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edwife:
The things we celebrate nowadays...*sighs*

What is there to be proud of? What's wrong with these youths?

what's wrong with having a spouse again??
its most likely that they have wedding plans around the corner, maybe just after POP.
who told you they're not happy together while you're here getting migraine
it when you're in a purposeless relationship that you should be worried

edwife:
The things we celebrate nowadays...*sighs*
What is there to be proud of? What's wrong with these youths?

what's wrong with having a spouse again who told you they're not happy together

Sexytemi:
Lol, in my other thread u talked about sex, again on this thread, y are u so concern about my sex life, please leave me and face your own business, i hate it when a guy poke nose(don't mind his own business)....even the holy book said"he who hath not sin should caste the first stone", are u more purer than me that you're trying to attack me?

I'm not even interested in attacking you.
I'm only airing my view.
you don't like what you're hearing,
it's your life, live it the way you like, go ahead, continue fukking all the guys, take on as much as you can, I'm sure you like to hear this one ....

Sexytemi:
To avoid it is what am saying now, and that is dating while in school, and it will also prepare me for when am ready to settle down...

Sorry to ask, but are u my new stalker, have had guys stalking me here on NL, seems you're d latest o

hope its not by offering your body to guys that you deem preparing .... if so, na you loose ooo

so, that someone drops a piece of his mind on your thread connotes stalking?

Sexytemi:
Yes o, or is it when am working in office, and busy 24/7 that i will start looking for a husband ni?....abeg i don't want to disturb God in like 5yrs time that am looking for a husband when i could have averted that now.

what's the guarantee that it won't still happen? Lol

Olusanya333:
Two steps at a time means stagnancy, and this, exactly, is why the youths will continue to be the leaders of tommorow and never that of today. You were sent to school to acquire knowledge that will help your nation move forward but here you are posting words that adds no meaning to life, "my boyfriend said this and that. And what is your opinion on this?"

bros I am tayad!!!

Sexytemi:
Have been dating this guy for the past five year, we'av never fight or break up within those five years, I believed in his love even after moving to abuja and he was in lag, I could bet on is love with my life, because of him I told other guys off, recently we were to go to his sis wedding which I had prepared for, then a week to the wedding he stopped picking his calls that were from me, till the wedding day, i called his sis and asked her if he was @ the wedding and she said yes, I cried cos of the pains, when I told my friends, they were like I should forget him cos he's cheating on me, I refused to accept that logic and still believe he was not cheating on me, then Thursday this week, he told me on whatsapp how he has been having sex with a lady, and when I got angry, he started blaming and even stopped to reply my massages and am like who's suppose to be angry here, him or I?, that is why am here to ask if I should just let him go?.

why shouldn't you leave him when you're not married to him.
but I hope you got your pride intact, I mean hope he didn't fukk u because if he did, he didn't loose by leaving you, sorry

iamauxin:
This guy is a legend.... majority of you don't know that if we borrow this money today, we certainly will repay same tomorrow....thereby making the future more difficult for us. What happened to inward generalising of fund here in Nigeria?

Why can't our president and his Economic advisers( dunno if he has any) devise ways of making money that's distinct from loan

Someone will come and say it's needed to finance our "budget".... that's balderdash!
Now the question is why would someone in his right senses borrow to finance his budget... why not cut it down.
It's just like a school boy who was given two thousand naira as pocket money but while drawing up his budget for the semester, he budgets 10k..... because of the 8k he "would" borrow when he gets to the campus.
Tell me if that's intelligence or sheer stupidity.

faulty analogy
mcheew

so while buhari is meeting with Chinese president, fayose decided to go to one Chinese village, comparatively maybe a place like abakaliki in Nigeria, to snap picture. hmmm

TheProphetess:
If women want to make their own money complain
If women want to take the money of her husband complain

She wants to make her own money so she won't have to depend on her husband. What is wrong in that? She did not say it is a certificate.

nobody is complaining that she wants to make her own money, but she said she wants to make a point to the men by not being dependent. who gives a damn

Xiadnat:
That's right! I am still single because I have high expectations. Not for the man though, but for myself.

