Bluezy13:


So, you actually believe for real ?? 😯

Yes, I know people older than that with body count below 5.

Proud and boastful men, I can't stand them. Or the ones that have an opinion on everything, abeg tajw several seats.

Yeah, a 'community penis' too. I don't care how nice or good looking you are, dey your dey.

Unseen:
A girl told you she has 3 body counts and you believed🙄

Is that so hard to believe?

Negroid001:
A woman's greatest fear is that you'll level up and become better than her current man.
Especially if she's the one that ditched you.

Who cares?? So a woman will leave you and still be lurking around to be monitoring your progress?? Who get time?

I don’t know how people do it. Just watching people talk, eat and walk about all day. When there is money to be made somewhere Nahhh

Please how do I solve the issue of transcript for evaluation of credentials. I don’t have a copy of my transcript, Unilag does not issue transcripts to individuals. I’m tryin to use CES and it says to upload transcript, what do I do please?

Tinyemeka:


Is it on a work or study visa if you don't mind me asking please?

Through work visa

Tinyemeka:


Definitely a very bad idea.

There will always be jobs available for both parents. Jobs that can pay them each at least £1,800 - £2,300 per month after tax, without any working experience. After settling in, they can eventually expand contacts/network and search for better paying jobs.

The biggest challenge is managing childcare, if there are kids that are still quite young.

A single mum in this case...Kids are 7 and 10. They are not so little but also not old enough you stay at home unattended...

Tinyemeka:


Yeah I understand your viewpoint and believe me, that is one thoughtful consideration I've decided to reserve for the future. I look forward to retiring and spending my grey years in Nigeria, which is why we're gradually building nest eggs here and there, but the more I get used to the modest way of life here as contrasted with the loud/aggressive way of life at home, I do get doubts about whether I can really live in Nigeria when I grow old.

When I mentioned my wife's case I only listed that as one of some examples of the drastic change in circumstances that has occurred in our lives since we moved to the UK.

I do beg your pardon if I come off as sounding like a brag which honestly is not my intention but rather an attempt to convey to you the peace of mind that we feel since we moved vis a viz the constant assurance of power supply, clean water supply (we don't even put water in the fridge but drink cold water directly from the kitchen tap at home. It blew my mind that such level of water cleanliness could be maintained all the way from the water purification plants, through the mains and to all the homes). With regards to home security, fences are mostly about 4 feet tall, with shrubbery for privacy. I've never locked our gate before and so many times we've forgotten to lock our front door and go to bed at night, without any fear of a break-in. Most of the people I interact with are always courteous, are not loud and people tend to follow rules for the most part in their daily activities. It is not all rosy though, because there are some inefficiencies you may encounter but it is definitely not something you can compare to what you'd experience in Nigeria.

Prior to travelling I'd always considered the US or Canada, because of the stories we used to hear about the UK and it's notorious taxes. Well, we came in and by God's grace we've both been working, earning, paying our bills and saving enough to send home.

If I could drop some pieces of advice about relocating to the UK, avoid London if your combined household income is going to be less than £90,000 per annum. The city is designed to only be affordable to live in by the wealthy. It is also severely overpopulated which has led to increasing gang-related activity and crime rates.

I will advise that if you ever see the opportunity to come to the UK from Nigeria, grab it with all four limbs. If it's through a work visa route, that's all the more icing on the cake. Coming via the study route with a large family at once, is definitely going to create difficult circumstances in trying to settle down.

P.S: To others who say it is not possible to save additional N12.5m within a year:

NHS Band 5 Nurse salary per month after tax: £1,760 - £1,960 for working 3 days a week.
After picking agency shifts elsewhere:
£340 per day or £3,060 per month after tax (2 nights a week, 9 shifts a month)

God so kind, a couple can earn as much as £7,500 a month after tax, be modest and keep their monthly expenses under £2,000.

You really do not have to live in London to claim that you're residing in the UK. It will just drain your lifeblood and make you forget your reason for leaving Nigeria in the first place.

Cheers.

I guess relocating as a single-income household is not the best idea…

The hospital should have give you a list. There used to be a new mums thread I was active on then...it should still be around, ask there.

Tinububalls:
The microphone used in church is affecting your oblongata.
Read more about frequency/wavelength stress.
My supplier made me became professor overnight.

