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Freshandfitpod:
did you see what happen in Kwara

https://www.nairaland.com/8611772/kwara-bandits-gun-down-villagers

And the guy is a mod ooo. I’m still shock at the kind of people Seun employ in his service.

yemiike:
lately I am facing an abject poverty to the extent that I cannot afford anything even pure water to drink I cannot buy.
then this useless man is telling me to go sell pure water in the streets, I swear I would rather die than carry a bucket of pure and wander across the streets hawking it like a someone that is cursed.
I am not against selling pure water but there are businesses that everybody knows they are for children and young adults, as 34 year old man anybody that see me hawking pure water will think that I am cursed or life is teaching me bitter lesson.
I would rather die of hunger.

Where do you reside? And what’s your qualifications?

Dyna002:
I have Bsc accounting.
They are advertising for the role of accountant.
Thanks for your advice, I really appreciate. I would have started small business but I don't have money now, I planned working for some time then save up and start a little business.
I will not bother my self going tomorrow again.

Can you relocate to Abuja if you see an offer? But no accommodation o except you have someone you can manage with and who stays in Abuja around Kubwa area. 85k for a start including two free meals everyday from Monday to Saturday.

BlakKluKluxKlan:
Pitobi is an expert in the act of 'Labouring In Vain'.
What a pity !

Cry more. Seun and other mods want to lick your tears.

I’ll come and give my thoughts on this.

SmartPolician:
Anyone is free to be a traditionalist or queen of the river, but don't use it to harm people. If you do, you owe nature a debt that you must pay back. That's why I love Christianity - you can never use God to hurt people.

Dey play my fans😂😸🥳

Ilu to l’ọba to n’ijoye. All hail Nigeria my country😂

Olu to l’ọba to nijoye. Main

Anything to allow Amọda mental chain to continue in Lagos shall be welcome by the Lagos slaves eating crumbs😸

Akin4tado:
One thing I love about igbos is that they always stand on business. They'll say that shit and mean it like mad 🤣😅 Una no go give dem biafra ke.

One reason why they remain my best tribe in Nigeria. I love courageous people not cowards like my people who speak from two sides of the mouth.

QuinQ:
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Thanks, you too.
Questions:
What do you mean by STAND?
How do you get a lady to be "deeply in love with you"?
How do you make yourself "valuable man" to them?

What I meant when I said “STAND” is when you’re a resourceful person, successful in your field. You’re a man who commands influence. Women will draw to you. And mind you, no woman, I repeat no woman ever love a man. It’s only men that love. Women are only attracted to a man they deem fit to seek validation from him due to the man’s status in the society. Women are hypergamous in nature. And the moment women get attracted to you, always invest in yourself by upgrading yourself more, give them a little chaos. Women thrive in a place there is drama. When you date one, have side chicks, have another, let them fight over you. Women love fighting over a value man reason why they say stolen milk is sweeter. And never forget that a woman’s contribution in a relationship will determine if she wants the relationship to last. If you contribute more than a woman in a relationship, she won’t mind leaving you. But if she does more than you, she will fight tooth and nail to make sure the relationship lasts and no one taking you from her. I hope I’ve answered your 3-in-1 question. Peace✌🏻

nlfpmod:

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7601952892957789462?_r=1&_t=ZS-93aLfTdp40D




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No be only mammy water. Ignorance is truly a multibillion dollars industry. Too much of Nollywood and Asabawood consumption have affected people reasoning faculty not to know that this lady is just someone who worships the water deity just like the followers of oriṣa Ọṣun ṣẹngẹṣẹ.

Amtasiu:
These are the candidates:
1) Atiku Abubakar
2) Datti Baba-Ahmed
3) Peter Obi
4) Bola Ahmed Tinubu
Please don't forget to tell why you prefer the candidate thanks.

Peter Obi has my vote all the way✅💯

Tinubu started this in Lagos and introduced it in 2015 into the programme of APC. And no wonder, he also learn from a crook whose name is Awolowo (his ignominious role in the civil war). You can argue with your keyboard and yab me all you like. Mind you, I be Yoruba person

QuinQ:
I like what you said here:
Women find it hard to leave any relationship or marriage they’re deeply invested into. As a man, your status matters to your wife. When you act as a needy in a relationship, with only you making the relationship work, you’ll get played by your partner who will possess the belief that she has all the cards, with the guy having the mindset of nowhere to go simply because he wants to make the relationship work after he has invested time and resources into the relationship while on the other hand, the lady has only dropped just 10k.

But this part is easier said than done:
As a man, before you spend 2k on your woman or in a relationship, make sure you’ve collected 20k from her or she’s spend 20k in the relationship. Think or sink!

