This clippers sell nothing more than 7k, because I bought mine few days ago for 6k here in Arena Market Oshodi Lagos

I don’t understand we Nigerians, you kept yourself a virgin till marriage is your decision and that don’t make you a saint, she told you about her past because you asked shows she was naive when she did all of that and she has decided to come clean.. Na some pastor pikin Dey spoil pass.

Imlost:
How can I move on when I don't feel an affection for her like I use to?

You want to break her heart by impregnating her and denying it..
Then you yourself isn’t a serious person

Miravik900:
I want to break her heart so badly I'm planning on impregnating her and denying the pregnancy I just want to see her cry with pain

The problem is Una Dey fine person wey get same problem with una on here instead of looking For a solution

Havemercylord:
Hello everyone, I am 34 years old and I am here to get honest advice from experienced people.

My story will be short and precise.

I met a girl in April, 2022 (this year), she already had 3 kids, TWO for a man and ONE for a man another man.

Before I met this girl, I have what I need at least, i can rent a house, buy my basic needs and even have savings.

But since i met her, i was turned down in all the places where i was promised Good jobs and contracts.

When we went to make consultation, we were told she belongs to water spirit that she refused to give sacrifices or relate well with her fellow water mates, that the more she didn't do the right things for them, my own Life Will be affected too.

She is pregnant for me right now and I have not had any child before.

My question is this, is there anyone here who has had similar experience?

We were told to appease her water mates, that afterwards, things will change for good.

And i have also heard from several people that most times after doing all the sacrifices, things might not change much for the man.

And all these sacrifices cost money!!!

WHAT CAN I DO?

SHOULD I LEAVE HER OR FIGHT THE BATTLES WITH HER?

Whoever you are wherever you are, may wisdom continue to be with you

faithfull18:
You should have completed the course since you managed to get to final year.

Those who compare themselves with others aren't wise.

You can always go back to school since you said you aren't lacking if you want to. Nothing is impossible. You don't have to work in an office to be financially buoyant.

Very smart question, I hope the OP answers

fman:
Welfare can help you get ur kids.
Since u r capable of training Them.
Plz no vex,
Who be this [color=#ff4500]He[/color] in your post?

It’s obvious the previous person isn’t clean and don’t wash the toilet regularly, so why fear that the new one will get to same level if you wash it regularly

jeromestarks:
And what happens when the new get stained?

Go and buy Sudo Cream, it works good

200k for blender, This is a KILLER SALE not a CLEARANCE SALE

I thought I was the only one who noticed this blessedmercy always make up different stories.

Grillbar:
What is wrong with this poster is there a reward for opening stupid threads and one per day I don't know of? Mercy you are too stupid for my liking why did you not ask her or google this question. Emmanuelbrown come and see your friend.

God will Bless your wife and she will put to bed successfully a beautiful and healthy baby By God grace

tomtomastom4:
I created this thread in response to the post on front page about ladies that date men who earn less than 100k. Below is the link.

https://www.nairaland.com/7292274/ladies-relationship-men-earns-100k

Of a truth, its not easy to manage such amount, but when one is already in such situation, you just have to manage and improvise.
Now like the OP of the above thread requested, here is the break down of how we make our expenses.

To start with, I was earning about 130k previously before we got married by March this year, but I changed job and the pay of the new job is 95k. STarted the new job around Feb this year, even though there was a loan I was paying off.. Need I add that my wife was working in a firm where shes paid 45K, but two months after our married, she quit the job due to pregnancy stress. Am sure ladies will understand.

This is our break down.
Monthly salary 95k
I remove 40k first from the salary and transfer it to 3 different acct.
The first acct receives 20k. This acct is not touchable except on extreme emergency. Its our main savings acct.
The second acct gets 10k and its for our rent, also non touchable. Rent is 150k per year. Before u say my rent is high compared to my salary, I like my privacy very well. and the cost of rent isnt friendly in my state.
The third acct also gets 10k. This one is for semi savings. This acct is touchable when cash at hand have been exhausted before the next month salary.

From the remaining 50k,
I send 10k to my family acct. I and my brothers do contribute 10k+ every month and its been used to run expenses WRT our parents and last born.
I gv my wife 10k for her monthly up keep. Its small. But its the sacrifice we all have to make for the good of the family.
I hold 10k myself for logistics and transport. I must confess, is not enough. But One have to strive. My wrk place isnt far. SO transport is N100 to and fro, thats approximately 3k per month. The remaining money i use it for other logistics. 4k out of this money goes for gas wch last for abt 2 weeks. And when we want to refill and there is no other money left, we fall back to the 3rd acct.
The remaining 20k is strictly for food ( On this food issue is where I "duff my hart" cos shes really managing things well and trying.
Sometimes, I really feel for her, cos this her pregnancy makes her to crave for things that is not on our food menu, but then when the money is not there, she just surpress the cravings. At times I feel bad.

