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SavageBoy:
There's this common statement;"look before you leap".The elders here will explain how that applies to your case.

But seriously, some guys need to be schooled on the proper way of wooing or professing love to a lady.It involves strategy and playing your cards well,I won't go into that in details now because I've come to realize that at some certain stages in one's life romantic relationship is nothing but a distraction and waste of time.

Op abeg if you never reach relationship age just go arrange your life well first,don't just worry about it at the moment. There are other more important things in life that deserves your worry abeg

Regardless of d approach, d one way go do go do and d one way no go do no go do... Upon your overkaku and at d end she already has a serious relationship, do u think your tactics can save u from I am not interested cos I got a boyfriend already....Bro shoot your shot as early as possible to know where u stand and whether u should be hopeful or not.... Op you don do well joor, d girl may only be interested in u as friend and you be like ere kini aja n bekun shey...abi ah tell u say ah no get friend bf..? Ladies knows your intention at d inception of meeting them so never crawl like snail bf table it officially

GOFRONT:
VANITY UPON VANIYT....

because say u no get ham abi?...your poverty also is vanity....the choice is yours

ubunja:
just go through my writeups from old to new. Take your time. They'll set you on the path of regaining your lost honour as a man.

After you're done we'll show you other threads and then we'll forward you short books and recommend YouTube videos to explain things further. It's all good fam.

You're too much....I just read some and coming back later to read d rest...its nothing sort of chilling pill...in fact, I am totally edified and now clearly understand where my travail is hiding and how to deal with it to the root...your teachings is worth more than million naira and more or less an opium for the uminformed, pussyy worshiper and sex adherents... I have been living astray and at the mercy of women drama. Now, a new bottle with fresh wine has just been made and more like now, I hereby declare my self a born again UBUNJA...pls can I have your WhatsApp contact, perhaps I can persistently enjoy the previledge of knowing u...

ubunja:
What the hell happend to you?? Lol...

So you are even female...that's cool...any special class on how to be alpha male ?

I need someone to introduce me to Ubunja, I have heard of the guy but never really had conscious and steady contact with his teachings...I need to be following d guy bumper to vender now... My eyes don see fire serially

Her bestie or her pussyy fucker ? Anyway, I will advise not to use fighting approach to retrieve your property from the guy, after all the guy didn't collect d system from you. You can only fight d guy only if diplomacy is no more working. Give your girl ultimatum to get u your laptop and at the lapse of the ultimatum, find a means to contact the guy with most imaginable decorum, explains the ownership of d laptop, exchange words like a real man in friendly regalia. Perhaps the guy also has some explanations to make. If this doesn't seem to work, you can then keep decorum deep down in your pocket and go crazy by involving the police, they will definitely reunite you with your system... But as to what will be d faith of ur relationship with d girl afterward, I am as dumb as anything at this moment...Use your sense

madridguy:
Correct man. I see no reason why our political class need to move around with DSS, Soldiers, Police, if they're doing the right thing.

If i be President tomorrow, i will be going around without any escort. I will even be going to the viewing center go watch football, especially El Classico night and argue with the barca people.

Kidnappers does not kidnap bad people alone...and there are people out there that will like to kill u for no reasons

Well, I would probably have done d same, it depends on my mood sha...

But this Aboki is just a man of conscience, not that he did it for Allah, another person will see d money and conceived it to be a blessing from d same Allah...

Stay away from Nigeria politics if u want a peaceful heart...it is just like a football... Politicians are the players while d masses is the ball they drag between themselves...

ogene144:
I wil go naked by 3am for three days to lay curses on her.... she wil die untimely Stupid Kafayat Funmilayo Oloriburuku

Lol...bro that girl do you strong thing gan o... Well, I will advise you forget and accept the pain she caused u in good faith...u don't need to curse her... Heartbreak is painful anyway but its part of those things that defines this life a difficult adventure. I had two heartbreak already, the first one was painful and almost unbearable and the second one also painful a bit but not that serious due to my experience with d first one. Bro the earlier you realise that there is nothing like love the more you smile everyday... Treat ladies according to how they are naturally configured...they are not meant to be trusted except your mom... Their mood changes with conditions and any love from them is always conditional... Bro take note of all these and spare your self emotional pain... Bro make ah burst u, as he be ehn, these days, any words from ladies they always sound like lie in my hearing even though she is saying the truth...its not my fault, I just found my self so b'cos of the lessons of experience

ogene144:
I prayed the lady that broke my heart last year October died like this Auchi ladies Edo in particular are harlot

Lol...bro ah no they feel pity for ladies anymore when it comes to d issue of heartbreak...she would have done d same if she had opportunity...

