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DJ2HOT:
I don't know mayb it'll look different when am married sha....but presently I find it sweet when a babe drives me......especially the pretty ones...I mean my female friends nd babe....aside the fact that I might not feel relaxed if her driving skillz isn't good enough....i find my babe driving me sexy it makes me proud of her.......

hmmm. romantic guy like u. nice one.

Candid opinion needed. Its nothing serious though, Just curious to know; Can you allow your wife to drive while you are in d car? Do u feel kinda inferior, that people might feel she owns d car? Is it wrong to drive your husband once in a while?

Allureia:
Well.... My Own Story.

I dated my GF from Year 1 in school and we got married 10 years later. A lot of her friends have asked me what kept us together for so long despite her later getting a job after university in another state and I also got a job and moved to another state. We kept in touch always. I think what really kept us together is the "failed bad intentions I had". She was so charming & beautiful. All I wanted was a hit and run. Then "on to the next one" but this one was so difficult that even after a year "I saw" but she was so strict and I got nothing. I gave up but somehow we kept crossing paths. We had close encounters & she slept over severally but refused sex. Her abstinence I think gave me confidence she will be hard to breakdown. i fell in love and 10 years later we got married. She is so different from the "others".
To be happy in "Marriage" one person should always learn how to "lose" even if u know you are right. Always tease her publicly and privately like I do, be creative, take her out to see movies or have fun. They are always happier back home when u take them out. I have never beaten her and will never beat or pinch her no matter how bad what she does is. We quarell and since i've learnt to say sorry even when she is wrong she has learnt to do same. That way we play like kids and stay together. We live like best friends not like hubby and wifey. That way she tells me everything. It baffles me sometimes how we are.. no matter what happens. PLS dont go to bed without settling any quarell. VERY IMPORTANT!

We have a similar story. God bless ur home. I love ur union.

EfemenaXY:
Now this is just too funny!

I suppose the Naija-ised version would be Agege bread with tomatoes, ugu, and iced-fish in there. Can't think of a cheese substitute.



Hehehe! Na wa oh! Come oh, this babe - you sure you aren't related to the comedian BasketMouth??




Na sandwich na. My cheating nor dey reach burger levels....the fear of fat is the beginning of wisdom.

Lmao. Efe, I carry my left yansh for u n all the faithful to healthy meal. The only problem, I go get for abroad Na food ooo. I can't be eating grass say na healthy meal oo. The thing nor just dey my blood. Thank God say my stomach temperature is very high, e dey melt all d fat before e reach d belle. lol. If I try am, Una go hear say person die ooo. I remain loyal to my Eba n soup. CHANGE IS CONSTANT, who said I can't be like u guys one day? lol

EfemenaXY:
Men, in my quest to eat healthily, I seem to be going down the oriental path.

I don't remember the full name of this stuff, except that it's called something...something...Chicken Ramen. With seasame seeds, sweet corn, cucumber, marinated / seasoned egg, bamboo, noodles, spring onions and some other stuff. Smells good though.

Oh, and there's chicken broth in the cup. /Is that healthy?? But then again, these people dey live up to 120 years...) I'm meant to pour all that in the bowl to form some kind of soup. But I'm supposed to eat this with chopsticks??

Got back up spoons here, in case of in-case-ities Hope this thing no go run belle sha.

Okay, here goes....my fellow healthy eating sisters, make una wish me luck on this one. If I survive this, I go gist una...

Jesus Christ. God knows I won't survive all these healthy meal stuff ooo. E better make I dey drink pepper soup than this efemena akamu wey dey here so. lol

Kimoni:
both of you are not serious

Efeeee, see the commotion that your burger abi na sandwich is causing o.

Pls come and explain it to us

Kimono sef nor know am. Oya let's go there lol

Chillisauce:
She said its tuna melt. I better pass you sef. At least the thing resemble sandwich pass burger.
Lol @ugu leaf.

we two fail am. nearly cannot kill a bird. lol

Chillisauce:
Damiso is now the new babe3.

N'a you biko. This food that I will use as entree .
After I will look for main dish . Then add dessert to it.