The second part works like mad depending on your mentality and the kind of ladies you attract. Have you ever stumbled on the law of attraction? When a lady is deeply in love with you, you will know. You don’t need to chase, or impress a lady with money, when you “STAND”, i.e. a resourceful person and a man of value. Ladies will kpai themselves to be with you. They will dupe their maga and use the money to buy you gifts. Women chase valuable men, but they only do it codedly. I’m talking from other people’s experience and my personal experience. Study patterns, observe and you’ll understand. Have a beautiful day ahead😊

Samantha125:
I don't do private chats, sorry.

Noted

anonimi:
You are very correct about UBA and Tinubu fleecing the country.

UBA was the bank used by Tinubu to steal the $3.3 billion SPV loan from Afreximbank secured by future oil revenues.

The money has failed to help Tinubu achieve his N300/$1 short term goal before reaching N200/$1 in May 2027!

✅This is just one out of many sha. Almost all the big players in the banking sector are nothing but legalized thieves used by these looters to steal. Nigeria is indeed a crime scene.

Justicepluto:
how did i Bleep up?
Please educate me.

I’ve already analyzed it. You didn’t choose yourself, you chose her over you, at your own detriment.

Justicepluto:
Thanks bro, I read this..

Please, and please. Always invest in yourself. When you do, the right woman will get attracted to you. And make sure you even vet the right woman, make sure she is heavily invested in you before making a move. Women hardly leave any relationship they’ve invested their time and money into. Good morning and have a blissful day ahead😊

Rhymesy:
Nigerians will just be posting just to make fame.
Let's understand this. UK is a temperate country locating in the temperate region and temperate snakes are nonvenomous; meaning that there are not poisonous. Nigeria is a tropical country locating in the tropics. Biogeographically, equatorial region is a home to most deadliest species of animals (reptiles inclusive). In UK, out of 50 snakes,the chance of seeing one that is poisonous in the midst of them is less than 1. Comparing snake bites in UK and Nigeria is a bias argument that lacks credibility.Netizens are not fools.We came from different field of studies. Stop blaming the government. Fumigate your environment and stay safe. May her soul rest in peace.

You started well yet ended up saying thrash. Why won’t the government be blamed? A hospital for that matter cannot administer the right treatment to resuscitate a snake bite patient. I am very sure if it’s your family that is involved, you won’t type the beautiful nonsense you put up here.

When I tell people that UBA is a financial institution that is secretly helping Tinubu and APC to steal Nigeria resources, they will not believe. After UBA, pick Zenith join with Access

How many people remember during the one of the business trips Tinubu made to Paris last year or 2024, Tony Elumelu was among his entourage during that time. To do what?

adedayoa2:
excuse me, which one be omo Yoruba Abi omo hausa abi omo ibo? So make I lie sey them no treat the snake bite?

Aunty or Bọda, go back to Secondary school to resit WASSCE and focus on Use of English, and in particular Comprehension passage. Or you go back to my comment, and read slowly and thoroughly🥳

Samantha125:
Women are also secretly polyandrous in nature... If we were to conduct paternity DNA on everyone from babies to our elders, you'd see what I mean...

You’re not far from the truth.


P.S: Are you South African? You seem interesting. I don’t chase but I recognize presence. Mind catching up by mailing me?

QuinQ:
Here's the post:

Justicepluto:
Life is like a two-sided coin.

Three years ago, I met a young woman fresh out of NYSC. When we started dating, she told me she had graduated with first-class honors and was exceptionally intelligent. Impressed by her potential, I began supporting her in every way I could. I encouraged her to pursue her ICAN certification and provided financial help, even though I was struggling myself. At one point, I had to ask her to stop making random financial demands, assuring her that I would always support her when it was truly necessary.

For the first two years, as she grew professionally, I focused on building our future. My dream was for us to travel together after our first year of marriage. She was indeed brilliant, intelligent, and hardworking, which only fueled my commitment.

By our third year, we had seen significant progress: we acquired lands and a car. But amid this growth, one persistent issue overshadowed everything, the lack of basic respect. She never respected me the way I respected her. I held her in such high regard that I even tempered my sexual energy around her. During intimate moments, I often appeared subdued so as not to overwhelm her, especially since early in our relationship, she had mentioned that sex was painful for her.

One day, during a disagreement, we went out to resolve our issues. In the middle of our conversation, she abruptly stood up and left. I was stunned but swallowed my pride. After talking to her about it, she repeated this behavior during another attempt to settle things this time, I took her phones in frustration, and she snatched mine, even pulling my second phone from my pocket.

I began questioning why she couldn't show me respect. I never hit her, abused her, cheated on her, or shouted at her. Whenever I tried to correct her gently, she would raise her voice to counter me, and I'd stay calm to avoid escalation.

She rarely did any chores when she visited. To be fair, she would cook, but that was it—nothing else. Helping with something as simple as cleaning the toilet seemed like an act of divine intervention. My laundry was never her concern; she could wear my clothes and just leave them for me to wash, as if it were none of her business.

