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coolcatty:
This life ehen..the way people die is so alarming..

Lost a friend and adopted brother just this last saturday..dude was a fitness buff...always eating right and exercising and all that...my mom use to mock me then that i should emulate him....niggah just slumped on Saturday and is in the morgue..cold and lonely....this life ehen....i just tire.

Accept my condolences ����

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Why the move?

What about the baby..
Never saw him displaying the pics upandan

Good luck.


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chineji:
Did I talk about Italian women? I have never met such beautiful women in my life. Beautiful and very interesting. I used to think it was impossible for women to be interesting and funny but white women proved me so wrong. My Co workers were always so fun to have conversations with. They knew absolutely everything about everything cause they read a whole lot. In Italy, the women are always smiling all the time ( it's a total different ball game in most African countries where most women are always ugly and angry all the time) and the greetings omg. It's not weird to hug a woman and give her a peck on both cheeks and say bounjourno or bounesera depending on what time of the day it is. La spezia had a lot of beautiful women but then we took a road trip to Milan and it was like a total different ball game. It was just like a real life miss world beauty pageant.

Italian women are the most beautiful I have ever seen in my life. I just pray I can marry a Nigerian because ever since I got back all the girls are just ugly to my eyes

Milan is the fashion capital... So yes you will meet lovely beautiful carinas.. They will smile as well.. Not thinking of how to survive with odds greatly stacked against them as our Naija chicks. The Economy may not be very strong but they have Brussels to fall back on, till the Squeeze is cranked up and a 'Greece' situation is created

So being fashionable is an inert thing for most Italian women.

They get up to 2 holidays a year dedicated to spring-cleaning their wardrobes and updating their clothes!!! For crying out loud!




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chineji:
Italy.

I really used to be one of those who used to feel that someday Africa would get it right. That things are not as bad as we imagine it to be, that somehow black people are actually not stupid as other races think but being in Italy totally changed my mind. I have been living in darkness all my life and in Italy I saw light. First of all, once the ship crossed into Italian waters, I noticed the ocean water to be very blue (in most African countries it's usually very brown and dirty when you are close to port). You could literally see your face inside. We docked in a small town called la spezia. La spezia is a village by European standards and the scenery totally blew my mind away. As soon as I left the ship to see town. I just couldn't stop cursing all the leaders in Africa past and present and the idiot citizens who support their ineptitude. I was in an European village and there was freaking WiFi everywhere. The roads omg. I have been to more than 10 African countries in my short life span and I have never seen roads of this standard before. Public transportation. We got no public transportation in Africa. Our buses and trains are all shit. The public buses in Italy were


The roads just blew me away over and over again. The way the roads were built with considerations for pedestrians and cyclist. It was just strange to me that people could actually live like this, people could actually live sane.

I love automobiles, when I am not reading or working in them. I watch YouTube videos and drool on my favourite models I cant afford but here my favourite models were being used as taxis. Cars that would be used by Rich elite Nigerians being used as taxis and the kind of cars Italians drive gosh. I saw so many recent BMWs, Mercedes, audis and volkswagens. Cars I didn't even think we're out on the road. It was so unreal to me. Meanwhile in Nigeria, someone would do a thanksgiving ceremony for being able to buy a piece of crap camry or corolla.

La Spezia is not a village but a city..A tourist spot In the Cinque Terra...
So you're bound to see a lot of well-heeled Italians, loads of Northern Europeans who holiday there regularly. Services have been designed likewise to meet needs of this clientele.

Liguria is a really beautiful area... Nature meets good nurture. With French influence... Lovely!!


More importantly, it's Northern Italy, well known to be economically better than its Southern counterparts.

Lastly, Italy's transport system is quite ace!! Particularly when comparing cost to service. Italy has one of the cheapest rail travel costs in Europe!!




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neroflo:
i wish banky and adesua marriage will crash too

NEVAAAAAAA. IJN, amen.

Events so far reveals this was well-planned assassination not a robbery.

Change of guards and cook a few days before striking.

Its uncanny how Madam happened not to be at home

Business deal gone wrong with inside mole getting adequate access organised.



