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Just musing....


The provocation tirelessly being spurn from a certain frontier makes me wonder as to what fires, major players such as Defence contractors, aid supplies coys with their intermediary mercenaries, are constantly stoking.


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The sight of those steps just brought back the memories of aches in my back, gluts and legs.. Chai
It wasn't funny

But I was quite breathless on getting to the top, initially due to the exercise, subsequently by the views..


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Chi59:
Shoes look okay to me

Na..hmmm naaaaa.. Let down the outfit few notches imho

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This appears to be a divorce request on the back of adultery committed by the man..

Its not a no-fault divorce.. Hence she's entitled to a fraction of his fortune given the dependent children and possible loss of personal earnings and possible benefits she brought to him over the decades they were together...


Like to see the settlement agreed on..


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Talking about Asians..

The Indian tradition of the girl presenting a sizeable dowry is rather tempting.

I suppose it will create its own problems but anything for our Naija girls to gravitate away from their overbearing entitlement attitude and overt sexualisation....

I mean isn't there more to you as a woman than the peaks on your chest and the crevice between your legs.....


So annoying...

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DeRay98:
Men are usually the ones too blinded by love to think of that option.
Many of ambitious Our girls nowadays use love a tool to handcuff/blindfold their unsuspecting lover boys while they scheme.

That's only to an undiscerning man...

Love or Lof.... Wharever u want call am... Im neva bon

The thoughts of all the sacrifices made, hustles, sufferings .... Enough to protect my little kitty...

Na people wey dey jam money anyhow, no sweat no back-breaking hustle fit toss a coin in the air and hope for the best..

Me... I prepare, prepare very well and pray Baba G answer.


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pansophist:
I feel sorry for women, na them go suffer am pass. Laws like this has a backfire effect. It seems progressive, but in reality, its deterrent in nature. It will make marriage completely unattractive to men. Western societies are in an irreversible decline of replacement birth rates. Thanks to law like these, Nigeria is preparing to board the ship.

And laws like these can only be enforced in civilised society. A typical naija man will rather kill the woman than watch her live in the house he built.

Its happening in the west

The other day, I read of an ex-wife who shared the assets of her now-dead husband with wife no. 2 on the pretext that the husband had promised their 2 boys a house in Australia..

Note their divorce occurred over 5 years ago. The husband died about circa 1-2years ago.

The earnings being fought over was from assets sold over 3-4years ago, long after their divorce, during the early part of the 2nd marriage.

But madam's amnesia suddenly was cured, alleluia someborry, and she is fighting for assets that were earned after her divorce on some recollection of a conversation or promise..

Madam no. 2 now has to share those assets/earnings.



Definitely what goes around, comes around..
That's why the online "feminist agro" rants sometimes make me chuckle.. As its often poorly thought through and very myopic in my honest and humble opinion.


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As to killing... E Na vaa reach that level oooo...

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omooba969:
Therefore, the essence of marriage is absent unless you choose to be in denial.

Not at all..
You simply go in without any rose-coloured spectacles..

Its well planned out and thought-through, open to errors, after all we are human....
But overall to minimise the possibility of shipwrecks


I must say its not fail-proof but close....


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omooba969:
I appreciate your position as per pre-nup but you're yet to address the adverse effects of pre-nups coz we must remember that we're not robots but humans with feelings.

Please educate about adverse effects of pre-nup sir...


It is someone who has an agenda that will be scared of a pre-nup... Male or female

Often clear ideas as to division of assets are stipulated in a well-written pre-nup!!

The disadvantage is the taxman knows your worth and will know to come calling soon.. But there are tax-efficient ways to get that loose end sorted.


Lastly if a pre-nup means lack of trust... I argue it goes both ways..
I don't trust that you're not after my wealth
You don't trust that I'll be of noble character to support you and the children in the event of a break.

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cococandy:
That’s your interpretation of my post. I never said any was greater than the other.

Also no one can work full time and do mothering full time. There has to be daycare, nanny or daddycare involved.

Someone has to be with the kids when the mom is working. Versus a full time mom who always has to be with the kids (in most cases).

