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canDy4eva:
same thing happens...

You can't be that shallow to think believe the OP? COMMON!!! The guy (or pained girl) is trolling.

What a self-belittling response from Caroline. It just shows she's very bitter and worked up about her husband's philandering. Who told you to marry for money?

It's KARMA and I don't pity Caroline one bit. Her husband dumped his ex-wife (now late) who happens to be my sister's friend's mother. Mr Danjuma neglected his 3 daughters and ex-wife and left them in hardship for this gold-digger.

Fans are now taking her side because she's beautiful and popular. Y'ALL DONT KNOW SHII.

There's a clear difference between a gold-digger and a bae in need. If my bae NEEDS the money (different from wants money) and I have enough, why not? Gold-diggers on the other hand DEMAND money for their daily wants and materialistic maintenance.

If the subject isn't comfortable helping out her bf in his time if need, then she's supporting the notion that men and women are not equal. Why can't a woman equally help out her man when he needs it? Constantly expecting a man to be superior to you technically means you're expecting yourself to be inferior to him. You women are your worst enemy. Good luck being treated as equal with your ill-advised set of thoughts.

Time bro, only time. Express the pain, cry it out, share it out, argue it out, sing it out, boink it out. Don't form tough guy and hold it in because you'll only carry the burden and hate for a long ass time.

Varagous:
if he's wise.. he'll know how to balance his relationship with his mum. MARRY A WISE MAN; MAMA'S BOY OR NOT!

Aren't you a smart babe? Well said.

discoprophet:
You haven't seen nothing..


I take instructions from my granny

Only God can save you.

Estharfabian:
Lol.
You should go Out more often. LoL. Not exactly... I don't get this. what memories?
if you'd please? shed more light.

Lol.
On the contrary, My dad...

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Well, This was Fun! Byebye!

Lmao. We hate a daddy's girl.

Bye.

Florblu:
We don't hate our mother in law.we only detest them when they raised an adult who couldn't act and bear the consequences of his actions without consulting his mother.
The phrase "Mummy Said" is annoying

Would it still be annoying if it was "mummy said I should buy you this Range for our anniversary"? Lol

I get you but I can categorically tell you it is very uncommon. What's common is women jumping into conclusions and stigmatizing men who are close to their mothers as "mommy's boy". Do you get my point?

Estharfabian:
Most Women Love men That display Masculinity, Strength, And Wits. Anything short of that would make him A pusssy.



Yes! truth be told, men who have a good relationship with their mothers tend to be more understanding, generous and respectful toward women, and we ladies know that.


the only problem We got is if he Allows Her decision influence his'. he needs to seek her Approval before carrying Out A decision with me...We Wanna eat junk..He says ''mom says I shouldn't eat junk.'' We want try some new sex moves... ''I don't think mom would agree with this''



That right there's All shades of Fuckeedd up!
Ain't no body got time for A momma's boy!



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LMAO! Your over-exaggeration is peak. I have never met grown-ass men that need their mothers daily approval before taking actions. It's probably paranoia that stems from past relationships in your teen years. When women notice a man is close to his mum, they begin to recollect old memories and judge him based on it.

Maybe requiring advices on huge decisions like who to marry, business choices, personal troubles etc. Can you blame them though? If I were to ask you who you trust more than anyone in this world, I'm sure your mumz would pop up.

Cutehector:
Sometimes, potential husband's need the opinion of close frnds/family members on the character of the girl they wish to marry..

Same here. You need fam and friends that aren't clouded by being in love and can logically assess your bae. Love can be blind and when marriage opens the eyes...the horror begins.

cruzita:
some mothers dey over-do.they won't let their daughter-in law rest ,they are always reminding them that *this is my son's house.




so annoying

It is annoying for even the man. I just don't get why the hate and bashing goes to the guy because the guy clearly CAN NOT change his mother. All you can do is persevere and continue to show love and respect. No even try show small werey.

The thing is, some mothers are close to their children while some aren't. Some care a lot about their children's well-being while some just leave their children twisting in the wind when they're a certain age. From my observations, the closeness of adults to their parent is majorly dependent on the parents' level of attachment to the adult not the other way around. Certain parents are just too overclingy and cautious about their children's life choices. Men NATURALLY want to be detached from their parents and feel a sense of independence and responsibility but some parents especially mothers no go hear.