I once dated (and engaged) to a doctor who earned over 200k with a beach house, and another tri-level home in a wealthy part of city and who could give me the 'world' with just a smile as he put it.

Guess what? I decided I rather struggle and become my own "doctor". Instead of wearing a t-shirt that says "I married a doctor", I decided to wear "I am a doctor". Damnit.

Now, If I saw a future with him, maybe that would be a different case. But, I did not. But, anyway, I am a girl of different breed--more like the masculine side of me. I did not want to marry until i had something to offer or contribute or at least feel financially and (satisfactorily) ready.

However, it is a different story tho in many parts of the world where women have very little to no other options BUT to seek and marry a wealthy fellow, or at least one with sustainable source of income.

absolute rubbish
there's nothing wrong in marrying a man who's already successful and can help you succeed too, after all you're his better half.
out of ignorance, you may have turned down someone who can love you genuinely and here you are bragging foolishly.
what assures you that when you get to become the damn doctor that you want to be, you will then be appreciated more?
have doctors not been turned down before? have other ladies some of whom earn above a meagre 200k not been turned down? for some men, the basis of their love goes beyond what women earn, that she earns high is not a certificate

damseyl:
STEWPID!!


- You give the number of a girl you have dated once and had sex with to a friend, so for him to try his luck too.

-A girl passes by and because you v had something with her before, you started telling your friends about all the shits you did together and spoiling her.

-Forcing a girl whom you aint in a relationship with to have sex with you, just because she came to say hi.

-You just started a new relationship like 2days and your very next move is to sex

-you can't spend your money on something more important, but rather you spend it on carrying olosho every night

..And so on


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so you or whatever girl to whom you refer, still lay claim to any sense of worth after dashing your natural God given pride?

kennysteve77:
OBJECTION!!!

Sex is everywhere now and any man can get it anywhere. That a lady denies him sex is not enough to make a sensible man think of marrying her. It's true that men could go extra miles to have sex with a new lady but men are gifted in one thing - they can separate SEX from LOVE. Ladies need to concentrate more on what makes them indispensable other than sex... Stop misinterpreting a man's urge. Urge for sex isn't urge for marriage

seconded

marvelck:
When a girl keep givin a guy sex all the time, and also render som services to him, when she is not yet his wife, he wil either be reluctant to marry her or keep delaying it. Since he is already enjoying the benefits of a wife frm her...especially the regular sex. Girls shd wise up.

bunkum!

“Sometimes it is our names they use in bringing out that product, but it never got to us.
“When we met the minister for the first time, around October last year, we discovered that the NNPC Retail staff deceived him to embark on building new 800 filling stations, but it does not make sense to build 800 stations when the old ones on ground have not been serviced.


is the minister so daft that he can't see all the issues and know the saboteurs?

Mologi:
Nothing wrong with her...just flowers growing on her...


Mo nwa iyawo ooo

k

Anuoluwapo23:
There is this friend of mine that come to my house we were good friends tho but I had to distances myself because of her behavior like taxing guys, collecting money from guys before they sleep with her, we fought on her birthday when I caught her with a guy in the toilet of the hotel she celebrated her birthday even she doesn't look somebody that has plan for herself because all she think of every time is buying clothes,phones like he newly released boom j8 and partying.

But to my surprise i saw her and my brother yesterday night my way back from work in front of our house, when my brother came inside i asked him what he was doing with her, he said he wants to date her...

OMG!! I don't know what to tell my brother he shouldn't start thinking that we are the same because you know birds of the same feathers flocks together..


Please what should I do?

pls answer the following questions;
1. are you a virgin yourself? if you're not then you're in no position to condemn her because she's better and smarter than you in that she gets rewarded for her services while yours is for free, except of course the guy fuking you has asked to marry you.
2. has your brother brought her home as his future wife? if he hasn't, then allow him chop he's unlikely to bring her home.
3. how's she your enemy? you may want to unfriend her so that people will not think you also collect money for sex but you may not be any better, so its not enough reason to call her your enemy.
if you're pure, you won't bother and go so far just because of what people will say.

Anyway, note that guys are just using her to satisfy their hormonal drives, she's a public toilet.
Lastly, you may be judging her wrongly, she might not even be that bad girl you think she is. let God declare her condemned first, then you can follow suit.

