₦airaland Forum

Ricswagger:
dont take it personal,sorry if i hurt ur ego,was only kidding

I did not take it personally.

hahn:
First of all, I'm not a "nairaland dude"

I'm married and it would seem totally unrealistic to subject my wife to such standards

my apologies.

your comment is a breath of fresh air from all the ones I have seen so far.

the post was actually sarcastic.

SAMBARRY:
I got it PERFECTLY

lol.

plenty hidden posts.
what did I miss?
cc: sambarry

haven't you heard that they wan mark territory ni?
more like a subtle message to other predators to keep off.

hahn:
This is not the definition of a real woman. You just defined a robot

are you serious?

tell me something I don't know. I was thinking that I gave a definition of a real woman.

Nairaland dudes be talking from both sides of the mouth like a swinging pendulum.

Ricswagger:
lol u too black abhi dem use u for burnt offering?

I guess you offer sacrifices a lot since you know how a burnt offering looks like.

SAMBARRY:

from your smiley, I can deduce you got the sarcasm in my post.

obayaya:
Thanks bro..

obarat
congrats bro.
wishing you success in all your future endeavours.

jaybee3:
I don show
What's on the menu?

bobbi

dinachi:
You actually raised some good points there! So by your own definition do you do all these things you enumerated? In other words by your own definition are you a real woman?

I have no idea.

I only gave you what you wanted to hear.

lilmax:

hmmm
why are you squeezing your face?
is that not what you wanted to hear?

dinachi:
Google is your friend.

Google did not give me a good answer.
that's why I asked for yours.

to your definition of a real woman.

for starters, she has to recognise that the world we live in is a patriarchal one

she should be seen and not heard

in fact when her husband cheats, instead of quitting her marriage she should work things out.

she has to cook, care for her household and not have a life of her own

when she gets her salary, she should doable for the hubby and give everything to him

after giving birth to the required number of children, she should still be sexy. if she does not, hubby will look outside and say she refused to take care na, she's not the woman I married.

she should be able too cook both international and local dishes since the road to a man's heart is through food.

in the bedroom, she should be a ho and a pro.

last but not the least, she should live her life pleasing a man.


I guess that's what you want to hear.

ermmm
what is the meaning of submissive?
because I have seen it countless times.

why am I not surprised?
Stinking judiciary.

because to them, marriage is the ultimate. more like reaching the pinnacle of success.

jnrbayano:
If it were to be this person who gave you the "inspirational" book, will you have still blushed?

Confess!

what is the emphasis here?

the note or the person who is giving it to me?

I was in class one morning when the class rep walked up to me and handed me a note which was very inspirational and touching.

see me blushing that day as if I got a love letter. it was one of the most beautiful things I have read in ages.

jaybee3:
Trust you to like banana
Na the unripe one you been chop abi?
I heard it's really FILLING

very filling.
the unripe one was so strong, I was asking for more.

uuuuuuhhhhhhhhh

I had plenty bananas today.















guess what?








in d'prince's voice: I "yoooed".

netizenbuzz:
Op abeg no mind these broke ass niggas trying to rub off their insecurity on you. You'll end up living a very miserable life. We all know hustling does not always bring good results. You can hustle from now till eternity and still not make it. A poor man does not always equate to a good man. Not everyone who treats you right is the right husband for you. Don't be deceived.
I have a close relative who was in the same situation and I'm sure she's regretting the decision she made till today. She married a poor man, God-fearing. He was persistent and even manipulated her with the scriptures. She married him only to realise he had an ego the size od mount everest. There's nothing more annoying and irritating than a poor man with a huge ego. Yes, he loves her I can attest to that. However, I can't say the same for her even after 25 years of marriage. She knows he loves her in his own way but I've never heard her say the same about him. She is enduring a marriage she's supposed to enjoy. She is still the main bread winner till today. Any investment she makes she puts in his name yet he still throws a trantum if he feels she's not doing enough. Even the children are programmed to request anything they want from their mum. Family and friends still tell her that she's the only one that could have married him because he is such a hard man to please.
I'm not asking you to be a gold digger, as you can see from my story this my relative can hold herself and her kids on her own. However, please marry a man that can atleast take care of your children properly even if not you. You can not carry child for 9months and still be the one running around to make sure they eat. An income of less than 50k is too small to run a family in naija comfortably. Emergencies nko? I still lost a cousin some years ago because she was in labour for hours and her hubby could not afford to transfer her to a better hospital. He was to egoistic to even call the family for help. She died just like that. If you want to marry a poor, be ready for all the disadvantages that come with it which is more than all these advicers on NL are letting on. More importantly is the need for you to build yourself and your career. You should be focusing on that now and not on a man. Just my two cents.

gbam.

you couldn't have said it any better.

I decided to go through the thread and I am not surprised by most of the comments I see.

anyway, op your mind is all made up. If you don't have feelings for him, then reiterate that fact to him again when you both meet. we all have standards when it comes to who we want to settle down with. what one person wants is different from others. don't settle for him out of pity or with the mindset of letting love grow because more often than not, it backfires.

the same guys abusing you are the ones that will still have requirements for a girl they intend to marry in future. smh

take all the advice you feel is useful and discard the rest.

above all, wisdom is profitable to direct.

cheers.

this thread makes for Sunday evening entertainment
I love obinoscopy's answers.
I no get questions for now.

KelvinGraphics:
Aunty Teespice please did u come with any Pop corn?

I didn't ooo

I just dey read dey blush scarlet.

MrBasketball:
Planning to break it soon with a wonderful Nairaland lady.... Seriously!

why are you telling me?

MrBasketball:
Honestly i am.

very good.
keep it up.

MrBasketball:
You ain't even virgin.

are you one?

iyknaz:
Yes I will take a walk, and so will every other reasonable guy. She will need all d luck in the world to find a guy that will accept such a stupid decision when she wasn't initially a virgin. In other words, she might end up single 4 a very long time till she reviews her decision.

and when she keeps opening her legs for every tom, dive and Harry that brings the prospect of a relationship and all these men eventually go, na your kind go still call am "ho"

I am not feeling too well abeg. it's too early in the day to talk too much. let posterity judge us all since your mind is made up. at least I know not many people reason the way most of you do here.

good luck in your conquest

MrBasketball:
Why break it before marriage with another guy?

I made a case for a lady who decides to go celibate afterwards.

if you don't like it, please take a walk.

bulldoza:
Storey for the whòres

make your points clear without resorting to gutter language.
story for the wandering dick.