jp philips:


jesus must really be your house boy or body guard

texaco1: what do u mean by your statement?..

2ndChance:

It hasn't gotten to that extent but I am seriously weighing that as an option now especially with her sudden aggression and keeping mute. I may have to make some unpopular decisions and call everyone's bluff soon. Not an easy call though but it's on the table already.

pickabeau1:

no im not sick...... maybe you are .. are you?

ATMC: paul was jilted not peter.

2ndChance:

It hasn't gotten to that extent but I am seriously weighing that as an option now especially with her sudden aggression and keeping mute. I may have to make some unpopular decisions and call everyone's bluff soon. Not an easy call though but it's on the table already.

Mintayo:
what are you saying sire,you are not making any sense(no offence).
Can you try and read the last post of the Op?
@Op,it is a serious issue,with your mother-in-law involve,with her being aggressive even after apologizing,it is a serious issue,something is not right somewhere,you need wisdom to resolve,I hop it has not gotten to the point where you will tell your wife to choose btw you and her mother+the building+the priest.
God will give you wisdom,i am seeing a redlight o.

clapham:

my Ex gf and i agreed to get married few months ago but her family decide to change it few years later,so i sense that if i dont dump her now soon or later her mum and grandma will be the decision maker which i can not allow,i would rather marry a white lady who cares.
i dont know why some mother in laws still want to know what is going on in thier daughter life.
typical 9ja mentality

texaco1:
they are winning the game my friend.believe me . they are playing their cards right . dont play yourself into their hands . KEEP YOUR COOL and STAY CALM.keep them guessing , that is how you can win dont be predictable

manie: It is very obvious that the OP does not have a house of his own.

If your wife told you that she wanted to build a house, will you approve and support your wife.

I assisted my wife with negotiation for building materials and workmanship when she was building her house, the financial independence of wife was the driving force that catalyzed me to succeed more than my wife even though when we first got married the rental income she was generating from the house she inherited from her late mother was more than my annual salary.

jp philips:


There is no sense to make here, it is as simple as it gets, if you marry a Nigerian woman and she becomes financially liberated, your life will never be the same, it is the same when you loose your job as a man, the OP has no complaints, he just doesn't want to accept the dish reality is cooking.
whether its influenced by priest, pastor, judas, mary, her mother is irrelevant, the underlying factor is that she earns higher and the Nigerian woman's prophesy must be fulfilled.
the OP has no case, go home and fvck ur wife, cant even believe some people are asking her to send her away WTF!!

Chillisauce:

See another one. Someone's marriage, you think this is a computer game

OP, be a man and face all the party involved then move ahead.

jp philips:


There is no sense to make here, it is as simple as it gets, if you marry a Nigerian woman and she becomes financially liberated, your life will never be the same, it is the same when you loose your job as a man, the OP has no complaints, he just doesn't want to accept the dish reality is cooking.
whether its influenced by priest, pastor, judas, mary, her mother is irrelevant, the underlying factor is that she earns higher and the Nigerian woman's prophesy must be fulfilled.
the OP has no case, go home and fvck ur wife, cant even believe some people are asking her to send her away WTF!!

jp philips:


There is no sense to make here, it is as simple as it gets, if you marry a Nigerian woman and she becomes financially liberated, your life will never be the same, it is the same when you loose your job as a man, the OP has no complaints, he just doesn't want to accept the dish reality is cooking.
whether its influenced by priest, pastor, judas, mary, her mother is irrelevant, the underlying factor is that she earns higher and the Nigerian woman's prophesy must be fulfilled.
the OP has no case, go home and fvck ur wife, cant even believe some people are asking her to send her away WTF!!

