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NA OKORONKWO BOOT DIS BABE WEAR SO?? That shoe big ooo

NA OKORONKWO BOOT DIS BABE WEAR SO??

raayah:
yes.. you should not depend on a man for money. Look at OP , she's stuck with a man who is cheating on her and treating her without respect because he knows she can't leave. She cannot survive without him.

No Career/Job.. no Marriage

my dear, nothing stops d op from getting a job now dat she is married. A man who will respect u will, irrespective of ur career or not..

Mrs0J:
If my hubby annoys me i won't bulge to his sexuall advance, but if he apologized in which the Op's case the hubby will apologize after she confronts him. She can't say No to her hubby everytime he wants to make love, that is why i advised her on insisting on using condom

ok , thank u.

raayah:
I am sorry for your situation. Its difficult to get a job these days.

Take this as a lesson. Make sure your daughters are well-educated and tell them consistently that they are worth a lot. Tell them not to marry until they get a career.

Sadly, there is nothing you can do. You have no-where or no finance to move on. I will advice you to keep looking for a Job or open a shop. Do things you love. Stop having sex with him (Be very firm here, tell him that since he keeps cheating on you, you cannot risk your health). Don't cook if you are tired. Don't wash his clothes. Move out of the Bedroom. Let him see how life is without you.

Find a friend that will take you in if he locks you out, save up some money.
Stop Caring about him. Be very indifferent. Its easier to survive this way. Educate your kids , they might help you get out of this situation in the future.

Just live life and see where it takes you.

UNTIL THEY GET A CAREER? So no career, no marriage. This is serious

islandmoon:
i keep telling you ladies!!! pretend like you don't care, leave the kids for him to take care of , exactly what emeka Ike's wife did!

then he will seat tight, tell him you are no longer interested in the marriage as long as he has proved to be selfish! disappear for just two weeks!

i once gave a lady such advice and the selfish husband got confused immediately after bathing the kids, cooking for them and caring for them alone, he them realized life is not just about sleeping with girls around alone , Family is more important.



how ever , that approach may not work for a rich many who doesn't really love you and can afford a Nanny or house girl,

but still made emeka ike to surrender and now begging around.

my friend used this method, and it worked. just leave d kids with him n move out for sometime.

Mrs0J:
OP i will advice you inform your parents and inlaws to come and talk sense into him. Forgiving him is not an issue but will he stop messing around?
For now ensure you insist on condom before love making as to protect yourself from any STI. Its well, the Lord will resolve it, Amen. Pls be wise.
All the best.

sorry for my curiosity, can u make love to a man ur angry with?

[quote author=GHoJes post=37659117]Have you seen where they are processing dawadawa/okpei? If the fresh Ogiri stinks in the whole compound, the dawadawa stinks in the whole street its being dried. Sun and people nostrils get to take the smell before it gets to the market but flies escort the fresh ogiri to the market and keep it company till its bought. "So fresh Ogiri smell like mad man wey no klin yanssh while dry one smell like mad man wey klin yanssh after shaiting"[/quo hahahahausee analysis ooo. Thank u. u don try

cococandy:
She said it's not.
But whatever it is, I have it
The name don't matter now.

That thing smell na die ooo. It will sure chase ur neighbors out of their houses. make dem nor go call cops for u ooo. lol

tchidi:
Oooooo!! Its not jor!! Ogiri no be wetin dem de use cook Ohasoup? Wrapped in plenty leaf??
It most definitely isn't iru/dawadawa.

do u know d difference BTW ogiri n okpei? As for dat ogiri, I dislike it with passion. E dey smell craze man mess. lol

cococandy:
Mmmm let me pretend I know what that one is I'll google it.
I might know it in another name.

coco, its ogiri

Chillisauce:
Rivers state native soup The best thing after orgäsm

Did u eat d cover of d clam chilli?

Joy1706:
In your own world, women don't work ba? Women don't equally provide for their homes eh. Our fathers bla bla bla.
Our fathers never asked for orrall sex. Why do you request for it?.
Our fathers provided for their families single handedly. Why do you ask your wives to contribute financially?
Mstchewwwww. You only remember 'our fathers' when it suits you

u even get time to give sermon. No need for this.

Kaybeeeee:
He is d man of the house,he works hard for the family to eat and live well,u don't expect him after working hard to nw come home and wash ur panties for u,the woman work is to take care of house,husband and kids.
So u can allow ur husband wash ur panties for u,can u said dat in public or tell ur friend and see their reaction
When our fathers do not wash our mothers pants,whic footsteps our we now following,
Any husband out there washing his wife pants is a disgrace to manhood(except juju case)

clap for u. sweet words

Kaybeeeee:
its not appropriate for a man to wash his wife pants,and d man respect wil depreciate gradually,and d lady is showing she can't take care of herself,and I have one question for those dat ar saying its appropriate,when d husband is washing his wife pants,what is wife doing at dat moment

when she is washing urs, what will u be doing at dat time? when d woman washes for d man, does it also signifies dat d man can't take care of himself? or Na only d woman e apply to

EfemenaXY:
As long as the people whom you're living with aren't complaining, then my suggestion to you is to focus on increasing your income first, before rushing out to buy land. Yes, acquiring land is a solid investment for the future, but you aren't quite ready for that.

