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chigoizie7:
Yes.


Yes needs to focus more on himself.


A final year student that has both his projects, seminar and a lot of reading to do to avoid spillover plus still hustling to be able to provide for some financial needs.

Some people are really heartless ooh.


You want him to still give you much attention as he used to when he doesn’t have so much on his head as he has now. All these while he has been the perfect man, but the few times he snapped probably because he has a lot to tackle, you couldn’t hold up for him. He has been calling for close to two years, no wahala, but you got tired just for the few weeks you did the calling.


Please leave him, he needs a better woman in his life.




I will keep on praying to God to take women like you far away from me.

All these people talking about attention this, attention that , has never really worked a full day, let’s say common 8-5 for just one week. That is when they will know the importance of time.

Was this all u could take from her post?
Hmmmmmm

1kworks:
Yes. Please break up with him. It will be saving him lots of money along the line and he'll really thank you for it in the end.

Must it be all about money?
So funny how everyone is so driven by money money money.

Davash222:
Attention doesn’t pay bills, woman.

But every human crave for attention once in a while.
Some ladies value attention more than money.
How busy is he, that he can't just check up on her in 24hrs?

GeniusWannabe:
OP, please take this advice.

How many guys do u plan arresting?
Handle ur sister at home with either beating or counselling, whichever her brain gree accept.

Ishilove:
Okay nice one. You can use your goons but make sure you teach him a lesson so that when next he see small girls he will flee for his life and destiny.

These children dey gree say dem be small girls??
Dem open eye pass u sef.

This has been happening to me since I left my tertiary institution... Sometimes I see myself writing exams way below my level but still can't answer it at all....

Everyone will have to submit... But I will still be there battling with my question and sometimes I finish writing but cancelled it again and starts afresh....

There was a day I was writing a primary six exams in my dream... I couldn't even answer any question...

It's really disturbing me a lot.. And I don't think it's a good sign.... Have dreamt about this almost a hundred times...

I had to check Google for the meaning.. And I was directed to this thread... That's to tell you how serious I am about this dream...


Some times when I wake up.... I will hear a voice in my head telling me that I skipped something during my primary school days which could have led to my success.. And the thought in my head explains it that "that single thing I missed has kept me away from where I am suppose to be" that's why I kept on writing exams in my dreams....

Seriously... When I graduated I wasn't Okay with my result..... I wasn't happy at all cos it was way bellow my expectations... Even if it makes others happy... I still feel it's not what am supposed to graduate with.


Thelish have you gotten answer to yours? Cos we in same situation right here.

Lalasticlala and whoever can help push this thing to front page make we get reply and solutions abeg

Woow, such a long time now.
Just stumbled on this post now.
Well,I got a solution to it.
It has stopped.
What about urs??

lonlytroy:
And some useless Nigerians will buy it

Who tell u say Nigerians nor get sense?? Lol

superlanny:
did you just say tru love, my dear, those are stories for children storybooks....No matter how you love someone, there is always another person that will attract your interest. Am advocating that we all enjoy sex freely, both man and woman, anybody that can't cope with cheating should be allowed to leave.

Thanks.

DenreleDave:
Not every human deserves many chances. That's where u got it wrong

Ok

DenreleDave:
Dear, women cheat with emotions.

If na once, it forgivable but 4 times

One thing u wunt accept is that, if her Bf forgives her and she later come across dt colleague again, any move by him will be successful... He already developed sumtin for the colleague but she can't admit it here online so as to gain sympathy

Hmmmmmmmm

DenreleDave:
You only know about yourself dear... You don't know about her.. If sumone can go collect preeq inside car for four times of which I know she lied, probably more than that bcox she goes with him in the car to work everyday.

Dear.. Trust ursef, what if she still cheat again, can u vouch for her??

There are those doing it without any form of guilt or regret.
Hers is d opposite.
I believe every human deserve as many chance we can give to them until we see d desired change. That is true love.

DenreleDave:
I see.. Madam adviser


See ur mouth... As if na the guy do wrong..

Show him the new you, which new her.. What she will still do and do again

Trying acting according to ur signature.
Do u want her to continue in it, why prophesying it?
With God n discipline, she won't go back.

avril9:
... Look well she is pregnant...

I thought as much

Butterscotch92:
I understand. We have talked about this. But it's difficult to move on with the guilt, regret and sense of loss. And I want to do anything to help him heal.

U can't heal him when u haven't healed urself.
U r loss urself, how do u find somebody else?
Don't allow a mistake define u.
Show him d new u. Full of confidence n courage.
Its his choice whether to come back or not.

