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TO CELEBRATE LEGAL SEX

Onegai:
Please do yourself a great favour: YOUR IN-LAWS ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS. Draw those lines and boundaries in black paint and guard it with a cutlass. Or you will end up one day bitterly regretting that you wanted to "show Love". Nigerian society isn't filled with kind, well meaning people who will understand your mistakes. One of my BiLs gave me this advice.

Example: during my pregnancy, I wasn't too happy with my hubby one day and we were out. His baby sister (10 freaking years younger than me and rude but I have never given her behaviour a thought) decided to come greet me but i wasn't my smiling self. Do you know what she did? She called her mother and told her I didn't like her based on that ONE 10 minute visit (nevermind every other time I met her I was friendly). Is that the behaviour of someone who loves me? Won't someone who loves me have kept quiet and maybe thought "perhaps all's not well" and waited till she saw me in a good mood to ask what happened that day?

Now I draw careful boundaries.

The reason everyone is attacking he OP is because he is not minding his business and is attempting to "put the girl in her place". He should go and mind his business (he's even keeping track of what goes on between man and wife and counting gifts and holidays sef). If he had simply used some wisdom and met the girl one day and said "wow, Auntie is not having it easy and I know you probably have your hands full. Why not once a week, you cook and I'll find a maid, and we can chip in to help Auntie? " Had he done that, the girl would have gotten the hint and been more helpful whilst being glad for the way he handled things.

My mum will certainly not expect me to drop everything daily and stay with her but she will complain just as bitterly as the Auntie if my SiL doesn't and that is the beast of In-Law relationships in our society: what you will accept and take even more from your child, you will crucify another person's child for less than half of that behaviour.

Instead he's threatening her (does he think she doesn't suspect what they're planning?) and idiotically being tactless and worse, majority of the women who answered him are married and he still is too idiotic to wonder why almost all of them (even those that agreed with him) gave the same answer: that he should mind his business and use some tact.

For goodness' sake they are even complaining that she only spent one hour visiting (with a baby). Hian!

If I had known this on time, I wouldn't be regretting by now. Thank u

Turan10:
Kai! e don turn electronics... guess you are highly experienced in ds field. Lol

Naah, am innocent ooo

OLUJOSHINS:


Thumbs up madam. U make sense jare

Thank u bro.
Spoke from experience. The funny thing is dat u won't know u ve been singing. lol

prettysassygirl:
Girl,all this checking and feeling ad pressing,na hot dog you wan buy,a guy would allow you to check and press and feel den let you go,hahaha,only in the dreams

hahahahaha. my dear, na to enter prayers n deliverance section when d thing ON. lol

Turan10:
Ah. U be badt girl,i swear. U dey even check veins...na wa!

Hahahahaha. The one wey nor go work well nor dey hard to know

thorpido:
You guys need to spice things up.
Does your wife still wear attractive underwear?If she doesn't,you might need to get her some.If she has added much weight,can you help her go through the process of shedding some?
Love making should not just be when the clothes are off.Start the process during the day while at work.Send her romantic and sexy messages and build up some sexual tension before you meet after work.
You may need to change some things in your room,like the bedsheet and the light.
You should try a get-a-way sometimes.Go and sleep in a hotel with your wife.

Hotel fu*k na d highest oo. Just d both of u. no kids disturbing d raggae. U like scream n shout all u like, nobody is coming to ur rescue. lol

femi4:
What if its strong, long, bla bla..........how can she determining the quality of the content?

The content is much more important than the container

That's why I said, I hate all dis rules n regulations.
But based on her religious ground, I gave her dat advice.
Read me again, u will get my stand

prettysassygirl:
To the advise part,jes tell him,"guy I wan see your thing,show me if it dey work"so simple,when u see it,he puts it back,no touching.

No touching? she needs to touch and see if it will stand na.
Even if it stand, how will she know if its working well? Abeg all dis rules dey tire me ooo. When he show u over ripe bolee after marriage, Just know u will bear d pain alone oo.
All d same, touch, feel it. check d length n width. Also check d way d muscles are standing. if they shoot out, fine. but if no muscle shoot out, wahala dey ooo

JAZES:
This is better....God will bless you too and you both will see your great grand children

Thanks Jazes. Amen

Chillisauce:
No adios me jor. enter market and help these women recovering from sickness.

Have you even bought diapers for the baby sef.

Even if na baby powder sef.
Chai
N'a wah for you o.
You no only wicked. You Come stingy on top.
Your case N'a deliverance for mountain of fire and brimstone

chilli, I ve been laughing so hard like one who is high on Columbia weeds. Abeg leave Op alone ooo.

Raiden:
I am sorry I lost my head. I have deleted that post. You will see ur Great grand children. IJN Amen.

U will never see d graves of ur children. Amen

Kimoni:
hilarious

OP, has anybody spoken to the lady at any point in time to ask why she has not been helping out as expected? Do you realise she might not even be aware that you guys are not happy with her? Remember she is coming from a different family and not familiar with how you guys run your things...

It is this break down in communication that turn MILs against their DILs. Expectations needs to be expressly communicated and not assumed.

intelligent kimoni

JAZES:
But this is too extreme madam......why d curse?