The remaining 5k, for now is used to pay back a tailor who sewed multiple pregnancy gowns for my wife.

Its good to add that any small money I make like 1k or 2k on side hustle, I directly buy mudu of rice, beans or flour for swallow.

Its not easy at all. But there are families with kids leaving below that.

My wife is abt 5mnths pregnant, we plan to divert the 20k savings to buying baby things in preparation for child birth.


The truth is that the economic situation in this country is bad and so cost of leaving is very high. But then one have to survive.
But then in Nigeria now, how many percentage of the population earn above 100k. In fact how many jobs out there pays such as amount.

The only advice I have for ladies is that if you are not working and you parent family is the type need financial help from your husband after marriage, or you are the type of lady that is high class and wont settle for less or manage with your man. Plz kindly wait and take your time to look for a man that is RICH or financially capable of taken care of you and maybe your family. Please dont hide under the cover of you want to marry quick and then accept a struggling man only to start putting pressure on his head. Plz wait and marry a rich man.

Most responsible men wont really appreciate it if you are always demanding for things you knw fully well that he can not afford.


It is also good to note that no condition is permanent, things will definitely get better. A better job might come or my wife might get a job after her maternity which will increase our income.

The bottom line is, as a couple, but of you will have to work things out to improve your finances.

Bros Abeg just leave her, God will help her and help us too

Eboski:
I will teach her how to be a supportive wife today , I want her to know 100k salary can build a house in Lagos…

Bro thanks for all of these, this is exactly what I was trying to tell her when she was scared of marrying a man that earns 100k, that’s the problem with most ladies today, they want already made guys they don’t even bother about how these guys make money, they just want to be in there

Eboski:
I have read through your write up but I will like to reply and also advise you, you can go through my profile if you wish…
I work with fg institutions with a salary of 85k for a start, do my side hustle also, that year I got employed I went to my salary bank, I locked my account for good 7 months to enable me meet up with my marriage plans.

During that period no girl is in my life for marriage but I just want to save up when I meet one , during that period i met my wife and we got married without owing anyone all through the wedding period, we enter our house with debt free, I was driving my own car, living a good apart , my wife don’t need to buy any households stuff because everything has be set for her, like I said I am doing my side hustle..

From there my salary increased but my side hustle/business pay me times ten of my salary.

We are living okay , with two children , and mt kids attend of one the best school where we reside, my wife drive her own car ,

Now, it doesn’t matter how much he/she received has salary because is pensionable, but you can introduce your man a business that will bring more money to the table, also your own support as a wife will also help him a lot, during this period of no work no pay , we are feeding well, living very comfortable, because the Side hustle is keeping us going.

Please, don’t give up on him there is also promotion that will increase his salary over time , you can encourage him to take loan for you start to up something, if where he work they have cooperative, he should join also, he can also buy Corolla for bolt business, neither he give it out for higher purchases or he drive it himself, do you know how much he will be making every week , he can also be paying himself salary from there after working hours, please don’t give up on that young man ,

Just as I grew up to know TRUTH IS BITTER, you’re excused

Blessedmercy8:
You don't make any sense. Please excuse me!

I read through the story, the comments and all, With your borrowing attitude as a single lady even a 100k earner won’t want to come near you, because you will put him in debts

Blessedmercy8:
I think this should make more sense now and show you the reasons for my fears and worries.

If as a single I still seek loans even with my current earnings, then imagine doubling my expenses by marrying a man who earns such amount and giving birth in this economy.

I wonder how you people reason.

No The same You BlessedMercy wey dey fear to marry guy wey dey earn 100k per month. I think say You earn more than 100K as you said on your story so why you dey talk of Loan of 60k

That means you the OP is a big LIAR, why you Dey fear if you say you earn a little above the man, that means you don’t even have anything to support don’t say you earn a little more than him, Men Scarce ooo

Blessedmercy8:
These are exactly my fears cos once somebody enters the next thing is to start having children. With such income coupled with other expenses, I dey fear o.

I am sure you just finished secondary school or you are a 100 level student and Dey house because of ASUU strike, ride on sister, but pls answer the person who earlier asked How much you Dey earn

Jennyclay:
No, I can't marry someone who earns 100k per month. Why must you enter a marriage to suffer? Can 100k afford you a good house, buy your hair and makeups? Have you even thought of raising children who should be fed, clothed and sent to good schools? Can 100k work these things out? No!

Reject that poor man and his meagre 100k; a better man will locate you. All you have to do is believe and wait for the right man to come.