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EmergencyCase:
To think my intuition and brilliance will be in vain. I had everything working in my favour until now. I was always amongst the top 2 best right from primary school. At the university, i distinguished myself with my contributions. I remember one time after a 4-unit course, our law lecturer came into the class and asked: "who's tunde balogun [pseudonym]?" I got up to answer my name. "your write up was brilliant. Only you got an A" she added.

I felt honoured. The whole class clapped for me. Other lecturers took note of me. Now, all that was of no use. i didn't graduate. Hmmm.... I could bet i would have been the best. Health and finance issues held me back.

It really hurts that over four years invested in the higher institution accounted for nothing. I envy those with even 3rd class now [at least they finished].

How do you expect me to feel? Happy? Surely, no!

My brother about 60% of Nigerians can relate to your problem at one point or the other... It's because of this kind of situation that made me to see this world as a playing ground...I don't take life much serious because in which ever situation one must die either gruesomely or jejely... This life can be funny, my mentality in my university days is quiet different from my present mentalities... Life tought me different things entirely from what i used to beleive when I was conveniently under my parent... I used to think life is an easy going journey but reverse is obviously the case... OMO I have seen the rich that used to oppress us as poor that we were but now a pitiable poor person. This man doesn't greet anyone in the street back then because every one else in the community was poor. But now, Life has tought him the virtues in humility. He is now as humble as anything. What we are saying is that which ever progressive situation we find ourselves is a function of privilege... I am saying all these to let you know that you are not the only one in this kind of situation, there are many outside in worst situation even than yours. My brother, don't put unnecessary pressure on your self, don't ever think you ought to have been this you ought to have been that, don't compare your self to anyone else, the more you do all these the more u get your self hurt... Forget taking life much serious, do things with your best ability as it comes your way, create a close contact with your God and always be positively hopeful for better days... Having done all these, my brother you have done your best... maybe when you get to heaven you can now have a clear understanding of why you were not among the previledged... God will surely see you through...ameeen

dharamanil:
May be she witnessed something in her life that made her realise that awon aye wa.......

If you have not had any spiritual experience before don't judge her ok. If an alfa randomly calls me for a spiritual advice, I would listen.

Too much English and Dstv is making you thing she is stupid.

Be happy that she goes all out for problems that concerns you (she is not selfish) Some girl don't care what you be facing all they need is ur dikk and money.......

My advise for you now is to always listen to when she talks so u would know how to protect yourself from any eventualit.

Pay attention to any spiritual issue placed in front of you because trully ur village people follow you

Guide your woman don't judge her, na normal thing, Naija na traditional country if you think na lie, seat down for Tjunction to discover wetin dey chop eboh....

You are funny

marvelli:
Sorry OP...I know people like your girlfriend. I dont know if I should call it gullibility or stupidity but its very irritating to witness. And I know im a lady o, but its mostly common amongst ladies. From what ive noticed they dont change. If you keep complaining about it, she'll just hide it from you.

Exactly... she hide it sometimes...

Kampack:
Her spiritual consultants will sooner than later give her some condiments to sprinkle on your food in order to gain your heart and luv, but guess what, consider yourself fortunate if you live to tell the story..because that condiment na POISON! so after you arr gone, they will shag her with further maniacal acrobatism you described. Mumu Op

Saying you cant end 2yr relationship shows you are even more gullible than your gf. Wait till the 2year relationship ends you na.

Lol...God forbid

atilla:
Op
I would go wif IamD18 s advice above.

If she doesn't open up to u. The best advice after that would be not to try to advice her but take care of urself and find another girlfriend. She will only end up putting u in trouble by doing Sumfin evil either to u or that wil get u in trouble also

What of if she doesn't have anything to open up ? Besides, do you think it will be easy for me to end almost 2 years relationship... it is easy to give this kind of advice since you are not the one in love. I love every thing about this girl, the only grey area is this her gullibility and I only seek advice as per how it can be reduced...

TIDDOLL:
[/b]She's indeed gullible, no doubt has to do with naivety and insecurity.

You just have to maintain your stance and reiterate your values and views over and over again, till it sinks into her gene pool.

Because, a gullible mind is a loose cannon!

Might later lead her to being Diabolical[b]

Thanks bro

highqueen:
marry this one,and your household properties will be residing in pastor's or Alfa 's home.



she's too blinded and naive.


did she finish secondary school atall?

Yes, she is pretty but too naive...

anibirelawal:
Any girl with such traits that turned to norm can never change, It will get worse if you eventually marry her. Guy run for your dear life, you are too young to allow a spiritual bound girl to destroy your precious life, all in the name of love.

I have been trying to convince her to live normal but she will never listen... but if the unthinkable eventually happen, she will be like I never knew it will end this way ( with remorse )

stupidity:
IF you can’t stop her from all these, better break up with her, a day will come one of her spiritual father will tell her to flee from you. If she could be that gullible, she’ll do it

This is exactly one of my fear...

Good day everyone, I just want some piece of advise on how to cope and preferably reduce the gullibility of my girl friend. I pricelessly love my girl friend. She is well behaved, cultured, respectful and greatly submissive but my only concern with her is her gullibility, looking every thing at the point of religion and dogmatical at those things that is obviously other wise.