Now, in the case where a man has this kind of mother (or both parents), some women tend to hatefully humiliate these men and tag them as "mama's boy". Ladies, are these men supposed to kick their clingy mothers away from their lives due to your insecurities and jealousy issues? Trust me, these men don't enjoy the cling but outta love and respect for their fam they live with it.

No offense to ladies who hate a "mama's boy"...but I've noticed it's the dodgy females that hate the most. Maybe because mothers have a good sense of catching them lol. Proper wifey-materials are the exact opposite. They're eager to have a strong bond with the mother of her man rather than avoiding every occasion to meet the fam and belittling him like the dodgy ones do.

LADIES! If I am getting it wrong, please explain because I need to understand the hate.

Btw, let me give you a secret. If you show mad love and respect for your man's mother, he's love for you triples. Without her, he wouldn't exist...SHE'S THE REAL MVP!

TheSonOfMark:
[color=royalblue][b] We PRODUCE it. We're getting on just fine.

Pray tell, how will this argument save the hundreds of miners who die getting trapped underground yearly or the fact that you're still discriminated against by Caucasiods in a country you call "your own" like the Aborigines of Australia?

How will it stop the fact that you'd likely be mugged as you turn a street corner trying to dodge flying bullets from a gang war/car-jacking gone awry?

How will it change the fact that everyone in your hood maintains a loud silence 'cause all the girls you grew up with sold their bodies to strangers in alley ways at some point in exchange for stipends to buy second-hand Chinese-made stilettos?


You don't have 24-hour electricity in every part of South Africa - it's limited to the city centers.

Most parts of South Africa are sprawling slums!

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Heck! THE BIGGEST SLUM IN THE WORLD IS IN South AFRICA :

http://borgenproject.org/5-largest-slums-world/

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By the way, everytime a movie or book about African jungles is made the focus is on South Africa. Go figure!


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Dayum nigga! You cut too deep.

PunkyV:
The gentle one, I guess

Thought y'all ladies generally preferred tough guys cause of the jungle we live in called Nigeria. Cool though.

PunkyV:
Ok, personally I need a good mix of the two. I wouldnt be able to handle a complete softie (would bore me) or a complete roughneck. I need balance because I'm also multi-layered & not one dimensional.

But if you could choose only one? Everyone would want a balance too. So which one?

Women can be so cheap. 7, 8, 9 and 10 is freaking repulsive.

This ass-kissery is getting too much. Is this supposed to be urgent?

Stupedinluv:
hehehe preach! You saying we have only few nicely shaped fat thick women in this country, while the rest are shapeless. I think so too.

Btw, i dont like Toolz shape. She is just a fat woman to me. If she were slim, that would mean a slim sexy figure 8! haha.

Well, most men are attracted to hourglass figure from slim to thick (not fat), and which one they prefer in the range is their choice. But my point is, looking around in this country, slim and medium-sized women have the higher number in attractiveness.

Stupedinluv:
Many people are envious of the slim look. They know what am yarping about but pretence wont let them.

They're just being hateful. When they hear "thick" they immediately think Toolz body type. I see more shapeless thick women in this country than slim/medium-sized women. Fat and big belly hides everything except the woman is lucky enough to be extra busty and/or with a wider hip bone thus giving them a noticeable amount of curves.

DRISKLEF:
OP forgot to add the bony nyansh part

Do you live on earth? "Slim" doesn't mean no boobies and big booty. There are loads of overweight women with no asset.

Wizkid dissed Lagos big girl, Linda Ikeji. While Skales dissed a random fan. LEVELS DEY O!

Vinshu:
I'm already married! Sorry.

Besides you shouldn't judge a person based on their past. People change. A serial killer would be in prison or probably dead if you know he or she was a serial killer. So that's no point.

I don't even see the whole point of your article. If everyone has your mindset this world would be filled with hatred and lots of single people if everyone looks at the back.

Lol you need to chill. I'm not talking about forgiveness or judgment. Are you saying if I choose not to share my life with like a past prostitute, it automatically makes me an unforgiving person? I can forgive her but not marry her, I can marry her but not forgive her. Two different things. I have friends and relatives with a dirty past, even dirty present. I still love them. But marriage is a different ballgame. It's the person I wanna spend my life with and will be THE MOTHER OF MY CHILDREN.

