Thank you guys, i really appreciate your candid advice

My Sister Am begging you right now to consider leaving that marriage . Please even if you are not divorcing leave him for now cos you are already treating a STD, you must watch out for your survival first, that is the first rule of everything!

I AM ON MY KNEELS AND BEGGING YOU, PLEASE LEAVE HIM FOR A WHILE, YOUR LIFE IS MORE IMPORTANT! AND GIVING HIM SPACE WILL HELP HIM CONCLUDE ON WHAT HE WANTS OUT OF LIFE!

God may touch him and he will return back to his senses some day But please leave.

lolarde:

i think she is just holding on to you in case she cant get someone else. basically you are not her first priority. if she does not want to have a relationship with you, she will tell you point blank and have you just as a friend, but she seems so unsure of herself that she just wants to put you on the reserve bench. this i dont think she needs cos at 32yrs she aint getting any younger. thats the way i see it sha.

Busy_body:

I wholeheartedly agree with the poster above me. YOU ARE NOT HER FIRST CHOICE, HECK YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE ANY POSITION ON HER WAITING LIST.

Thanks sisters, i really appreciate. I have been feeling very bad because i felt like i just wasted some pure emotion and time, but its all good!

Awosika Israel:

Tomiday speakin your mind is prose especially wen it comes to relationship. I dont know if u wil take my advise but b4 i give it let me ask dis questions. Apart from knowin ursefs at sku, au many days does it takes b4 she agree to dis relationship or did she even agree that u guys date

No she hasnt agree to anything concrete and i was Not really worried because of the whole thing was just over a month. she once told me she likes to take her time and that we should be friends. But i keep getting suggestive text messages and she keeps leading me on with her care and stuffs!

I fell in love with a girl who has been my facebook pal for a long time in January, 2010. We attended the same secondary school in Benin and she was like 2 years ahead of me and also 2 years older than I am but for me age is just a number. Initially we use to exchange messages like 15 times a day but later it all died down. She is 32 so I thought she should be more concerned about settling down and not playing games. My monthly pay is like 10 times her’s so it’s not as if I can’t take care of her either. Within 45 days of meeting we have known so much about each other, we have visited her mum once etc.

I have done all I could to show her that I truly love her and didn’t hide my intention to get married if she agrees but things have not been working fine. Besides there is this guy she broke up with last year after 4 years of dating who had 2 kids with another woman, the guy still has interest in her, has her pics all over fb and all but she insisted she can’t marry the guy because of the kids however a part of me tells me she might be confused about what to do and that she still has feelings for the guy. The guy visited Nigeria recently from The UK and contrary evidence showed that they were all over each other and she might have not told me the full truth about their feelings.

She hardly speaks her mind on my proposal even though we are constantly in touch,she only talks about my great qualities. So in order to get her to say her mind, I lied to her that I already told my mum about her but she was a little agitated insisting I shouldn’t have done that and she explained that the age thing has been an issue for her and that is why she has been partially in the relationship and that it would have been easy for[b] her if we hadn’t attended the same school[/b] and besides that issue she has no problem with me. OK so I asked her if she has fully made up her mind about us so that I can move on but she didn’t give a direct answer rather she asked me “how I would advise my sister under same circumstances”.

So I decided to cut off all forms of communication for a week ,she made like 2 attempts to reach me but I didn’t reciprocate, until she finally accused me that I was trying to make us enemies which I debunked and I later called her that day. We haven’t spoken for some days now and she hadn’t called or text either and it wasn’t as if she was the one calling before, I was the one making most of the contacts.

I am doing all I can not to be hurt by cutting off but am wondering if I should keep pursuing her because I truly love the little I have seen about her, she seems like a wife material.

I Am really sorry for my long prose!

I fell in love with a girl who has been my facebook pal for a long time in January, 2010. We attended the same secondary school in Benin and she was like 2 years ahead of me and also 2 years older than I am but for me age is just a number. Initially we use to exchange messages like 15 times a day but later it all died down. She is 32 so I thought she should be more concerned about settling down and not playing games. My monthly pay is like 10 times her’s so it’s not as if I can’t take care of her either.

I have done all I could to show her that I truly love her and didn’t hide my intention to get married if she agrees but things have not been working fine. Besides there is this guy she broke up with last year after 4 years of dating who had 2 kids for another woman, they are quite close but she insisted she can’t marry the guy because of the kids however a part of me tells me she might be confused about what to do and that she still has feelings for the guy. The guy visited Nigeria recently from The UK and contrary evidence showed that they were all over each other and she might have not told me the full truth about their feelings.

She hardly speaks her mind on my proposal even though we are constantly in touch. So in order to get her to say her mind, I lied to her that I already told my mum about her but she was a little agitated insisting I shouldn’t have done that and she explained that the age thing has been an issue for her and that is why she has been partially in the relationship and that it would have been easy for her if we hadn’t attended the same school. OK so I asked her if she has fully made up her mind about us so that I can move on but she didn’t give a direct answer rather she asked me “how I would advise my sister under same circumstances”.

