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itsmeurLady:
You still can't even comprehend the simplest things that I am a child of God Any Man? Sorry to burst your bubble, scroll up and you will see that not all men agree with this school of thought, only the negative controlling ones accepted this theory. Do u kno who a child Of God is Maybe u should research on that so that u can understand properly... BTW it's Cheers! and not Sheers

See what we are saying... You have to correct my english with respect... Cant you say... BTW sir, it's Cheers ! and not sheers sir

itsmeurLady:
I am a woman of God, we don't see things the way the world sees them. There is no message for me to take there as long as it is negative. I only listen to positive messages so that only positive vibes can flow out of me. I don't say words just for saying sake, I say words to inspire, build and encourage... So if your words do not do any of that to me, I do not take it. We all have choices in life, and this is one of the choices I have made in my life.

D guy tell you say him be child of satan ? Him self no know God as you know am ? So, stop saying you sees things differently...

itsmeurLady:
Falsehood? See young Man first, I am a child Of God and I don't see things the way people of the world see it cs that's what my Lord has instructed me to do and I will do it. I don't live my life the way everybody else lives it, I guess that why I am having exceptional results in everything that I do and it's okay if you cannot comprehend where I stand because even the same bible told me that the things of the word are spiritually discerned and it's like foolishness unto mere man , they can never comprehend neither can they understand. The scripture has already told me that people will look at me as though I am insane but it gladly shows I am on the right path.

Secondly, did you read her post? Did you see anywhere where she typed she does not respect her husband ? She didn't say or state that, you can go and re-read again. The young man was just quoting out of context. Do Have a nice day!

You have already configured your self to remain antithetical to what ever any man says on this thread, I think this is exactly the content of your psycology and aspirations at this moment. Anyway, i wish you best luck as a hardworking woman you are claiming to be... Sheers

itsmeurLady:
Wow, you are really dominating.... I should feel lucky I don't need this sort of negativity, I know how to treat my man right and trust me, my man is nothing like what you think. So understand that men are different, not everyone is traditional. You have not taken any single advice on this forum from any lady, so why should I take yours? Things are not done that way at least not in this 21st century. Mind you, you don't have a clue of how men act, if you think you do, you need to change your circle and meet positive folks

Madam, the guy was explaining the conciousness of men when it comes to relationship to you i clear terms but u still have the courage to be struggling in the defeat of analysis to remain relevant in the cage of falsehood ... He never go against hardworking women but was of the opinion that women regardless of class and status must respect thier husband...

Saff:
You are blinded by gossip stories and social media lies. The reality is that, yes women get their wahala. But the truth is that, most men cannot live this bachelor lifestyle for too long, because there’s indeed so much value in women. Most cant stay single for more than a year, despite your resentment towards us. The natural urge and instincts will lead you to look for a female mate, even though we are classified as “useless”. Useless indeed. Most of you men are so emotionally weak, hence the ranting and complaints. Women averagely consume x10 of not only emotional but physical trauma that marriage brings, yet we survive and make a way. Oga the truth shall remain the truth.

I am talking from experience, not what i read, i felt it my self... It may be sweet at some point, but when she start the drama u may want to curse the day u meet her...

Saff:
Honestly, going through this thread was shocking. I’ve realised that men of this generation are mentally incapable of handling life circumstances, therefore they opt for the easy way out. I will not dismiss the fact that both genders have issues, however men these days have completely lost their masculinity. If you believe staying single, and patronising ashewos till old age is the solution to mental solidity and peace in your life, then there’s clearly something wrong with you. You’re only digging a deeper hole for yourself.

Men of this generation have been raised to be boys, no masculine figure around them to teach them the fundamentals on survival. They’re so many hard working, strong educated women in this world who are the glue to their families, yet we have some weak men all over social media classifying all women into one bracket. Women have been raised to carry the burden, mentally and physically exhaust their lives for their husbands, from childhood we are trained to behave in ways that will positively impact our family home. We are superwomen. We see single mothers taking care of 4 children, without complaints. How often do we see that from men? Men have been trained to run away from the slightest issues, when things do not go their own way. Why do you think a lot of men rely on substances to function? They’re minds have been trained to disregard any life challenges that come their way.

