₦airaland Forum

MrBrownJay1:
Some women are funny.... 90%!!!
Let any of her exes come and testify/confirm that number because we all know that the only person to be able to rate a woman in bed is MEN (and vice versa)..... Just because a man cuum, doesn't mean a babe is good in bed.

jhudit:
His mum might be rotten by now then, except he excluded her from his senseless rant. Sometimes I wonder if these guys put off their brains like data connection, before posting.

MadCow1:
[s] English is the official language but the constitution also recognises three other major languages so I don't see the big deal. A very large percentage of Nigerians don't actually understand the English language either so all this hullabaloo can be simply resolved by the Ministry of Information translating the speech into all languages including English and disseminating it which is how it is supposed to be even when the speech is given in English for the benefit of those Nigerians who don't understand it.

This is just another case of much ado about nothing. There is a reason why Languages was made compulsory in our education curriculum.[/s]

jesbu:
Are you a true Jehovah's witnesses? Is that what the watchtower thought you?
You went to kingdom hall you said church.

Be careful

CHAVINCI:
In church today, we talked about 1 kings chapter 21 where it tells the injustice king ahab did to Naboth and his children, yes it was very cruel and wicked, but my point is when GOD decided to punish Ahab which of course he repented and wore sack clothes and so GOD extended his hand of mercy on him by saying the punishment meant for him would happen to his children, don't you think that is a misguided justice on the part of GOD?

I mean why would people who know nothing about how a sin was committed pay the price? And if GOD had truly forgiven him, then why punish his children, is that still called forgiveness?

whitebeard:
looks like I would be creating a new account

Beejayx:
The dog follow kill am

TheSuperNerd:
This sounds very similar to someone I know...... Your Mother is one of a kind. Kudos to her.

But I must stress this truth... the OP does not look like she is trying to compete with his mum. Don't get her wrong. It is natural to feel slighted that the man you will call "Your Husband" will say "I can die for and with my mother" and it happens that he cannot say same about you....


I mean... you are gonna be "Wife" for crying out loud... The mother of his kids... the center of His World and The man regards His Mum slightly above you??

No... Something is not right.

A mother who sacrifices like yours is one to behold and cherish forever but even she should know her place when it comes to Her son's marriage.

If you are a Christian then you should be familiar with this scripture:

Genesis.2vs24 (NKJV), "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to His Wife, and they shall become one flesh."

You see that regardless of a father's and Mother's inputs and many sacrifices, they must understand that The Child, once he is a man, must be freed up to become One With His Wife.... a new family begins....

That does not in anyway end the love one has for his mum. It also does not mean she doesn't occupy a special place in your heart or that of her daughter-in-law... nooo.


It only means that Right now, In Marriage, the No.1 in the man's life above all else except God is The Wife. This is the law of the universe... the is the standard of the right thing in our world which many have neglected because of Too much super attachment to Sentiments and Bias.

The Love for your family especially your mother will be as strong as ever but must not be above The Love and Value you show for your Wife.... The LINE MUST BE DRAWN AND BALANCED BOUNDARIES ESTABLISHED.

This is how a good marriage can become even better and be a model for all to follow.

So it is not about her competing with anyone or the mother... it is about the humans of this world competing with God's standards in Marriage.

Love for Dad stays super strong, Love for Mum stays ever super strong... a mother is a child's first super heroine. So the deeeeeeeep bond will be there Buuuuttttt.... A man child can never be ONE WITH HIS MUM NO MATTER THE BOND. That Oneness can only be with His Wife... and believe me... when you marry a virtuous woman as a Wife..... She will not compete with your mum.... she will only love your mum even more... But it is up to you, the man, to understand and enforce that Your Wife comes first.... why because... She is the only one in the entire Universe that is One with you.



Let there be balance in these things. Sentiments based on personal experiences cannot help. And Believe me, If I tell you my own story... you will understand that my view is not corrupt but as balanced as it can be. I Love My Mother so much... I can starve myself just to see her feed (and have done so many times) and have done crazily risky things... I am one of the reasons why she is still alive today. But I understand the law of marriage and what it entails. Your Wife comes first. Chikena.

GhettoG1:
Have a son first nd u gonna understand, i swear if a girl question about my mum in a slight rude way or she's asking too much then even if it's hour's to our wedding I'm calling it quit. Shikena

sweerychick:
did u read the part i said that im cool with guys that are close to their mums. My mans own is just so weird and creepy

ImaIma1:
Abeg jor! When my dad died, my mum didn't latch to my brothers like a leech. It is not all mums and sons that act like Siamese twins. Both can be close but not to the point of posing a threat to other loved ones like the wife.
That is exactly how a lot of mums tend to manipulate their sons and toss them around like toys.

OP be ready to be the second wife. I like a man that is his own man. Not one that needs to nurse from his mum everytime.

farouk0403:
Is not by force to take the course/subject because its optional okay

farouk0403:
Then stop behaving like you are suffering from islamaphobia, who cares if the south wants out? I don't give a dame same goes with my family and friends.

The Arabic courses have already been introduced in the north, and it is an elective is not compulsory so whats the big deal about it?

You guys are the badguys with running mouth but if we do/ say something otherwise you will start crying victims.

Can't you leave us in peace afterall is our religion not yours.

farouk0403:
Why are you sooooo scared of islam
I guess your dad must be a pastor and you are scared for him not to lost his job when islam keep growing.

Tiffbuxas:
Very soon they'll make recitation of this nonsense compulsory