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Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Mintayo(m): 5:21pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
texaco1:I like your comment,it is nt abt the house,it is about trust,sincerity and honesty,she has broken the bridge of trust. The Op shld be careful,forgive her but be very sensitive,watch her, and pls dnt sleep with ur two eyes closed snoring your destiny away. Tell her to desist from listening to her friends because most of them are envious of her home,and pocket your mother-in-law too,watch her closely, If your mother-in-law and ur wife come together against you,then God help you,:some in-laws are so foolish,i dnt knw what some mothers gain in destroying their children's home, and BE VERY PRAYERFUL. |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Sike(m): 5:25pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
WOMEN! I'll never ever stop respecting them. Argghhh! |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by texaco1: 5:28pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Mintayo:believe me some mother in laws will go to any length to destroy a son in law that wants to prove himself independent of them , once someone notices this , the best thing is to keep them at arms length and watch your wife carefully , whatever the op tells his wife believe me she will go straight to her mother to tell her . op is treading on dangerous grounds which i don't think he realizes . this is the sort of issues that has wrecked many men lives beyond repair. a word i think should be enough for any wise op |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by eightsin(m): 5:29pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Too much money often make people especially women act irrational. Bt wit time,maturity n constant prayer...d madnx will leave. So let it go. No1 is perfect. I'm nt married tho bt soon i'd tie d nut. |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by 2ndChance: 5:33pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
texaco1: believe me some mother in laws will go to any length to destroy a son in law that wants to prove himself independent of them , once someone notices this , the best thing is to keep them at arms length and watch your wife carefully , whatever the op tells his wife believe me she will go straight to her mother to tell her . op is treading on dangerous grounds which i don't think he realizes . this is the sort of issues that has wrecked many men lives beyond repair. a word i think should be enough for any wise opMy brother, it is this lack of seriousness that has made them fall into my trap so far. Otherwise, the way the whole deal was packaged, I would have lived my entire life without ever knowing my wife owned the house. |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by texaco1: 5:35pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
2ndChance:ok bro , just take care and be careful |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by zomby(m): 5:37pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Please let us also keep in mind that this issue is not only directed toward women or wives, it should simply be directed toward Nigerians in general. As mentioned by someone, lack of trust, sincerity and honesty among ourselves is responsible for the way things are done backward in Nigerian and the main reason why our system/ country continues to disintegrate on a regular. As we discuss this topic, I know at least 2 other husbands that are doing exactly the same thing to their wives. It is our Method of Operation (the definition of a dirty culture) 1 Like |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by bedazzled: 5:37pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
from your text it seem God is already directing you on how to handle your home... pls dont derail every marriage has its up(s) n down(s) not to mention temptations, its shows the level of maturity at how one handles his or her home. (i know its not easy but the grace of God will guide u) |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Coldfeet(f): 5:39pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Dr. Joe:You should be asking yourself that question! there was a thread sometime ago about a guy who says his wife won't apologize! And that he is seeking for a divorce cos of that! NOW we have a man who say his wife did something behind his back even though she has begged and apologise he still comes here to say he doesn't trust her anymore! What do you want me to say to him? Send her packing like most people here are saying? When judging issues that are one sided its best to proffer a unifying advise or at best be neutral! Now its someone 10 year old marriage that is at stake here and all you bunch can come up with is discipline her! Teach her a lesson! Put your feet down! Show her you are the man! Purrlease!!!!!! This guy like the man in the other thread is just looking for someone to help back him up in his decision to call his marriage quits!! And some of you here have succeeded in doing just that! Nothing trumps forgiveness! Even the Bible tells us to forgive so as to have our transgressions forgiven too. So please if you think my asking him to accept his wife's pleas and move on is childish then you can shove your thoughts up where the sun don't shine sir! Good day. 1 Like |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by GoodFaith: 5:42pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Coldfeet: You should be asking yourself that question! there was a thread sometime ago about a guy who says his wife won't apologize! And that he is seeking for a divorce cos of that! NOW we have a man who say his wife did something behind his back even though she has begged and apologise he still comes here to say he doesn't trust her anymore! What do you want me to say to him? Send her packing like most people here are saying? When judging issues that are one sided its best to proffer a unifying