Men want to go their own way, I Laugh. They’ll still be unable to handle the mental agony that comes with isolation. So sometimes when you see certain comments on social media, it’s better to smile and move on. Because in reality, it’s just not practical.

Madam, you are only talking on behalf of d few responsible women out there... Most Nigeria women only come to man's life to steal, kill and destroy emotionally... If care is not taking, they can sniff life out of you...

Could he be aboki or normal human being ?

Chukwudiajibo:
Please help me with advice, My kids sister's friend loves me so much, the first time she visit our house she have fallen inlove with me without been noticed, she tried to get my attention but to no avail, i'm a type of guy that can never talk to a lady at first sight, alots of ladies complained that i form to much and that is my nature, so this girl tried to get my attention but it fails, barely 2months she add me on facebook, then we started chating, and introduced ourselves, now she opened up to me how much she loves me, she is 24yrs and am 30yrs, she confess to me that she known me since 2010, though i cant recall, this girl is very beautiful and sexy, but to be honest with u guys i dont like her, she loves me like madness, she can do anything just to have me, last 2months she borrowed me N50,000 and asked me to return only N40,000 and keep the N10,000 for my self, i didnt requested, she heard it from my kid sister that i need N50,000 to help one of my sister in the university, my only problem with this girl is that, she like traveling alots which am not comfortable with, the more she travel, the more i hates her, though i didnt make it known to her, this girl is begging me to give her my time but i cant, i even told her my relationship with a girl which she even know the girl very well, yet she still want me, i hate girls that travels alots, the more a woman travel, the more i hates her and never trust her again, this lady in question can visit all the 36states within one month, that is the biggest reason i hates her more, and i'm already into a relationship, Please help me on how to avoid this girl permanently, i rather stay single, than to be with a woman that love traveling, mingle with people of opposit sex is disastereous, please what do i do? Infacts she gives me her body and her heart, yet i didnt comply, am just pretending as if i'm her friend, PLEASE WHAT DO I DO?

Ladies ehn !!! By the time she had that chance she is craving for today, tommorow she may leave sorrow behind when she will finnally dump your ass when u your self has already fallen in love... Anyway, is it my emotion ? Na u get the emotions, do what ever your concience dictates. Nevertheless, would you mind introducing her to daddy ? Dm me her face book id, let me see wether u guys are compatible....

Bro, before you emotionally go berserk you better summon courage and clearly define what u want. By the time the emotions eat deep into your medula, you may regret ever meeting her. Ladies been putting men in emotional trauma since the days of Adam. If you u are not feeling convinient with her, try to find and spend much more time arround another woman., believe me bf u know it she don they disapear from your memory...

TrevorFitness:
Hey ladies

I have being a regular guest of Nairaland. This section is my favourite. I had to register because I am in a cross road now on which car to buy.

I won't lie to myself. My main purpose of buying a car now is because of ladies. I cannot be flying bike with babe up and down again.

Since my purpose of buying a car is for the ladies, I need advice on which of the cars below attracts you ladies the most. I have listed the options I have seen below. I have maximum budget of N2m and these are the cars I have seen.

No insults. Thanks.

1. Honda Accord 2008 (Evil Spirit): Buyer said N2m last

2. 2005 Toyota Highlander: Buyer said N2m. I can negotiate a little

3. 2004 Camry: Buyer said N1.4m last

4. Infinity FX35: A seller here is selling a Nigerian used for N1.4m

Ladies please help me choose. Thanks

omo ale... I know you must have recieved enough dm from ladies...

Uglymugg:
Only 4 people shared your post out of 1200 human views. And those 4 people probably don't even agree with you, they just shared it in hopes that it may give them access to your vagina.

omo ale

CHoccolaTE:
Men should just avoid women and date each other instead please, look at all the idiotic whining just because small girls asked them for money before.
Nonsense.

If we start talking of all the vices men perpetuate we will crash Nairaland servers. From yahoo to armed robbery to ritual killing to assault to rape.
Just be fvcking gay and date your fellow man so you don't have to spend on women OK?

And u think u are doing me with this your comment...oya continue

Psoul:
Can you give a reasonable reason that will make the OP leave the girl? Are you basing your advise on what u think you know about women generally or based on the story the OP gave to us?