Butterscotch92:
I know I deserve all the bashing I'm receiving here and more. But I wonder why it's very difficult for most to believe that I'm actually repentant about the whole thing. I know I really hurt my man which is part of my pain. I can never repeat such action no matter the circumstances with what I've learnt and I believe if I am lucky enough to get a second chance I'll be a much better version of myself and be forever grateful. It happened in the car because I wouldn't have agreed to follow him elsewhere by then it would be premeditated. I rejected every of his attempt to meet him anywhere else. Those were moments of weakness although it cannot be justified.

My dear, the most important thing is for u to forgive urself n regain ur self confidence.
So many people u admire today, once did some awful deeds, but they Neva allow their lives n actions to reflect it.
Its obvious, u r sorry for ur deed. God himself has. forgiven u. U don't allow the words of people to weigh u down, cos they have Neva been perfect all their lives.
We all have done some unspeakable things that we are not proud of. Its all part of d process. Its what make life, life. It was Neva meant to be smooth all thru.
So carry urself with dignity n a better man will come ur way.
The strength of love is known when there are faults,mistakes n offences.
Self guilt n condemnation is of d devil. Romans8:1
See urself better.

Alawaxbimbex:
Hummmmmm, just be careful,I'm also a lady ooooo,I know what we are capable of doing...

What are u capable of doing??

maiahsaiah:
I choose not to burden my heart by keeping secret. I’ll definitely tell someone. If you like tell the whole world, as long as no one is putting food on my table, I don’t care. Try telling your secret and see how free you’ll feel as a human. Who cares!

God bless u dear.
I have been looking for a comment like this
I was beginning to think, am standing alone.

Even when I got d utterance for tongues, u need to see d way I was suppressing it cos I was shy and also considering what people around me will say cos I have always kicked against it. I was in a service one day, the spirit of boldness came, And shyness was gone.
Today, I can go on just tongues for hours n in dff heavenly vocabularies.
Jesus is sweet.

Omojudy:
Tongues are Not Biblical

Posted by A strong Nigerian Woman

Growing up in a catholic family, we never spoke in tongues. We prayed a lot though, most catholic families do. Morning devotion were a constant whenever we visited our paternal grandmother’s home. The Rosary and The Our Father and the Creed. My brother once suggested being a priest but I guess he grew up to like the fine things of life!

I got married to Uncle Ex who was from a background that believed nothing about tongues speaking. So we often had the biblical debate where we quoted the Bible to say that tongues should only be spoken in a congregation in the presence of an interpreter. I often wondered if I had a demon possession whenever I attended services where everyone falls under the anointing and I remain standing despite my willing myself to fall!


Then my marriage hit the rocks and I began to find Jesus for myself. I fasted and prayed for a marriage restoration until I forgot what I was praying for and began praying just to love God.

When one has a problem and knows that only God has the solution, they gravitate to Him logically and start seeking his face. When life seems to be going well, we tend to abandon our love for Christ.

This led me to grow so much in the things of the spirit, getting revelations like plain handwritings, dreams coming to pass etc. So one Saturday I was in the quiet of my room when I hear a voice in my heart telling me to fellowship at a particular church in a town closeby the next day. I had never been to that denomination, I also had preconceived notions about their mode of dressing and their head pastor.

I argued in my heart about this. Asked myself why go that far when the church also has a branch in the town I resided. Nonetheless the next morning I was in the church seated with the congregation attending the service but ready to criticize anything out of line.

Mid way through the beautiful service(I must add), the minister asks that first time visitors stand to introduce themselves. I was having none of that, actually I must confess I never do introduce myself in any Christian body I attend, I am not new to Christ and I don’t want to be bothered by the welcoming committee who check on new comers and try to make them “become their member.” So I didn’t join the band wagon of new comers who were chauffeured to the front roll as special guests.

Service over at last, time to sneak away from church then something goes dreadfully wrong.

The announcing minister says that all members are to break up into their units and have a special meeting towards an upcoming project, he further directed the usher to shut the main door and that no one was permitted to leave before the meetings were over.

What was I to do at this point?

I chose to do nothing. I sat still on my seat for a few minutes as everyone moved places around to go have the aforementioned meetings. The new comers were still seated in their honor seats but had the pastor talking with them at this point.

Soon a brother comes up to me and my cover gets bursted so I walk with my tail between my legs to go get my honor seat among the highly distinguished new comers.

The Pastor welcomes me warmly, the Pastor was female. She had a one on one conversation with me where she edified me and asked a few questions. One of the questions she asked was if I could speak in tongues and I replied in the negative. After discussing, she leads me in a prayer, she encourages me to open up my heart and my mouth to allow the tongues flow.