Over time, it became difficult for me to address her behaviors without sparking fights, so I started avoiding those conversations altogether. I even bought several plots of land through her, and her company at the time gave her commissions, yet not once did she ever say "thank you." I overlooked all of it.

Her constant disrespect and eagerness to walk away during conflicts made me realize I needed to test her loyalty. I couldn't pinpoint the issue, as there wasn't a single aspect where I thought I was falling short—and when I asked her, she couldn't name one either. Was it the gifts? The phones? Extending my generosity to her family in small ways? The advice I gave? I was truly confused.

During one argument, she left our shared bed, slept alone, and packed her things the next day.

I decided I had to confirm what was really going on, especially since February 14th was the day I had planned to introduce myself to her family officially. When she later came to apologize, I lied to her that I was a sickle cell patient. She cried, accused me of wasting her years, and left. As she was going, I expressed my interest in her regardless, pleaded with her not to tell anyone, and asked if this was a sacrifice she could make for us—that she should think about it and get back to me.

Did I go too far? I don't think so. At one point, I had sacrificed my job, my source of livelihoodbecause her actions had triggered me so deeply. We met again later, and I begged her not to walk away. I promised everything: adoption, sperm donation, IVF. She refused, saying the money we could save and channel into other things shouldn't be wasted.

This was a woman who, in our three years together, had never done anything for me or my family financially. I borrowed money from her when times were tough and repaid it almost immediately. She earned well currently in the hundreds of thousands but never once had she given me even 5,000 naira as a gift. The first and last time she gave me any money was for a hospital bill, and it was 10,000 naira. Yet here she was, complaining about wasting money.

I laughed it off inwardly as she left and sent her belongings after making sure she asked for them. Weeks later, her mother called me as usual to ask about our issues. Because of her daughter's pride, her mom would rather intervene to settle things than her make any genuine efforts to show she was sorry. I felt there was no point discussing it, if her daughter's pride and ego weren't in the way, she would have stepped up to make amends herself, rather than involving her mom.

Now, I'm starting over. This time, it's not about who's the most successful or intelligent, but about finding someone who will stand by you when the chips are down—someone willing to make sacrifices, even when it's uncomfortable for them.

Many highly intelligent and working-class women remain single or end up divorced for a reason. Some are married but face similar challenges. Ultimately, it's about recognizing your potential and finding someone who will stand by you to achieve it.

In the end, she was stuck in a fantasy shaped by her past relationships, which I don't want to write about. In the end, everyone will be happy.

N.b
I couldn't type everything i overlooked and endured but i am glad it's a fresh start..

I read it as you quoted it. That begged the reason why I drop my piece. I will never blame the lady but the guy. He fvcked up big time.

Serenitys:
Go to any church and do a thanksgiving.
Nah God save you..

It pains me I couldn’t address the guy directly. It seems like he has deleted the post. He will still make that same mistake again of building up another lady he intends to marry for the second, third, or even fourth time. I hope he can see this comment of mine by the way. He made a lot of mistakes and most men should not fall into that pit. We all learn everyday.

As a man, make sure you’re better than your woman times 10. Women are naturally hypergamous in Nature. This guy is in question keeps developing his woman but never develop himself in other aspect and I can beat my chest that he doesn’t have the needed charisma. He also makes a mistake of contributing financially to the relationship without allowing the lady in question to contribute. Women find it hard to leave any relationship or marriage they’re deeply invested into. As a man, your status matters to your wife. When you act as a needy in a relationship, with only you making the relationship work, you’ll get played by your partner who will possess the belief that she has all the cards, with the guy having the mindset of nowhere to go simply because he wants to make the relationship work after he has invested time and resources into the relationship while on the other hand, the lady has only dropped just 10k. She has nothing to lose. As a man, before you spend 2k on your woman or in a relationship, make sure you’ve collected 20k from her or she’s spend 20k in the relationship. Think or sink!

Justicepluto:
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honour8:
What ever you do, don't leave your wife oh, the day you do, the day you will see and know the true meaning of suffer. Sorry to break it to you but all the things you said point to one thing, your wife is likely what we usually call an Ogbanje. If they, love you dem done done love you, things will be going well for you. They will continue to support you spiritually and you will think all your success is yours, do you know how many people graduated with first class in Nigeria or how many software developer there are, guy if you think I am lying ask a spiritual man, they will tell you. How you go expect person wey done carry her lucky charm join your own make e serious for work again.

Another thing that made me say that is that abroad stuff, the source of her power is in Nigeria, that is why she is discouraging you from travelling bet it if you too push her she will ask you to go, even with the children but she will stay behind, this is because they cannot leave far away from their source.

You are lucky you brought this here if not Oyo would have been your future. You will leave her and she will still find another man and the man will be very successful while you will fall flat. You go wonder, except you want make another person train your children.