Let's see how things unfold..
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RIP to the dead.



I'd like to know if the corpses of both driver and the irascible fractious woman have been found...

I find it very unusual 3days later that only 13 of the 15 bodies have been recovered..

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TheUmbra:
Toks2008 at it again! Like me you'd never sacrifice truth for convenience.

You've spoken the truth. There're two types of people who would oppose your view as expressed in your article, one for each gender.

Most guys that would oppose your views here were either brought up by their moms or they have an abusive father. And they've come to hate the male folk and everything that seems to associate with their authority and advantage.

The other group are feminists from the female gender who may hate men for the same reason stated earlier.

But their views have no influence on reality. Once a woman was once married and steps out of her marriage in the name of divorce, there's only one thing in the mind of the average man - she's second hand.

To be controversial, I would argue the same goes for men, to a lesser degree...

I remember a previously divorced male friend who had to convince the family of the 2nd fiancée greatly that he wasn't about to leave their daughter in the lurch despite the divorce being clearly the result of the 1st wife's misdemeanours!!!

So there's a consequence. Male or female... Simply worse for the females given the Naija society!!!





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To the comment about a 42yr old woman developing hypertension.... And the bla bla about women feeling lonely...
Times are changing...

Women are becoming more accepting of a life of solitude.. They get involved in other stuff outside of work. The occasional sweetboy ministration if the mechanical 'friend' is getting boring..

With spermbanks, co-parenting websites, becoming widely available, she gets a baby alongside, if she so desires without the shackles of a man breathing down her neck...

So the game is changing, brothers... We're being rapidly influenced by information on SM.. If it obtains elsewhere, it's a matter of time before it infiltrates our society..

Denmark remains a case study!!

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The stories get worse and worse.....
The other day it was the Indonesian maid, now Ethiopian maid executed.. Indicating state involvement in these cover-ups!!!!

And Khashoggi is getting headlines but no justice currently .. With Trump dancing azonto.....
If their own, despite privileges and connections to Royalty could be disposed of in such a fashion, wetin be the leverage you get from your Sub-saharan village as an Abd... ...


Please spread the news...

Beware of going to some places for paid servitude... Your service may exceed what's in the contract and cost lives!!!!
With nobody or system to defend or support you.

Let him that can hear, hear ooooo
As not all ears function properly


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EmpresFIDEL:
I see.. just be careful. sometimes you guys use the wrong qualities to identify the real girls. most guys are easily influence by what they see, they don't search beyond the physical appearance. no matter how long she pretend, if you are vigilant you will find out about the person's inner character. that's is why it is very important to use the head while dating and not the heart alone.

Madam.. So true
Leave good girl for wild girl... All for the akpu in ze other room!!

Popular music lyrics even allude to it..
"Will spend entire earnings dressing her up...."
"The girl is killing him softly.. "

Like reaaaaaaalllyyyy
Who is the slowpoke



Only we can help ourselves with prayers and Introspection.

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EgunMogaji:
American courts are insanely pro women so for her to loose a rape case, a violent assault on a woman and in Texas, to me means either it wasn’t true rape or her evidence was whacked.

3 gbosa to you sir.....

It simply irritates me when following any discontent in relationships or relationship breakdown, these lily-livered women scream rape...

IMHO, it has trivialised the word and inherently the crime..

As much as character referencing is stereotypical and extremely subjective with undertones of racism, sexism or ethnic bias, I feel this may be a useful tool to bring a sense of balance and proportionate response to these often crude accusations.


People have to understand you can't hurl accusations wildly.. It hurts families, destroys careers and even kills.. Many lives have been lost.



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Updates on UWOs.....

The high profile UWO case of a jailed banker's wife from an Eastern European country is in the news again.

Jewellery worth £400k has been recently seized from an auction house. It was to be auctioned with her daughter as proxy or new owner.. .. Possibly to raise funds



This opens up the playing field..........

The value of some of the objects in this case are well below the £50k benchmark but more importantly there is no clear congruent link with time of purchase or type of ownership of these objects with time of receipt of perceived proceeds of corruption(poc) . Its all assumed to be poc.

