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comtem2011:
cc: thorpido

Mysticgal,where is your location?I could link you up with one but he's male.I don't know if he can speak with you on skype though.
You can PM me.

Onegai:
Never, ever. I know a couple who did 2 years in jail because their maid started acting up, refused to go to school and after they reported back to her guardian in Nigeria and were asked to put her on the first flight back, went to the authorities and declared that she was a trafficked person (this is someone who almost every year was put on a plane to visit her family back home, on their dime). It was a silly case and the judge would have thrown it out but unfortunately her passport had false info on it (her guardian did that, not them) so they got the book thrown at them for that. And the maid promptly declared she was a lesbian and filed for Asylum.

Pay whatever the hell any worker abroad wants. That is the price you pay for living in a society that works: it's more expensive. Or come to Nigeria, pay cheap labour and have a society in shambles, with zero infrastructure and pay quadruple just to have electricity, clean water and some measure of security. You cannot have both, no eating your slice of cake and sharing some to Ada, Bisi and Halima. And Nigerians in general are too unpredictable to ever trust long-run.

The bolded is the main issue,that unpredictability.
I know a couple who have done it for a couple of years but they are lucky they have a loyal girl.
It's a risky venture.

^^^I'm sure all that would have been finalised.

It's actually cheaper than getting a nanny abroad so it depends on the longer term objectives.

Yes,legally.

It's important you treat the maid well too.

He can't spell heart?

Did the poster say she was sleeping with the man on the side?

Ghetto girls.

Pennywise:
You dont know this man.

I know him to an extent.He likes to stay off the public but there are exceptions like when he's honoured by a president.

You should break up with him,Op.You say he gives you cold treatment because you refuse him sex.He makes you do what you don't want,so what are you waiting for?

Take your time to build the relationship with God as you say.

I love the picture quality.HML to them.

tirex:
Hmn....She can't fully maintain it...

Then buy the car and keep it.Just make it available for her to use when there's a need for it.

You could gift your mum the car since you are single and is not ready to settle yet.However,can your mum afford to maintain the car?

Pennywise:
I am surprised he didn't send someone to receive it on his behalf.

It's the country's highest honour.He will want to be there to receive that just as he was present to receive his G.C.O.N.

tolujohnso:
Good! But btw, is it true IBB (Nigeria's) money is in his biz?

He is a businessman.How will IBB put his money in his business?He's way smarter than that.

I hope all these pre-wedding pictures will make marriages last longer.

He should stay home and rest but on a second thought that might kill him quickly.

Telling a wife you will be third in my life.......hmmm.I don't think mamy women will like that.

TheArchangel:
I will break your bone for this recession,....

So kindly go and jerk off abeg

I am on my way to work now....

You're thinking of jerking off this early morning?smh

TheArchangel:
I have not created any thread on my personal experiences or problems, so back off.

There are young spinsters who are not married and are apprehensive about marriage.Words can increase their anxiety or mislead them so I ain't backing nowhere.

TheArchangel:
Allow him to sulk and throw tantrum. A lot of things changes after marriage especially the he is my best friend and he has been friends for aeon ish.

Welcome to master-slave relationship called marriage.... But you know try ooo what if the house burn down with you in it nko.

Your experience@bolded but not everyone's experience.

Cook a delicious meal for him and while he's eating,ask him why he has been moody lately.Apologise again to him for the other time the food got burnt.
If he keeps being moody around the house,ignore him.Na small boy they worry am.

You know how many times my wife don spoil my expensive clothes.Mcheeew

Marry her.
Let her continue her education after marriage if that is what you desire.

njiasi30:
Ur NUM one mistake was always checkmating him, and now dat u ve found what u re looking 4, u can't handle it anymore. My mentor will always say u need to b blind and deaf to enjoy ur marriage.

My friend once had dis exp, her own case was so bad to d extent her hubby brings dem home and in his office 2. She knew most of dem, d man also slept with d wife sis 2. Dere was nothing she didn't do, couldn't divorce him BC of d kids. She later accepted it as her fate and left everything to God

I advised her to get herself busy, change her circle of friends, improve on her looks, dress sexy at home,when she's at work 2 (BC she later got a job) chat/talk dirty with him and when she comes back, she shld give him a mind blowing... to ease d stress of d day. She shld also learn to ignore and reduce quarrels, know his likes and dislikes.