Looool, thank God you know where the inspiration is coming from.

Jewessgratitud3:





See now, this is one of the things I'm talking about. As you're even talking, some will still be talking like they don't care until they fall victim or implicate an innocent person. They are just as careless with their lives as they are with words.

Sablexxxtoon didn’t write anything wrong. Yes, nothing ventured, nothing gained. A man won’t come and look for you in your bedroom, open up his heart for you to look inside and see that it is pure biko. You need to understand losing and winning is part of life and we can’t always get it right, give yourself some grace.

I was like you, not this bad but for years after my divorce I was on my own because I just didn’t see the point in putting myself in any emotional rollercoaster of liking someone and getting disappointed eventually. But I got tired of being alone, experiencing those feelings makes you feel alive. Just pray to God to bring a good man your way, choose carefully but don’t close yourself off.
God didn’t create man to be alone, we are social animals and that is never going to change. I wish you well in your endeavors.

Armed robbers came to our house twice in the space of one year when I was little. It was really scary, till date I’m traumatized when I hear very loud noises at home in the middle of the night. Because we woke up to them using a big stick to smash out all our chandeliers and bulbs.
Why couldn’t they just switch off the lights
They put a gun to my Dad’s head, asking for money, it was bad. I was particularly worried about them raping anyone. I had not reached puberty yet but my mum was there with my three older sisters. And we had heard stories of them raping people while robbing them, including a family friend’s wife.

Usanga35:
I now See Why U first Husband ran for his dear Life... I can see What ur First mother in law suffered from in ur hands...quick to rain insults on ur husband's mother....with what am seeing So far..No man Will marry you..It's true Marriage truly isn't for everybody... Quote me anywhere... Even if u marry again..they will still divorce u...Am not a prophet..but am a seer...

Loooool

Usanga35:
Please.Was ur first & second Husband dat divorced u unattractive to u??.were they Short??...okay tell me..Are u trying to tell us dat B4 u got married to them u didn't have ur preferences of wat u wanted in a man by then?..or ur taste of ur kind of men suddenly appeared after they divorced u??....but wait o...U said Ur a single mom of 2...are d 2 Children from 2 different husbands...How come this question never popped up in other people's minds except mine...be like am d most genius person here. And am sure..u must be shocked at how I know dis...Cos am very sure..d 2 Children are from 2 different fathers...

It didn’t pop up because you didn’t read the same post others read, may God heal you.

I got some mail requests that I can’t respond to directly because my full name is attached to the email address, if they are from this thread, send your messages to theunsure0@gmail.com . Thanks

I got some messages but i can’t reply to them because the email address attached to this account has my full govt name in it. But I created this for NL theunsure0@gmail.com so you can send direct mails there.

Thanks

Farid24224:
How tall are you sef?

5’7

cocolacec:

How are you sure the wife wont get pregnant and have his children in the future?
Hope only ends if she has no womb

Well, i pray she does.

You are only 21, you better calm down. Look for opportunities where you are. Your mother is right, one can’t be too careful. You are just starting our life, give yourself to grow, don’t be deceived by the obscene ways people flaunt money online.
No be only benin u fit succeed o.

Save in an interest-yielding account…

jattopeter:
quote author=Mountbatten post=124758724]So let me get this straight.

• You are a single mother, with two kids who's over 30 years old.
• A man who is rich, caring, generous and with the possibility of becoming a king in a few years is interested in you.
• He's married, you're not keen on royal family ties, and he's too short for you.

Why are you wasting time dealing with someone you clearly have no interest in? Did you post this to seek validation because I really don't understand the point of this post?

If you're truly doing great financially then focus on your kids ffs! You seem shallow and you didn't give us a background as to how you ended up as a single mum with 2 kids.

No man who is tall, rich, caring and generous will want anything to do with you as they have better options. Why would they even consider you? Men generally don't like raising other men's kids.
You are blessed, what will a guy of the attributes she mentioned now come for a woman that's a single mother of 2, has she asked her self this question?
I don't want to sound pessimist, No young guy will like to marry a single mother, raising another person's child.
It's funny to me though.

How do you know they have not been coming? And why do people always think women need someone to raise their children. My children are good, they need nothing from no one except their parents.