😂No be only ọgbanje na ọgbanka😂😂😂Nollywood and Asabawood don full your head. People with a mindset of yours are dangerous to themselves and society at large. And a lot of people like you people the country in millions. It is well😂😂🥳

elipheleh:
Marrying an unintelligent woman is really the worst mistake a man can make.

If I can reverse the Hands of clock I wont go for my current wife.

Well, I always loved an intellectually sound woman. It trips me. Something like a medical doctor or a programmer lady. At minimum a working class lady. Both intellect and beauty trips me.

I imagined a marriage where I'll be on thesame frequency.

I am a 1st class material but financial burden made me drop to second class upper in my 3rd year to 5th year.

I always knew I was going far in life and needed a woman who wanted to go far too.

When I met my wife she was very beautiful, speaks very well and in her 1st year. Each time I asked about her studies she would convince me how she was the best in her class and this and that.

Ask for her results, she would say results are not yet out.

By her 2nd year I married her after she got pregnant. As per the honorable man na

Do you know this girl after I2nd year, all her results were carry over. I mean ALL. Not even 1 pass.

Damn. Women fear women.

Now she just birthing beautiful kids. But now there's communication. Tge knowledge gap between us is too wide. Nothing to discuss about. Even when I try to communicate it frustrates me. I will speak and still explain my very own grammar. Then I will now explain the meaning and the etymology before continuing with the sentence. Its a real pain communicating.

You can imagine my regrets when I see an intelligent hardworking lady doctor outside.

Secondly, she doesn't want to work or even study to improve herself.

I am not poor by any means. I am a software developer. I earn about N4 million monthly.

But my wife is only happy selling ZOBO and kwulikwuli. Even at that she is not serious with it. Imagine this year she has not even started selling anything. January has passed.

I've told her to learn and IT skills. She says No.

Told her learn nursing, she said No

I did international passport for me, her and our 3 kids. She just came up and said she won't like to travel abroad. Her fears is that women there are likely going to be working on jobs.

Ok. Madam lets open Boutique for you - she no get the energy to run boutique.

Oya learn driving and be taking the kids to school - it is taking her almost 3 years to learn. Today she will drive, tomorrow she will forget it.

Oya madam go back to school and complete your education. She no want.

Every quarrel, she will threaten to commit suicide (informing random relations of mine to take care good of her children if anything happens to her) and accuse me of not seeing any value in her. Madam which value? You don't want to improve yourself and you now cry that I am improving.

She wants this and that and I spend so much. How can a man be spending more than 3 million every month? She want chop chop chop.

Since I met her, I have overworked myself.

Story long..

Sometimes, I always feel like quitting this marriage. But being a Christian, I feel trapped in this better for worse journey.

If only Madam can develop herself. I wish she can be just willing to learn or pursue knowledge. Let her drop this laziness about self-development and littleness mindset thing. Kai. No ambition. No dreams. I wish she can just have dreams for once in her life. And be a lover of wisdom.

I plan to go far in this life. But its difficult to do so when you're unequally yoked with an unambitious partner.

Only God can save my marriage at this rate things are going

Guy, with what you say. That institution you’re presently in is doom to fail at anytime. Anytime, you’re fed up, no one will tell you to leave until you leave with being afraid of any social conventions, dogmas, or Christianity this or that. I’m not sorry to say this: your wife is a liability raise to power 100.

Wealthyonos:
Some of this type of ladies are like tools. A good man will know how to set them on his own course if he has one. You just have to provide food and shelter shikena

Why are you giving excuses for this menace? Why don’t you remain jobless, and unskilled then wait for a woman to equip you to her taste too? What is the job of the lady’s parents no to train their children until waiting for a suitor to do the needful. Let’s stop giving excuses for failure like this.

Sirchiboy:
I have an uncle who is a teacher that married a Lady , no skill or education.
He married her because she is fair.
Guess what , this uncle couldnt achieve anything throughtout his 35 years of teaching.
All his salary was used to pay debt his wife push him into.
If not for their first daughter that married a well to do man who helped him to build a house on his land he bought from his gratuity.
This man would have just grow old and go without anything.
I don't pity him because he caused and brought that upon himself.

If as a man, you avoid women. You’ve solved 99% of your woes.

adedayoa2:
Dr Nigeria is not a useless country, my mum was rushed to the hospital some years ago, it was snake bite, and she was treated. Nigeria is not a useless country.

Ọmọ Yoruba, pẹlẹ o. What would you have said? If a Fulani man, or Ibo is in power, would you say Nigeria is not a useless country? Think deep before you answer ooo.

You will never see the “dem-dem” on this thread to come and defend this government and the system like this. But when it concerns Peter Obi, you’ll see them coming in droves with comments flying around as if they’ve just been released from Yaba Left