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Also, i never chose to be a single parent, its just the way it happened so why would i make my child suffer cos his parents where too stupid to work it out. If you choose to have a child then you choose that the other parent with be in your life. To take that away from your child cos you want to sleep around and not marry is the highest form of selfishness!!

MRbrownJAY:
unfortunately many women are not fit/ready to be caring responsible mothers (reminds me of the thread about a gal who threw her infant into the river). just as not all "spermatozoa donor" are fit to be responsible fathers.
the catch IS: if the parents dont get along after the child is born then they better raise that child on their own instead of staying together and disrespecting one another in crazy manners, just because they want to have a happy "family picture".

better explain to your child EXACTLY what happened between you and his mother (if he is older) rather than trying to pretend to have something that is false (a happy relationship with his mother) which a child will see anyway.

again, dont misunderstand being single with being loose. just because daddy aint married to his lady friend doesnt mean he is a hoe. sit your child down and give him the values that YOU believe are right. marriage is ok, so as single parenting (if your spouse cant live up to their duties/responsibilities).

just because children believe that single parenting aint wrong doesnt mean that they will go around the world wanting to be a single parent BUT simply that if needs be, they know that it can be done.

You have totally missed my point. I know your point you have made it over and over. The poster said, without the mother even visiting her children. That he would prefer that. Thats what i was referring to. If you want children you have to accept the other parent needs to be involved. My brother and i grew up without our mother so i have experience in how devastating it has been for my brother and still is and how much work it took for me to deal with it. I am also a single parent, divorced and even though i would love nothing more than to never speak to my ex again he is the father of my child, so i have to suck it up and deal with it as it is best for my child to have his father in his life no matter what. That is what i was refferring to not anything you mentioned!

He cheated one time, end of story! I was very clear that was a deal breaker for me. 12months down the track and he is still texting me to catch up, Loserville!!

Very wise words!!

Poster, are you just taking your friends word for his wife trouble or have you seen it for yourself. If he is a cheater then he is also a liar, cant have one without the other. She may be an angel and he just wants what he cant have.

As for choosing to be single, thats all fine and good, then you should choose to be childless. The worst thing for a child is to not have a mother in their life so you want your children to suffer cos you want everything your way. Being a parent is about sacrifice. You want your kids to see you with a stange women on your bed?, not a good example for a boy or a girl unless you want them to grow up the same and have meaningless sex with random strangers. Very dangerous behaviour to teach them. You should never get married with those thoughts. Its not for you.

Hehehe!!! Awesome! Give what you recieve. She may think twice next time.

Oh i love that!! There are other ways to break up with something than be that cruel, I love his reaction!!!

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=482084.msg6442422#msg6442422 date=1279965211]I brought out the "Ogbanje" theory, ppl called me bush and local.

Oya I've been waiting for one reasonable scientific theory to prove this anormaly and yet nothing sensible is coming forth.

This baby needs to be brought back to Africa, let our medicine men here consult the gods and tell us what they have to say on this matter.

Tiger can never fit to born kitty cat.[/quote]You cant be serious!!! Not everything can be explained by science. Why cant people just be happy for them without all the accusations??

Doesnt make sense, if the man is already sleeping with someone else apart from his wife then he is already playing around.

Does his wife also get to keep a 'bit' on the side?

I think if both husband and wife satisfy each other, nothing off limits, neither of them will want to go outside the home, no need to. But some will regardless of what they have, its all ego!!!

Its called justice!!!

I am thinking your dreaming, and not in a good way!!!

Myself!!! I am suffering so my son can have a better education than i did but thats my job as a parent. There is no question, thats the way it should be. I dont give him everything cos i dont want to teach him that 'things' make you happy cos they dont. I teach him to be grateful for the small blessing. He does chores to earn money to save for what he wants. There is no question i want him to have a better life than me and not struggle as much but at the same time dont want to raise a spoilt man.

wether the mother had an affair or not is her and her husbands damn business and no one elses.

But honestly how silly can so many people be, have a look at white woman/black men, black women/white mens children. I see plenty of them here in oz and as other posters have said they are a mix, like a caramel colour, brown curly hair and dark eyes, beautiful! Black and white do not make white & blonde!! Honestly get a grip. People have no excuse to be that ignorant!!

GB102:
@poster neva love a gurl d dont worth it

I agree but never love a guy, not worth it!

She went and visited another guy while you where asleep, tired from work?? Thats just plain wrong. No matter if something is going on or not its just wrong and she needs to know that. If she wants you and loves you then she should stop visiting this other guy. She is asking for trouble and temptation. If you dont like it then tell her to stop to save your heart. All the best!

blacksta:
Nonsense - just look at the young girls deceiving themselves" One says i rather die lonely than for man to think he is doing me a favor. " I suspect you have been in many failed relationships that is why you are so bitter. The Fact remains " You need a man" .

No woman 'needs' a man and no man 'needs' a woman, exept for babies. Other than that you can be just fine on your own!!

madlady:
Really , we went/go to dance to great music and meet friends.

We never hooked up, it was an unwritten code,we can take guys numbers but we all go home together.

We would dance too but no one hesitated to leave you to go home by yourself if a guy came along. Just the way it was. So glad im out of it but!!

My bf was supposed to move here to be with me but chose to go to the other side of the world to finish study and asked me to wait for him. That he is doing this for us. Where he was before he could visit me and i would visit him regularly but now he is too far away so no visits. Less sms than before, less chat than before and no calls at all since he moved. When i crack it and decide its not worth it he says i am pressuring him. Huh?? Pressure?? Ive asked him why he is slack with contact and he says he has no answer for me.

How is that a relationship?? My friends all tell me i am crazy to hold on but i just dont know. I love him to bits and we where planning on getting married. But i dont know anymore. I believe if you love someone you would want to contact them often to keep the realtionship going. I desperately need some advice please!!

Run very fast in the opposite direction to her!!

When i was into parties we would go to get drunk and hook up. I dont know what its like where you are but here both guys and girls go for the same thing. I Believe its the same today. I dont do parties anymore cos i dont drink and not interested in hooking up.

Love is pain, torment, confusion, etc!!

Oh poor baby!! What have you dont to make all these ladies reject you?? Hummm, got to be a reason!

That pic of mama gee, she doesnt look anywhere near old enough to be your grandmother, unless you 10!

2 years is long enough! If he doesnt come back for me then he really doesnt want me!

Really You dont know what to do?? Come on!!

I would choose the old lady about to die!

If your friend was loyal enough to save your life he would understand and he wont die.

If the dream partner is really yours your paths would cross again.

Survivor9:
Thanks omega. She can't keep it since she is just a 300 level student and 22yrs old. I'm just disappointed and i think my feelings just flew outta the window now.
BTW, is it safe to abort a 15eeeks old fetus? That's why i don't want to be directly involved in the abortion process. I nor fit use my head carry wetin i nor do.

You should of got more information before you chose to be involved in aborting a 15week old fetus! At that stage the baby has already formed. It has a face with eyes and nose,ears, etc, little hands and fingers, feet and toes. What you did was help to kill a child. Sorry to be so blunt but do your research next time. Its true!! What a tragedy!!

If i was you i would educate myself then run. She obviously has no problem opening her legs without protection and aborting the consequences, says a lot about her character!! Dont care how old she is, thats just an excuse!

I feel for you!! I understand that right now you feel like you will never be good again but you will. You will look back and see why you guys broke up and it will of been for the best. I know it doesnt feel like it right now but its true that time heals.

I agree with Spyker, none! There are plenty of girls out there, go find the right one just for you.