₦airaland Forum

crackland:
Bro any man that remains in the house eating his wife's money after life happened to him, is on his own.

Same thing I've always stated here.

He ought to move far away from her and only visit occasionally to see the kids.
If it's not against his moral/ethical codes, he can have a side-chic at his new base to release tension once in a while.

Ybaby:
You have not learnt your lesson and it is quite unfortunate because it is not about you - it is about the nature of the woman.

Women are programmed to submit - she naturally wants to submit to a man who toils and provides. She wants her man to rule over her but he must toil and sweat to provide then he can rule over her.

If he does not rule over her by providing and inspiring her respect then she will rule over him like your wife ruled over you and it is bad thing to happen to both wife and husband.

Your wife is not a bad woman .... it is her programme. Your programme had a virus (no funds) which then corrupted her programme (treating you like an infidel)

Bible : Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you."
What did the bible say about adulterous woman? Which one is worse, a man that struggles to provide, not wilfully not providing or an adulterous woman.

I am a woman whose husband was unable to provide for his household for the first 3 years of our marriage. But like the OP, he was always trying to provide, though reminding me that I never ask him for money while we were courting. Being married for 24 years now and the last 21 years has seeing him providing for the 5 of us much more above the average standard. I do mainly voluntary work for NGOs and run a school that he funded, he still pay me salary till today. When jealous women from his tribe begrudge his changing my cars frequently, he says I have earned it 100 folds.
Men not providing is not good, but men like OP who try but can not provide enough are not the definition of Infidel. Also, Theranos no grace period for women to be Helpmate for their husband in my bible�
Peace.




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crackkhaus:
See, Sass...on this, you and I operate on completely different philosophies.

I personally do not believe anyone changes (speaking of adults here), not children or teens. This is one of my guiding principles in human relationships.
I'm even much more comfortable with people who are transparent enough to show their negatives as well as their positives...at least you know exactly who you're dealing with and can work around it.

That false expectation which you noted as the reason why people change, is rooted on idealism - the need to focus only on positives, the belief that archangels walk the earth in human form.

Any man/woman who appears too good to be true, is definitely too good to be true.
This is reality.

akinnux:
Please go to Ilorin and you will hardly any Fulani without a Yoruba name. Remember Bukola Saraki

Respect55:
Good to know u still had the guts to give it a try one after the other. More commendable is the fact that such didn't change your perception about girls and relationships. I won't lie to you, it changed mine totally. Maybe I was broken to the root. Maybe Maybe my heart was shattered and my feelings flew far away.
As a matter of fact, when I see people now talking about their relationship or the likes, I seem to pity them. There is this mindset recorded in my memory that something bad will always happen in a relationship.
I really need to see a psychologist

oyatz:
Actually she is not the only one.
Most Nigerian ladies have no time for anything intellectual.
About 75% of Nigerian ladies between 21-25 years can't write good CV by themselves. They are mostly concern about money, sex, wears, movies ,parties, gossips and other mundane things.

If you don't believe me, just engage five ladies per day from Monday-Friday and ask them to tell you about

1) Carbon footprint
2) George Orwell
3) USSR
4) Ayatollah Khomeini
5) Rock of Gibraltar
6) Archilles Hills
7) Mansa Musa

Finstar:
Nawa oooh

People get mind sha...


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