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Thanks Sariba and everyone else, I know what i need to do, i just got to figure out a way to do it. I hate this part!!!

It really depends. If the man had it all before marriage. How long they are married. But if he had nothing and they built together and she was a good faithful wife while he built a business then absolutely it should be divided. If he had property etc before they married then its his to do with as he pleases.

At lot of them sound like my soon to be ex, hehe!

Hehehe!! Very strange story! No way a woman could accomadate a mans leg, he would have to go feet first! Ouchy!!

candylips:
why are u in australia. that place is too far

Its my home, born and bred. My world is here, family, friends, etc.


If you get to the point that you worry yourself more than being happy than you better shop the relationship!!!!

Good luck!!!

[quote][/quote]Yep, im at that point. Making me crazy. Thanks so much to everyone for your help and comments. So good to hear from you all. Really appreciate it. Now i just have to get the strength to stop and stay away.

Haha!! I havent got any money to give him. Im supporting myself and my son 100%. It takes all i have. I want to walk away and be free but as you guessed i am in deep. But i need it in return. He is saying he wants to come back here for me. Ive believed so many lies and false promises i just cant trust any of it. I need a way to cut myself loose.

Your so right Gabry. Now that is a man who loves his girl! Good for you!

He just sms me saying he wants to talk to me online so like a fool i sign in and he has to go check his cooking and i should wait. Whatever!! Im seeing things much clearer now. Its not happening no matter how much i want it. Happy to hear someone is being treated as they deserve.

Sorry but dont believe in true love anymore, just love in the moment. Cant help you.

'when he calls me', that would be nice. He has been gone 3 months and hasnt called me once! I call him. I have international calls on my phone plan so i can talk to him. I have stopped wasting my money so now just sms. Its been 4 weeks since our last msn chat, says he has connection problems. Sometimes doesnt reply to my sms so i wait til he sms me and i get in trouble for not understanding, Ugghh!!!! So getting over it as i type, lol!

What choice to we have?? But you only get one chance to screw me over then i forgive with distance and never cross my path again.

I dont care how broke he is it doesnt cost much for a card on her birthday with some sweet words. Ive been with a guy for over 12months. I was lucky enough to get a pressie on my birthday but thats only cos i was with him. I bought valentines, bday, easter and christmas cos i think its important to surprise. He spends money on himself with fancy clothes and electronics. There is no excuse for nothing at all for christmas or birthday. He doesnt need to spend lots of money. Im interested to know what his answer was if you asked him why.

Gabry:
@ Poster,

This is a tough situation because Im not in your shoes or in your bf's shoes and also I have been spoiled by my bf hroughout the years we've been together so its hard for me to advise u but what I do know is that once a man loves a girl, he would really try his very best to get in touch with her despite the circumstances and the burdens cause relationships are all about sacrifices aqnd burdens towards each other.

When I was outstation, my bf was really far away but he made effort to call me twice a day ven when he is broke. I didnt knowhe was broke untill some years when his housemate told me that he would rather call me and spend the money there instead of buying food to eat and he woudl rather starve but than again, every individual is different.

You both need to rediscuss this and both come o terms where there is a win win and a loosing loosing situation.

Wow your so blessed. Am really happy for you. Thanks so much, i think i am getting a picture of whats going on. I too believe that if you truly love someone you will do whatever it takes to keep them. All i am asking is an sms now and then and maybe a chat once a week. Cant see how hard that would be afterall how long does it take to send of an sms??


baby dis is wat u will do, try and ditract your self for a week and see if he will call or text u. DON"T text him, i mean don't text. just distract with someone that keeps u company, just friendly manners non importtante stuf, if 1week no call, then am very very sorry, u have to let go for a while if u don't find your real love before he realize himself. Pls pls don't call him. i knw is very hard but thats the answer to your nightmares baby!!!!!!! does jambo girls might have confused him


Thanks, i will do my best. Ive tried not sending an sms but i usually feel guilty and give in cos i miss him so much but sadly think its time to let it be, its going to suck for a long time as i tried my hardest not to get this involved or fall for him as have been burned before. I feel like such a fool. If he doesnt want me i just wish he would say so i can move on but he wont. Anyway i will try your suggestion and see what happens. Ta lots.

So sad for the child caught in the middle and used as a toy to snare its father. I am shocked this still happens.

Djswaggz:
SMH = SHAKING MY HEAD

Thanks for the info.

Sariba:
The key to keep up a successful long distance relationship is COMMUNICATION! For me only 1 SMS per week is not enough! Defintly not since you want to be a part of his life, you want to know how he is doing, how he is feeling etc. Communication costs money, thats true, although, there are many providers for cheap phone calls anywhere abroad!!! If thats still too expensive, try out Skype!!! So this cant be his excuse!!! What I would do, is either to stop contacting him; try to focus on other things (I'm not talking about getting to know other men!!!). Depending on how close you guys were before he travelled (I guess pretty close since he met your family) fly to the US!!! Better: Just tell him, when he calls you the next time, that you'll come to the US to visit him!!! Let see his reaction!?!? Dont tell him via SMS - better on the phone!!!

Dont wait and wait and wait if you are not happy with the situation!!! I mean you guys talked about everything, and it seems he is the one who is not keeping words!!! Right? So you need to find out for yourself what you want, dont make it dependant on what he wants!!!!!!!!

