₦airaland Forum

5minsmadness:

MizMyColi:
Yes.
But then I have seen the hoohaa of some ladies and it looks so tattered.
I don't know if it is lack of circumcision or due to too much sex.

MizMyColi:
Thank you
She says Hi


She sounded so sure of the dusting powder ish.

badejob:
She posted pix of another man calling him her "boo of life", so I guess my instinct was right that she did that just to draw him back to her once she found out he had married me without her knowledge..initially he was ignoring all phone calls, etc even when I wasn't around..wasn't even really replying to her text or anything..but once she did that, all the sudden he's picking up her calls, etc..*sigh* I'm not dumb..just a hurting woman..we "fall for this stuff", cos of the treatment..the going over & beyond to provide no matter what. The times I ask for something, he gets it PLUS more if possible..the standard treatment we're supposed to be getting versus these American men treating us like trash..the cold part, he just had to be honest..I would've helped cos I've worked with many Nigerian men & seen the struggle to bring their families & the admiration & respect that I have for the culture in general..so please don't call me..I'm just a very attached woman that's hurting..

PresVA:
I'm fine doc.. thanks

_{yeah..my LO don reach 8 weeks}

dapsonlou:
No one is catching the story. SHe's got 4 daughters, the 5th child a boy died. She adopted a boy, but the husband is not interested in the adopted child and want his own BLOOD. Ivf can choose the Sex of the baby so all they need is a surrogate to carry the new heir. I don't think IVF clinic allow u to meet your surrogate, so they want to choose their own to make sure the baby is a fine boy. Wala

PresVA:
Hi .. I'm good.. been around though not as before..

thanks for checking. .

how are you too?

Davash222:
So you don't see all those Afonja Omo Ale and Agberos

Pidgin2:
Ahhh you got it right, yes I stay there

badejob:
So him being 37 & not having his own kids, etc might've not influenced him wanting me & "trying to have a baby"??

merahki:
Hi...the chances of a both-AS couple have a child with SS is 25%....or one quarter, if I remember my genetics well ....and this probability/chance is for each pregnancy
Then, giving birth to a child who is AA ...25% too
Child with AS....50%
Because each chance is for each pregnancy, if a couple has four kids...it does not mean one would be AA, one SS and the remaining two would be AS....they could have all four as AA, all four being AS, all four being SS....or 3 SS, one AA, 3SS, one AS, and so on
It does not depend on the number of children....

In summary......there could be that extremely lucky couple who may have their desired number of kids without any having SCD....but the reverse could be the case too....25 percent SS.. In in 4, for each pregnancy....

But well to do couples who both carry the sickling gene can have tests pre-conception to know the genotype of their foetus....and can decide to terminate every pregnancy with SS foetuses and carry to term and be delivered of the healthy ones- AS, AA
This costs money though, and then there is the issue of the "sinfulness" of this to consider

So we have a trifecta of issues associated with AS vs AS marriages viz
- the 25 percent chance of having SS for each pregnancy. Having one SS child does not guarantee that the next wont be an SS....remember sicle cell crises people, heartbreaking to see.....the respiratory problems, the anaemia, the bone pain, the death, the strain and stress on family, and more
- the high cost and possible unavailability of pre-conception tests
- the ethical/ morality considerations - abortion, guilt, blame, etc

It costs less than a thousand naira to get a genotyping....at least it did before June this year...
Most times, it is ignorance that makes people not go for genotyping....or more rarely to ignore the results
The second and arguably more dire reason is religion....some religious people praying it away

glossy6:
Nope! I will pay the bills but have my peace

austinosita:
The baby is usually not breastfed!!? Mhen, I don't think I would ever want to try this! Why would you not breast feed your baby or choose for the baby not to be breastfed?

Read(Red) all the plights of guys about women rejection. There's always a woman out there for every man. You just need to lower the qualities or standard you seek in a woman. No woman is ugly as long as you have little cash to tvsh her!

austinosita:
I believe in both parents living together(married) and raising kids! But no one knows the Op's reasons for wanting to tow this route! But I'll advice the OP to date that lady and then marry her legally.

To the ladies that talked about fertility clinics and surrogacy......this question might be silly but I need to know; if he wants to go by this, then who breast feeds the baby? I understand someone donates egg and a surrogate caries the baby and delivers. Kinda confusing, can you ladies explain this better in a layman's language?

Thankyou

Moisef:
Research well on it, If u're abt to get married to one. Also does ur partner know abt ur genotype?... I read somewhere last week abt a couple (both AS) they had healthy kids (I mean no SS) Pls talk to a medical practitioner on ur stand so u can know what u're abt to face.

kayjasper:
And Madam Tearoses deactivated yet again.


Guess the Family Section is loosing some of its best contributers.

tosyne2much:
I know my own parents too will also breakdown in tears during my wedding

ifybae:
you taking it the wrong way. wanted to make him happy again

Stoner069:
Because you don't like his songs don't mean no one else does. Yh? Go and listen to Phyno ft. Burna & MI. Dude killed it!

Onegai:
Lai lai. No-one wants an extra mouth to feed in these times, especially a mouth attached to medical bills and requiring 24 hour care. His family and friends will descend on her with all the Pastors and Imams in this Nigeria, armed with enough Emotional Blackmail so that she forgives and keeps him with her. By the time they are done with her, they will have her crying and pleading for him to forgive her for neglecting him, which is why he cheated. They will convince her that it is the will of God, that to send him out is to condemn her and her kids to an awful life and hellfire. All to avoid having her pass the buck to them.That's the Nigerian way

teemy:
were it to be a sin i trust the bible would have adequately mentioned it. remember the jews of the new testament trying to yoke the converted gentiles with the law of moses. it is worse when the sin coiner is a religious head. toothpaste is unnatural