Efemenaxy, how did you make that sandwich or whatever you called it

Thanks

chilli, that is not sandwich Na. Nor be burger dem dey call am? maybe efe add small ugu leaf for d middle. Hahahahaha

Chillisauce:
Damiso is now the new babe3.

N'a you biko. This food that I will use as entree .
After I will look for main dish . Then add dessert to it.

Efemenaxy, how did you make that sandwich or whatever you called it

Thanks

Chilli, I thought I was d only old school here ooo. I nor fit just call this one food. I nor go know if I eat sef. in fact I go use am call hunger. its better I don't eat at all. lol

damiso:
Loool believe me sef don talk that before but you gradually get used to it. I drink alot of water and green tea (about 4 cups a day) so that fills me up

hahahahaha, Am not sure this kind of meal will work for us here in naija ooo. I go just dey drink water when I nor chop? This one go hard ooo. lol

Jonwesley:
Young lady, I want U to remain strong and my harsh words is like that of a caring uncle. Life is not fair and we fall prey to our emotions and tend to think it's better on the other side. I have enough insight into what U were experiencing and don't want to follow the crowd and support any divorce talks. The lord is your strength please.

Thank u sir. God bless u.

GodnGold:
Nice one.Took a thing or two from that piece.Thanks.

Thank u

GodnGold:
100k won't get u a standard creche.speaking from experience.But it is a good business.If you decide on the creche thing,I can be a good consultant. ..no charges.

And I will need ur help on this. pls put me through. Thank u

kerny:
Awwwwwn ,sister girl I'm so happy for you,read through the comments and I literally burst into tears when I saw your update(lol I don't understand too the matter does not even consign me)May the lord pamanently keep the smile on your face.

..and u just made my eyes drop with ur comment. Thank u sis. I appreciate u. May God make people celebrate with u. Amen.

viruz007:
Seen the update.. God's name be praised... God bless you for being a virtuous woman. All will be well... Cheers

ALL IS WELL. thank u sir. God bless u too

viruz007:
OP I will not lie to you... I can't even begin to comprehend what you are going through.

Now to be straight with you. Divorce is a capital NO. He has not cheated on you neither has he beaten you so kick that thought out of your head. I haven't gone through all the pages to know how long you have been married but all I can say is that, that perseverance and belief you had in him all of those years, don't let it fade now... Infact let it burn even brighter than before.

Pray for him and with him. Keep doing what you are doing. Encourage him not to give up applying or trying to raise funds to start a business of his.

My advice to you, Don't give up. God bless you for being an exceptional wife.

Cheers

Thank u so much sir. I appreciate ur advice n concern. Though the story have changed. You can screw up to read d update. God bless u

Jonwesley:
You can't even respect your signature that says. "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger". Women have been failing the vow "till death do us part". since 0AD. Imagine if you had gone ahead, what would you do now that he has gotten a job?Weeping may endure for the night, but joy cometh in the morning.

why not go through d thread before commenting? It gives u more insight on what ur writing about. Tank u

Kimoni:
And you made my day thelishious

May God continually bless your home

Thank u sis, God bless urs too. It wasn't easy, but right now, I can't seem to remember all d stress n suffering. Cheers

kandiikane:
You wanted to leave your husband because he was jobless, I mean, there is no reason for me not to think you did not rub his joblessness his face. Abeg, go celebrate his job offer and stop talking nonsense.

Go n read n comprehend. Don't just jump into conclusion. Why I dey even answer u sef? What do u know about us? Take care

kandiikane:
I know what depression is. I have been around it and I have studied it extensively and I know how it affects the human body and mind. You are right, there doesn't necessarily have to be a source but not being able to work can be a trigger, loss of a loved one can be a trigger, there are many triggers, especially if a person is prone to it. Even the op could have contributed to his depression by telling him how worthless he is because of his joblessness and how she can't take the marriage anymore. One doesn't have to be clinically depressed for you to call what someone is feeling depression.

I am not saying the op's husband is depressed, he may not be, the op, may have used the wrong word in describing her husband but hypothetically speaking, lets say he was, if he got a job now and he is rejoicing, still doesn't mean he is not suffering from it. He could probably go back to it in the next couple of weeks who know. His could be mild but it is good that you posted some info on it.