So I decided to cut off all forms of communication for a week ,she made 4 attempts to reach me but I didn’t reciprocate, until she finally accused me that I was trying to make us enemies which I debunked and I later called her that day. We haven’t spoken for some days now and she hadn’t called or text either and it wasn’t as if she was the one doing all that before, I was the one making all the contacts.

I am doing all I can not to be hurt by cutting off but am wondering if I should keep pursuing her because I truly love the little I have seen about her, she seems like a wife material.

I Am really sorry for my long prose!

@Poster

Am sorry to bug you but your story doesn't sound real, why the OH NO'S as if you are writing a poem or somfin.

Its also too dramatic, with the NEPA bringing light as you are about turning your head, Switching on the light through the window bla bla bla.

God help you!

I want to appreciate all of you for the contributions given, i have benefited immensely from the discussion .

@ Poster

May God give you the fortitude to bear the loss

Let this relationship Rest In Peace. RIP

Your consolation should be that this girl never worth it in the first place, if she can start this so early, what will she do God forbid if things are not working fine for you after marriage!

@ Poster

Even though you have spent 3 years with your GF that doesnt mean you have known everything about her

God uses courtship to expose people for who they really are, From the way you sound, this girl is killing you softly and it can make one mad and start misbehaving via cheating,double dating etc.

I will advise you to submit this relationship to God, ask for his intervention and guidance then you can now seat her down and have a final candid talk in an outdoor location, choose a special place so that she will know that you mean business this time around

If things dont change, dear i will advise you to reconsider your commitment to her because you will soon  discover worst things that will tear your heart apart. If it comes to parting ways know that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage,so you will have to move on!

mama-gee:

Since when did I become a regular participant in the sexuality section?
I don't usually post there just once in a while.

Mama-gee restrict yourself to the romance section, its not by force to talk about politics you know nada about or else you start yarning rubbish!

Thank You.

How Did you guys leave out ASHIONYE with her fake Accent? She Is The fakest of them all!  .

OH i guess she doesn't qualify to be called a celebrity to start with!

Then i guess, Kenny st Brown, Essence and the entire Primetime crew apart from D1 should be on the List Of Interest

I just got back from Accra Ghana and thanks to Quincy services my stay in Ghana was a lifetime experience, pick up at the airport was really smooth.

Ghana is a real nice place to be, due to constancy in power generation, businesses are actually thriving, and i discovered that cost of communications in Ghana is about 60% lesser than what is obtainable in Nigeria. Everywhere i go,i see a sincere Ghanaian government trying to solve the problem of her people by taking little steps here and there. Nigeria should wake up ooo!

The highlight of my stay was when Quincy took me down to the cape coast to see the castle where slaves were being transported to the  Caribbeans,that brought back a nostalgic feeling because i saw what our fore fathers went through.


Overall,i think Ghana is a good place to have a nice vacation but you may not enjoy it if you dont employ the services of tour guides like Quincy of the Titi Travels, trust me its a great value for money.

some pictures should follow!

this is too bad, this is not an indecency thread?, whats nairaland turning to?

Kissing my dear, GENEVIEVE,morning and night!,

I appreciate all your suggestions so far,may God increase his wisdom on your life,am definitely getting a better way of handling the decision from your suggestions,a kingdom and business empire is being built from your wise counsels!

For those who think "Maga" is the only way to save up N8.5 million in Nigeria ,i 'll advice you to wake up, life is beyond all that. Whatever you didn't work for will never last and not all Nigerians are thieves.

Best regards friends!

Thank you guys,i really appreciate your candid advice

Hi friends, thought of seeking your genuine advice on this important decision

I am an entrepreneur and my current line of business is having some challenges, so i have been working on setting up a printing press business in mushin with a sum of N8.5 million that i have been able to save up till date. However,its always been my desire to own a house,i currently have my eyes on a N7million plot of land in ojodu, Lagos though the funds i have now cannot even finish a house if i start one , my rent expires in 14 months time in the current house in which i am staying in akoka.

I am single to be married soon, i dont have any commitment yet apart from supporting my father and mum in abuja.

what do you advice i do?

Hi friends, thought of seeking your genuine advice on this important decision

I am an entrepreneur and my current line of business is having some challenges, so i have been working on setting up a printing press business in mushin with a sum of N8.5 million that i have been able to save up till date. However,its always been my desire to own a house,i currently have my eyes on a N7million plot of land in ojodu, Lagos though the funds i have now cannot even finish a house if i start one , my rent expires in 14 months time in the current house in which i am staying in akoka.

I am single to be married soon, i dont have any commitment yet apart from supporting my father and mum in abuja.

what do you advice i do?

Hi friends, thought of seeking your genuine advice on this important decision

I am an entrepreneur and my current line of business is having some challenges, so i have been working on setting up a printing press business in mushin with a sum of N8.5 million that i have been able to save up till date. However,its always been my desire to own a house,i currently have my eyes on a N7million plot of land in ojodu, Lagos though the funds i have now cannot even finish a house if i start one , my rent expires in 14 months time in the current house in which i am staying in akoka.

I am single to be married soon, i dont have any commitment yet apart from supporting my father and mum in abuja.

what do you advice i do?