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PrincessJoyy:
Good day Nairalanders, pls I need your urgent advice on my present predicament. It is going to be a long read so pls be patient with me.
Been married for 11 years now and it was love at the beginning. My husband has been loving and caring but after some years the romance began to dwindle and the love I had for my husband began to drop. I complained to him but he came up with the excuses that he had so much in mind especially catering for the family. It continued that way till my love tank for him became empty so to speak. December last year something happened, my husband came to me in the night asking for my forgiveness for not showing me the much desired attention and care that I deserved that we should let the past slide to begin afresh, then we started dating again, taking me out and the joy and happiness that once eluded me was restored. He however, kept tabs on my conversation and chats with a childhood male friend without my knowledge and what he deduced is we still have feelings for each other and our chats was full of regrets for not marrying each other and we called each other first love. He confronted me with his findings which I initially denied till he brought facts. I never had intimacy with this said guy which my husband knows being that my husband is the one that deflowered me. We ironed it out and settled the issue. My husband expected me to end whatever it was with the guy though he didn't say so directly. My chats and calls with this guy continued without my husbands knowledge, until last night when my husband asked me what I have with this guy, I told him nothing. He said I should choose between him and the guy. I should severe/cut all ties with this guy if I choose to be with him, so I asked why, he said no arguments that I should do what he asked me to do. After much talk, I discovered he saw my chats with the guy (the one I forgot to delete). I got angry at him for monitoring me and told him in annoyance to take his phone (he bought it for me) and give me the sim, which he quietly did but refused to give me the sims. I dragged with him but he overpowered me, I also tried to seize his phone but failed he even threatened to vacate the house for me at that ungodly hour if I continue with my madness. After a while, I apologized to him, he accepted the apology but refused to give me the phone. I am using my laptop to send this. How do I handle the situation for peace to reign. I don't know what he feels about me now. Sorry for the long write up. NB I told him in annoyance that he is monitoring my chats because he bought the phone for me that I'll buy mine and he said not in his house that I shouldn't dare

Are you for real or just joking? A married woman for eleven years chatting an Ex that didn't see any reason to double his hustle and marry you.
Sorry to reset your brain but are u OK? you are lucky you have a man that loves you and wouldn't want to wash your dirty pants outside else you deserve to be in your parents house after repeating it for the second time.
Don't worry get yourself a new phone and also get ready to park to your fathers house and let your husband tell your kids the hoe that their mum was.
How can you even think about this?
Biko for the sake of the loving and good man God has blessed you with cut all ties with that guy cos he will not only sleep with u but blackmail you to death.

A word is enough for the wise

Magnifico2000:
This thread was the bomb in 2015-2016.. I really missed this thread. Let me mention some people that made this thread lively. Life is hard o after nysc.

Sofdoc

Prissyluv

Zenopee

Goldpeas

Walexsammy

femolala001

Tunbebes

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Noordean

Mayorsweet

Sugarbabekemi

dassypearl

smilingjimmy

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Bunsky

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Judith

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leemah4u

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Gracyel

Pretty3

Owliver

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Prissyluv

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Erisegun

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Noordean

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Damiesan

Ahmed4002

Misspetit

Nigerdeltaboi

Spartoo

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joyjoomia

Damiesan

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Sleekyonyx

Mzjaney

Dexcira

Pretty3

Dassypearl

Clans

Smilingjimmy

Misspetit

Chidexsmokey

Tunbebes

Lagmostkuit

Sugarbabekemi

Munalight

leemah4u

Teebee22

Judette

Rmfunky

Rusa

Gangb

Gracyel

Lollytee4lyf

Kingphilip

Dparagon

yes o, the best set ever. God has been good and I truly miss u guys.

ijeije123:
Team July, how una dey? Hope the ministry is becoming easier and MS has finally gone?