Acidosis

Have u ever told ur wife she is worthless? Do u know d meaning of worthless? Abeg nor put evil words for my mouth. I beg u. U talk as if am superhuman, so I don't get depressed abi? who caused my own depression Na? Abeg nor come spoil my mood ooo.

kandiikane:
I know what depression is. I have been around it and I have studied it extensively and I know how it affects the human body and mind. You are right, there doesn't necessarily have to be a source but not being able to work can be a trigger, loss of a loved one can be a trigger, there are many triggers, especially if a person is prone to it. Even the op could have contributed to his depression by telling him how worthless he is because of his joblessness and how she can't take the marriage anymore. One doesn't have to be clinically depressed for you to call what someone is feeling depression.

I am not saying the op's husband is depressed, he may not be, the op, may have used the wrong word in describing her husband but hypothetically speaking, lets say he was, if he got a job now and he is rejoicing, still doesn't mean he is not suffering from it. He could probably go back to it in the next couple of weeks who know. His could be mild but it is good that you posted some info on it.

Acidosis

Have u ever told ur wife she is worthless? Do u know d meaning of worthless? Abeg nor put evil words for my mouth. I beg u

Mamaflex:
Wow!!!!! I actually jumped up and started dancing. Lol. Wow! Thank God! You see, I told you. Lol. I'm so happy. Thank you Jesus.

Enjoy dear.

smiling.... Tank u sis. God bless u

otabuko:
60 years.... Why people too dey lie like this... E good for your eyes?

Hahahahaha, u made me laff too hard with this ur comment

Chidoks:
wow this is a nice one.often times couples take themselves for granted.the kwy thing is know your role and play it.never ever allow a diasgreement degerate into a quarell or strife.nake up as soon as possible othwrwise you may drift apart.always work on your attitude towards each othwr.no outsider is better^{wow this is a nice one.often times couples take themselves for granted.the kwy thing is know your role and play it.never ever allow a diasgreement degerate into a quarell or strife.nake up as soon as possible othwrwise you may drift apart.always work on your attitude towards each othwr.no outsider is better}wow this is a nice one.often times couples take themselves for granted.the kwy thing is know your role and play it.never ever allow a diasgreement degerate into a quarell or strife.nake up as soon as possible othwrwise you may drift apart.always work on your attitude towards each othwr.no outsider is better

You are absolutely right.

damiso:
tuna melt efe na wa o. I can't even see cucumber anywhere

Here is my lunch all prepped for work tomorrow so I don't catch una bug and order Big Mac

how this one wan take belle full person? I hail u all. lol

kandiikane:
+100000
Many*

Na u sabi ooo. Nor use ur reggae spoil my blues ooo.

ayotoyin:
My razor......what more can I say again? Thank God for His GRACE, God bless your home.

Mamy, God bless ur home too. U ve been a FRIEND. God bless d day I met a beautiful soul like u. Thank u

moski5:
Op CONGRATULATIONS

I just found this thread and I did what I haven't done in awhile Read through everything

Since you have gotten what your heart desired No need to drop my 2cents lol

I'd say this though Stay prayer

Expand your food Business if you are passionate about it There's big money in it

Stay blessed

Thank u so much. I appreciate. For now, hubby said I should rest n relax from all d stress. I will consider later. It will be in a bigger way. No longer roadside. lol

moski5:
Op CONGRATULATIONS

I just found this thread and I did what I haven't done in awhile Read through everything