2ndChance:
At 34, I already owned storey buildings and bungalows from my sweat and you are here doubting if I owned building or not 5 yrs after. I leave you to keep guessing. That is the least of my problem now.

manie: @ OP, if your wife inherited a house from her father or mother what will you ask her to do with the property. Will you tell to keep it or sell the property?

manie: @ OP, if your wife inherited a house from her father or mother what will you ask her to do with the property. Will you tell to keep it or sell the property?

manie: @ OP, if your wife inherited a house from her father or mother what will you ask her to do with the property. Will you tell to keep it or sell the property?

obadiah777: it would be obvious. anyway the point is that what the guys wife did is not new. many nigerian women do this behind their husbands back. any nigerian woman who hasnt done it is because she is either a holy woman or if she is not holy, its cuz she hasnt hammered yet. but trust me when i say any woman with means will do it. variety is the spice of life. when women have been nacking the same kondo for over a year it gets boring and predictable. so they start fantasizing about divorce and getting another mans kondo. then they start fantasizing about having their own place in case they decide to run away. thats why they do it.

Pattey:

Must you think upside down? How is that equivalent to her actually building it up from scratch? Besides, what you own b4 marriage doesn't count! What counts is from the moment you chose to live together as one!

The fact; he acquired assets in both their names and therefore SHE has NO right to own assets in her name alone. Except the OP has done same!

clapham:

are you trying to justify the op wife?
men have failed yes,accepted but is that the end of the road? cant both resolve it?
is having secret properties the solution?

jp philips:

personally, i don't see any problem, the OP is simply paranoid, im glad you admitted a lot of men have failed their families, a married man will be outside his matrimonial home by 2:00am drinking beer with bachelors and manchelors, arguing stupid soccer while oogling all the hotties around (not the case with the OP), yet, they have a family at home, are they the kinda husbands their wives do things without consulting them?
what exactly does most Nigerian men have to offer these days?

I will not blame the OP's wife if she chooses not to consult a hubby she believes is mentally incompetent.

there is no problem here OP go home to your family.

jp philips:

personally, i don't see any problem, the OP is simply paranoid, im glad you admitted a lot of men have failed their families, a married man will be outside his matrimonial home by 2:00am drinking beer with bachelors and manchelors, arguing stupid soccer while oogling all the hotties around (not the case with the OP), yet, they have a family at home, are they the kinda husbands their wives do things without consulting them?
what exactly does most Nigerian men have to offer these days?

I will not blame the OP's wife if she chooses not to consult a hubby she believes is mentally incompetent.

there is no problem here OP go home to your family.

jp philips:

personally, i don't see any problem, the OP is simply paranoid, im glad you admitted a lot of men have failed their families, a married man will be outside his matrimonial home by 2:00am drinking beer with bachelors and manchelors, arguing stupid soccer while oogling all the hotties around (not the case with the OP), yet, they have a family at home, are they the kinda husbands their wives do things without consulting them?
what exactly does most Nigerian men have to offer these days?

I will not blame the OP's wife if she chooses not to consult a hubby she believes is mentally incompetent.

there is no problem here OP go home to your family.

texaco1:
reading through this thread i can say that polygamy is the best way to survive a marriage in Nigeria . if one messes up the second on take over . as simple as abc . if the op was married to two women i doubt if he would be having all this headaches about his wife
if you want to live long just marry more than one woman , and let them fight themselves while you just relax and watch

manie:


He should go back to the basics, something must be fundamentally wrong for the wife not to have consulted her.

A close relative ( a cousin of mine) is having similar problem, she is building her second house without informing the husband.

The houses are at Ikorodu and Badagry. She told her husband when she bought a land at Ajah in 2002, the husband compelled her to sell the land and they used the money to buy a car. The man said if my cousin wants to continue answering Mrs .w....i.a, she must sell the land. Her pastor told her to obey her husband. This is a man that is still living in a rented apartment earning about N6 million per annum, but believes he will hit a jackpot that will enable him buy a house of 100 million in his choice area of Lagos.

GoodFaith:
From reading the Op posting
It doesn't look like he is doing bad
If a Nigerian woman think she make more money disrespecting her husband
She doesn't need a Husband
If the Op is not happy he need to do what will make him happy
I