Well, based on what u said here, I will beliv that you've so much mingled with girls that you've lost ur decency in reasoning towards boy-girl relationship. I may also be among the group that believe that women should just be for fun. If you've bn unfortunately to be mingling wt wrong girls, don't let that make you beliv that every girl is like your wrong girlfriends.

The reasons why he should leave her is much evident in his write up, such a girl can sniff happiness out of somebody. .. Op should leave her and be more committed to his career...

tunary:
You did well bro, me na to unfriend her on Facebook remain, no more emotional torture in the name of love

Na so bro... I have saved that guy's comment to show some of my guys here... He get one of my guy that almost died recently all because of a woman... Thank God he has overcome the trauma now....

itsmeurLady:
If at the end of all this rubbish u wrote here u still go ahead and date a girl in the future, then u are the biggest hypocrite ever!!! Right now, I won't really pay attention to you cs I can see that u are still hurting, when u are done hurting, please just stay as u are and don't date again. Go to brothels and patronize prostitutes but later don't come and cry for us when the repercussions come knocking. Men are hustling, preparing themselves to be a better father for their kids, u are here listening to foolish counsels

Never get me wrong, in fact, ladies are welcome in their multitudes, but my heart remain sealed and not penetrable. I agreed with the guys comment 100% except that aspect of Ashawo joint... I can not patronise Ashawo, i prefer lying my way out to get any lady laid... My sister, i can not deceive you, my ex dealt with me... She dumped my ass off-guard and went ahead to scam me join am... It was hell for me, and always wish i never met her... I lost my manness, i became weak emotionaly and was acting like a small boy, all cos of love that never existed. Despite all i went trough, i was still chasing woman all about until that noh4 God-sent comments that finally liberated me. As it is now, no woman on hearth can break my @ again... Any relationship i may find my self now will be opened, if you want to go you may go, i dont give a Bleep. You can not come and kill me for my mother...

itsmeurLady:
I am sorry but I just need MATURED(not babies) MEN on NL to clear the air on this post... If you support his claim, click like... If you don't click share

Ladies watch this space, it's an indication why you should be prayerful before you marry any man because this post shows that the world is becoming something else with the way these men think but I am glad that life is not Nairaland because if it was (I shake my head)... Most of them do not have purpose for dating/marriage apart from sex and money. If that is what relationship is all about, then it's better to be single. The 300+ Men that liked the post, let's assume they practice it or they are just being hypocritical, but if you as a man encourage or support your fellow man for living life the wrong way, then what is your purpose for existence If you cannot correct your fellow man when he errs, then what is your life for?? I guess that's why the country is like this because we have backbiters and hypocrites everywhere.

Please Note that I don't support that all Nairaland Guys are like this but most of them are, so you have to be careful when you respond to them.

IT'S A THREAD!!!!

This is the original thread in case you missed it...

https://www.nairaland.com/4789978/thinking-quitting-relationship-please-advise#72110491


And I am ready to lafff because they are clowns

Woman, get the hell out of here... You can not understand, what this guy called nho4 did in my life with that her comment is immeasurable... I have suffered enough in the hands of ladies... He has just emancipated me from captivity of finding woman all about that will later probably kick my ass to emotional slavery... Since i read his comment, i have been busy deleting some numbers on my phone... Enough is enough... Love from women of now are days is truly a scam...

Oluromantic:
Are u supposed to be rude to ur husband in d first place? You think its all men that will allow idiocracy? I will return u to ur fathers house with terribly disfigured body and no front teeth! Mumu.

Bad guy... Some ladies can frustrate your life ehn... You will not understand except you are living with a lady under the same roof... Some ladies will make you to lose your gentility... Some ladies needs slap and little brutality to restore thier brain to factory settings...

jattopeter:
Not most , I am even part of the people he was addressing . I have deleted some contacts from my phone now now. That's a message of Emancipation.

