190. . . . You remember I mentioned to you why I kept silence? Some people and some issues aren't worth being dignified with attention. See expo everywhere. If Lexi believes I was actually pushing Uju on his neck then I'm awfully disappointed in him. Haven't they been dating before I knew each of them? I still have copies of emails where I made it crystal clear that I'm not interested in this pikin. So where did the writer of that email (I don't want to believe that was Lexi) got the impression that I was interested in this thing called girl. Na wa o. Moderators shouldn't ban me o. In fact, I'm returning to nairaland. Arrant nonsense. Is this the yansh you want to air? You're a disappointment to womanhood. Call me a criminal again. Only if you knew. . .

May I have your attention please. Lol. This is TheSeeker. I'm typing from my mobile so I may not be entirely detailed. But, hopefully, if the thread hasn't been locked, I'll make more comments later on (provided I can't finish off here). 190. . . . I'm honored as well as flattered that you did this. I want you to know that it was a pleasure meeting with you, and the feeling is mutual. Thank you. I'll be waiting. Just in case you don't get the way, ask a cab to lead you to Government Lodge, Asokoro. You may miss your way because it was dark the other day you saw me off to the house. As for Uju's case, I'm amazed at the rate some people are so quick to pass information whether or not it's correct. Uju was dating Lexi, so? You're quick to gruntle like the pig you are that she's waiting on him because of his money, is that what you conceived with your delusioned head or what you were told by Lexi? Lexi is my friend and I knew about their relationship. . . . I got talking to Uju after you and I met, Plat. Don't even twist it and get her involved in the situation. Yeah you can say whatever, that's your business. You're here bleating like a wounded sheep because someone said he met me? Or because someone simply aired her opinion, which I believe, you could have best ignored; but how else will you display your madness other than that? Isn't it funny that I was barred on nairaland without even letting me state my part of the story? They even banned my second handle. Lame! I'm still in touch with very special people and I'm going to meet them all so kill yourself if that works great for you. I'll not be allowed to be compelled to talk about that archaic issue here, at least for now. For your information, Uju wasn't really looking forward to meeting him. I pushed her all the way because Lexi assured me he wanted her for real. Uju never was comfortable with the relationship but basing my judgment on what Lexi had told me, I pushed. And don't even say she's weak. So who was anxious about who? Isn't it normal in a relationship that both partners look forward to meeting each other? Didn't it happen in our case--you and me? You come here to spit rubbish all because your hand can type at will. Don't even try to insult me about the cheap 15-dollar shirts you bought. I bet you don't know how much a shirt costs here. Nonsense! This is how people who are the only rich people in their generation behave: boast about what their money could do. Absolute rubbish! You can say I came to fight for Uju. Yes. Because she's worth fighting for and I will defend her anywhere. She's not a gold digger like most of you think, especially people like you. Keep pouting everywhere acting like a starved dick! I will make an offer: since moderators didn't want unban me, I'll make an offer. If there are ten people interested to know more about my relationship with Plat, I'll gladly post the email and password we conversed on most of the time and you'll read to your satisfaction, over 2000 messages. Once again, this is TheSeeker.

Why should you let him go? If you let him go your cycle of foolishness won't be completed. Nonsense.

Well, I understand how you feel. You switch modes. Get back to business, or were you told that if you don't have a relationship with each other there won't be growth in your business? If that's the case, you decide whether you want to stay or leave. . . in the end it's your decision that counts. The question is, do you want to keep wasting your time with a married man who will probably dump you or at best, make you his second wife. Or you want to find a man for yourself? Your call.

190 himself! What's good? Been a while.

190! 190!! 190!!! How many times did I call you? Na you turn Alexbabe to jelly? Na wa ooo!

Naija boys: Always looking to take advantage

^^^ Look around for a BMW 3-series. That still makes sense. Check out some Toyota and Mazda products (for fuel management, these makes are good).

Flashfast1:

^^^Ok I will. But that will be after I take you back to primary school to learn how to use your punctuation marks. Better still I think I might have to buy you Brighter Grammer instead. . . . OLODO

Very funny. Or EFFECTIVE ENGLISH by Montgomery. By the way, ThoniaSlim writes expressly.

@OP. . . The girl in question seems to be having fun. Sometimes I wish there are some type of meter to read how often some p.us.sies have performed activities.