She should always make sure dey hang out at weekends and tell him d bills will b on her (men likes free things ) . whenever dey re chatting she should always give him a listening ears and no blames....not to bore u... thing went on fine, tho it wasn't easy but God saw her tru. Today, even if a woman is naked infront of him, it does nt move him at all rather he will even insult u and help u 2 cover up

Ur marriage and happiness is in ur hands dear, always learn to forgive so u can free ur mind and b happy and try ur best to take d position of dat phone lol. I wish u all d best

Your mentor got this part wrong @bolded.You see and you hear and decide by wisdom what you want to do with what you saw or heard,not remain blind or deaf.
The case you narrated doesn't always end up well as you have written.Some end up with the man marrying a second wife,fathering kids all over the place or getting infected with a deadly disease ot death.That man changed only because God turned him around.

Men should take responsibility for their ways and not make it look like the woman isn't doing enough.

You know how many wives he has?Going round those women can be tiring.

Mimzyy:
Yeah. Thank you sir. How's work going?

Fine thank God.Hope your side is fine too.

Mimzyy:
Morning Uncle T.

I noticed you went off nairaland but u're back now.Welcome.

Hi Mimzyy

freecocoa:
Can it be called love when it is based on physical appearance or money?

Even if they were friends before it happened, friends are subject to change, so...

That's what I'm saying.The 'love' that comes based on physical appearance can change because physical appearance changes.

Frendship is subject to change as you rightly said but I've looked at several people I know who found friendship first that developed into love and years later,I still see that love between them.

freecocoa:
Thing is, due to popular belief, there shouldn't be conditions in love, therefore a person is love, isn't supposed to change, regardless of what their partner become.

I don't see how that is possible, which is why I'm starting to rethink this whole love thing.

It depends on what brought about the love.Did he fall in love because of her physical features and did she fall in love because of his financial status and physical appearance?If that is an issue,things might change with time.
If however they fell in love after they had developed a friendship first,it's usually strong enough to sustain them.

buchilino:
IT'S NOT AS EASY AS UR SAYING IT. MOST PPLE LACK MENTAL MATURITY. SHE'S SAYING SHE ASSIST HIM NOW, BUT MY QUESTION IS SHE MATURED ENOUGH, 2 NO DAT D GUY IS HEAD N HIGH PRIEST OF D HOME, EVEN IF SHE EARNS MORE THAN HIM

I know one has to be sure of a woman's maturity in cases like this before embarking on the journey but I'm sure Op can tell where she lies.

IamOdin:
lol, bro, why do u lock ur house??

This one is a weapon for offense.

NL1960:
I perfectly understand what you say. Even for trading, you need capital to start. Can you start a trading with 10k?. My point is that you have to first accumulate before you now decide what you want to do. A child's saving account is an accumulation. There are people who have only 1k that they can afford to be putting in every month. What type of trading will you tell such a person to start with that 1k. Sound financial advise is that you accumulate first in a savings account and when it is something substantial, you move it to risk free investments like bonds or treasury bills. Do not forget trading can lead to serious loss and a wipe-out of the entire initial capital.

You're right but what if that N10k goes into some form of insurance plan?Still better than a savings account.

NL1960:
What iam saying is that will you not accumulate the money somewhere first before buying government bonds?. A child Savings account is not supposed to be an account that you dump a big lump sum into at once. It is suppose to be an account that you deposit a consistent amount at a defined frequency. So, if somebody wants to be depositing a fixed 10k amount every month into a child's savings account, should the person not do that but instead go and buy government bonds of 10k for that month and then at the end of the next month, he goes again to buy another government bond of 10k?. Do not forget that some banks demand for a minimum amount for government bonds and treasury bills.

I understand what you are saying.I just used government bond as an example.Trading can be another use of that money.Like I said,I'm not a financial expert but what I'm emphasising is that putting that money into a savings account yields very little returns.

Do you have somewhere to stay in Lagos?