Bro i am telling you, if you know how that guy's comment has just transformed my life... In fact, women dealt with me in the past, no be small. This guy just emancipated me from the bondage of going about in search of woman that will later probably treat my Bleep up...

rosalieene:
really! you think you're the only one with a fair share of heartbreak huh? the problem with you guys is that you try to punish the innocent ones for a crime of one person which is not ought to be so!

do you know what we girls also pass through?
I just came out of a traumatizing relationship of recent but does that mean I should punish my next because of that? does that mean I should hate all men?
if there is anyone to hate its should be the one who hurt you and not others.

when you remove that mindset of yours from your head, true love would come to you after all it's not robots that are marrying good women

all the rants on this thread are just useless.
just like rinrin23 said, you attract your like.
If you are not a responsible person, don't expect to be with a responsible person.
shikina

Any lady that got her ass dumped should check her character... Ladies are cruel when it comes to relationship... Once a lady make up and lock her mind in a relationship either for flimsy excuse or not, there is no one on earth that can convince her otherwise, except she go where she put eyes and come back... Generally, ladies are more wicked in a relationship than men... I am talking from experience... As for me, No lady on earth, if you like be miss world, that can break my precious hearth again...

djon78:
Sure I get your drift. I was a victim also like you. Then very gentle , caring but she carry me play. There I learnt my lesson big time.
She later came back begging, but it was already late for her.
The next one try all those love things, but I was hard as rock. I will treat her nice, even provide her needs but my heart was impenetrable.
She even involve her mama. Swore say she must marry me. Still my heart was impenetrable.

It was then I begin understand women. If you be hard man, they dear not mess up. Na them go dey rush you.
But if you be nice guy na long thing for you

I love u bro... Inpenetrateable got me lol

Psoul:
Oga, to start with, you pleaded that we should ignore your grammar. I am saying NO to that request. When we want to correct something, let us correct them all.
I will pick 2 things I want to correct before going into the main topic.



Stop using "reason" and "why" together.
The whole statement did not actually say what u really wanted to say. You meant to say...You want to avoid taking a decision you will regret in the future as against you saying, to avoid taking a decision that you will not regret in the future.

Secondly,


It is not Modulator. It is Moderator.

That said, let's look into your main case. I have to be very brief and straight to the point.
You are really a relationship novice.
Secondly, you are unnecessarily jealous.
The reasons you gave up there are not enough to end any relationship.
The girl is just behaving the girl in her. Every girl needs to be taken care of and when you fail to most start behaving funny.
This girl seems to love you, she accepted you even the way you are now. Coming back to u anytime she feels that she has made u angry and begging you not to leave. She loves you.

U opened her Facebook chat and noticed that she was giving out her numbers to men...and so fucking what.
Was she not dating someone before meeting you. Was she not dating someone before giving out her number to you. If u think it is wrong, you should have rejected her that day she gave her number to you.

My guy, what you need to do is to solidify the relationship, make her know how much u love her (if actually u do), explain to her that it may not be easy now but that u have a bright future and two of u should join hands together to build each other. By the time she starts seeing how committed (not necessarily financially) you are to her, she will start dropping most of her male friends and even the those her female friends that are bad influence.
Right now you have not come to that point and you have already started bn over possessive. What will happen when you start providing for her all she needs. Then u will dictate to her when to talk and when not to talk. Ur actions may scare a good woman away from u.

Bro you lost it... The earlier the better, its better OP dump the girl now before the whole issue turned around against him... Who told you the girl will not leave when she eventually meet a guy better than OP. Bro, dont pity lady cos of their pity composed face when ever they are feeling remorse... You are the type that will consider a lady cos of cry cry, dont you know, like someone said earlier, the greatest weapon of lady is her tears. Once a cheat is a cheat for longer period of time... Let me tell you the truth, the lady in question is still with the OP cos she has not met someone that will make her to leave OP... Even if OP eventually marry her, she will still likely cheat. As it is, i am a young guy, but i know the general aspirations and psycology of most Nigerian ladies especially when it comes to relationship... I am talking from experience. The best is stop womanising and channel the efforts towards been a better person. Believe me, if you are successful, thousands of ladies will stumble on your left side and millions on your right side. Pls dont advise OP to stay in the relationship, it may be disastrous at the end. Op pls shun this guy's advice, it is trial and error... As me dey, there is nothing like love to me... The only love i know exist between me and my mother... Note: I was once a lover boy, but i almost died when my ex dumped my ass when i least expected...

rosalieene:
see them NL guys turning the table around making themselves victims.

You lots once made a girl cry over you now its a crime to cry over a woman?