Ezegozie:
Most annoying thing about this is that
Most of them claiming HOLY THAN THOU are not virgins
so if you are not a virgin, what are you preserving?
An already opened parcel?
Some Boy's eyes need to be open.
But i am sure one day, it willl be opened

this is really amusing

rahymat:
Sex is not compulsory in a relationship because there is no assurance dat u will get married to her.do u knw y most ladies are not virgins wen they get married its because guys theyve dated fooled dem into believing dat sex is compulsory in a relationship.so ladies pls stop listening to guyz dat says sex is compulsory they just want u to meet their selfish needs because they always have d urge to have sex unlike us.so pls lets zip up until marriage.

kudos to this damsel
this is who I call a virtuous woman
I disagree with the fact that guys fool girls into believing dat sex is compulsory in a relationship.
are they that dumb
its either the girls were not well brought up or they stupidly dashed out their priced possession to someone who only wants to have fun with no future. it could as well be a decision to enjoy the pleasure and fun

jpphilips:
South East SME's hardly borrow to do business, they start small and grow big, its a mentality thing down there, they fear bankers pass police when it comes to loan.

ignoramus

firstEVA:
Men hardly forgive a cheating spouse, if for any reason she remains in his house as wife, she will not enjoy the marriage.

why not?
I forgive my wife in advance for any and every sin.
she just needs to be counselled and prayed for.
the thing is that there's no more genuine love in many marriages nowadays, people just cohabit, that's why they have many stringent rules against each other.
very reason why its good for a man to marry who he can love with the love of Christ.

Tekevwe:
I got married to my husband a some months ago. Before we got married we dated for a while and my husband was the smiling type, though I noticed he bones a lot with his siblings.

Our courtship was great. He used to give me practically everything I wanted (affection and care) even before I asked. He showered me with so much love that I thought I was dreaming. I saw some other qualities in him and felt he would make a great husband.

The first week of our marriage, my husband changed, started boning round the house and withdrew into himself. His office rent was due that month so I felt that was cause and let him be. Several months down the line and things re d same or even worse. He gets home boning, eats and goes straight to bed. If I try gisting with him he answers in monosylables and you can see the disinterest on his face.

The only time he smiles at home is when he wants to be intimate. That's the only time he's soft with me now and the only time I feel connected to him. I asked him if I offended him in any way and he says no, that the pressure of providing for a new family is getting to him.

I didn't play hard to get cos I don't believe in such so I don't know why the change.

There are some other qualities I discovered in him that I never saw while we were dating. I jokingly told him he has changed and that day he smiled and said he had to give me all I wanted cos he didn't want to lose me since I'm a pretty girl. Now that we re married its like he can't be bothered with trying anymore.

Also deep down I don't tink he loves me and feel he just married me cos he isn't so young anymore (almost 40) and he's parents were mounting pressure on him. He's snappy with me now which never used to happen.

He also has a wall built around him that I can't seem to penetrate. I feel so depressed each time I'm home, being married to a man I feel no connection to.

I don't know if this is what marriage entails. If it is, then please, married folks should hint me so I can adjust my mindset to this new change.

Also, what can I do to break through and get through to him?

he probably met not what he expected, borehole maybe. indeed you may even have lied to him that you're a virgn, if this is the case, he must have said some things to express his disappointment.
sorry, there's little or no help ma'am in this regard for now.
if however he's not d kind of man who wanted a virgn, then he may be wondering about other things about your sexuality, maybe your hygiene, eg smelling poosi. it could well be other issues. you alone have the signs that point to the issue

MonPro:
Girl if you were born and resident in nigeria. Buhari and his fellow he-goats from the Allah region would probably have stolen you from school and taken your virginity at 10.
You will also be forced to wear a dirty smelling burka/hijab while in captivity in a pedophilic Emir's palace.

Did i also mention that while your womb breeds almajiris for them, their own daughters will be in the best schools in UK and US with school fees paid for 4 years in advance but they'll tell your parents to accept their fate.