I-must-create-a-thread syndrome is your problem, poster.

505 Evolution looks trendier. But, why don't you find a modern car that's about the same price limit as those Peugeot?

You need to tell her you have a gun, and show her. But don't ever make the mistake of letting her know where you've kept it. Or you might put it somewhere in her presence and change the location within 5 or 10 minutes.

Something is wrong with the both of you. You said you like to take your time before going into a relationship with a lady, and she said---or was it thought?---that you're saying that to get her 'love and trust'

Then the same girl that said or thought you were trying to mop your way into her heart, is the first to say she's down for you? How does that correlate? Well, that in fact, maybe true but that doesn't propagate credibility for her earlier indication. If you're not ready, keep telling her that, and it should solve the problem. No one should intimidate you into doing what you don't want to.

Kunbee:

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@Post.

Gold digging is when you incessantly request for material things from your boyfriend/girlfriend just because you know he/she can afford them. It's not limited to only demanding cash, but all sorts of materialistic things.

The more you dial a number, the more it sticks. It's basic principle.

The perspective with which a man remains romantic in a marriage depends on what the wife puts up. If the wife doesn't demonstrate that she still appreciates romance, most men won't budge. Weird but that's the truth. You will be surprised to see some married women not dressing sexy anymore because they believe they're married and should be confined to a certain dress code. What do you expect the husband in question to do when he sees another lady outside, all dressed up sexy?

Dear 'Ex',

I can't help but laugh at your ludicrous attempt to bring me down, but hell yeah, I'm much stronger than twice you can ever be. You're still a small fry.

Arrogant and disgustingly s.tupid.

Money counts in every relationship.

The guy just likes you and there's no love from him to you. Truth is he still loves his ex, and don't be surprised that the breakup they have right now is temporary, they will still get back together. Be ready for the worst if you want to stay or be ready to move on or at the barest minimum, give him some time.

The woman will end up sleeping with his best friend or their gate man, and leave him trails to pick up.

From the way you're talking, and things you've said, it appears as if you're the only son in your family--or at least, the oldest son. If that is the case, your sisters are simply jealous. You have to find out for yourself after many observations, to ensure your wife's not doing the wrongful things to fuel their wrath and jealousy. If your wife hasn't done anything wrong, then your sisters need to take heed. A line needs to be drawn between your sisters and your wife at this point, and only you, can do it without preferential treatments. Sisters and sister-in-law are sometimes like that where you're the only son or the oldest (richest, most handsome, nicest) son in the family.

Nairaland is still flooded with all these meaningless topics.

If she wants to do it, let her. You should know who your girlfriend is.

It's just another sickness no big deal.

Shyness is one problem she may be having. When she doesn't feel like saying 'yes' to these men, is it out of being shy or timid? She has to make sure of that. If it's related to being shy, she has to work on her self-confidence; probably, she's scared of something deep within her, that only she knows. She has to assume control over who she really is, and not let the situation run her.

Another problem is maybe she doesn't know what she wants exactly. Don't be surprised, she just might not understand what she wants out of a relationship--or at worst doesn't know what a relationship is about. If she takes her time to understand what a relationship is about, she'll know what she wants, and then, she can go for it when he comes looking for her.

As for not kissing a guy back, I'm sure she didn't feel the same about him or she would have kissed back. Kiss isn't a rehearsed action, it just happens without an actual plan.

If it's about her religion that she's embraced lately, I'm afraid there's nothing you can do about it.

Nice picture.

It's not such a good idea but that's not to conclude it doesn't happen. Many factors can play out in this scheme. Some girls who are doing this are blinded, for instance, by thinking they've gone far too deep into the relationship to experience any breakup--this is a wrong assumption but it's always what some girls do.

Another feature is that instances have been witnessed where girls did this successfully and they got married eventually. Some parents can't help thinking that this is a modest way for a girl to prove her worth to the man to determine, and in furtherance, prove that she's going to be a worthy wife. With the kind of mentality some girls possess, this happens predominantly in a lot of places, Nigeria especially.

Truth is, co-habitation isn't a good idea, never have been. Some relationships crash at this point because only then the prospective mother-in-law starts to see faults and shortcomings of the girl in question; negative comments are made and a lot of misunderstanding ensue which truncates the relationship eventually.

Hungry I-never-chop girls