She once made me fell prey to one Alfa very close to her house. This is the whole story: There was a time I went to visit her, we were together inside the room when we heard a knock, it was the Alfa that sent for me and my girl. Behold, me and my girl did not waste time to answer the Alfa. We got there, the Alfa did not say much but only adviced us on the need to trust ourselves. Without wasting much time, he( Alfa ) discharged us but instructed me to come back alone the following day. I went back there alone as he instructed, he( Alfa ) began to narrate how my village people and the enemy withing are after my life and destiny and that something urgent has to be done. He (Alpha) said we are going to do "saraah"( pls permit me to use this word, I don't know the English word for it ) and after this, all the storm will be over. Inside of me and right in front of the Alfa, I was just smilling that this one is looking for a way to gulp money from me. I did not even exchange any word with him but assured him that I will get back to him.

Lo and behold, I got home and my girl asked me what we discussed. I explained everything but I said affirmatively to my girl that I am not going to visit the Alfa again. My girl began to beg me to do what the Alfa said but i held firmly on to my stance until third day when my girl began to cry profusely and hysterically, disturbing me to do what the Alfa said. As it is, I valuelessly love my girl, so i decided to do it since this is what will bring smile on her face.

Without wasting much time further, I went to the Alpha and began saraah upon saraaah that requires money upon money. All these "saraah" was done on my behalf by this Alpha without me witnessing it my self, my only duty in the whole process was to bring money at the point it was needed.

To cut it short, before it dawned on me and my girl friend, I have spent almost 60k within the space of just 5 days.

After realising that this Alpha was fraudulently sipping money from me, I angrily went to my girlfriend and immediately, she knelt down, she was begging me that she never knew that the Alfa was fraudulent. Well, at this point, I have to just forget it and let the issue go into oblivion. This mark the end of our relationship with the Alpha.

As if this is not enough, my girlfriend turned to another Pastor. The pastor is even staying not far to that former Alfa. My girl friend is a type that believes in anybody holding bible and call himself pastor. As time went on, she turned this pastor to her spiritual consultant and she did visit this pastor's place frequently since the place is very close to her house. I kept telling my girl friend on the need to reduce her frequency into this pastor's place, but she see me as devils incarnate anytime I say anything against pastor even when what i am saying is obvious.

Believe me, 3 days ago, my girl friend narrated how this pastor almost raped her in his house. I was verry happy and had to make gest of the whole narration because my warning had come to past. She shouldnt have let me know but she was advised by another Pastor to inform me (as her annointed boyfriend that I am ).

Don't be deceived, my girl is not S.U ooooo, we fork different styles with maniacal acrobatism at any point in time we so desire. Besides this, I know what i am saying, she is not a spirit-Koko type. She is just a normal girl that hypocritically love spiritual things.

Now as I am writing, my girl friend has started visiting another pastor but not as frequent as before. I expressed my displeasure about her almost unreasonable dogmatism but she sees me as devils incarnate.

Pls my people, how can I make her soft-pedal in her quest for spirituality and set her on reasoning devoid of religion when necessary...?

Mcy56:
Thanks for this.
The type of comment i was looking for and wanted to give if i found none.
@op, why cant you sit and think deep on the events that unfolded? You were once very okay but then, the table turned and you became insecured. She now feeds you instead and then, the next thing is to impregnate her? Seems your village people are reasoning your matter.
Please try and pray very well to know the source of your problem in order to tackle it headlong so you can regain urself back first.
I don talk my own.

Thanks..

pedrilo:
maybe, hopefully etc na so ur papa take feed u?

We never had enough when we were growing and so also the majority of households in the community where i grow... Besides, i am just seeking advice if i should do it or not...

pedrilo:
we need to tell her u r goin crazy and planning evil against her.
how can u tink of impregnating her wen u r broke? why didnt u impregnate her wen u had money?
u r a wicked person, instead of u to focus on gettin tins right financially u r plotting evil for her.
if u impregnate her now, who will take care of the baby? u knw how much dem dey sell baby food n diapers for market?
u want to destroy her life because of ur wicked mind. Ur plan will fail bros.

It is because of my love for her... I can never impregnate a lady I don't love...

OfficialAPCNig:
Your mates are busy getting their PVCs and you are here telling us you killed an innocent child before.

You are the problem of this country.

FYI, the blood of that kid is your karma.

Mrs holy holy....for your info, I never killed a babe, it was just a blood and never turned a baby yet when it was piped out... it was her choice self and not mine

cooooooks:
These are the demons that we men need to call out. She never leave you yet but you want to pour inside her abi.

If you guys are still together after she aborted before then it means you wanted the previous abortion too.

Focus on getting back on your feet. Not on getting your girl pregnant when you don't have money.

Thanks....but my love for this girl no be here...

pedrilo:
we need to tell her u r goin crazy and planning evil against her.
how can u tink of impregnating her wen u r broke? why didnt u impregnate her wen u had money?
u r a wicked person, instead of u to focus on gettin tins right financially u r plotting evil for her.
if u impregnate her now, who will take care of the baby? u knw how much dem dey sell baby food n diapers for market?
u want to destroy her life because of ur wicked mind. Ur plan will fail bros.