Now there's growing consideration to move the scope of investigation beyond ownership of houses/properties, cars, luxury items to investigating affordability of private schools and possibly university education.

I wonder who will be coughing up the money.. The schools or parents in the event of a successful order/conviction Poor child's education truncated.!!!


Looks like UK is about to put another nail in their declining 'education proceeds' coffin.



Germany, Netherlands and Sweden is looking exceptionally attractive

Foreign campuses of Ivy League schools will also appeal.




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martineverest:
really fishy.... someone should help me answer question number 14,this could confirm who killed the man

1)she went to bank in the morning......and the gateman was still asleep even when she came back..lemme assume she went to use ATM as early as 6 am

2)she employed the cook and gateman just 3 days b4 the man was murdered......

3) what did the man do to the cook b4 he/she murdered him?

4)the cook wasn't interested in taking anything,but the man's life?.....#highered killer

5)the music was increased to the highest volume.....and this couldn't wake the gateman?

6)the previous gateman was sacked for no reason.....

7)employed a cook when the family isn't large

8 who taught cook how to increase the volume of the woofer.... assuming he/she is illiterate

9)"......on her way back,she called the husband,but couldn't hear what he was saying".......hmmmm,

10) all this there was no intention to employ a cook until last Sunday..... especially when the former loyal and trusted gateman was sack?

11)how come the woman hastily accused the cook of killing her husband even b4 the police investigation?

12) what kind of gateman is that security man that can't even hear honking of a car,late in the morning

13)why did she call her husband despite she was on her way hime . probably she wanted to confirm 'something' (maybe to make sure someone is lifeless) b4 returning home or for alibi sake?

14) how was she able to hear his voice during the phonecall,when the music was loud?

15). a male beninois cook for Nigerian dishes.......?a foreign himgher killer and he is probably on this way to Benin Republic to make it hard for police to investigate.that was why a Nigerian higher killer wasn't employed

the madam as well as the new employees should be questioned

ADIEU Papa!

You're ACE!!!


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Seahawk:
The comments on this post are why women don’t report rape. You all concluded she must be lying. Because it’s impossible for a rapist to try to torment his victim by claiming the child?
Bunch of jokers.

Many of you are rapists who have actually raped people before while the rest of you will probably not hesitate to do so when the opportunity arises. That’s why I’m not surprised.

Don't throw aspersions around..

No need to get emotive here..

The court threw the case out.. That's good enough for me to think all doesn't add up..

Its women who don't get a tight case and insist on a personal metoo campaign that create all forms of narratives that put real rape victims in a quagmire..

Let's stop this 'Potipher's wife syndrome ' and we may get more clarity on the issue.




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Good work.....

Bros.. How many nylon bags I go need make kerosene for my 'I better pass you' generator to last 1 night


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This is Ofe nsala



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Not nice.....pose/dress







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Good work seen and celebrated...

No hating but some names on the list gets you wondering about the entry criteria.....

Socialising with the right people as no visible charity/leadership work


Oluwole don enter storyyyy


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What the Bleep did I just read?

read this .... and it might fill the blank spaces


Pragmatic Behaviours In Matters Of The Heart For The Girl-child - Family - Nairaland

I read with awe, shock and sometimes pity mired in disgust, stories of women who feel aggrieved by wrong-doings meted out to them by men-folk.

These were women who have had dalliances with these men under ‘FWB’, ‘one night stand’, ‘loosely exclusive’, ‘side-chick’, ‘sponsor’ arrangements who are now crying ‘wolf’ as things have gone rather sour.

I often think .. “You were in a relationship that had no pre-set boundaries or definition as you had something to gain. You only cry out when things have not gone your way or there is a perception of wrong-doing: Then there is a sudden realisation of vulnerability particularly if a lot financially/ emotionally is at stake.”

“Suddenly I have been wronged with no admission of how I contributed to being wronged: i.e. being less assertive or repeatedly engaging in sub-optimal behaviour”… are the offered explanations.