Once a guy brings up his story here gbam! you'd see encouraging comments but when a lady brings up hers, even when clearly she was wronged, you lots would end up bashing her. sometimes Calling her names

Always playing the victims game.

sometimes, we should seat down and ask ourselves, what if you're in this person's shoes, what will you do? Besides, you don't even know her part of the story or if the OP exergerated at some point.
I know how this works, girls always get advances what's more important is how to handle it.
from what I am seeing, that girl loves you but she is confused as she also wants to settle down. Every lady wants that comfortability, some would be fortunate If it ends well while some are unfortunate. What if you re not the one for her? what If she misses her chances with the right one? so most times a lot of ladies are just confused
And don't blame us either.... its best you just let her go.



and most importantly, don't punish your next for this sins of this one!

Gbe enu e soun... Love from women of now are days is a scam... I dont need to hear the other side of the story cos i know how women behave, most of us commenting here have been a victim of bitter @break one way or the other... See, before i know my ex that broke my @ bitterly, i was a gentle guy and always like to treat ladies with intensive care. But today, yours sincerely, i am the badest guy, i dont take any crying from any lady serious any longer... The key point is, never let any woman be in charge of your happiness... I was once in a worst case than that of op... omo is not easy... The kind of person i am today doesnt beleive in love again... In this our generation, Loving woman wholeheartedly can have negative effect in the long run... No woman on earth, i say again, No woman on earth can break my @ again... Pls guys out there, becareful, dont trust woman too much, the effect at the end is emotional prison...

GOFRONT:
And Ruth my colleague at my working place collected my phone and logged in her facebook acct......

She received an emergency call to report at our head office, na so she forget to logout...

I say make i check her infidelity level.....omo, come see chat....."I luv your pvssy"...."I miss your dikc"....."Anytime u need sex, that is when u have time for me"

Mehn my eye see can of worms that day......and since that day, I jst dey use corner eye dey look her anytime she wan form holy holy for our office . My eyes be like

Lol... Bad guy

CHoccolaTE:
Why you no face front for that girl comment?

because she was blind to see d truth in d comment of that my darling guy... As i am, i was once a victim of heartbreak, severe one that nearly led to another thing. But thank God for whom i am today... Take it or leave it, loving a woman wholehertedly has a serious adverse effect in the long run... Woman can do and undo if they have the opportunity... If woman decides to deal with you, even devil him self will sit down to recieve lecture... As it is, according to that lovey guy that earlier gave comment, No woman on earth can break my @ again... I dont beleive in love any longer... The only love i know exist between mother and child...

Snow87:
Abeg bros come and collect a brotherly hug. if say I get money I for dash u ahswear, we are in the same party man , but I don't patronise ashi cos I no get money na my hand and soap dey rush me.

Lol.... Omo ale

CHoccolaTE:
lol, imagine.

Is she OP girlfriend or what has she done to you to deserve this insult?
Why taking the matter so personal?

Face front madam

Sterope:
Quit the relationship and work on your grammar. Your English is too poor for a postgrad. You really to need to focus on your personal development.

Dindinrin... Mumu... Oponu

gurunlocker:
Udi dudu....

Are u ijesha ?

UncleNnamdi:
But you can comfortably take diiiicks of any size without crying.

Omo Ale... Lol

Omo Tinubu family are special lagosians... No body dare to contest against Oluremi Tinubu... The fear of Ahmed Tinubu himself is d beginning of wisdom...

Bro, i can relate to your story... To me, this is just like a break up saga. It will be very difficult to cut her off, since she is d one that gave you ur first sexual experience. As it is, woman are hard-minded when they make up thier mind on emotional thing. She has made up her mind and changing her mind will be very difficult. By the way, are u sure she has not seen another man that knows how to drill that thing than you novice, cos i can never trust woman again in my life based on my personal experience. I was once in your shoe though my own was clear case of break up, it was hell for me, my life was mysrable for sometimes, but later on i moved on and time later healed the wound. Now, i am stll thanking God for the breakup cos i never knew i was a prisoner of love then. The break up made me vulnerable to many other fine chicks outside that outmatch my ex. So the breakup was like a freedom to me. So, i will advice that you take your time to flock around ladies, find one or two that will emotionally keep you busy, drill thier pussy when necessary, i am sure in the next couple of times, i am sure you will see this your born again girl as shit...

hungryboy:
best advice ever
100naira vaseline don help me save more than 100k in ashawo and konji related expenditure

Bad guy