And that innocent, upright and lovely guy that has been disturbing her for relationship but rejected be like...

Just buy her waiting mouth they chop in different varieties and large quantities...women like immediate merriment baje

GamalNasser:
Impressive for his age but he is using one of two common formulas used to do this either Zeller rule formula or Key value date formula which he must have been taught by his dad or mum..but for his age it's impressive, very impressive that he has memorized the formula

Bad belle, go and use the same formulae and come back here to tell us d day of 10/10/2030 withing seconds

agemmy113:
Pls Nairalanders, I need your advice. My boss traveled out of the country and she posted a picture on her WhatsApp status which I commented on 'what a nice pics'.

But to my surprise she is taking it up.
Pls what should I do?

Edited: I wrote Good pm ma, what a nice look.
She hasn't confronted me but she told her housegirl that I will have to explain what I mean to her when she comes back.

Baba be bold enough to confront her that you were only complimenting her

People always mistake me for yahoo guy....ah don tire for this.. Ao many people ah wan tell say ah no they do yahoo

She called me her self this morning haven sent her the message below, she discussed with me at length and pledged her love and loyalty again, but some part of me is not taking her words so serious...


LETTER TO MISS ABIMBOLA...

First and fore most, I will like to thank you for the time spent with me so far. Honestly, you have been a nice person and a woman with clear conscience and that will rather say the truth than lie for unmerited gains. Since we have been together, I have never suspected you of any foul play and the transparent manner with which you came along is undoubtedly commendable. You remain one in a million.

How else should I describe a woman who has such tenacity to sail her self to the age of 24 without breaking that sacred veil of her pride for anything at all.

Admittedly, you're a dedicated christian that makes moral value a guiding principle. You stand for Gods principle and doesn't want anything at all that will push you off track of your believe. As it is, I have always aligned my self with your believe, commitment and dedication and never will i be a stumbling block in your bid to be a beloved child of God.

However, I am bitterly heartbrokened. I have been a shadow of my self since I saw your message. This should not have come this early, not even at this time of festivity when smile of excitement should be the wind blowing all around. I am sad and this important moments of crossing over to another round figure year of 2020 may be written on a marble as tragic period of time in the annals of my existence.

Till now, looking back to how we started, the terrain and those short moments we shared together, I am finding it difficult to accept the fact that you can come out this way on me.

At this moment, heartbreak is what I least expected. It came as a shock which continue to tie me to perpetual moment of reflections.

Understandably, you are your self and you know what is good for you. I can not force you to love me, I can only induce you to. I can not force myself on you, I can only prove how deep I love you through my actions and inactions. After this, the choice is now yours to decide if you can flow with me all along. Therefore and flowing from this, trust me you have not done anything wrong but you are only telling me your actual feelings towards me. Some ladies will hide this but you chose to let me know in good faith and out of clear conscience. Kudos!

Interestingly, you admitted in your breakup message that I was so nice to you. ABIMBOLA, don't be surprised that I will continue to be a nice person at any point in time destiny ever made us to cross path.

Haven said the above, I think it is overarchingly necessary to correct you on certain issues that you raised in your breakup message. Firstly, you talked about sex. Seriously, I have zeroed my mind on sex since the day you came to my home. What is most paramount to me at this point in time is my future. I still have a long way to go and by this, I can wait as long as you desire. Secondly, you made an heavy statement that you don't love me, may I tell you that you can not assertively judge your love towards somebody with just a relationship of 2months plus. I think you need to reconsider your stance and lets move on further and let's see how things unfolds.

ABIMBOLA, To God Who Made Me, i am writing from the bottom of my heavy heart, just admit that TAYO loves you.

