Henribest8:
What about Nigeria patronizing our University, struggling to pay their schools on their own with no body to help them. This is rubbish no body sent them to school in Ukraine, they went there on their own let them bear the responsibility by their self.

you don't have to sound insensitive, if Nigeria had a good educational system no one would have had any reason to travel out for studies.

Kobojunkie:
So your suggestion is that rather than finding an outlet for all that energy which has already built up over time, this according to her story mind you, she should continue to walk around a ticking time bomb ready to explode - hormones rule over her body and mental - and probably ruin her marriage relationship anyways?

Sex is God's gift to mankind and this woman is sexually frustrated in her marriage? Did God tell you that her marriage is then a mistake or something?

Read through the rest of the post you responded to to see what else I suggested.

how did I not see this earlier, she and her husband should seek medical and psychological help , focusing and channelling her energy elsewhere will not solve the problem and sooner than later the marriage may crash

Kobojunkie:
What I would recommend is you work on ways to channel that extra energy into something else. If you no get passion or work, find yourself one. If you already have a job, find other hobbies to help reroute your mind back to that of benefit and away from that which is not of benefit to your marriage and life

As for the dynamics of your relationship, if seeing a psychiatrist for professional counseling will help, please do not hesitate at all. Also, you can engage your husband in more husband and wife -ish activities, maybe with other couples, to help you begin to see him more as a partner than as a brother.

As to the love-making, maybe you can both enroll is sex therapy together as well.

I read your story and I immediately thought of another story from a couple of weeks back..https://www.nairaland.com/6744817/quarrel-because-sex#105660528

you have succeeded in saying nothing, all this channel your energy into something else will make her frustrated and probably leave the marriage.. sex is God's gift to mankind , focusing on other things wouldn't stop her hormones from being released

Iyaebe:
That's an insult to the husband

Does it look he cares.... How would you make love to your wife for just ten seconds and not look for a solution

Mnb209090:
So I lost my Job last two weeks. Even though I was not guilty of the offence which I was accused of. Anyways, I pray to God and he heard my prayer. I got two jobs. One to work as a pharmacist on the island and the other to work as a medical sales representative for a new company. However with no experience prior, I would like to know which of them is the best. Also which of them is lucrative and have a better work life balance.

You and I know that the position of a medical sales representative is better compared to a community pharmacy but since it's a new company I don't know what to say oh

BruncleZuma:
You don't have a husband (not diminishing the man's efforts), no real man assaults a woman over such issues.

may you live long and prosper

Nwodosis:
You have to go back to your people and convert more souls! Tell them that humans have souls and cows have no souls. They should value humans over cows.

he will be killed

References1:


https://www.thecable.ng/mathias-nnadi-neuro-surgeon-dies-of-covid-19/amp

Asthma was the cause of Dr Nnadi's death not Covid Ogar

Nanaborga:
Which kind unnecessary hyping be this na , uyo is fine but far from what being dubbed the Nigerian Dubai when there is still Lagos , Abuja and cross river , how many beach or tourist sites can one visit in akwa ibom state , even the ibeno beach na just fishing site and not a fun place tourist can go relax , uyo and some few other local government there is neat , has good roads and all that , but no amazing architectural design to even blow ones mind there , stop this unnecessary hyping please , when all udom do is loot quietly, to me
Akwa ibom is the same way akpabio left it , no much new developments that is worthy of all this long epistle , instead hail akpabio and I will understand

There is nothing happening in calabar Oga

Oesophagus99:




Bae, share with us nah... wetin ur papa do??

nothing that should bother you darling

Freestainworld:
My father will never do that either but do you know that in every association theirs a Judas iscariot? nothing can be hidden for ever

Omo speak for yourself oh... Na so my papa shock me

Sebastine1994:
I brought this issue to nairaland to straighten out some things, as the first son of the family, I am under immense pressure to defend the tradition of igbo.

my sister wants her Traditional Wedding to happen in the City, I have never seen a city traditional marriage, it sound abnormal to the ear, it seems I am the only stumbling block to this marriage. white wedding can happen in the city but not traditional abi?

truth is that most of our families reside in the city, they grew up in the city, and the cost of logistics is their excuse. please is it right that I should allow this to happen?