advise or at best be neutral! Now its someone 10 year old marriage that is at stake here and all you bunch can come up with is discipline her! Teach her a lesson! Put your feet down! Show her you are the man! Purrlease!!!!!! This guy like the man in the other thread is just looking for someone to help back him up in his decision to call his marriage quits!! And some of you here have succeeded in doing just that! Nothing trumps forgiveness! Even the Bible tells us to forgive so as to have our transgressions forgiven too. So please if you think my asking him to accept his wife's pleas and move on is childish then you can shove your thoughts up where the sun don't shine sir! Good day.I am not sure of your age Forgiveness take time Sometime has you get new information you get mad |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by texaco1: 5:44pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Coldfeet: You should be asking yourself that question! there was a thread sometime ago about a guy who says his wife won't apologize! And that he is seeking for a divorce cos of that! NOW we have a man who say his wife did something behind his back even though she has begged and apologise he still comes here to say he doesn't trust her anymore! What do you want me to say to him? Send her packing like most people here are saying? When judging issues that are one sided its best to proffer a unifying advise or at best be neutral! Now its someone 10 year old marriage that is at stake here and all you bunch can come up with is discipline her! Teach her a lesson! Put your feet down! Show her you are the man! Purrlease!!!!!! This guy like the man in the other thread is just looking for someone to help back him up in his decision to call his marriage quits!! And some of you here have succeeded in doing just that! Nothing trumps forgiveness! Even the Bible tells us to forgive so as to have our transgressions forgiven too. So please if you think my asking him to accept his wife's pleas and move on is childish then you can shove your thoughts up where the sun don't shine sir! Good day.are you married ?pls dont be offended with my question please |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Coldfeet(f): 5:55pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
GoodFaith:So you just created this handle to quote me? SMH. |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Coldfeet(f): 6:03pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
texaco1: are you married ?pls dont be offended with my question pleaseMr texaco1 pls go get a job! Your rants here are unbecoming of a man. I am happily married to wonderful man whose got no issues if I build a house without telling him ! Bleep the hell off! 2 Likes |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by seangy4konji: 6:12pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
you must be very careful my friend...your wife is onto something...dont eat her food...she is confiden now and sure does not give 2 peep about you...you chase her out?she will be fine...treat her like a stranger,if she shows no remores?be making plans to leave her already....tell d pastor never to come close to your house or wife and report the matter to the police and let them get a letter instructing d man...he is d devil behind it.the same thing has happened o my dad and now y step mum is the boss in his house.... |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Nobody: 6:17pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
pro01: You are now a big boy nah and you've completely forgotten me. All my YIM completely ignored. Not cool lai lai! |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Nobody: 6:21pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Yoruba_Jesus: Be thankful the guy on the other end is a priest. At least you are sure he didnt do IT with your wifey.hmmmmm u think so! Most of those guys parading their selves as reverend can do un do.u never can tell! |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by PAGAN9JA(m): 6:28pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
[size=28pt]TYPICAL XTIANS![/size] |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by mufutau55(m): 6:42pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
2ndChance: I have seen similar threads on this topic before but never imagined it could happen in my marriage. Simple.. out of my House and out of my Life. She is everly divorced. No way out. No family begging either. And forget about Church reconcilaitions. NO SECOND CHANCE. Adios. |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Mintayo(m): 6:47pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
PAGAN 9JA:itumo? |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Nobody: 6:59pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
What belongs to your wife is also yours n viceversa.she shld hv told u bout it.since she has apologized forgv n 4get n she msnt do it again |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Nobody: 7:08pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
sounds exactly like my 'mama'. built 6 four bedroom flats without any single person in the house knowing. all the while she kept a straight face lol women. 3 Likes |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by GoodFaith: 7:29pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
obadiah777: sounds exactly like my 'mama'. built 6 four bedroom flats without any single person in the house knowing. all the while she kept a straight face lol women.so are you going to tell your Dad? Do you have any concern of the out come if your Dad find out? 1 Like |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by benjibabs(m): 7:30pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