Anyways, I observed today at work that my navel kind of feel slightly painful when I touch it. Note, I don't have a protruding navel; its inverted self. If that word is correct, I duuno. I hope its normal and I'm not the only one with such experience? I would appreciate responses pls even from experienced mama's. Tnx

team July here and this ministry is not becoming easier, infact my MS is increasing, aside the reduction in weakness, my spitting is increasing, the bitter taste in my mouth is still there, my stomach is already protruding.
Anyways back to your complaints, my navel doesn't hurt and I don't think yours is normal. But let the other experienced mama's have a say.

Babygal2020:
Sent

pls I just checked and its not there

Babygal2020:
Sent

pls send to me too. thanks @ Babygal2020

zaynie:
Drink lots of water and try to lie on your left.
Try as much as possible to stay on the bed, you can place a cup beside you for the spitting.
By now, your MS should be disappearing.
Your slight abdominal pain could be your uterus expanding for its new tenant as this is the period they'll begin to grow.

Thanks ma'am, had to call my family doctor. And he suggested I take paracetamol with lots of water and rest, just as u suggested and am doing just fine this morning.

Pls help, am in serious pain and discomfort as I have been having slight abdominal pain down to my left leg since afternoon which has increased this evening . even my ms has increased (spitting almost every second) and I am having the urge to vomit. Do I need to be scared
Am 15weeks gone and a first timer.

hapiness44:
Lost my DS this morning, 16weeks and 4 days. Been admitted in the hospital since Saturday after continuous pain all through the night. Doc suspecting fibroid degeneration as that was what they were treating for. Looking back now, I guess all the constant pains were red flags . Signing out, team July

Modified: as a first timer, what do I need to do to heal faster, the fibroid pain is still there,..

so so sorry ma, May God heal you and bless u sooner and in double folds. amen.

Tipsyjules1:
Na so na.Them say I too local ,so I was trying to form but I guess it was at the wrong place and time.

lol. infact I can't stop laughing. congrats ma'am, I tap into your blessing(boy).
I am already imagining all the agbada, kaftan, caps, I would wear him with timberland and shorts. and how he would protect his sister(s) following. #shy lol. but let God's will prevail.
@a first time moms to be wish.

pls do u have other Asaba Jobs or know of any vacancy. I have HND in computer science, with over 5years administrative / sales accounting experience. pls mention me on this is post if any. Thanks.

blex444:
As in ehn....we are in d same boat o and its telling on my piggy akant ..biko kontinu eating jare no be our fault fa na belle catch us o

Welcome to the newbies, @teebee22 @Izbanda01 @Bisade44 and other mamas wish u a stress-free preggy journey

@ambient,pls mama you are free to join us,july mamas no dey carry last *wink*

#smile. thanks ma'am

ambient:
The teeth ache is something else,had it throughout last week coupled with swollen gum.i just kept mixing my longrich toothpaste with warm water then holding it in my mouth for aminute or two,it went away after 3days.

Why do i feel like fighting everybody this days....am i about to born the next anthony joshua? Speak lord.

[quote author=ambient post=85642841]my Aunty, am with you on this fight own o, infact everybody now gives me chance at the office and my belle still flat like slate. am scared of what would happen when am 7months gone

hello mommas and soon to be.
I just found out about this group today and am super excited. am 13+1week gone and my edd is July 13.
I swear I didn't know this journey has so many swings, everything tastes bitter and I easily get angry, I spit every 3mins even with gum in my mouth. the foetus is active and viable but I sometimes have pains on my abdomen, easily exhausted and craving for only ice and ice creams. pls I really need to learn. #firsttimemomtobe

I am team July

CaptainMitch:
Na so my man, this year has been good o, money dey account I no dey like give man money, make dem go hustle joor

pls am interested in the giveaway too.

ahnie:
I ve a pair of shoes to give..
Location z asaba!

pls I am resident in ogwashi. do u have any job vacancy u can link me with or notify of.

Please how can i join? I need help.

Please how can i join? I need help.

