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Date a reader…Thank me later!

Why Readers, Scientifically, Are The Best People To Fall In Love With

http://elitedaily.com/life/culture/date-reader-readers-best-people-fall-love-scientifically-proven/662017/


Here are some excerpts:

“According to both 2006 and 2009 studies published by Raymond Mar, a psychologist at York University in Canada, and Keith Oatley, a professor of cognitive psychology at the University of Toronto, those who read fiction are capable of the most empathy and “theory of mind,” which is the ability to hold opinions, beliefs and interests apart from their own.
They can entertain other ideas, without rejecting them and still retain their own. While this is supposed to be an innate trait in all humans, it requires varying levels of social experiences to bring into fruition and probably the reason your last partner was such a narcissist.”

“Another 2010 study by Mar reinforces this idea with results that prove the more stories children have read to them, the keener their “theory of mind.” So while everyone thinks their kids are the best, the ones who read have the edge as they truly are the wiser, more adaptable and understanding children.”


“Readers, like voicemail leavers and card writers, are now a dying breed, their numbers decreasing with every GIF list and online tabloid.
The worst part about this looming extinction is that readers are proven to be nicer and smarter than the average human , and maybe the only people worth falling in love with on this shallow hell on earth.”


“They’ve learned what it’s like to be a woman, and a man. They know what it’s like to watch someone suffer. They are wise beyond their years.”

“Because reading is something that molds you and adds to your character. Each triumph, lesson and pivotal moment of the protagonist becomes your own.
Every ache, pain and harsh truth becomes yours to bear. You’ve traveled with authors and experienced the pain, sorrow and anguish they suffered while writing through it. You’ve lived a thousand lives and come back to learn from each of them.”


Here are the highlights for those who are not “Readers” –
The article says, this is how you will know them:

They Won’t Talk To You… They’ll Speak To You
“Do yourself a favor and date someone who really knows how to use their tongue.”
They Don’t Just Get You… They Understand You
They have the capacity for empathy. They may not always agree with you, but they will try to see things from your point of view.
They Don’t Just Get You… They Understand You
FINDING SOMEONE who reads is like dating a thousand souls. It’s gaining the experience they’ve gained from everything they’ve ever read and the wisdom that comes with those experiences. It’s like dating a professor, a romantic and an explorer.

If you date someone who reads, then you, too, will live a thousand different lives.



Hopefully you take the time to read the link. It's not too long. What do you think?

harlos: After killing Everyone

lol

One not enough?

TheBigUrban2: This is the most foolish comment I have read this year and that is saying a lot considering the mental patients we have here on NL


I am not here to direct people. I just state the facts about religion.


I dont know what traps you are talking about......maybe you have been admiring Sarah Palin too much and her animal hunting

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TheBigUrban2: Wow.....see how a guilty person talks?


Sorry not everyone is like you

Just because you can't direct people where you want them to go doesn't mean you should hate on those whose traps you fall into every time.

PastorAIO: And Those who ask the questions that cannot be answered invent myths - Pastor AIO the degenerate

Some People don't seek answers to questions. They go about seeking or creating questions for their preprepared perfect Answers. - Pastor AIO the immaculate.

Isn't that what all great speakers/debaters do? They direct the conversation.

rationalmind: We all know who

Everyone...

PastorAIO: And Those who ask the questions that cannot be answered invent myths - Pastor AIO the degenerate

Some People don't seek answers to questions. They go about seeking or creating questions for their preprepared perfect Answers. - Pastor AIO the immaculate.

InesQor: I love this. In context, here is another relevant quote from Nietzsche. The italics are mine.

"One hears only those questions for which one is able to find answers". - Friedrich Nietzsche

I said this on my "did we come to earth to gain a body" thread:



Those who confine themselves to asking only the questions they know can be answered, learn nothing. ~Tex

harlos: Our umbrella returns

Run now snake

“The irrationality of a thing is not an argument against its existence, rather a condition of it. ~ Nietzsche

Elegantly extended tendu

Hmmm...

I have been seriously considering deleting mine. It just seems too dangerous anymore.

Think about all we do online though. Things like online banking and online bill pay. We can check out multiple accounts; checking, savings, credit cards....and list goes on and on. We do almost everything online anymore. These sites say they are safe, but if a good hacker wants in, they will get in somehow. Then there are sites that sell your info.

Where do we draw the line? The world is becoming more and more technologically oriented. Even small children are using technology regularly.

How do we protect ourselves, when eventually every part of our lives that used to be on paper or done personally, will be viewed and/or typed on smaller and smaller screens.

How do we protect ourselves, in that reality, when anything can be taken and spread all over the World Wide Web for anyone to see, to alter, to steal and to exploit?

How do we protect ourselves from hackers and scammers that become more and more ingenious every day? It seems before long living "off the grid" will be impossible. Soon enough there will be no delete or off switch.

TheBigUrban2: I lied. I am not logicboy

I'll bite. Pray, tell. Who might you be?

ihedinobi2: Tex. Hi. Are we still doing this?

Thanks, dagr8, for the push.

Yetseyi.

Mintayo

An0nimus

Guys, are we done? UjSizzle, by your response to aManFromMars, I felt certain that you would be interested in this topic. Is there something you all want to change about this exercise to keep it going? I don't think the silence is because we don't appreciate the point of it. Please share any grievance, concern or suggestion and let us get to making this into a culture of the Chatbox.

Sorry. Preoccupied. I may be in and out for a while.

Nuwell

Monikers in alphabetical order.

On "m"

Tallesty1: Eyaaa, so sorry you hear? He will soon grow up.

He is grown up...still too young.

Lorlaahlozz

He is too young.

LogoDWhiz: Yup.. Guess I forgot about the time difference..
Are u a student?

Html

Nope...Teacher






Ishilove

LogoDWhiz: @texanomaly
Uwc.. Good evening... How was your day?

FrancisTony

May day is going well. It is only 3:30pm here. Hope your day was good.





gurnam

Coldfeet: Yeah me too but most people will mistake it for an actual party outfit and not a beach/pool gear so the aim is already defeated.

Well it is a party...It's just a party at a pool.


@Op...the best thing to do is try some things on. The most important thing is that you are comfortable in what you are wearing. If you are not comfortable, you will be self-conscious and not have a good time at the party. Have fun.

And

More

Here are some more. Then I'll post some swimsuits from revealing to not so much. You decide.

And

More

A size 12 is a lovely size. Not everyone who goes to a pool party swims. If you are uncomfortable in a swimsuit, wear a cute coverup. They are perfectly appropriate for a pool party or the beach. Here are some ideas for coverups:

@ LogoDWhiz
Thanks…good morning








Elantracey

PrinceAdepoju: Because Love Exists

Stop The Sadness

CFCfan

LogoDWhiz: I tot u are a black girl (probably Nigerian), born and bred in the US

Hmmm...No...White (not Nigerian) born and bred in the US...Sorry to disappoint.