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Michelle55:
As much as I don't password my phone, I don't want my partner snooping around or reading my messages.

Oh thank God, we have this in common

Just because people came out to see the president in the states he visit does not mean they will vote for him. Common sense...

Phot3:
See below

If you are sure of this your FIX correct score you keep advertising, why not play next one with the million you won from the previous?

Aphroditee:
what do you know. Jon snow

LOL... I know NOTHING!

Aphroditee:
Its money, good food health and all round wellness. you can't compare someone living abroad to Nigeria

Poor excuse

Weentertain:

Hanty please don't be jealous na

Why do I have a feeling that someone will try to assassinate this man. Chai, ngwa guys are the most dangerous people in Igbo land. Hope he comes with enough security.

Terlia:
I bdlieve we shouldn't care about what people think we should just live our lifes the way we want

I wouldn't doubt you my dear, like I stated above : if you think it worth the risk then no problem.

Telling your crush or close pal you like them is a bold, empowering move that should be applauded.
Having the guts to open yourself up to potential rejection, while also accepting you're instantly changing the dynamic you share with someone, truly takes a lot of courage. Think about how many opportunities in life are wasted by not taking risks, right?

That said, regardless of your confidence level, there are some instances when telling someone how you feel is a straight-up bad idea. Keep reading to find out what they are.


1. IF THEY HAVE REFERRED TO YOU AS THEIR 'Sister' or 'brother'
Ah, the classic "you're like a sister to me" or "you are like a brother to me" comment. I've had a first hand experience of this—but, typically, when someone refers to you as a family member, that's their friendly way of telling you they don't have romantic feelings for you. Steer clear from aiming for romance with this person, and at least embrace the fact that they consider you such a close companion.



2. IF THEY HAVE EVER MALICIOUSLY MOCKED YOUR APPEARANCE.
Teasing is a part of life, and some of it is indeed playful, but there's a fine line between harmless (or even flirtatious) and downright rude. If your crush calls you
"shortie" all the time, jokingly mocking your petite stature, they're probably just being silly. But if their comments are disrespectful, like in regards to your weight, skin, or the way you dress, that's a clear sign they don't have feelings for you—and an even clearer sign you shouldn't express your feelings for them.



3. IF THEY HAVE DERECTLY TOLD YOU THEY DON'T LIKE YOU (Just Like That)
Whether in a lighthearted manner or perhaps a little more sternly, if someone straight-up tells you they don't like you like that, take that info and roll with it. If you think that telling them how you feel will somehow change their mind, trust us, it will only make things more awkward. Leave this person be and move on to the next!




4. IF THEY HAVE ENCOURAGED YOU TO DATE OTHER PEOPLE.
It's one thing to be supportive of whom you're dating, but if the person you're crushing on enthusiastically encourages you to be on the prowl, that's a clear sign they're not holding out for you to date them. If they liked you like that , you'd sense some hesitation in their thoughts on the people you date. Avoid telling them how you feel and continue keeping them around for dating advice and venting.



5. IF LOSING THEM IN THE END ISN'T WORTH THE RISK.
Whether you don't want a potential breakup to ruin your friendship, or you don't want to scare them off with your possibly unrequited romantic confession, if the thought of losing them forever scares you, then keep your feelings to yourself (and the friends you trust). Why risk ruining a good thing, right? But at the same time, if you feel confident putting yourself out there, then we're not trying to stop YOU.




6. IF THEY HAVE DATED ONE OF YOUR CLOSE FRIENDS.
Even if you don't care about jeopardizing your friendship with a close pal, attempting to date their former S.O. will create endless drama. Imagine if your entire new relationship is plagued by a scorned ex? Yep, that's pretty much what you can expect. Also, it's likely you all have mutual friends, and then people start taking sides and things get super messy. Get the idea? Yeah, hold off on this one.




7. IF YOU'VE DATED ONE OF THEIR CLOSE FRIENDS.
If you've dated your crush's close friend, expressing interest in this crush can shake things up between them and their pal—regardless of the outcome between you and the person you like. Going off of No. 5, this will get messy either way, so steer clear.




8. IF THEY'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP.
It goes without saying, but if you develop feelings for someone who's taken, keep those feelings to yourself, guy! Not only is
"homewrecker" a title you don't want on your dating resume, but the person they're dating (along with their entourage) are going to make your life miserable. So hold off until your crush is single again, and then (if it feels appropriate) make your move.

Mariangeles:
If you need someone to talk to, you can send me an email

The best solution so far

EasternDamsel4:
Hope you don't have zero self esteem sha

Get ur acts together and focus.