Glaring omissions on the woman’s part such as taking personal responsibility, placing boundaries, working a little harder to pre-define the dalliance or using contraception in some cases which might have prevented this drama are often left unsaid, I muse.


These actions or perceptions of wrong are labelled broadly under the rape clause. I am no lawyer and will make no pretence to be knowledgeable about legal matters, particularly the technicalities but common sense should prevail.


I find absurd that culpability only belongs to only one party but not both of the people involved in the sins of the flesh.

The probability of ‘vulnerability’ has become the umbrella that houses every guileless woman who feels wronged by her ex-lover’s dismissal of her ‘love’ or attraction in some cases.
This is not a new fad/ occurrence as representations are found even in the bible… Remember Potiphar’s wife who cried rape when Joseph spurned her advances in honour of his master and his personal religious beliefs… hmmm mmm: You’re getting the picture!!


Unfortunately many Josephs abound. In the Nigerian context, where patriarchy is king, these Josephs have often eaten of the poisoned apple or have drunk from the poisoned chalice and find the task of restitution onerous at best when labelled guilty.
On the flip side, some of these women find this activity of being positioned as the vulnerable party, effectively increases public sympathy and by default legitimises their part in the said action, absolving them of all culpability: sometimes granting them access to financial redress. This is broadcast on social media as acceptable and the cycle is never-ending.



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My piece is not to the Josephs as society and nature to an extent, somehow protects them, but to the young women who feel they can take on risks/ participate in risky behaviour without a consequence. As a saying goes… there is no free lunch in Freetown.

Whether these walks on the dark side is borne out of a promised financial inducement, or simply a need to participate in sexual role-plays to entice a (would-be) lover without properly defined boundaries, lack of a good role model or lack of good home-training, there is a consequence or a price to your actions.
Be prepared to pay it.


The courts of justice or of public opinion may not always rule in your favour... As Society may rather frown at; and not tolerate or excuse your behaviour. People have lost their livelihood, families, financial independence and sometimes their good mental health, walking down this thorny path that initially appeared rosy. So prevention is better than cure, if at all there is a cure!!


To Future sweet girls/ boys, unplanned baby mamas/ papas, babygirls, small girls with a big gods or sponsors.
Be warned….. there is a price to pay: sometimes much more than what was gained initially or even bargained for.



Posterity reveals much but often too late for the central actor.

Let him/her that has functional ears, hear.


shalom!!

Agree with the chap above..

This was one-sided love turned very sour!!



It does not excuse Mustapha taking advantage of the situation..


But let's call a spade a spade

Let her come out with more evidence to set the records straight, if any...


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Having perused through the above and her blog.....

Take home message to any young gal include the below.....

1 Don't delve into things you have little understanding of.. And as a result you can not effectively set boundaries

2, as All is fair in love and war isn't it

3, Be ready to be a "casualty of love" if you throw your heart and head under the bus!!.. So love smart!!

4, Be careful playing out your fantasies as they can bite and sometimes,...... really hard or deadly in some situations.

5, "Kiss and tell" never earned Kudos or brownie points moreso in a patriarchal society.. 1st rule as a courtesan btw!!



For the burgeoning courtesans...... A high class olosho remains an olosho genetically!!!!

Work with your head and hands, climbing the ladder of success... not with the crevice between your legs!!


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Musing along...

Changi, I understand... Lovely airport.. Beautiful artworks as you would find in most underground stations in Singa...

But KLIA Malaysia ... How for do??.. How did it make the list..


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Alex has stepped up ooo..


Kudos for a well-presented report about something very productive

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Modified..

Alex u 4 just say u lift am na... .
Haba....
Plagiarism no good oo.....

Thank you for bringing it to our attention..

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Good article
Definitely creates awareness.





The incidence rates are much higher than that quoted for GD, PET/Eclampsia and miscarriages..

Our poor record keeping has not helped identify true incidence/prevalence as most maternal deaths are unexplained... "village people"

So folks these conditions are more common than expected, more so in our population.

Prevention is key, having a good and regular antenatal care is imperative, a necessity not a luxury





Kudos once again to Op!!