Three of my friends had theirs in the city, it's her marriage, just let her be for the sake of peace

Audio arrest

All these ones making noise about drugs without proper medical examination... The time he used in taking this picture he would have helped that girl to the hospital, what if she is epileptic and had a seizure.... What if she actually did drugs or what if someone else drugged her, isn't saving another person's life dignifying, will she learn her lesson in the grave. .. just stay here and be typing like wicked politicians. No empathy at all

Is this love or madness please

OriOko88:

Have u even tasted the yoruba ewedu soup being served at parties before Don't say wht u don't know

your soup is only nice when served at parties... Is that what you are trying to say... Even if my life depended on Ewedu I'll pass, whatever happened to my delicious Calabar meals

tammie24:
but your people line up, wash their own plate to buy it

I don't think any ibo soup looks as presentable or even as tasty as any Yoruba soup

.... Lmao who is ibo

It will even make much more sense than what the Yorubas prepare... Looks more presentable and I am sure the taste is more palatable

The guy looks like a lizard...

Boredasf:
So you want him to sacrifice his freedom by marrying you abi
Abeg shift!!!

That young man is wise for not wifeing you up.
Marriage benefits Women not men.

I sincerely hope more men adopt this philosophy.
You women don't deserve marriage.
Any man that decides to marry any woman in this 21st century should know that he is doing her a HUGE favor!

Chicken brain only weaklings are scared of marriages

micxwell:

I don't care, even if she was double dating. When they apprehend those guys they should just dice their joysticks into bits like carrots . Who doesn't make mistakes and she could have bn my sister, cousin or even daughter.... Rubbish

my thoughts exactly

ImembaCrystal:
Nigeria....
In every nonsense there must be a sense...
What if the young man is right ... what if he knows the girl and how she dates numerous men..
To dey women: if your husband is dating you and your sister what will you do.... ....
When women kill there husband because of infidelity una go defend the woman but when men beat there wife because of that same infidelity una go tag am ......

For the black American that was murdered by a white cop... tell me what the difference between recism and tribalism that we all see as a norm in this out country NIGERIA.

As Victor AD talk "If you no know how song take start make you no go hurry to dance, before you go dance GALALA inside ASONTO...

you must be high on ukebe... My husband cheats on me with my sister and that warrants his death

You are just insensitive and unreasonable..

How many times have you offended God ,has he killed or brutally murdered you..

As if you don't double date..

You find your gf cheating and instead of leaving her you decide to rape and break her head...

Don't let me call you unam ikot oh

Infact you are a rapist

He knows something..
He should be Arrested

That guy could be one of the rapist..
He knows something about her death.
He should be arrested

Akinsoladwayne:
Hi everyone! So I was at my brother's house yesterday and could you believe his wife cooked rice for me and served me with a meat I mean just a meat.

This is the person that knows how choosy I could be when it comes to eating.

I'd recall vividly before my brother married her, then when I visit my brother at his place I do the cooking and the least meat/fish I'd always dish my food with could be two or three.
But I have been wondering how on earth would she serve me her in-law with just a meat.
This is an insult of the highest order, like I'm gonna need to call my brother's attention to it.

Well at the end of the day I had no choice than to eat the food like that with the one meat she served me. The food self no sweet.

If you like bant me, it's none of my fuvking business.

Go and get your own house and pot

Unam ikot

GOFRONT:
Where is Adesua??.....Come and see Regina of just yesterday. She is now heavily pregnant....

But I hope this Regina give us a boychild.......But not an Atutu Poyoyo like her Husband sha!!!

Get a life
This hatred and insensitive comparison won't take you anywhere..
It's basically not your business, stop mocking her, you have no idea what her challenge or decision is ..
You didn't pay Adesua's bride price, grow up boy

charlesELIKIBA:
HELLP NAIRALANDERS

I will be brief with my writeup as much as possible so I can explain my connection with this lady.