Secondly, there is absolutely nothing wrong with purchasing your vehicle. I don't understand many of the folks on here advising you that it was a wrong decision. Do they expect you to trek under the hot sun (dry season) or heavy rain (rainy season)? This shouldn't even be a topic for discussion. @OP: You most certainly need that car to make your life easier - otherwise you'll age before your time. Life shouldn't be about suffering / merely existing but about LIVING. Having a car eases a lot of burdens and makes life easier for you.

Thirdly, I don't think you should get married just yet (15 months time). Why not wait till you establish yourself further? Going by what you've posted on here, you're barely raising your head above the waters. I like the fact that not only have you got a job as a civil servant, you've also got some legitimate side business going on, to supplement your income. You're industrious, I'll give you that.

But my brother, you need to establish yourself a bit more. You're a guy and you can wait for another five (5) years. In the meantime, use these forthcoming years to expand upon your source of income, while seeking to acquire a place of your own. There's no rush in life. What really matters the most is how WELL you do something, and not how QUICKLY you get it done. QUALITY counts, my brother.

It is well with you.

u help me pour my mind here o. This raining season, if u see people trekking inside mud under d rain, the only thing u wish for at dat particular time is" if only say I get car" car is a necessity for me, don't know bout others though.

vague:
you think Dangote got rich from buying car to enjoy life or he made wise investments in his youth so he can afford whichever car he likes years later? Not everyone may become as rich as he is now but at least learn from the wise.

in as much as car is a liability, its more of a necessity to me. when u have it, u know its Importance and agree that a land can wait. especially when u don't have d means of developing it yet.

lofty900:
but its true

Its a thing of d mind not necessarily looking hungry.

naijathings:
so you think everyone uses their tongue to LICK the whateverthefuckyoucallit. ?
or you just assume that I DO IT. dem write am for my face ?

so because you enter private jet come mean say na you go wash am?

Hahahahaha. Its written boldly on yr forehead dat u r a licker. In this case, the private jet is YOURS. so u can wash it.

lofty900:
driving the car wont make people think she is d car owner, unless the man looks hungry

Hahahahaha see ur bad mouth

tearoses:
LOL
I would have even thought they will say the opposite, that it the man who wants to kill the woman with work
Driving in Iyana Iba or iyana ipaja is not beans o!

Hahaha hahaha. funny u. Car makes some men feel like OGA. if u drive instead of them, u r actually taking d ogaship away from them.

Fourwinds:
ok. let me tell u this.
I worship in one of d orthodox churches. there was a time my pastor preached about having children in a family. he emphatically stated dat we should have as many children as possible... he was against family planning...ok I now asked myself...supposing a man earns 30k per month and d wife earns same or not working. do u now say they should continue having children. now how will such family have decent accomodation., what about d childrens education., feeding., clothing etc. If u as a person who sees ur pastor as all and all will take such preaching and keep giving bath... being educated at d university does not mean u are free from ignorance. u can be a professor... u have to use ur head and dat is wisdom given by God

The word is "brainwash"

naijathings:
even if she be the daughter of the Lord of the rings

even if she be the last daughter of the Queen of heaven

even if she be the daughter of the owner of okija shrine

even if her pusiey dey flow with Milk and Honey.

But u can use ur tongue to lick d main content? but u can't touch d cover

Mynd44:
Is it okay for the wife to wash the husband's underwear?

COURT RISEEEEEE lol

Fourwinds:
yes.!!! I call such churches MUSHROOM CHURCHES...members who over look such atrocities lack wisdom because of ignorance. I don't worship blindly and dats y I'm educated.

Most of their members are actually gurus talking of education. we have professors in such churches.

tearoses:
If the wife can drive, there is nothing wrong in her driving his car or him driving hers
But I do understand that the dynamics of different relationships differ
Personally I dont see an issue. I've driven my hubby lots of times in his and my car, especally on long journeys. I dont like driving his car though.

Thank u sis. I feel it falls on self esteem though. Its like feeling bad dat a woman is driving a man, people might see him as boy boy to his wife

THIS CAN NEVER HAPPEN IN A ONE MAN CHURCH. The members will still worship him ontop.

DJ2HOT:
lolz I can be very stubborn sometimes

Hahahahaha. stubborn in what way?

SEE WHERE ILLEGAL TENANT DEY PURSUE LANDLORD FROM HOUSE OO.

Chillisauce:
Fish sandwich

Don't mind thelish that said it was burger.

And she was even arguing with me.

Thelish ...it's called fish sandwich with melted cheese

Chilli, sorry it was a mistake, I nor look am well.lol

Visocrate:
I don't feel demasculinized when she drives me in fact it show love and respect even in the family but not to gathering where social opinions may be viewed from an inverted angle anyway nothing wrong in that but not to all places o like in Igbo land where they may start saying hmmmm his wife is controlling him is better he does the driving to the paternal house and paternal uncles but she can drive to her maternal families and relatives houses too

u talk wise. thank u

Cutehector:
So many tins, we make dem issues...



I see nothin wrong wit dat... Infact, wen she starts yellin abt my driving, I"d get down frm d car and handova d car keys to her.

hahahahaha. thank u