2ndChance: Good that you forgave her. For trusting her again, it might take time to re-build the trust; however, I believe you can speed up the process. How? By getting to the root cause of the issue. When you understand why she did it, and both of you walk through it, trust should not be far away any longer. If she has not told you why she did yet ? Sit her down, and ask for the whole truth. While she is at it, ensure she maintains eye contact with you, and read her body language. Hopefully, she will tell you everything and both of you can deal with it. Meanwhile, be prepare for the truth; it might be deeper than you thought. Come what may, try and work it out with her. Shalom |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by kunlej2: 7:33pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
funkybaby: why do i need my man's permission before i build a houseyou have just displayed that u have no manners. peradventure you lacked proper moral upbringing 1 Like |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by pedestal82(m): 7:37pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
@op, well ℓ̊ think ur wife has built a separate home from the one you two share. So my advice is, let her go to the home she has built for herself! Simple. |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Nobody: 7:43pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
2ndChance:bulshit... Dat ur family get big problem which only God can solve! 1 Like |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by veave(f): 7:44pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
sugar, you are not telling us the whole truth. 1 Like |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Acidosis(m): 7:46pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Op, you are a dead man living! I see you're an Urhobo man (from your write-up). Wake up, man! Wake up! |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Heck: 7:49pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Op. Am already growing white hairs that my wife started clothing biz without consulting me first. Her sis in US has been sending them. I have had nothing to do with d biz or the clothes so far. Meanwhile I have been foolishly open to her, even faithful to her. Because of God though. Still thinking a reaction. Yours is a tougher call. D catholic church is dying by d day. Prayer is not enough. Forgiveness is out of it. If it is me, divorce cannot be an option because of d kids. Not sleeping with her is easy but not eating her food is a real tough call. Eating her food is invitation to known death. Will you have your own kitchen. For how long. Sending her away is licensing her into promiscuity. How about bonding with your children. If you are a jealous kind, then d untimely death you fear will still come. Women are Devil we cannot do without. Am yet to hear sorry from my wife lips. But I can bet it, the one your wife said is acting and premeditated. Remember too God is interested on how you handle this matter. Your ideas are good. May I suggest this: visit her father or whoever represents him if d dad is death. Go with an elder in your own family. Do not plan the visit. Go to him and say what happened. Do not say your plan to anybody. Do not entertain discussion on the matter with anybody thereafter. As you have requested, the documents must be given to you before any further talk until then cut her off your life. If any of your kids is up to ten call that one and explain events. When the document comes sell off the building & give d money to charity. It is not foolishness, that is the condition for the marriage to go on as though nothing happened. If she is like my wife she will refuse & say over her dead body. Then grow up & rent a place without her knowledge & move her things there. She on her own may repack to wherever she wants. By this you have not divorced her. You have separated from her. Keep her off your home. Your kids can stay wherever till they mature. But harden up to face any man that comes close to her, the priest inclusive. Take care. A tough call. |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Nobody: 8:00pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
GoodFaith:well she did call us children, after she finished building it and showed it to us and said dont tell your dad. so ermm i couldnt betray her. this was a while back. i left the country not too long after. dont know if she told him though |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by lastpage: 8:00pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
Nashville: My brother, my advice is that you forgive her. Sounds silly but forgive her. From your story, you have alot to thank God for, a beautiful family, good health, properties all over and you have been a great husband. If your wife decides to betray you, it is not your fault but hers alone. As hard as it is, look around you and thank God. Sit her down and tell her you know she has built the house. Tell her how disappointed you are but let her know you have already forgiven her.I sure love the way "WOMEN" respond to "women issues"! Its so "nice and warm" to read....but... Just turn the table around and let the man be the one who committed this "audacious harakiri", and you would "love" their response to the "ma-issues"! Women? ***Shakes head and knack it against a pot of garri**** @Poster: Your wife have gone into what l will call "Plan-B Mode". Its now only a question of time, that marriage don get kwashiorkor! Women by nature, are wired to work with a man (husband) they love but when it turns around like this ..... I urge you to take heart and activate "survival/stay-alive mode" too, otherwise, Pastor TB Joshua go see vision for you very soon. Watch ya back o! Lastapge! |
Re: Priest Aids Wife To Build Without Husband's Knowledge by Lawconfessor(f): 8:05pm On Oct 29, 2013 |
SORRY DEAR OP, COS I AM SURE SAY UR EARS DON HEAR AM TODAY. Trust nlandrs- d good, bad & ugly don surf u wif lots of good, bad n unthinkable advice. Pray for d Holy Spirit of discernment, so dat u dont mak mistake. None of us here knw ur wife dan u do. So its left for u to see &consider things to ur best interest- mak PEACEFUL decisions. 1 Like |
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