Hope u saw d post I responded to. I have decided to d foolish fool cos he's not worth my time.

cococandy:
Meanwhile your cousin should get help for his mom instead as of expecting a new mom to be available to wait on her hand and foot.
Like you said, she's not strong enough on account of the CS to start a business. How come she's strong enough to do other things?

This one una dey count wetin the man do for am. SMH. Such nosiness. Nawa.

Granted that she should show more compassion and concern but who your cousin chooses to marry is his business and you have no say trying to put asunder between them.
All in all, you sound very derogatory towards the lady.
Na your kind sabi meddle in people's affairs until things become too bad to salvage.
Shebi your next plan is to convince your cousin to break up with her so that that kid becomes fatherless or motherless depending on gets the kid. Will you be the father or the mother when they part ways because of you?

Una mind una business o. Nosy marriage spoiling relatives.

I wish your aunt quick recovery.

I know say u nor dey disappoint.

So taiwo don finally dey fine ooo. Money is good.

Raiden:
I will adopt you 4yr old son when he becomes an orphan, Probably @ 5.

See first class foolishness. U will see d graves of all ur children in Jesus name.

And there are humans listening to a pastor dressed like this? how gullible.

Raiden:
by 2020 Nigeria will experience a population burst, with over 70% living below the poverty mark. its pathetic to see even the so called enlightened Nigerians still give birth like rabbits when there a millions of orphans begging to be adopted.

































That said, its difficult to stare at her figure and resist the temptation. if she was mine, we would be on baby number 9 now.

ABEG HELP US ADOPT THEM

[quote author=ammyluv2002 post=38059817]Seriously, na only me no care about six packs? As in I'm not moved [/quote

I was discussing this with my bro last night, I told him how much I hate to see wooden tummy(six packs)
Not dat I like pot belle oo, but it should just be normal.Which one be bones n muscles for belle ? lol

Adrielbradshaw:
Lemme add a tin 2 d@, Most men rush der women 4 sex, it shldnt b d@ way. play wit her, gist , joke... probably d lady always gets tired of doin it, mayb its hw d man penetrates her, n goes bout d process, am talkin 4rm experience. He shld always reassure her d@ he loves her n also get her gifts, it makes her feel special. Dnt make d sex look lyk hardwork, 1nce its lyk d@, she wld loose interest.

U are right. most guys don't know how to romance. Almost 10yrs of knowing hubby, its just few days ago, we discover u can squirt without penetration. I initiate him for urs to watch porn together in order to learn new technique. I actually got raw romance afterwards cos we learnt so many things. Techniques wey dey blow person brain.
Oga, don't just rush into d web, confuse her with different touching n sucking, na she go dey beg for mercy. U will hear different gospel songs in d morning from her with so much joy.lol

Why is it that only women are concerned with family planning? Why ur hubby dey provoke, he do anyone before? U leave ur p*nis fresh with enough sperm to fertilize woman con dey provoke ontop.
Madam, pls keep d baby, before u know it, he/she don grow.
God is ur strength.

Mamaflex:
My first son is 1st oct. And i'm 20th oct.

Ur son is a birthday mate to my first son. Wishing them Gods blessings n wisdom.

damiso:
my husband said you need some eba in your life. I still did not eat eba sha (that swallow was oats )

oats n okro soup?

meccuno:
effective Chaii!! And that's what has been entering ones body??

Na to comot all the rust wey dey people belle. lol

ladygudhead:
yea twin sister

lolz

5minsmadness:
Apologising is like a trigger action. As soon as the person does so I forgive immediately and forget completely.

Yes it hurts to hold a grudge. It's not healthy. It's something I'm working on as a matter of fact.

U sound like a twin brother. I can hardly forgive without apology from the offender. But my heart melt d moment an apology is made, no matter d weight of d offence

Oh my goodness! see cute babies. The tissue paper na to pack shit abi to mix am for water give the children? Will the rice be eaten raw? For their mind, dem don help ooo. God punish poverty.

emsheddy:
My dear, where that one for happen nau? abeg wife no dey kneel down till her husband chop finish for Isoko and Urhobo jor...I know they kneel (at times) to offer water for washing hand. My isoko mothers dey flex their marriage and some of them even frown at how marriages break up anyhow today because of 'I too know' of today's young ones. By the way, shey you go tell your boyfriend-turned-husband to continue to cook for you because him been dey cook when una still be bf and gf?

The same isoko mama dem, wey dey ride bicycle from Spain to Germany? wey farming wan kill so? anyway we are used to suffering n smiling at d same time

emsheddy:
na wa oh! Am sure there are very few men that will tell their wife to split family bills with them! She can help out! But me telling my wife to share in the bills, na how I wan keep mouth take tell am. If am not well to do and she is supporting me,No wahala! But me insisting we split the bills when am well to do? I need laying of hands be that!

hahahahaha Hahahahaha.

DeeTus:
Her mom was a racist and so, we couldn't end up being together!

It wasn't really my fault.

OK,

Jennifer89:
may be u don't get. inasmuch we try to imitate the western tradition we still have ours. I'm not saying a man shouldn't assist his wife in cooking or doing chores in d house but it shouldn't be mandatory. you cant force a man to cook if he doesn't want to. nothing is wrong with me coz we are entitled to our own opinion.

What if a man compelled the wife to contribute to the family finances? Men were OK with full time housewives in the olden days, but which guy is ready to settle down with a housewife now?