My single mom gave me away at a tender age of 5 to her elder brother (financial difficulties i assume), this ''aunty'' happens to be the wife of this my mother's elder brother.

Aready they had 4 children, all boys.

The home was a tough upbringing with strict rules about socialising, we weren't allowed to bring friends home or go to friends places. It was pretty strict and my uncles wife i would say was the mastermind of it all, she was strict and mean maybe because it was a house of 5 boys.

Growing up in my uncles home, I wouldn't say I was treated diffrently because I always got matching outfits with my uncle's children during christmas, gifts during christmas, same portions of food BUT IN ALL I was always scared of doing somethings my cousins would do. I didn't feel free growing up, i felt diffrent from them. In some cases they attended the best schools than I (but I never attended a govt. school or a bad private school).

It's like if their school fees was 1m naira per term, mine would be 150,000 per term.

I lived with them until I was about 16 or 17 and one morning I woke up and they said i was going back to my mother at 15 or 16 like any kid, you would start to develop conscience (sense), maybe breaking some rules and being stubborn just like their own kids. This I assume was why they wanted to send me back to my mother OTHERWISE I CAN THINK OF NOTHING ELSE I DID WRONG OR DIFFRENT.

In all of these years living with them, I saw my mother as a strange person. I had no motherly connection with her. My anty to me, was my real mother. Whenever we went visiting my mother in very rare occasions, it was always awkward.

Well long story short, I found myself back in my mother's arms, to a new environment i knew nothing about and starting to learn to live with a woman called my mother. I was naive, had no choice but to accept realities on ground. Do you know that feeling of living in a pouch house and wake up next morning in a 1 room surrounded by thick bushes. Yes that was the change.

I was enrolled into a school, my uncle was repeatedly forced to send/ pay my schoolfees until i was in ss3 and i called him to inform him about waec enrolment. He told me on the phone ''all the exams i have been writing, how many have i passed'' and that was it. He never sent a dime anymore meanwhile at this point his children, my cousins were already miles ahead of me suddenly in education. When i left the home, the eldest son went to canada to school, the second who is my agemate was already in a private uni in Nigeria and the 3rd who i am senior to with a year is preparing to go to ukraine for school and years later the last born who i spoonfed and chewed meat for attended uni in Ghana.

Well long story short, since my uncle had failed me. My mother said it was time i go to my father. My father was old retired pensioner. My mother took me to him, as expected awkward encounter. I have never known this man, no memory of him. Well he said he would find my enrolment money and he did, he later passed on a year or two later.

I enrolled waec and pased in one sitting, thanks to miracle centres.

PS: i must say i was never an intelligent student. i wasn't even average but i wasn't the poorest and neither of my uncles children were better. We were all poor educationally.

Long story short another uncle sprang up and paid for my university diploma which i later acquiried.


YEARS LATER my uncle and aunty decided to move back to our home town, please note the home my mother stayed in was this my uncles home. It was the boy quarters, the main house was not even in sight as at the time i was returned to my mother. We did series of bush clearing and snakes killing lol. well my uncle returned home town after retirement and setup the main structure ( a 5 bed room duplex) and thats were they lived while i and my mother lived in the BQ.

I WAS very angry with myself that i happened to still live with them AGAIN, i needed to get out of their sight, my condition was bad. i was a mere teacher to some rickety school. In all of this my uncle's wife always ensured she knew what i was upto and she derived satisfaction when she knew i wasn't doing better than her kids who were all abroad. i turned to their errand boy again after years of neglect. i was very angry with myself and needed to save to get out of the house.

Well i did manage to save up and leave the house and i promised myself never to return to that house. i felt neglected, i felt they sent me away because the goodthings were coming and they couldn't bear to see me share in them because to me they were my parents.