Since you have gotten what your heart desired No need to drop my 2cents lol

I'd say this though Stay prayer

Expand your food Business if you are passionate about it There's big money in it

Stay blessed

Thank u so much. I appreciate

MARRIAGE !
I had a friend at a drinking joint I used to sit so many years ago. One day we fell into a talk on family, women, wife, etc. In his contributions, he said "I cannot sit at home with my wife for five minutes, we will fight. We will just pick a quarrel. It's either she is not pleased with something I did or I am not satisfied. We pick quarrel always so I don't even care to sit at home with her. So if you see me at this joint always, that explains it." And truly, go to the joint anytime, he was there, either sleeping or smoking or drinking.
He was so loud about this status with his wife. I have heard him say it so many times that his wife or marriage is of no value to him other than go home eat, sleep, bath and walk to the joint.
At a stage I didn't go to the joint for about a month. Was busy outside Lagos. The day I saw him on my return, he was a shadow of himself. Emaciated. Sorrowful. Spent. Drawn. Taciturn. I hailed him and asked him to be served his usual beer. He rejected it. I was shocked. Him rejecting beer? I walked close to him.
"Wetin happen? I asked
"Bola, haven't you heard?
"What?
"My wife is DEAD." Vocal emphasis on "dead".
"Jeeeesssus!" I shouted as I walked back to my seat.
He fell into his sorrowful, quiet mood again. And it was like I saw tears rolling down his cheek. As people came in, he was quick to announce to them sorrowfully: My wife is dead. I heard him announce it to more than 20 people, who commiserated with him.
That was when it occurred to me that why would he cry. Why annoucing it? Didn't this man say his marriage and wife mean nothing to him? Didn't he say he could not sit for five minutes with her? He was never at home, an absentee father and husband. So now that the woman is dead, what is the noise about?
That is marriage for you. Some couples treat themselves as if they don't matter. Issues that could be resolved by a mere roundtable, they walk away from it. And in most cases, even if you remarry to another woman or man, the same story repeats itself. Those who quit one marriage for the other, ask them how it feels. Let us work the marriage. Marriage is work. My Yoruba peeople would pray that "may couples not know eachother's value when death has taken one away."
More often than not marriage dictates if someone will succeed in life or not. Marriage is not a creation of man. That is why you need to think properly on your values and choices. On what your reactions to each other would be. Some homes have been destroyed just by ONE careless statement the man or woman made. In most cases, women are more sensitive. Men must know women for that.
My guy, sit at home with your wife. Watch African magic or Telemundo with her. They like it. When she is ill, sit with her. Call her from your office every now and then. Behave as if a vital part of you is also ill. Offer to cook for her. Pray for her. Let her see that her sickness affects you. Simple care! If wives do this for husbands, why can't husbands do it for wives?
When you wake up, squeeze her hands. Squeeze her bum. Let her believe the love is still like before. Ask her how was her day yesterday. Talk about her children. Any food at home. Soup still dey. Even if you have no kobo to put down, discuss it. Show you care. Most times these women have money. The care you show will make them bring it out. They are no fools!
If my friend did these to his wife, that poor woman could still be alive today. Till now, my friend is still drinking, smoking and sitting at the joint. Disorganised. No home. Children distributed to families members and I am sure he is not catering for any of them. The wife who catered for the children and paid rent had gone.
Someone told me recently that he is even holding his wife's death responsible for his misfortunes. He was quoted as saying "My wife warned me, na me no hear. If i had known, i would have listened to her when she was alive." Painful words. Painful lamentation. Some people will never know the value of their spouses until they are forced apart. May your home be very blissful. May your marriage be a loving experience. But be ready to work it!
To show care for your wife is not a sign of weakness.



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Phema:
And i thought i was weird.

lol. Thank God am not alone. I still feel my hatred for them is worst than any.

MarvellousGod:
Good for y'all.. what you wish comes to you. ..

For me, I have always desired a successful career and a wonderful family of my own. Not for the society but for my own fulfillment..

I remember before my marriage when I was telling my mum how I was going to miss her and how I wished I could stay longer. She said No, I needed to build my own family too that I was enjoying the family built by she and my dad.....

You can say the right man/woman hasn't come along instead of saying marriage doesn't matter to you et al... Through marriage you were conceived and through marriage we can be able to answer God's call which is "Go into the world and multiply"...
Your wish, your life though!

However, I don't agree with the saying that women are nothing without men because I know I had my own voice before marriage and made some achievements too.....
Also, I don't like the way some people go about it, as if marriage should matter to women alone.. For eg, that your male friend

Bottomline: I think marriage should matter to both men and women because you can't keep enjoying what your parents built without attempting to build yours......

you are full of wisdom. God bless u