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GoodFaith: I am not sure if I agreed with you
If he has a second wife,
The woman can justify the reason she build my house without including the husband name
But She still have to inform her husband

Chillisauce: See another one. Someone's marriage, you think this is a computer game

OP, be a man and face all the party involved then move ahead.

pickabeau1: no im not sick...... maybe you are .. are you?

2ndChance: It hasn't gotten to that extent but I am seriously weighing that as an option now especially with her sudden aggression and keeping mute. I may have to make some unpopular decisions and call everyone's bluff soon. Not an easy call though but it's on the table already.

pickabeau1: Nice one..... you bust d guy,,,,, though everyone has a right to their opinion

SHAAWA: What
really is the problem? her owing a property or her not telling you? I
am a woman and I know alot of women that never had any investment or
landed property simply because they were waiting for their husbands permission.

Coldfeet: You should be asking yourself that question! there was a thread sometime ago about a guy who says his wife won't apologize! And that he is seeking for a divorce cos of that! NOW we have a man who say his wife did something behind his back even though she has begged and apologise he still comes here to say he doesn't trust her anymore! What do you want me to say to him? Send her packing like most people here are saying? When judging issues that are one sided its best to proffer a unifying advise or at best be neutral! Now its someone 10 year old marriage that is at stake here and all you bunch can come up with is discipline her! Teach her a lesson! Put your feet down! Show her you are the man! Purrlease!!!!!! This guy like the man in the other thread is just looking for someone to help back him up in his decision to call his marriage quits!! And some of you here have succeeded in doing just that! Nothing trumps forgiveness! Even the Bible tells us to forgive so as to have our transgressions forgiven too. So please if you think my asking him to accept his wife's pleas and move on is childish then you can shove your thoughts up where the sun don't shine sir! Good day.

2ndChance: My brother, it is this lack of seriousness that has made them fall into my trap so far. Otherwise, the way the whole deal was packaged, I would have lived my entire life without ever knowing my wife owned the house.

Mintayo: I like your comment,it is nt abt the house,it is about trust,sincerity and honesty,she has broken the bridge of trust.
The Op shld be careful,forgive her but be very sensitive,watch her, and pls dnt sleep with ur two eyes closed snoring your destiny away.
Tell her to desist from listening to her friends because most of them are envious of her home,and pocket your mother-in-law too,watch her closely, If your mother-in-law and ur wife come together against you,then God help you,:some in-laws are so foolish,i dnt know what some mothers gain in destroying their children's home, and BE VERY PRAYERFUL.

2ndChance: The only thing I have no control over in this matter is the extent my family will take it as they have already contacted the Priest's superiors and are threatening to take it to the highest level possible. There may be some fireworks but at the end my final decision will be that I have forgiven her and will still remain married to her for the sake of my children. My mother-in-law is not going to find things funny too but unfortunately, I have no control over that either .

2ndChance: No wahala. We go build am together this time. All the evil third-parties are being exposed and will soon leave the way. I think I will just take things calmly. She just called me now to say she's on her way home from work still feeling remorseful. I have forgiven her but can never sleep with both eyes closed with her again. So sad.

2ndChance: I am happy I'm able to take this lightly right now actually. Initially, I could really never imagined it but shit happens. I'm vigilant at the moment preparing for the worst and hoping for the best at the same time.

gbanikiti: duuuuhhh!

GoodFaith: funkybaby Please go read all the comments
Go on your kneels and pray
That God should direct your in all your doing and decision in your marriage
Based on your comments you MIGHT NOT HAVE A HAPPY MARRIED

2ndChance: My father-in-law is late.

2ndChance: I have confronted her already and she went down on her kneels begging for forgiveness immediately. But then, trust once lost is difficult to gain back in a relationship. So even though I have forgiven her, I really don't trust her any longer because I now have this strong feeling that she has some unterior motives. I have also confronted the Priest too and he was speechless and in shock as to how I manage to find out.
As for the paternity issue, I have no doubt the children are mine as they are my carbon copies both the male and female ones. Besides, where I hail from, I would have been a dead man by now if I wasn't the biological father of my children. So, that's sorted.

gbanikiti: You know one thing, before you judge a case,you need to listen to the two sides of the story. The man has said his own part. Now that the woman isn't available to say her own story,let's assume the man is not totally right or he's just trying to get sympathy on this thread.

Do you think the poster would have approved his wife of building the house? Some men could be so insecure when they find out their wives earn more than them.

Now the deed has been done. Remember the house also belongs to him and his kids. In fact, she built it for there kids, not so? He should just forgive the wife and move on.

Ishilove: So it is easy to just send the mother of your children and a woman you have spent ten years of your life with packing just like that abi? Is that how they handle marital issues in your village.

It is very obvious you are not married. Shior

gbanikiti: there's nothing wrong in a woman building houses and acquiring properties. Maybe the posters wife felt he would not approve it. To me,I don't need anyone's permission to build houses. Its my personal decision.

funkybaby: why do i need my man's permission before i build a house

of course i will inform him before i start but that does not constitute seeking his permission.

its my hard earned money and i can spend it however it pleases me as long as I do not put my finances or the family in jeopardy