If you have not been dressing properly, begin to do that. In fact, how's your personal hygiene like? Hope you brush your mouth thoroughly? Always comb your hair...cream your body, get a sweet perfume or body spray, roll on.. .smell good. I don't mean you should break a bank to look good.

Talk with confidence when in a group and less jokes...if really you want pple to take you seriously. Learn to stay in your lane and always avoid trouble.

Atimes lend a helping hand to your classmates if you can.

Always be cool, calm and collected...smile often. Don't be insultive too...get serious with your academic. Stop skipping class.
Ladies like to flock around guys like these.

Above all pls never you feel bad or look down on yourself....I love the fact you shared your problem here. You will be fine, OK. Warm hug to you

LOL... I've seen guys with that qualities and yet no one gives a jack!

DUDE should get money as fast as possible

This is heart shattering!


God forbid.

faithfull18:
I think you should shut up too. Last time I checked, I had freedom to speak and if you don't agree, you state yours and get moving.

LOL.... Hanty don't mind me, that "shut up" was just a reflex action triggered by your first comment. I couldn't control it!

faithfull18:
Something is certainly wrong with you, since you can't seem to state your view in a sensible manner.

OK sorry about that. Let me rephrase it; PLEASE just shut up.

faithfull18:
I didn't say that.

When you meet someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with, you would definitely know.

Then if both persons are ready (in all sense of the word 'ready'), why waste time.

Just shut up, that's what my aunt neighbor said. Now her father is chasing her out of his house to be with the husband

I thought bokoharam was technically defeated. Ndioshi

funmisticqueen:
Lol,keep telling yourself that. I might be a small girl. But a single strand of my hair8k cap wig has more maturity than your entire existence.

Maybe your female relatives buy their cap wig for 8k cos that is all you can afford to give them. Gigolo.

Don't have time for oloshos.

Am too busy.

GLO is the strongest network where I stay now; you get to enjoy them with a good connection, I get almost 2.3mb/s in 3G only.

funmisticqueen:
At least you cant afford me.

Afford ke? Small girl, with your 8k cap wig. Ladies who look for me are far better than your cheap ass. I know your pain, that you don't enjoy sex doesn't mean it's only a guy thing. Enter hookup sites and do your ashawo work.

Go blame your parents for mutilating your sex organ, cause that's why you have never cum before, Don blame innocent men.

funmisticqueen:
which hair costs 2k. that cant even buy decent attachment or weave ins.

The least i spend on hair is 10k and it isn't even for human hair. 2k is just enough to do simple nails and not even French tip or acrylic.

And you still ugly like that? Chai, men Don suffer

rOsy247:
How about habits for mature men

Compiling that too, you will hear from me about it.

Juliearth:
I agree with your compilation, all except number 5. number 5 is a no no for me, reason being that most Naija guys are not that exposed to take a lady who approaches them seriously. It may or may not work out. The percentage of failure outweighs the percentage of success though.

Well, you might be right as some guys seem to take advantage of the girl involve and having nothing to do with her afterwards, but we all have to start from somewhere, there are good guys out there that are just intruvert. Believe me.

Saffi:
Okay so once you ditch the ex, you’ll still end up with a babe who will love your money in disguise, so what now is the point?


No girl is entitled to suffer with you when you’re broke. This is a manipulative tool that you guys use to brainwash women. If a woman doesn’t possess wifely attributes you desire will you manage her, or go to the next best thing? A financially secure man is a dominant husband trait that most women look for, is it a crime to expect that in a man? We all look for ways we can benefit in a relationship, Biko you people should go and sit down.

This girl again. I keep wondering the type of man that's in your life.














Ops, sorry... I just remembered the type.

AryEmber:
That number 5 is a no no for me and for your number 9, remember we dey for Ninja oh!

So you prefer hoping a guy makes the first move even though you are the admiring him?

Allaboutkatiee:
About that no 2
I actually prefer collecting the number cuz I don't Have time for long talk and would immediately delete it once I leave.
There are some that are still there,which I don't intend ever calling.
Its very stressing when you tell a guy no and he keeps disturbing your life
My thoughts though

I understand you pattern, my sister had to change her main line cause of it. I blamed her for giving out the number in the first place, she learnt her lesson though.

We tend to outgrow the bad habits we developed in our younger years naturally. If those bad habits didn’t die off, society wouldn’t be able to function because we’d be a bunch of unproductive adult-children sucking our thumbs during meetings and biting our nails in the bread aisle. But, for some people, certain pestiferous habits stick around much longer than they should. These habits should never follow a woman into adulthood.