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KingAzari:
She is Instablog9ja.

Thank you sir...
Have a good day.



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Now that's an appropriate answer.......

not some half-baked venomous rabid rant with a lot of self-cursing

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computergeek:
Abeg Sharap and stop trying to console yourself for not achieving what she has achieved. Whether na Gee or Forex, she don blow be say she don blow, so swerve!

What were you doing at 19? And how many cars have you bought for your parents? Stop hating, it impedes your good luck.

Ma'am

A simple question brought out this venomous rant. It indicates a few things........
"The guilty are truly afraid" and that "birds of the same feather flock together" ...



I'm quite happy not to blow at age 19 if it means I stay out of crime...

My time to blow will come no doubt and will stay permanently with no sorrow or comma: not a fleeting memory as you find in most of these "gram stories.



So it's really you that needs to swerve outta my way.. You didn't need to expose your ineptitude by responding to a simple question!!



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Time to start asking for birth certificates after being dipped long enough in the pool to wash off all the make-up on the 2nd date!!!

But seriously... Too many enhancements should set alarm bells going off!!!



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What exactly does she do

Internet Entrepreneur is a rather loose term..


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GrabHisBalls:
One thing about lesbians is that they're very possessive, and because of that; they last longer in relationships.

That said, congrats to them.

Not according to recent research in the UK.

Married lesbians were more likely to divorce in the past 5 years following the change in legislation re:same sex marriages..

Surprisingly!!!


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UBGG:
I imagine you're about 3 of those. Lol.

Erhmmmm..... Sorry..



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WetinConsignMe:
As if he sat down one day and decided to be gay - his family begged him to reconsider, to change his decision!

SEXUALITY

Romantic Orientation- Who you are romantically attracted to meaning wanting to be in a romantic relationship with and is unrelated to sexual attraction.

Sexual Orientation- Who you are sexually attracted to meaning who you get turned on by or who you would want to engage in sexual behaviors with.


*note all listed below are applicable also to romantic orientations. These take the prefix of the word and the ending -romantic, i.e. heteroromantic, panromantic, aromantic.


Heterosexual- The attraction to a gender different from their own (commonly used to describe someone who is gender binary [female or male] attracted to the other binary gender).

Homosexual- The attraction to a gender the same as their own (commonly used to describe someone who is gender binary [female or male] attracted to the same binary gender).  Sometimess referred to as gay.

Sapiosexual - A sapiosexual is someone who is turned on and attracted to intelligence, or someone’s mind before their appearance.

Lesbian- Women who are attracted only to other women

Bisexual- When you are attracted to two or more genders.  This term is generally used to describe being attracted to men and women, but can apply to being attracted to any two or more genders. Note that you do not have to be equally attracted to each gender.

Pansexual- When you are attracted to all genders and/or do not concern gender when you are attracted towards someone

Bicurious- People who are open to experiment with genders that are not only their own, but do not know if they are open to forming any sort of relationship with multiple genders.

Polysexual- When you are attracted to many genders

Monosexual- Being attracted to only one gender

Allosexual- When you are not asexual (attracted to at least one gender)

Androsexual- Being attracted to masculine gender presentation

Gynosexual- Being attracted to feminine gender presentation

Questioning- People who are debating their own sexuality/gender

Asexual- Not experiencing sexual attraction (note that you can also be aromantic and you do not necessarily have to be asexual and aromantic at the same time).  Sometimes the term, ace, is used to describe asexuals.

Demisexual- When you only experience sexual attraction after forming a strong emotional bond first or a romantic bond

Grey Asexual- When you only experience attraction rarely, on a very low scale, or only under certain circumstances

Perioriented- When your sexual and romantic orientation targets the same gender (for example being heteromantic and heterosexual or being biromantic and bisexual)

Varioriented- When your sexual and romantic orientations do not target the same set of genders (for example being heteromantic and bisexual or being homoromantic and pansexual)

Heteronormative- The belief that hetersexuality is the norm and that sex, gender, sexuality, and gender roles all align

Erasure- Ignoring the existance of genders and sexualities in the middle of the spectrum

Cisgender - a person whose sense of personal identity and gender corresponds with their birth sex.