Don’t bring the competition into it

I clarified the competition you subconsciously raised in your statement...

If you are of the opinion that a full-time mother works as hard or even harder than a father who works full-time and manages to spend some quality time with his children... Then it's acceptable to think you will think the same of a full-time working mother juggling motherhood alongside..

Your argument smacks of the "2-bit theory".. A bit of both to garner points but not a true realistic analysis!!


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BuddhaPalm:
Laws adapt to address contemporary problems.

Any state with a future will pass laws that give the best chance to its young.

Soon, we’ll have court mandated child support, despite your marital status.

I will welcome that as the children who often have no say, are used as pawns in the game...

Certain the laws when operational, will be challenged as well.. To reduce misuse as seen in some publicised cases.

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Make up hit
Outfit hit
Pose hit
Shoes very big miss

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pansophist:
Just like western men have stopped marrying their women due to law like this, i foresee the increase of unmarried ladies and men refusing to marry as the laws like these become common place. You can tell women they are equal to men and create laws the is unfair. Be careful what you wish for.

Definitely a boomerang effect will or has started to ensue..


The growing numbers of baby mamas is a testament..
No young man with a sizeable bank balance wants to marry..
The chicks that abound are either destiny-destroying karashikas or prototypes in the making, thanks to changing value systems of society and friends..

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cococandy:
She didn’t have a job? What a mor0n

One kid is a full time job. Multiply that by four and if you had any sense, you will know she worked more than you even did in that marriage. What insolence

With due respect...
I applaud full-time mothers...

But please do not equate the stress full-time mothers go through to that of mothers who juggle both full-time work and mothering....

Your statement above just did that...

Please each stays on her own lane Strictly!!!

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mamotalk:
Was in Badagry slave route last year and it was good.
Tourism is good.

Anybody been to Idanre Hill before? I heard that the place is nice.

Idanre Hills was well worth the visit..
Climbing the steps, the Sango enclave on the way and the scenes from the top.... Wonderful

Ikogosi springs whilst in the vicinity is also a lovely serene place to visit

The hills remind me of the Olumo rock in Abeokuta and the largest city yet to be unearthed in the Ijebu Ogun state axis..

Lots to see and learn..

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Love or the feelings thereof is often Not enough..

Need to strategize for tomorrow , project for today and learn from the past..

Sacrifice, compromise, strategic relationship buy-ins and being vulnerable to your other half are necessary ingredients.


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Girl.... Near miss
Artwork... Definite miss!!!
Concept.. Thinking


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Irrelevant... Maybe so
Diversionary.. O yes



Ive always known Christian music as gospel music..
Checked the dictionaries just to be certain..


What is the meaning of "Islamic gospel music".....
Is this another Nigerian English



Awaiting some answers

Would like to know the designer behind that blouse..

Architectural piece I must say


Congrats Cuppy..


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Having observed and investigated cases of domestic violence or coercive control...


It's all about perception to a great degree.


A woman who wants a strong man to control her affairs is a woman reeking in self pity and lacks moral responsibility to control her life............. or in some cases lacks the aptitude and sacrifice to stand by herself without some man somewhere supporting her.


Once she feels her powers of manipulation as a passive-aggressor is diminished as the man yields less to her manipulations, she often cries wolf whilst placing herself in precarious situations..

She's got an advantage.... She knows what to set off the inferno. She gladly does so whilst unknown to the man, there's an audience to take notes and vilify.


Beware of women.. Well some..


My question to some of these women. Is........

Why didn't you take a walk when you had the opportunity despite a projected fall in your social status or income??
The answer is......... ...

None will, except those who are economically empowered legitimately or via vices.



Marriage /relationships have been twisted into some machinery to climb the rungs of economic empowerment or social acceptability. Often as temporary forays...
That's why the men need to get their game together.
This new feminist wave which features contrary maxims can hoodwink the most unsavvy of young men.

The yorubas have an adage... What you won't tolerate as a rich man, don't accept as a pauper...




Sticking to your story, woman......
The guy pummels you physically or emotionally as a toaster/boyfriend, but you stick deceitfully with him as he's your meal ticket out of poverty or the country..