It will be hard taking care of the babe but I will never run away... Maybe things would have even changed before the result of the pregnancy will come to fore... hopefully

gulfer:
The fact that you impregnate her will not make her yours permanently or otherwise...............Get a sustainable job first and discuss your futures together with her. She might be or not be yours in the long run, so take it easy and plan well

Suuny Ade & Onyeka Onwenu:

BECAUSE...............

Having babies,no be joke oh...
you go feed them,give them clothe
and give them love too...

If you never ready to carry the load,why put am for another person head?

....If you love life,you go plan am well!

Thanks

Mosesoly:
if you truly love her and she truly loves you, please don't impregnate her, just go and do introduction, If you truly want to spend your life with her, let her parents know about your condition, you never can tell they may help you

Thanks, but I think this is trial and error...

Mille:
I wonder what sort of stupid thinking this is.

You don't have money to feed yourself, now you want to add two more mouths or possibly more. To do what actually?

izzou , please stop calling this one a man. He is still thinking like a new born. I hate stupid and dumb boys like this. Imagine someone without a source of income wanting to bring babies to the world.

You obviously have no idea of how I am feeling...

DrWxt:
She loves you dearly and you've been blinded by ego. I don't mean this in a bad way. Currently, you feel because you're broke she might end up with another guy. Through the times you had enough, you weren't threatened because you knew she wouldn't leave you for another. That's what makes a man a man. Right now she still loves you and you can attest to that. The problem here is not her, it's you. Being jealous gives rise to unnecessary quarrels and drama, you begin to imagine things that are not there and later start cooking up plans to victimize the other. You will be the one pushing her away from you, the other guys don't have to work so hard. Don't betray her trust by making her pregnant. If you think times are hard for you now, try raising a child in this present economy and see how you will turn out to hate your wife and child.

The solution here is to find your feet again. Get out of the financial bondage you are presently, there's is an appointed time for everything. Men must always chase women especially the ones who are in a relationship. It's the norm, just remind her what she has and work hard to fulfill your dreams. Stop being jealous and you will have a happier life.

Thanks bro.,.I really appreciate

Partnerbiz3:
So you think she cant stay just because things are not rosy again?

I may be wrong bro but this is what i am feeling

izzou:
Do men like this still exist?





Give me your girlfriend's number I need to speak with her

Speak to her for what sir ?

Hello everyone, my relationship with my girl friend will hit 2 years in few months to come. At first, I did not take the relationship serious but later fell in love with her. She is well cultured, caring and respectful. As a result of all these xteristics, I along the line madly fell in love with her. Things were rossy, i was financially gallant and the relationship was on the run smoothly. Now, things suddenly changed, not rossy as it used to be. Though, we are still together and she always profess her love for me even though things are currently hard, but I am not feeling comfortable, relaxed and secured. While she now is on the table of confortability. She is not that jealous as she used to do. The table finally turned, I am the one now romancing jealousy because she has a lot of random guys that disturb her phone with calls. Though, she most of the time put her phone on loud speaker whenever she is receiving a call from a guy so that I will not be thinking of something else. This is a girl I can not afford to lose even not at this critical time. If the girl decide to leave me today, it will be a total knock-down and the catastrophe thereof may be unbearable. Though, for now, there is no physical threat to the realationship, but I do have the feelings that the girl 'may' decide to leave me one day should things continue this way.

Now, as it is, I have every chance to impregnate her, in fact 100% chance. I have a firm believe that she can not abort because she has aborted for me before and she was warned by her most respected spiritual father not to do such thing again ever in her life. I am sure she can not abort. But the issue is, i can not conviniently shoulder any pregnancy now.

Pls my people, I can not afford to lose this girl. My love for her is unexplainable. As a proactive measure and for security purpose, should I impregnate her ? Will this be fair and not amount to selfishness ?

charlesazeh:
1.5 u shall get.. millionaire u must become bro..

Promise and fail yet una they abuse buhari

OMO this world cup na no go area in terms of prediction, na to jejely wait till August when league will start....but wait oooo, which kind life be this self... I be they carry straight winning for big team but changed my style after Argentina Iceland draw... I changed my style to over 1.5 but this Germany match wan make me change again. Maybe na to they bet on seemingly weak opponent sure pass now cos ah no understand again

Make them give us another nah.... i am only interested in thier 1.5

Shey they no go give us 1 more go ni...abi them they mad ni

Godsaves18:
Which kind wahala b dis...na so "STRONG TEAMS" just dey cut people tickets anyhow
No more underdogs o

My brother....I have learnt my lesson since Argentina and Iceland game ended draw...no country come Russia come sell groundnut...stake wisely... or betterstill u wait till August when leagues will fully start....

charlesazeh:
1.5 u shall get.. millionaire u must become bro..

Thanks jere bro...for now, bet is my only hope in sight of becoming an overnight millionare...

As ah no get where ah go watch am, make I they follow am jejely here... Meanwhile I need just over 1.5 from the match to keep my hope of becoming millionare alive...

Op...i guess you are totally broke....