Ashawoman82:
well, I understand, but you should simmer it a bit..try and target widowers or divorcee men though, don't come an tie one innocent young man down because he's your spec.

Lol, you will be alright.

Ashawoman82:
joke apart, he's very right... Face reality, no tall fine boy with money that have lot of young beautiful women at his disposal will settle for a 30+ single mum of two... No hard feelings, it's just fact... I'm really surprised that you have the leisure to be selective.. Seriously u should be grateful..

Thanks for the disguised insults. Being a single mother is not the end of the world my dear, you only have as many choices as you give yourself. Yes I’m allowed to be selective, I know my worth and what I’m capable of. Save this speech for the ‘pickmeshas’.

DissTroy:
If you don't find the person you're with physically attractive, you'd always seek out other people.

But women grow to love men and might even stay loyal to him.

A man, on the other hand, who doesn't find you physically attractive would never do so. He'd wake up to you in the morning and be pissed off. Men are very visual beings.

It matters.

True, when the euphoria of being ‘married to a rich man’ settles, what next?? What’s the point of marrying someone you are not genuinely satisfied with? Because some people think you don’t have choices because you are a single mum, people who have their own issues they are dealing with too.

Tizu:
But you didn't tell us say the man don dey knack you 🤪🤪🤪🤪

Maybe you are confusing me with your mum.

efficiencie:


So your main problem is not that he already has a wife and a home. Your main problem is not that you are about to be an accomplice to ruining another woman's happiness. Your main problem is not that you have little to no contribution to the current economic and spiritual standing of that man. Your main problem is not that you are about to enter a trap made of gold...Your main problem is looks. So if this man had good looks you would happily destroy the happiness of another woman.

Women are the worst enemies of women. Women beware of women like you ohhh.

So the man should remain childless till he dies. Im not marrying him but another woman will and it’s up to the man to handle his home properly.

Ellasure:
you have been making mistakes true true.

what else do you want from the man that you said has nice characters and pleasant to be with. you are focusing tooooo much on physical attributes which the man can not change. he does not have any control on how tall he should be.

what are you really waiting for, the wife has accepted you and you too have two children already. you are supposed to be a matured woman but mentally you are not.

just wait a little more time someone will come that young man way and off goes the opportunity. please relax your mind and recheck with the man and wife. take play play get familiar and tidy up your interests in the family.

God's blessings and guidance upon you.

Na you no mature mentally. You should know there is a lot more to these family dynamics. So because the wife agreed to him marrying a second wife, she’s just going to embrace any woman he brings? Is it not possible that he marries someone, they have kids and then the person dies mysteriously, leaving the kids for his first wife to mother.
There are so many possibilities and I don’t like stress nor do I know how to do juju or hop from one pastor to another.

Omoawoke2:


Hahahah, I’m not sarcastic, you sound very intelligent though.
if it’s about smart, that’s one gift from God to me. I’m actually facing my own situation but mine is that I’m confused on who to pick among some girls. Life no balance. I can be your friend, but I honestly would prefer to marry a single girl. I don’t want my children to have step siblings.
Smart yoruba confident hardworking girl, chai… I like your type, now I know why the bros wan die ontop your matter. Apologies for my initial comment. You dey market !

Thank you but I no talk say I wan marry you before. Lol

Enjoy your weekend!

SonofGod231:

Abeg mo hear wurd!!!
Men want a woman with some class,sense and some self-respect. Which from looking at things,you are clearly lacking and lagging porously.

Son of man, why are you butthurt over a stranger, Pele tie o Lol

DonBenny77:

I'm sure your lowlife mother raised you as a single mum as well....... talk of running in the family. If God gave you a brain you won't be sharing your shameful story here seeking advice imagine taking marital advice from a forum. Where you born by mistake?

O ti jo Lol

Omoawoke2:


Will you marry me?

I guess I fit into your profile. I know I’m good looking, and I am not short and I’m doing well. I’ve never been married nor have kids. Shebi na my type you dey find

Ehn but you get sense? Can you hold an intelligent convo? What are your financial plans for the next five, 10 years? I’m not a broke babe so money doesn’t move me.
I’m a firm believer in chemistry/connection. You could have all the things listed and still not be attractive to me. I know you were being sarcastic but I hope I have been able to clear you on some things.