Well, looking at the perfection of various creations, I don't doubt the existence of God. For instance, in human...we have male and female and of course, there is clear thick line between them in terms of some body parts, i don't think I have ever seen a situation whereby a male will have a womb exclusively known to belong to women. The creation is just so perfect that such error is clearly impossible. Again, as humans, we need certain things for survival which are only available on earth and not available, as of now, on other known planets. There must be a force responsible for this and I think it will not be out of place to call this force God. However, to every discerning minds, there are some things that are just obviously doubtful but which form the basis of our various religions. E.g The teaching of hell and heaven. The teaching of after life, the teaching of karma and the rest.

To me, all these concept are necessary for the survival of any religion. People always want a refuge of hope and consolation for their weaknesses. And this our various religions are beautifully offering. Hence, the reason why every religion emphasize faith and believe system as unavoidable requirement for every true worshipers. If not, will people not one day rise and begin to demand for evidence of what they do ?

Anyway, all in all, I pray that there is actually after life, because totally disappearing from this world by means of death do scare the shit out of me...

oghenekome51:
Bro I'm a fellow woman, so I kinda understand what it feels for a guy to love u when u don't. The guilt is killing! Especially when you try so hard to return the feelings. I know ure hurting a lot, but trust me, its the best thing she can do for u out of the little love she has for you!

I'l advise that u lick ur wounds, try and get over it. Time heals the heart but it not gonna be easy!

Thanks ma'am

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
are you a medical doctor? if yes!
did you run any medical diagnosis on her to ascertain her virgin status?

or she just removed her pants and opened her leg and you saw a pussay sealed with #250 hundred gram top bond and you concluded that she's a virgin?

Bro, I am beginning to ponder on how I even checked d virginity with the comments so far...She only removed her pant and opened her leg widely far apart...then I saw a kind of blood logged flesh covering the inward... Could there be any kind of misconception through this method ?

chinnyonwu:
Hard luck play boy.
By the way, why are you guys chatting as if it's morning when the timestamps say afternoon?
And how did you say yoy checked the virginity bikonu
These NL boys won't kill me

It was d time I did d screenshort

Ikjosh04:
Childish relationship, you lost the relationship and not the friendship, so I advise you be a good friend with her and work on yourself and thrive to raise your standards financially, mentally and in all aspects let her see that you are a matured guy that can protect her(all girls need to see this in you most especially the Virgins ones) in all aspects. I was once in this kind of situation in 2012. We where young and naive and she broke up with me because of the Sex and Virgin stuff but fast forward to this year, I was the one that still opened up the hole. Meanwhile we didn't date from 2012 to 2019 and I'm not currently dating her but I've developed myself in such a way that I'm above average than many guy's out there and I don't actually mean financially. Just develop yourself and things will fall in place. Dating Virgin girl's is really cumbersome and I've dated 3 girls in my life that are all virgins when we started dating. My last girlfriend we dated for a yr plus and I broke up with her cause d girl was disturbing me with the marriage issues in which I'm not ready for that at the moment and actually she gat married this December and I was at the wedding. I'm still a very close friend to all my 3 ex and believe me you when I tell you all this girls gives me my full respect and I can still flirt with them when I'm around them cause na me open their eyes.
@Op pls let me know when you read this by quoting me so I can bring this comment down.

Lol...thanks...points noted

Shibaraba:
Person Don enter bus dey go e tell you bye bye you dey tell driver make he wait. Even if driver wait he go still go last last

I like the girl already. Na correct girl. You want use prick scatter her life. She japa. Very good girl.

May our female kids get sense like this one o. Unlike all the Lagos Ibadan expressways punna wey full this forum

Bro waiting u think say ah fit do nah

PHOTO: Dilemma, This Is My Girlfriend's Christmas Gift For Me...

I have never been this confused in my life. I started dating my girl like 3 months ago. This is a girl that is committed to Gods things and firmly stands on christian value and principle in her dealings all around.

Shortly along the line of our relationship, she revealed to me that she is a virgin which I doubted until she allowed me to verify like I was taken child delivery for her. She is 24 years old, her dad is a deeper life pastor and a solder at the same time.