Cishet- Someone who is both cisgendered and heterosexual.  This is sometimes used as a slur.

Polyamorous- An umbrella term referring to people who have or are open to have consensually have relationships with multiple people at the same time

Monoamorous- People who have or or open to have relationships with only one other person at a time.  The term, monogamous, is also sometimes used

Queer- A reclaimed slur for anybody in the LGBT+ community or who do not identify as cisgender and/or hetersexual/heteromantic

Ally- A supporter of the LGBT+ community that does not identify as LGBT+

GENDER & SEX

Sex- Your assigned gender at birth and/or the gender of your reproductive organs

Gender- Where you feel that you personally fall on the spectrum between male and female. Commonly people identify as male or female, but some fall in the middle or move throughout the spectrum.

Cisgender- When you identify with the gender you were assigned at birth

Transgender- When you identify with a gender different than that you were assigned at birth

Transsexual- When you have had Gender Reassignment Surgery (GRS) to change the sexual organs you were born with to that of a different gender.

Male to Female (MtF)- When somebody that is assigned as a male at birth identifies as a female

Female to Male (FtM)- When somebody that is assigned as a female at birth identifies as a  male

Genderfluid- Moving between genders or having a fluctuating gender identity

Agender- Not identifying with any gender. Sometimes referred to as being genderless orgendervoid

Bigender-  Identifying as two genders, commonly (but not exclusively) male and female.  Sometimes you feel like both genders at the same time and sometimes you fluctuate.

Polygender- When you identify with multiple genders at once.  Sometimes referred to asmultigender.

Neutrois- When you identify as agender, neither male nor female, and/or genderless

Gender Apathetic- When you really do not identify nor care about any particular gender. You are fine passing off as whatever and you really do not have an opinion towards your own gender.

Androgyne- This term overlaps a lot between gender identification and presentation.  It can be used to describe others and as an identification. This term is used to describe people who are neither male nor female or are both male and female.  Basically anyone who does not fit into a binary gender category.

Intergender- Somebody who's gender is somewhere between male and female

Demigender- When you feel as if you are one part a defined gender and one or more parts an undefined gender.  Terms can include demigirl, demiboy, demiagender, ect.

Greygender- Somebody with a weak gender identification of themselves

Aporagender- Somebody with a strong gender identification of themselves that is non-binary

Maverique- A non-binary gender that exists outside of the orthodox social bounds of gender

Novigender- A gender that is super complex and impossible to describe in a single term

Designated gender- A gender assigned at birth based on an individuals sex and/or what gender society percieves a person to be

Transitioning- The process of using medical means to change your sex

Intersex- A biological difference in sex that is when people are born with genitals, gonads, and/or chromosomes that do not match up exactly with male or female.  Intersex individuals can have any romantic/sexual orientation and can have any gender identification.  Intersex individuals are about as common as redheads.

Dyadic- Someone who is not intersex and when their gentinals, gonads, and chromosomes can all match into either a male or female category

Trans Woman- Someone who is assigned as a male at birth, but identifies as a woman

Trans Man- Someone who is assigned as a female at birth, but identifies as a man

Trans Feminine- Someone who identifies as feminine, but identifies as neither a man nor a woman.  They must also be assigned male at birth.

Trans Masculine- Someone who identifies as masculine, but identifies as neither a man nor a woman.  They must also be assigned female at birth.

Social Dysphoria- Discomfort experienced when acting in ways socially different than your gender or being addressed in ways different to your gender

Body Dysphoria- Discomfort experienced because of the difference between gender and your sex, role, or gender expression

Butch- A term used to describe someone who's gender expression is more masculine than feminine.  This is commonly used in describing women or lesbians.

Femme (Fem)- A term used to describe someone who's gender expression is more feminine than masculine.  This is commonly used in describing women or lesbians.

Binarism- Putting gender strictly into two categories (male and female) and refusing to acknowledge genders outside of male and female.

Interesting academic expose


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