Stop playing devils advocate. You know what I'm saying.

halfricanadian:
my own past makes me stronger nd smarter

Good, hope you stay that way.

Thiwalade:
lol OP, YOU'RE looking for women's trouble with this topic

I'm waiting for them.

andromida:
Your standards are yours and you have a right to them you shouldn't feel bad because you can't accept someone with a heavy baggage from their past and yes a person's past does tell a lot about them very few people can accept a person with a heavy baggage without judging them but it does not mean because a person made mistakes in the past they don't deserve second chances the problem is knowing who you can risk overlooking their past and accepting them baggage and all.

I completely get where you're coming from...but you only live once. It's really up to a person not me but I have seen it time and time again, especially you women, wishing they had known. Look at Teebillz for instance. If you were Tiwa, after divorcing Teebillz, would you marry another drug abuser again and be like "he can change"? You would choose someone with a good record who is worth risking it for this time. So, I'm basically saying, why not choose someone with a good record from the start? That's what this thread is about.

Let's be wise because marriage itself is a huge risk.

Kentura:
Op you're very correct!!!

people's past always matter... no matter how u try to lie to yaself about the past being the past and turning a new leaf... some things will never change!

Exactly, bro. That's my post put in a sentence, "some things never change".

Vinshu:
So because someone has a horrible past means his/her present and future would be horrible? And no one should love him/her ?

Weren't they thinking of their future when they did the sheet they did? And I'm not just talking about change, I'm talking about the retribution of their past an innocent person doesn't have to partake in.

Marry a serial killer if you wish, just sharing advice.

lalasticlala:
The way you people comment atimes is preposterous. What do you mean that mods are biased? The thread not being on FP yet means that the mods are biased? Do u knw if the mods have taken note and may move it later? Come and feature it yourself.

lalasticlala my latest post is super o. Don't dull o. Lol

Rapmoney:
Is that why lalasticlala has not bothered to move this to the promised land?

It took yeeeears to get to the promise land. Be patient.

Bored at home because of "strike" and I feel like posting. Lego!

I constantly hear people say "the past is the past" concerning relationships. For me it's an almighty NO. I think a person's past basically says a lot about the person because it's the only concrete evidence and measure of what he/she is capable of doing in the future. Are you gonna tell me someone who as been a certain way and done certain things will make a complete 100% change and would never be capable of doing those things? C'mon, let's be realistic and stop making fairy-tale choices. Haven't you wondered why them old folks are very very sensitive about the background of bae? Because they've lived long enough to know "the past is the past" is BS. Yes, very few people completely change but they are the exceptions rather than the rule. I don't care about that one person you know.

You meet a previous flawed person who has "changed" his or her ways and you fall for the person. You found out about the horrible things they did (NOT done to them) but you're now telling yourself "love is blind", "He/she is the only person in the world for me" "ITS IN THE PAST!". Why do you have to put your own future at risk because of the relatively little time you knew the person? Except you were horrible in the past too and you want to be horrible together, why play Russian roulette with future? If you find out these secrets before marriage, I see it as a blessing from God to alter your destiny. Some people will still come here on Nairaland and be crying for futile advices, "should I still marry him/her?". *Smh*

Example: Your fiancee was formerly known as Ice cream man because he moved around the streets of Lagos sleeping with every woman that wanted to taste his Fan Choco. Who told you he won't be tempted and go back to having his Fan Choco sucked and squeezed to the last drop? Who told you he hasn't impregnated some women that will bring long-term burden to both you're lives? Same goes for the Ice-cream women, drug addicts, fraudsters (e.g. 419s, yahoo-yahoo boys), sexual abusers, woman-beaters, professional gold-diggers, alcoholics, serial aborters, witches etc. Is the probable burden gonna be worth it?

I don't know about y'all but I've been through A LOT in the past, yet I decided to live a good life with no regrets and avoidable retributions. So why should I settle for my opposite? If I'm fortunate to find very nasty things about bae, I'll forgive her, wish her well...AND RUN FOR MY LIFE!


Remember, its my personal opinion. Happy Strike Holiday.