We then pray seated and holding hands. After the prayer she asks me if I spoke in tongues during the prayer, I replied in my normal blunt way saying; “if I did speak, wouldn’t you have heard me and confirmed it” She takes no offense, then goes further to tell me to continue my night prayers which I had mentioned to her, saying I would speak in tongues.I go home feeling critical of the church, telling myself they were fakes as I had thought.

That night, I wake up to pray and I am praying in Tongues!

Well what can I say? God works in mysterious ways. That’s was my tongue speaking Genesis.

It’s Sunday, hope you were/would be at a Christian assemb
ly today? This new week shall bring us(me too Dey find) good things.

I love the part where u saidu forgot what u were praying for
Instead, started praying to love God more.
Hmmmmmmm

Bonatheripper:
What's his occupation as at today

Child actor. Lol

The wife doesn't look happy.
She seems to be forcing d smiles
With her hands tied at her back instead of using them to wrap her husband.
Well, it is better to cry in a BMW than in a bicycle.
Beautiful family.

DonEd:
Bros, if your wife that actually agrees u paid her dowry doesn't see u as her husband and Lord, next time she wants to leave, let her go.

I will say it again, we cant find women like our mothers anymore but that doesnt mean that the men should turn vegetables all in d name of love or marriage.

Put ur foot on the ground as the man but dont be a monster.

My two kobo though.

And we can't find men like our fathers anymore.
When men of today have turned women into sole providers,
What were u expecting? Most women today find it difficult to be submissive cos positions have been shifted. She now sees herself as d man. So na she even dey find submission now. Lol
So, men should wake up n take their place. And respect will flow naturally.

tillaman:
Welcome back!! You didn’t miss much!!
You missed the coza saga and BB naija saga

What of Regina n daddy Ned?

Tolexander:
Little wonder these women end up marrying devil of a man.

God fearing?
Tell me who else fears God more than the devil.

Why do most women like God fearing men whereas they r far from even fearing God.

CHoccolaTE:
I asked this question before in another topic and I will ask it again;
What exactly do women gain from marriages apart from escaping societal pressure of getting married and having kids?

Men are the ones prolonging their lineage with marriage and kids,
Men are the ones in charge of whatever homes they set up after marriage, they have control, they have the final say. Everyone submits to them.
Men are the ones who get both a co-breadwinner and lifetime cook, cleaner, sex slave ( trust me many married women lack sexual satisfaction, sex after marriage is mostly for husband's benefit),
Men can even cheat with impunity and have children outside wedlock and go scot free, he basically maintains his freedom to have wanton sex just like when he was a bachelor, and he gets no blame and his wife is advised to stay with him because men are ' naturally polygamous'.


Yet society wants us to believe women benefit more from marriages.


With loss of freedom, loss of former identity ( changing surname even if the man you now bear his name cannot take care of you or provide for you), loss of beauty and youth after having children that belong to another mans lineage and family, horrible unsatisfying sex life in many cases, is forced to overlook cheating husbands behaviour, must balance greatest majority of housework and breadwinning while husband contributes barest minimum to housework. The man might even be jobless but the wife is advised to stay and support her husband and help him grow.

Infact the list of losses is endless.

What a level of intelligence?
I hardly comment on nairaland, but can't hold these words to myself.

One snake should be added to d equation to complete nairaland complete share holders.
Oya lala, put ur own.
No room for cheating snakes out of this honour of FP owners

Glink2018:
Thank God I'm not married yet...

No woman , no cry

No man no frustration

Why are guys now competing with girls with painting of nails now??

sniperr007:
No na. I still get conscience.

But you sha.
Your mind they go far

Hahahahahaha

lilmax:
these are idiots I share gender with?

Funny comment. Lol

sniperr007:
She no explain the custody of their child

U want to know where d baby is, so u can give him some sniper? Lol

sirdouglas:
Thank you a lot dear. You opinion is really really appreciated.

I have really considered that. I am still considering it but I have this believe that people don't really change. They are who they are. I am afraid!! I don't want to die young. She can't f*cking keep a secret. Within the first week she found out that she is pregnant. Even with no tommy to show for it. The whole plaza where I do my business knew about it. I was mad. Barely a week!! Not the first time. Her mother is the first person that knows whatever I tell her then her friends. She listens to side talk. Someone can convince her tomorrow that I am a bad person and she will start acting on it or kill me in my sleep without considering everything I have done for her. Its not just about the moment. I afraid of the future. I don't see her as one who is promiscuous but you know you women

are good at hiding things like this. I never cheated on her. I am terrible at that. She was working for someone around my business area and that's how we met.

There is still enough time to fix this but oh God!! I wish I have the answers.
About the only chance to father a child, that's not true and I forgive you for that. I did it because I have conscience. I know she can't take of the baby all by herself.

U r sounding so proud