I wish you all the best!!!!
Greetings from Europe!

Thanks. I bought a webcam to msn but he never makes it on. I asked how come but he said he has no answers to my questions. Whatever that means. He knows i cant get to the US or i would of already. I have trust issues cos he has been caught out in a lie or two. Of course he is sorry. Havent found out about any cheating but how would i from all the way down here. Anyway i dont think about that or it would make me crazy. Ive kept up my end of the deal. If i dont sms him everyday i get into trouble and accused of not wanting to talk to him but he can do it to me. Anyway i am tired of all the drama and will just go about my business here and do my thing. Not interested in other guys so thats not a problem. I think after this i will stay single forever, lol!! Thanks again for your help.

petebor02:
wait,do ladies actually take advice in this kind of situation,i think they know the way out." An Asistant boyfriend'' Kalou is there when Drogba in injured. so whatever we say here won't change her mind ok.

I came looking for opinions cos i am confused and thought it would be helpful to get outsiders thoughts as i dont know wether to walk away or stick it out. Yes some woman take advice or i wouldnt of asked for it. I dont know what the last bit of your comment means but thats ok. Thanks for your comment.

Hehehehe!! No, i dont give up easy. But thats the fun bit. Only one way to shut me up but thats a secret. 'Tell you' just you, lol!!! and the thousand other strangers here. Not that kinda woman. Some things are private, on a need to know basis and you dont need to know.

Oh yes it is, very far!!!

'As long as they get their fun' So wrong!! Ok, so you can talk to me however you want but im not able to say my opinion without being insulted, hummm interesting. Good to know. Your funny You are cracking me up!!

I absolutely agree, no matter how hard it is to hear a relationship can only be strong on trust and honesty. Once i am lied to trust is gone forever but some people want more chances, why? To lie to me again.

Careful, your ignorance is showing my dear!!! You should find out what Aussies say about the English, not kind at all. Works both ways. You can get cheap sex anywhere if thats what your looking for. Thailand, veitnam etc is where the phedophiles go to mess with children cos they would be jailed for life here. Your getting your facts mized up with fiction. You need to find out these things for yourself. I only speak from experience. If i am using heresay then i will add that.

Nope, dont lay claim to anything of the sort. Have you ever been to Australia?? You claim to know Aussie women, same same.

Can you help him with his english? Would he be open to that. If you love him it will be worth it for both of you.

Amen!! Beautifully said. Great words. Be nice if everyone lived like this in reality.

You dont need to have been somewhere to know its culture. Ive never been to America and have no interest in going there but i have cousins and friends there and you get an idea from what they say and experiences they have.

snthesis:
@OP
it depends- ar u a good girl or a cheap lay? did u stand by him?
a guy basically worries abt 2 tins- money and his soulmate, the timing is usually d issue
yeah d guy is in america- hustling 4 his future and hopefully he has U depending on the status u guys were on.
give him time- most likely once he is settled d tin tin on his mind is a partner, nw dats were d questions i asked earlier comes into play- if u were just a cheap f^ck, sorry o- d guy don waka
but if u r a gem- probably he'll come get u- provided he doesnt find sum1 more precious.

I am not a 'cheap lay' kind of woman. He has been here and met my family which was a huge step for me. I have stood by him but am always waiting for him. I provide for myself and i work. I am supportive of his dreams and his study. I do get a little hot headed when i hear nothing from him cos we discussed all this before he left and no promises have been filled as yet. How long am i supposed to put my life on hold?? I have no problem giving all i have but i do expect a little in return. Not all one way. Am so confused.

@Tink_sh if you read my original post on what i sad on white women you will find out a lot, do you have any of thse symptoms, cant make love till after dark and not till you get high, cant even hit the way black girls hit, cant do this and do that, please elaborate let hear from the horses mouth.

[/quote]None of it applies to me or any aussie girl i know.  Too personal to discuss with someone i dont know.  I know what you are trying to do and i wont discuss my personal sexual appetite on this kind of thing. I do have some dignity.



[quote author=Tosinville link=topic=493456.msg6546689#msg6546689 date=1281439062]@tink_sh, i think u gon ignore dis dude called mobo and if some other thread to comment on, dis dude always want someone to proof a things thru d internet which is not possible. . . . @mobo, don't tryna be a sucka cos dis thread is gettin suck wit'cha.

Thanks, im not going to try to prove anything cos i cant. I am who i am and know who i am. Just responding cos theres nothing on tv and its night time here and have nothing else to do, heheh!! I am a careful woman, very careful in how much i give away.

MOBO444:
@Tink_sh it ok with me, but i still have my reserve about your identity and origin, we were made up to believe Australian women dont like sex, please elaborate on this issue, well we shall see.

Hummm, a bit personal to discuss on an open forum but you are wrong on so many levels. Someone has been lying to you about aussie women. You can doubt me all you want, doesnt change my facts though. What shall i do to prove my identity or origin?? Interested to know. Why would i pretend to be a white aussie? For what gain??

No manipulation here, promise. Just white girl opinion.

hehehehe!!! Oh dont be like that, come on smile with me, its funny!!!

Takes a lot more than that to get me mad. Some people cant handle a women with an opinion. I get it, all cool!

Nah, Im not mad, I'm smiling my head off!! All good here.