Once comfortable, you turn on him and take him down the minute you have some cooked-up evidence.

Delilah is learning from you!!!


To the men....
The young men out there who are often the victims of these destiny-destroying women better wake up and smell the coffee/pammy/shekiri 'water '..

Don't want to be a casualty!! As there are few structures to support these men whilst a host of structures are in place to give a voice to these women..




I DO Not support domestic violence but cringe when I hear or read again a well-played script.....

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My question is for the guys..
Do you have a vision

When you do and have clear strategies to accomplish
in immediate, short and long term, any gal you get should act in a help-mate capacity not as a vacuum-cleaner/ karashika mix....


Have this litmus test performed to test characters.

Grow some balls and get your brains working..



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Takes away attention from the main topic of discussion

Distraction theory..

Do sth inexplicable when you have nothing sensible to say on the matter..

The Johnson family should kindly swerve... Full of empty fluffy-headed pro-Brexit arguments...

The Milliband brothers weren't this pathetic..




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Ishilove:
Not on my watch. You are not allowed to express any iranu feelings until you're older and more sensible. WTF?! 5 years old! Lailai. E cannor happen

Cant agree more..

Liberty taken to the extreme
Parents are either too lazy to apply boundaries or too afraid of their environments to be the moral watchdog

The kids are the ones in control, aided very aptly by Social media and surrounding ecosystems: political, business brands etc.


In the days gone by, there's the usual infatuation, often shortlived and largely harmless..

But I see this trend putting other younger children under pressure to purchase expensive gifts declaring their love/admiration.



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She forgot to put her 'face' on.
In the excitement



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Opportunists.....

Not sure who is playing who

Let's see how the game unfolds


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LordKO:
Your submission is almost perfectly in order. However, you lump narcissistic, egoistic, conceited and egotistic traits together. There are thin lines/differences among them. One thing possessors of the traits have in common is penchant for subjugation (they're of the manipulative ethical leaning). They personify subjugation. Someone of the manipulative ethical leaning can possess either a calm or boisterous personality - the calm ones are more dangerous.

For example:

- Contrary to this erroneous assertion about narcissists "They take and take until the giver is half of themselves." Everything is transaction-business-like to narcissists and they don't pretend about it - they're givers, but not altruistic givers. Selfishness and sanctimony - to them they're good moral personification, instead of personification of hypocrisy they're - are their major hallmark.

Only egotists "take and take until the giver is half of themselves.". . . finished. Self-centeredness and contentiousness are their major hallmark.

In this same setting, egoists are the Greek gift givers, they give in the guise of kindness but with an intention to perpetually possess/own the beneficiary, unlike narcissists that don't pretend about their intention of giving, they do pretend about their own intention - sycophancy is their major hallmark. And conceited people, unlike narcissists that believe they are good moral personification, are after domineering/owning others intellectually - to a conceited person, s/he has monopoly of knowledge.

A developed/extreme egoist is an automatic psychopath. While a developed/extreme egotist is an automatic sociopath.

Altruistic and conscientious people are gold - people of the diplomatic ethical leaning.

But for one thing, I'd point to you two popular Nairalanders on the romance and family sections that are narcissists.

Interesting surmise

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Never heard about these men..
And also the true nature of Sani Abacha's demise

Who can validate these stories??


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Girl don dey old...



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Congrats Steph!!


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Agree with Cooldood

The terrain is changing quite rapidly and roles are being re-defined on a regular basis..

Gender equality in itself isn't an issue.......... It's the misinterpretation of gender roles and need for adaptability in the event of very fluid circumstances that's often the problem.

The rise of vices aided partially by social media is another factor. This has led to a collective culpability only enhanced by a constant lack of reprimand.





A mental connect and a morality connect should supercede any beauty/ financial / educational connect.. When choosing a life partner.

These are the areas where the foundation stones are often substandard. When the storms arrive, the house is often too unable to withstand the pressure.


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Agree with the above.


Era of fake news/ information ..
Everybody thinks they are well - versed in the subject

Downsides of easy availability of some science via social media but poor application....
..... generational misinformation or "barbershop" talk


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