Funny enough, her dress does not suggest that she has anything at all to do with deeper life, though she doesn't wear trousers and doesn't put on hair rings. But in all of these, her look still doesn't bear semblance with a typical religious person.

She asked me if I can wait until marriage in terms of sex because she is not ready to give up her virginity for anything at all until official solemnisation, firstly because she doesn't want to disappoint her dad and secondly, because she doesn't want to betray her Christian value and believe. I was so happy to have a woman of such rarely found quality in my life and never thought it twice before striking a relationship deal of no sex with her.

All was going fine. Once in a while we passionately kissed when such opportunity presents it self. While doing this, I sometimes got carried away by stretching my hands towards the location of NO GO AREA clearly defined in the preagreement terms of our relationship. But her determination in protecting that area is second to none.

Honestly, I fell in love with this girl and even the scar of satisfying her is still visible on my body. I did all I could to make her persistently happy.

To cut it short, just this morning, she sent me a breakup message. It was unbelievable and came as a shock because breakup message is what I least expected from her at this nascent stage of our relationship.

Meanwhile, just yesternight which is barely 12 hours ago, we had a good conversation on WhatsApp like we used to have, in which she was asking me about my day, what I ate, my activities for that day and all that. The conversation was so mutual and ran smooth that it didn't suggest any hostility or preconceived plan of breaking up.

Since I saw the message, I have been muttering to my self about what could actually be the real reasons for such spontaneous decision. Though when I pressured her about the real reasons for this action, she told me that a guy broke her heart in 2017, and since that time she has been finding it difficult to love.

Pls how can I handle this situation ? I love this girl genuinely and at the same time, at this stage of my life, I don't want to waste anytime by making repetitive appeal and persuasion in hope that probably she is gonna change her mind...

omo see food for the bad guys in the nearest future...

Blackivy27:
Prayers ni? Please when the child molester was asking teens for sex, God didnt for once cross his perverse mind? Let him rot. Our prayers wont do him much. He needs to find God on his own. He chose this path, he shall walk it. Simple!
Pastor trying to save anothers face. No way. God knows how many girls have been his victim, and how many more could have fallen prey.
Think we are all blinded by religion? Shame!!!

Let he who without sin cast the first stone... You're so eager to judge while covering your own sin...he has done wrong but I pray he has the courage to face d consequence, repent and sin no more...

So after serving his sentence...he does not deserve second chance of upright living again ? In this Nigeria, everybody na thief until caught...

Which kain headline be this...op do the editing asap

Martinez39:
NB: I didn't read the op. Just decided to drop this.

Forgiveness, as seen in holy books, is a scam used by the wicked, indisciplined, and greedy to continue their acts in the guise of "I am a changed person. Give me a second". They play this on the stupid, naive, and nice ones who are tolerate to grant every Tom, Dick, and Harry a second chance because their god commands it.

No environment is more effective in shaping character and giving people the incentive to make better choices than an environment that gives both genders no choice than to take responsibility for their actions and makes it clear that all shall be treated as they deserve.

I understand but any offender deserves a peaceful second chance running after serving his punishment per the law of the land...

lilwetdick:
i hate religious people, they are never logical in reasoning

All these pity, forgiveness stories and repentance stories, is what is making Nigeria lawless today

is it not in the bible that says, you should not use your authority to oppress the weak

also, it says about not doing evil to your neighbor

or is the writer trying to say the man wasn't in his his senses when doing evil...pls spear me that

people that do evil, know what they are doing, there is nothing to pray for.

let him face the consequences of his actions.

Mr man relax and read through again...the writer never advocated to exonerate him of the offence but rather to pray for him to be strong to face the consequence of his actions, repent and find peace with his God...is this too difficult to understand ? We are all sinners in our respective different ways, this is not to justify his actions from the grip of its associated punishment but to underscore the fact that humans are generally hypocrites...