Anyday you wake up just thank God you are not resident in a zoo ruled like an Arab jungle by the Pedophilic dulllard that you just interviewed. You are lucky but many are not!

nna see flows

fleeky:
I met a certain guy and we've been dating for some months now, on wednesday, he called me and i sounded moody and asked for him to help me with some cash cos i haven't been paid salary at work, he said he just sent some money to his brother that's ill in enugu and that he would have shared it if i told him earlier, then i said no problems.He said there's problem cos how will i cope, i said i don't know oo..the next day he told me he's traveling for his cousin's wedding, i said okay.
He didn't ask me about how i'm faring again and he didn't send me money but he has travelled to enugu now,on his way already..that means he had money..Is that not greed? i feel bitter and fed up with the relationship,it's not fair,i don't ask him for a favour, this is the 1st time i"m asking him for money,he gave me once for my hair which i didnt ask for and usually gives me tfare whenever i visit. Or was it because i said no problem,or wat??Even though, a caring guy is supposed to send me something or ask how far..he hasn't asked me how i'm coping and if i still need the money..he hasn't asked me anything concerning that.i don't think he's serious,he doesn't care about me..i feel he's self-centered.i want to confront him about it..What do you guys think and how should i go about it??
Please Advice me!

He gives you tfate when you visit, and you're working ...
why do you have a Dependant mentality.
mind you a man will do anything for a woman he loves, but the thing is, many people no more believe in eternal love. that's why you will see men and women sleeping around, screaming fk love!

chigoizie7:
What is with all these stereotypes of 1st having a husband b4 having a child?

For crying out loud, 38 isn't bad, but anyman that will marry u @ that age is probably not interested in having kids with u, maybe the person already has 1 or 2.


In my own opinion, considering the naija ways of life with regards to having kids to take care of u when u are old.

Sister, get a guy to get u pregnant,(contract) don't deny him the rights of meeting or bonding with the child. Get a child 1st, @least u are well to do, u can take care of the child, den, u can now wait for husband, or u can date men, have sex with them, enjoy your life. Be there for ur kid, and life goes on.


I just don't want u to loose @ both ends while waiting for one 1st.


U can be really really lonely when u are getting older, as those your nieces and nephews will either be big boys or girls or all taking care of their own parents.

excellent advice
I wonder what a 38 year old woman who had been enjoying sex is waiting for, a husband?
if you like don't go and born pikin now before menopause take over.
don't give me that crap about waiting on the lord because you didn't wait on him to start fucking around.
later they will be comparing themselves to men.

mcheeeew

KissCODE:
if u think Jude is reaping where he didnt sow, why then is Paul not complaining?
I remember when dbanji and don jazzy were together, dbanji made us think he is the heat in mo hit. But since he moved away, i am yet to see him making hit songs. But don jazy has been hiting back to back.
The problem of psquare is caused by fans who always acuse peter of being only a dancer. Fans says peter doesnt know how t write songs that he only takes choruses and dances.
The problem of psquare is not jude, it is ego problem. Peter wants more of his songs to be used and nothing more.

I wish Peter well but he should remember that “divided we fall.“

Right now he is the odd man out in Okoye‘s family. The rest are all together but he has strayed away. He has set himself on a clif. The target for him now would be higher and the chances he has is far slimmer.
He has to work extra harder than Paul & Jude.
I wish him success...

u try but blood is thicker than water confirmd
peter should not be so angry that Jude is sharing 5050 with them tho

Adaure4ever:
is the man a virgin himself? Why these double standard?

do men mensurate??
you're on your own
l don't pity ladies like this one

okk

systematic destruction of the institution’s farms and project the activities of land grabbers and illegal settlers.
so govt is not the strongest entity

falconey:
First bank , Gtb is worse big capacity but less employees.


I went to gtbank today to open a student account the staff that attended to me surprisedly told me i should go make a business ID card in any of the road side CAFE. Saying it is preferable to my federal university ID card.

that ID card cost 1500 naira, and it couldnt open a student's savings account??

Efcc should leave polithiefcians for now and start probing banks.

LMAO

Fumiex:
everyone keeps talking about virgin ladies n it seems to piss me off.....na only girl God sign to b virgin.... what abt d guys??

I just hope this 18 year old child is not looking for a justification to start shagging.
you're already comparing yourself to the male folk at your age.
na you go loose ooo