1. DATING “BAD BOYS.” You’re not a rebel without a cause. You’re a grown ass woman with a job, an apartment and plants. You can’t, in all seriousness, have a “BUT DADDY I LOVE HIM!” attitude and then go home and pay your electric bill. Responsibility and riding off into the sunset on a motorcycle with a greasy-haired convicted felon will never mix. The appeal of the “bad boy” should wear off at the same time you outgrow your training bra.

2. GIVING OUT A FAKE NUMBER. If you’re not interested in a guy and you don’t want to give him your number, then don’t. Turning someone down because you’re not interested isn’t mean, but deliberately giving the guy a wrong number is. So is giving him your actual number and then ignoring all of his texts. If you’re not interested, say so, and tell the guy to have a good night. If he doesn’t leave you alone, revert back into your gargoyle form until he gets scared and leaves.

3. TELLING YOUR FRIENDS EVERY DETAIL OF YOUR SEX LIFE. Your friends do not want to picture you bent over backwards doing the Chattanooga piledriver. It may have been fun to swap stories when sex was brand new for all of you, but its novelty has likely worn off by now. The devil’s business is a normal part of your lives and should remain largely private, especially if your partner isn’t comfortable with you describing every act in graphic detail over brunch using whipped cream and crepes to better illustrate your story.

4. EXCESSIVE SOCIAL MEDIA USAGE. Do you really have nothing better to do than spend hours digging through pictures and posts from people you barely remember? If your life is so boring that you spend most of it living vicariously though everyone else online, maybe you should get some hobbies. If a complete stranger can look at your social media profiles and quickly determine your work schedule, when you get your period, the names of every stuffed animal you’ve ever had and the consistency of your last bowel movement, you are giving out WAY too much information online. If you have enough time to do that, people are going to think you have no life.

5. NOT APPROACHING GUYS. It’s 2018. You don’t have to sit around in your tower waiting for some dude to come rescue you and take you to see a fruity opera. If you see someone who interests you, walk over to him and strike up a conversation. There’s nothing wrong with a woman making the first approach. That “women must be chased” BS needs to die in a fire along with lime-flavored candy and duckface.

6. NOT WORKING OUT. You don’t need to hit the gym so hard that you become a female version of The Mountain, but staying active is important for all adults. Spending all of your free time sitting on your butt shoveling sugar into your face is going to land you on an episode of My 600-lb Life. You only get one body, so make an effort to take care of it.
7. FAILING TO TAKE OFF YOUR MAKEUP AT THE END OF THE DAY. There is no excuse for this one. All you need is a makeup wipe or a bottle of face wash. Cleaning everything off takes two minutes tops. Your skin needs to breathe while you sleep, not suffocate under a day’s worth of makeup and other dirt and grime. Leaving makeup on overnight can cause premature aging, breakouts and defiled pillow cases, among other things. Just wipe yourself off. It isn’t difficult to do that in other areas.

8. COMPLAINING ABOUT YOUR BODY. If you wanted to annoy your friends and make your boyfriend/husband uncomfortable with your insecurities, then you succeeded. Otherwise, complaining about your body accomplishes nothing. There’s no point in comparing your body to someone else’s when they look a certain way and you don’t. We’re all different and our bodies will respond to stress and aging in various ways over time. If there’s something about your appearance that bothers you and you have the power to change it, then by all means, change it. Just don’t voice your complaints constantly to people who have already reassured you that no, you don’t look fat in those jeans.

9. NOT SEEING A GYNECOLOGIST REGULARLY. Lady parts, though awesome, need regular maintenance. It’s important to keep yourself informed on what’s happening down there, especially if you have a predisposition to things like cervical cancer or endometriosis. Regular check ups are good for your health and your peace of mind. See a good doctor regularly and make sure all of your lady machinery is in tip-top shape and ready to go.

10. STAYING IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS FOR WAY TOO LONG. Enough with the flimsy, BS excuses. You’re an adult, and you’re miserable with the guy. You don’t have to stay in a bad relationship the same way you don’t have to stand in a puddle of urine in the kiddie pool. Whatever your (disturbing) reasons are, you’re there by choice even though there are plenty of better places to be. All you need is enough willpower to walk away.

All this cars no dey naija na.

People go just dey lie anyhow

highqueen:
Most of them have these awful and irritating smell.

Jeese, even, 98% of them find it very hard to shave their armpits and private part.

Lol, don't ask me how I know, but that's the truth.

98%....? You don sleep with all the naija guys? Nawaoo.