So you want to cast your stone too?!
The main trending issue in our clime at this time is the sting operation by the BBC on the ‘sex for grade’ lecturer, Dr Boniface Igbenegu of the department of European languages, Faculty of Arts, University of Lagos. What made this debacle more odious is the fact that the man in the center of the storm is a Pastor of a popular Pentecostal Church.
Quite understandably, the spontaneity of the manner of dissociation from all the institutional touch points - which the occupational life of the bloke revolves around - evinced the overarching importance of the matter. There is palpable anger in the land considering the egregious infestation of lecherous instructors in our educational institutions. There had been cases of students frustrated from their chosen course of study because of their refusal to give in to the sexual advances of their lecturers. So, the hullabaloo that greeted the professionally executed sting operation was expected. At long last, an incontrovertible proof has been painstakingly put together, which aptly reinforces the ‘name and shame’ gravitation of the society in obliterating the scourge of this menace.
In a jiffy, Dr Boniface Igbeneghu found his world crashing down with a loud bang. The Church movement, where he is a Pastor, relieved him of his position; his employer, University of Lagos, suspended him pending the outcome of investigation; the umbrella trade union, which he belongs -ASUU - released a statement condemning the incontinence of one of their own. We may not know the state of Boniface’s immediate family, but we can hazard a guess that this is a most traumatic time for them. We can only imagine the state of mind of Dr Boniface Igbeneghu at this time. Earlier today, I wrote to a few friends about the need for prayers and counseling for the man , so that he would not see suicide as an option out the multifarious trouble which the indiscretion of his choices brought upon him. Later on, I got an unverifiable statement on the social media that he is currently hospitalized after a suicide attempt!
Undoubtedly, there is need to assist him in pulling through this because the Christian faith teaches that God is not interested in the death of a sinner but for him to repent. It is vitally important that this debacle shall excite Godly sorrow (which leads to repentance!) in him.
Unfortunately, society (not just this one) is often draped in hypocritical dissimulation. This kind of scenario provides some or many (who are worse enablers and purveyors of iniquity against God and society) to cast their stones of condemnation. This shadowy pretense had been the underpinnings of human behaviour, even from the time of Jesus Christ. There was a woman who was brought to Jesus by a motley crowd with undisguised murderous indignation. Her offense was that she was caught in the ‘very act’ of sexual relationship. In the mosaic law, an adulterous person must be stoned to death; they were unswerving in the collective desire to mete out the sentence on the woman. Jesus heard them the first time they laid their charge on the woman. But Jesus, seeing through the chicanery of their narrative, pretended that he did not hear them. He knew that among them were extortioners, robbers, murderers; there was a the gaping chasm in the narrative of the seeming nonexistent sexual partner. It was ONLY the woman who was caught ‘in the very act’! After exhausting their breathless impatience, he then asked the murderous mob, “Anyone of you who is without sin should cast the first stone!” Being condemned by their conscience, they cast away their stone and vamoosed from the place, leaving only Jesus and the condemned woman. Then, Jesus asked, “where are your accusers?” She replied, “ they have left.” “Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more”, Jesus quipped with the finality of a compassionate Judge!
Jim Baker was a tele-evangelist in the US. He was one of the founders of Christian Broadcasting Network (CBN). I once read about how he labored tirelessly, even with hot tears, with the founder (Pat Robertson) to sustain the evangelistic outreach ministry. But his hand was caught in the ‘cookies jar’ by his congregation. He was taken to court and found guilty. He was sentenced to prison custody. Spontaneously, some self-righteous ministers like Jimmy Swaggart (from Baton Rouge, LA) excoriated him sorely. Less than six months later, he was defrocked by

Assemblies of God Church after being caught in compromising posturing with prostitutes.
Paul, an Apostle of Jesus Christ, wrote in Galatians 1:1-2, “Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
This is the time for the true fathers of faith to support Dr Boniface Igbeneghu in pulling through this time, without truncating his life and destiny. Whilst the society may mete out the appropriate punishment for his transgression, the overarching concern should be about his soul finding peace with his God. This is not the time for carefully concealed gossip in the guise of preachment from the pulpit; it is time to pray. And as we pray, may the God -who answers prayers - hear us, so that the infestation of shameful misconduct shall be extirpated from land.
Engr. Rotimi Fashakin, FNSE.

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