Please I need a job around asaba axis
I have HND in computer science with very good knowlege of microsoft application packages while willing to learn, am a very fast learner with good communication and writing skills.
I have experience as a secretary /personal assistant.
Experience as a cashier, and also in teaching.

erhimatina3@gmail.com

MisterKings:
No problem sis. I wish you the joy and blessings that come in marriage. Happy married life in advance

Amen. thanks

MisterKings:
Lovely, reminds of me of how I saw my wife when she offered to assist me. I was like wow....what a woman. I am sure he feels the same way.

P.S Make una book us for the wedding video o (unless u get person already), we go do better work for una.

thanks so much. plus he said he already paid part for a photo and video..... God bless you so much.

MisterKings:
Yes of course why not, but ask him first o. We men were created in another department in heaven. God made women smarter than men (True fact) but still put ego inside us like we know it all. Ask him if its ok to get him this or that, I dont know your man, he might take offence and say how can you buy shoe for me.....a whole me, do you know who I am? or he might not.

So ask him and understand the kind of man he is before making your moves and don't rub anything on his face. No man likes that.
If you bought him tie dont say in front of people that you got him the tie he is wearing

Honey see the tie I bought you for 100k, you cannot even wear it properly, I dont know the kind of man you are sef, with your head like coconut chips.

That kind talk in public is likely to hurt his ego.

So communicate with him, if he is ok with it, go ahead and do all you can.

Wow, I just chatted him and he was so happy that I want to assist him and he even love the shoe already. He even listed some other personal item I could assist him with (if I can) and am so glad. people always say it's demeaning assisting your man for your wedding. thanks a million. I just learnt a different lesson

MisterKings:
I had fears, I had worries. But one thing that kept me standing gidigba is my faith in God.
I understand you are assisting him, but dont pay for everything in the name of assistance. For instance, my lady assisted me with things like her gown, my suit, small small things like that. That normally if I had the cash I would sort out. But we both made sure she didn't assist with the requirements for the marriage. Thats a NO NO. My manly ego will not let me do that plus she also knew it was wrong.

I focused mainly on the big things like the requirements for intro, trad, white wedding, court wahala, our appartment etc. But small small things like cloth to wear (which I no send because I was like I go wear wetin I get o. But women and their wahala, she insited I needed to get new suit, new shoe, new singlet and boxers sef, I taya) and many other things to make sure things are going smoothly.

Women are meant to HELP the men not do it all. So make sure you are open to help both from God and from people (family and friends). If you have a friend who has a hall that you can get for free, beg am and get that booked. If you have a sibbling with a car, book am down and u have a ride for the wedding day. If you have a relative who has money whine am to help you with hotel room for the wedding day. Also if you need caterer my wife is there to cook better meal within your budget and I am here to cover your event at a 50% discount (Just call me 08174223203 and visit my site shizimedia.com)

So basically, it might not be all about money, the one money can sort out no problem. Let your man, focus on the trad and wedding requirements especially the trad (thats the real marriage, the rest na party). So if you see he needs help then assist....But dont pay your own bride price o....if he's not ready make una wait small save. Its not a good record that a man borrowed money from his wife to marry her.

If you still need more info, I am at your service ma'am.

lol. thank alot. I already handled my gown plus some of my other stuff plus my kid sister is a makeup artist and elder sister a caterer. although I work in a brewery outlet and most of my drinks are from friends but I saw a beautiful shoe for him and I have been scared getting it for him aside my clothes, I felt it's bad. And then he is already handling the traditional and white wedding together with food for two day. I don't want to cross my boundaries getting him few of his things hence my questions. so then I can get that shoe for him right?

pls did you have fears during the preparation and how did you handle them cos am melting. Plus I earn a bit more than my fiance for now. what and what do you advice I assist him with him aside the cash which may seem like am giving him money to marry me. I already have my siblings volunteering to assist me with some things. am confused. wedding is August.

November 2nd right here.