YEARS LATER, my aunty was sick with cancer
please note before i left the home, my uncle and aunty always sent me to travel journeys to get them medicines from a monastry. i attended such trips severally and ran other seperate errands but i never dared to drive their car talkless ask for the key. i always washed their car in the mornings, i would never also dare to see myself in the living room of the duplex with the remote in hand. when they moved back to the hometown, that fear in my childhood started again but this time i was mature enough to know i would never m amount to anything in life if i continued this again hence the reason i needed to move out.

So my aunty sickness grew worse, the husband flew her to india and back but the sickness grew worse. in all of this cancer times i never went back to the house to see her. I only heard of her conditions from my siblings (my half siblings, my mother was married to 3 men in diffrent years and she had only me for my father, another for another man and 3 for another man, i was the lastborn of all).

Then my aunty died. The day she died, i saw her in my dreams and she was crying saying ''she forgave me''. A day or two later i went to my sisters store and she told me of my aunty death, i went to my rented apartment and cried profusely. i later summouned courage and maybe sympathy and went to my uncles house and i cried before my uncle and told him to forgive me too for all abandoning them all this while.

NOW ABOUT MY AUNTY SAYING SHE FORGAVE ME IN THE DREAM: i did not do her any wrong neither did i wish death on her. All her life her greatest fear was maybe i would become greater than her children. She loved these comparisms, i was never wicked to her, i never cursed her, i was never rude to her unless i some instances when she sends me errands and i tell her i have other things to do.... Otherwise i never was negative to her instead she is the one nobody likes, by nobody i mean my uncles family. Nobody talks good of her, they say she controls my uncle and also squandered his money but in all of this i never spoke of my experiences living with them and somethings they did wrong that made me feel diffrent, i did not even tell you guys neither have i told my mother ever. i don't see them as anything that would stop my growth in life. i hate to talk about the bad in people.

WELL BACK TO REASON THE TOPIC WAS CREATED, why do i keep repeatedly seeing her in my dreams even after her death and its always on a negative role. its either in the dream she still plays mother, or she is gossip about me in the dream or she is against me in the dream, just think of anything negative in a dream and she will be the mastermind. This is really beginning to worry me. Why is she still attached to me in the dreams?

After she died, her husband, my uncle started his own sickness but has been sick for years now, he is bed ridden. The family has repeatedly asked him if there is anything he and his late wife did in the past to amount such sickness were he is living in pain but refused to die and he would not answer. One time they said, he said ''it was out of ignorance'' and thats all he ever said about anything.

It will also be good to note that of all my 4 cousin brothers and i today, i am the most successful by far.

i just finished my house (a 3bedroom, 2 bedroom, 1 bedrrom bungalow)
january this year i bought my 3rd car.
i travel round the world effortlessly.
YES I DID TURN OUT FAR BETTER THAN MY COUSINS WHO YOU KNOW HAD THE BEST EDUCATION.

I don't want to talk of their conditions, lets concentrate on me.


So this is my much writeup... I had to skip many things so you can bear to read but please be free to ask me questions.

Why do I repeatedly see my aunty in my dreams.... just before this writeup, i had just woken up from another dream she was present in, she was whispering to the ears of a very good friend of mine and then the friends turned to me and was like '' ah cahrles na so you be''?...and i was angry and was like '' how can you believe something someone you just met told you against i your best friends word'' and minutes later dream ended and i woke up.

At this point i am thinking of going spiritual to know why this is happening but this will be a first in my life. There are two popular places i have never being in my life until lately last year... One is a shrine and the other is a police station. Last year was my first time to be in a police station.
I was driving my unregistered car. That was my offence.

you have no business with a shrine...

Unam ebot.. be drawing thieves and kidnappers to urself

Keketu:
Hi because I'm a playa a lot of people are using that opportunity to cheat on me , but many don't really really in the truth of it so I decide to come up with the list of girls who are already hook to this billionaire boy player

Please know they are hook




1. Mimienudles ,

2. Twaci ,

3. Lizzyangel ,

4. TomMary , ( I divorce her soon tho )

5. Aditkd and

6. Chommybaby


please keep in mind thanks.. sign

Shey your head is not okay ... If you are looking for what to trend with avoid me.... The last stunt you pulled wasn't funny

Go and get useful